ANSWERS: 31
  • careful bout meeting people in person from the internet...
  • I'd say that's a pretty shallow foundation for a relationship. But then, most online relationships are.
  • I think you did the right thing. Take care when meeting people you dont know. Meet in public places and let someone know where you are going and with who.
  • a guy should be the man and make the drive no matter how you met. and he should understand that you want friends present at the first meeting since you have never met him in person before.
  • think you had a lucky break,dont like men with attitude.be careful meeting people from the internet,take someone with you or let them know were your going.take care
  • I think you did the right thing. In fact, I wouldn't even meet him half way. I would meet him with friends near by in a public place where you know you can be safe. Meeting people you meet on-line is a very sticky situation.
  • My gut feeling says to withdraw my complete previous answer and give you the worldly view point only. so I have.Be careful who you're dealing with as the occultic book store owner said.And keep your head like the door mouse said. Ta Ta
  • ummm stop meeting guys online maybe?
  • I'd say if he starts to give you attitude, stop talking to him. If you haven't even met the guy and he has a temper over the net, there's probably a reason he's single.
  • In order for a relationship to work both people must be willing to meet each other halfway. It is a give and take relationship. It sounds like this guy wants to take and not give. If he can't meet you halfway to actually meet you, and then has an attitude about it when you decide it isn't what you want, then keep looking. People are very different online than they are in person.
  • Online dating is dangerous, and often times ends badly. If your first impression of him when attempting to meet face to face is that he's not a gentlemen, chances are, your instinct is 100% correct.
  • sounds like hes a jerk! I'd keep looking if I were you..And I really would like to point out..that meeting ANYONE online or not can be dangerous..I knew a girl in the early 90's who was murdered by a man she met in a bar (this happened in seattle in a busy bar in a populated part of town) So use caution when meeting or going somewhere with ANYONE you dont know!!! My advice is the same as many of the others..meet someone you dont know in a public place..and dont leave with them until you know them well enough to feel comfortable...
  • He's probably a loser, that wants you to drive to him, pay for dinner and drinks....maybe a movie, and then he reaps all the benefits.... He's a USER...and thats a bad sign before a relationship begins.... Don't contact this butt-hole again.
  • He's a selfish little weasel, and I'm glad you decided against it. Maybe he's 12 and was playing you? My thoughts are, find someone else a little closer if possible, and definitely less selfish!
  • If he was unhappy with you for not driving 6-7 hours when he didn't even really know you, can you imagine what he'd expect if he did get to know you? Be glad you decided that, and found out how he was BEFORE you drove that far just to find out!
  • Thanks everyone. Its not the online thing that worries me. I have been internet dating on and off for 9 years and I have met my last two boyfriends online. I've traveled out of state to meet men I met online and even as far as flying to Paris for a weekend date. The thing is, I am old school. I'm not a "gold digger" but If a man is really serious and interested in meeting, he usually will either come to me or pay for me to fly to meet him. I know that gender roles have changed and that younger men expect women to be more "equal" these days...but when he copped an attitude because I wasn't going to come running to him ..it pissed me off a little. He's cute, but he's not THAT cute. (grin) Then I got an e-mail from him today telling me: "Not only did you bail on me and not have interest in getting together, but now I'm not even on your radar. Women's actions pretty much tell it all to guys. It's not what they say, it's what they do." Is it just me or is that ridiculous?
  • This is easy. You were right not make the trip.
  • Only thought SUCKS FOR HIM!!!!
  • The fact that you are asking this question, after 9 years on the web worries me. Please read "The Rules" and "He is just not that into you", everything will be clear after you do. If a man is interested, he will come to you. End of story. If he is not -- move on, don't waste any time. NEXT!
  • Don't let him or people like him near you..........M.C.S.
  • Yeah, 1. He's a loser. 2. That's to much gas to waste on a loser That's probably what ran through your mind anyway so good call!
  • "No journey is too great, if at the end, one finds what one seeks." The fact that he would not move to be with you, would indicate to me that he was not the type to share life, just possess and consume ... I could be wrong, but it seems to me that he just wanted to be served. Does he even have some sort of vehicle, or money for a bus, train, plane ... does he have serious commitments at or near where he lives that he can not leave ... or did he just want you to drop your life to serve him ??? I'm guessing there are better choices for you elsewhere, better luck with your next "maybe".
  • You made the right decision. He doesn't sound very considerate! And if this guy can't show you any consideration from the beginning, he never will!
  • He's just looking for a one night stand.
  • Lose him- Not worth it no consideration.
  • You were very lucky to find out about him before you got any further involved. Whew! You dodged the bullet on that one.
  • Block and ignore him.
  • Good job. He sounds pretty inconsiderate, so why bother going to meet him at all?
  • if he had an attitude you might be better off without him
  • Forget him
  • You are talking at least 300 miles away. I say you made a very good decision. Especially since he did not want to meet you half way. My final thought is forget about that guy.

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