• You should always compare yourself to others - it's how we gauge our success and failures. The key is how you go about it. Another "life lesson" should be considered, as well: "Hurting someone else's credibility doesn't improve your own".
    • Linda Joy
      This was information from one woman's grandmother regarding being thrifty during the 'great' depression. And yes, this comparison can take many forms and you can use the information to inspire you or make yourself miserable.
  • I figured this out when I was a kid. I admired this classmate in 5th grade. She was so poised and nice to everybody. I wanted to be just like her but after a few days of trying, I realized I couldn't be like her. It's exhausting trying to be someone you're not. So I decided to be me and I felt great! Anybody who doesn't like me, I don't want to know them anyway.
    • Linda Joy
      I've had similar situations during my life on various levels. I settled on the fact that I am who I am, but its also my job to be a better me if I can be. If that pisses someone off, that's their issue to deal with and my plate is full with my own issues!
  • There are probably dozens of instances of each. For example: compare yourself to others when you are striving to improve in skill or learning or experience etc. and the "others" are your role models. For example: compare yourself to others when you are analyzing your chances to win a particular competition. etc. For contrary examples: don't compare yourself to others when you are evaluation your moral condition or making a moral decision, unless the "others" are superb examples of morality. Don't compare yourself to others when determining personal worth. etc.

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