No, my wife and I enjoy our sex life when we take our time. The main thing is not to focus on getting off, but just enjoy being together. My wife and i get more enjoyment out of having oral sex over penetration. I hope this answers your question

Are you asking too much ? No, not in my opinion. I'm not happy until she is satisfied.

I don't think we are asking too much, officegirl. My own view of this is very similar to yours. :)

No you are not, but you shouldn't have to ever ask either. A good lover will know your wants and needs and what makes your toes curl. And will take the time to make sure it happens.

Hubby and I are definitely not in a hurry. We want to enjoy it.

This is a big problem with most young boy or men, they do not know how to please a girl or woman. Most think if they jamb their cock in a female pounding her hard until the male ejaculates the female should be satisfied. WRONG! A woman likes to be wooed, fondled, and caressed because she takes longer to get aroused. If a boy or man does not take the time to get the girl of woman "off" a couple of times or more before he puts it in her she will not enjoy the sex as much. Guys need to learn how to manually and orally get a woman off. One of the better teachers is a mother or aunt although this is frowned upon greatly and embarrasses most mothers or aunts.

Your question suggests a little bit of a misunderstanding about what men want from sex. Yes, it is true that as a matter of biology that we men orgasm faster than a woman does. However, that is to confuse biology with psychology. My gf of ten years - and mother of my three beautiful children - is rather old fashioned and has told me on several occasions that she thinks that she should be available whenever I need sex. When I first heard that I thought it was like an open invitation to sex on demand. What I came to realize is that she was giving me the gift of herself, and that I did not want to take advantage of that. I want sex to show her that I love her and care about her. So I am careful to "read the signals" and - most of the time - to have sex with her when I think that she wants it too. Because what I want from sex is to feel that I am loved and wanted and that I am sharing something with her that is special and unique. Yup, there are moments when it is all about my animal instincts - and sometimes her's too, if we are to be honest. Even then, though, I am trying to give her something - a sense that I am in control and dominant and will take care of her in the way a male should, however old fashioned that may sound., That said, for the most part, I want to make love to her and not just have sex with her. I want it to last. I want to feel her next to me and to touch her and hold her. So far as "performance" is concerned, you bet I want her to think that I am the best thing she has ever slept with - but ONLY because I want to be reassured that she will want me and always want me. Protracted sex, then, to give it a rather unlovely name, is not an inconvenience for a male. Rather, it is a chance to feel loved and respected and wanted. You're not asking too much. You're only asking for what we guys want too.