ANSWERS: 86
  • Absolutely not. It takes a lot to be labeled as "damaged goods" in my opinion. First of all, they have to intentionally damage them self...(Think crack addicted prostitute)
  • heck no. I wouldnt cant say I know anyone who was, but thats not something one can controll, so why would I hold that against them...
  • This statement is a thing of the past.It was a term that might have been relevant many decades ago but has none these days.
  • not at all.
  • No because that is something that's beyond their control.
  • I really hope no one says yes to this.
  • this question is not easy to answer. there is a lot of hurt that can result from a sexual attack or ongoing sexual abuse. if the victim was not damaged to some extent, there would be no need for rape crisis counselors or therapists
  • No control I know some girls that had this happen to them and I don't look at them any differently then I did before their attacks.
  • Fair comment Riff Raff, and points. I think the term used, however, has other connotations far beyond that the victim has suffered some emotional or psychological damage. I've known a few people who would do so. Usually such a position is motivated by position, and their own or other's perceptions of where they 'sit' in society - 'What would the neighbours think?'. Thankfully, I think you'll find that the vast majority of people raised in a western tradition would say 'no'. I wonder if people who are not too rich for their own good would say the same?
  • I absolutely do not regard a rape victim as Damaged or any other kind of goods. They are people and the surely need my sympathy and understanding.
  • Not just no, but hell no. Someone shot me once, am I damaged goods? No. I may be less trusting of people pointing a gun at me, but an act of violence outside of your control does not make you "damaged goods". It may cause physical or psychological trauma, but I'm still the same smart a$$ I've always been.
  • Not just no, but hell no. Someone shot me once, am I damaged goods? No. I may be less trusting of people pointing a gun at me, but an act of violence outside of your control does not make you "damaged goods". It may cause physical or psychological trauma, but I'm still the same smart a$$ I've always been.
  • No way. It's not their fault some animal abused them.
  • That's a terrible statement. It is like comparing a human being with a "thing", with an "object" that are created to be used "brand new" by someone. A woman who was raped is just a human being who went through a terrible, traumatizing experience and who deserves our help and support.
  • Of course not. I would regard anyone who thought so as having a damaged brain.
  • Not on your life. She maybe hurt mentally and physacilly, but she is in no way "damaged goods", She's the victem of teh most violent, violatiing crime you can live and tell about later. She needs our support and understanding not our judgment. He on the other hand needs a bullet to the skull.
  • i consider the rapist as damaged goods, in his head.
  • No. I don't consider humans to be "goods" of any type, under any circumstance, nor do I respect those who espouse a view in favor of any human being "goods" at any point in time, under any circumstance. Sick mentality, really.
  • Rape is an act of violence -- like any other crime against a person. In my opinion the perpetrator is the only one who could be viewed as "damaged goods." There has to be something seriously wrong with anyone who would violate another person in such an invasive way. The survivor of the attack is deserving of consideration and positive support -- absolutely no negative labels at any time.
  • Not at all, even if the person is a virgin, friend or a fiance or anybody. They are hurt, abused, frightened, angry but they are NOT damaged and they are never 'goods'.
  • no no at all! if you are classifying the sexual act as damaged goods, then we all are.
  • Absolutely not!
  • sometimes a bad experience makes a person stronger and more empathetic to the situation of others... i would say it could make you a victim or a survivor... depends on how it is dealt with
  • No. That's ridiculous. This is a human being we're talking about, right? I am a bit more careful with them, and am much more patient and understanding.
  • Honesy time here I was raped and no I don't consider myself 'damaged goods' but the men that did it to me are definitely damaged and a whole lot more.
  • NO. Absolutely not. Just because the rapist is a piece of sh*t, doesn't make the person being raped!! Bad things happen to good people- that doesn't stop them from being good anymore. Anyone who thinks different is no better than the rapist.
  • No, I certainly wouldn't...but I would fear that the person who was raped might feel that way about her/himself.
  • That would be just plain ridiculous.
  • Absolutely not and I would give the evil Mom-look to anyone who would mention such a thing in my presence. Having been raped myself, I understand the horror, shame and despair that goes with such a violation; and mine was back in the very early 80's when the police were- still inclined to tell the victim (ie: me) that she imagined it all. (Um...no, not bloody well in a million years). Women, and men, who are victims of rape and especially of violent rapes are indeed damaged but in no way do they become "damaged goods" with what that might snigglingly entail. May no one ever find out what damaged actually feels like.
  • Certainly not.
  • The rapist should be labeled the damaged goods, its a sick person who would inflict that on any other human being.
  • A fair description that should be kept to yourself.. being insensitive.
  • No. If the person who ask this question thinks that someone who is raped is "damaged goods" has a major problem.
  • the only person who would say that is someone only interested in their own happiness. Someone who dosn't want to deal with the fall out of being raped or knowing someone who has been raped. I bet if it was someone they love, their attitude would be different. my answer is NO
  • Of course not. I would consider the person that thinks this way as such.
  • hm. i, of course, do not think that way, but i was unfortunate to have a boyfriend at one point who DID think that way, and throughout our whole relationship he dropped comments that made me feel horrible about myself. then again, he was one of those people who tended to think that unless a girl never associated with men or never left her boyfriend/husband's side, she was "putting herself in the position to get raped." i know, right?
  • Unfortunately, there is undeniable psychological damage coming from this type of experience...thus, if you prefer to think of other humans as "goods" or "resources", then one can find that the statement makes logical sense...HOWEVER in this sense, we are ALL damaged "goods" in one way or another. The damage only remains if we allow phrases like this to continue to enter the wound. If the wound is truly healed, then virtually nothing should be able to penetrate it. I don't intend to offend anyone's delicate sensibilities, but some of y'all should purchase helmets for the remainder of your journey through life. It can get rough out there, after all, we're here to learn, eh?
  • Please can i have the email address of he or she who wrote it's a really intresting question. Well firstly I can't refer to a victim of rape as a damaged good because it sounds weird to compare human beigns to goods, secondly behind every dark cloud there is a silver linen that is to say even though rape is and awlful act it does have some positive consequence and that is why a victim of rape cannot be called a damaged good because once it is damaged it is damaged and it cannot be recovered.
  • No thats stupid to brand someone for something they had no control over.
  • No. I do regard them as victims.
  • Far from it. Someone put through such an ordeal would seem to me to be wiser as well as gaining other insights others never will. That would certainly be an attraction rather than a detraction.
  • Hell no. And they shouldn't feel that way either. Part of the healing process is to over come those feelings and hopefully they are surrounded by people who can encourage the thought that they are not damaged.
  • That would be horrible! They ahve been hurt abused, used, victimized but not damaged like some case lot of goods that falls off a truck. What was done to them was on purpose and vile.
  • god no. they had no say in being raped, by the very definition of the word "raped"! although I don't really think there is any time I would regard someone as being "damaged goods" ..
  • Damaged Goods is a lousy term to describe someone who was raped.It is a very demeaning term by someone that would just see women as sex objects not people. They have been hurt emotionally and need understanding and compassion.
  • Someone who is raped should not EVER be referred to as "damaged goods". A person who is raped is someone who was taken advantage of. I, being a victim of rape when I was younger, would never refer to myself as "damaged goods", and anyone who would even refer to me as that would be ignorant and arrogant. The only time that someone should ever be referred to as "damaged goods" is when the person had a choice on what they do to their bodies, and if they do not respect themselves and have sex with whoever, whenever. THAT'S damaged goods because, like they say,"When you sleep with someone, you're sleeping with everyone else that they've slept with too."
  • D-d-damaged goods?! These are people, not merchandise.
  • no ..no ..NO!.. they are just the same as anyone else ...just a little more fragile thats all and rightly so
  • I regard a woman who has been raped as a regular woman. I would only apply the "Damaged Goods" term to people who would think of such a question.
  • No it shouldn't be, those people r not "damaged goods", they were raped because they didn't want 2, they were forced 2 do it, they shouldn't b labelled anything but "pure souls". That label "damaged goods" is only suitable for wh*res n gigolos. They do it for fun n thats really damaged!
  • wow what a question. My answer would be absolutely NO NO NO. Some sick minded jerk took advantage of her against her will period. It's never her fault!
  • definitely not. I don't feel I have much more to contribute on this subject because i do not know anyone who has been in this situation, at least not that i know off. But my thoughts are with those who do have to suffer through such a terrible ordeal, i don't really have the words to convey how awful i think it is that anyone has to go through rape.
  • of course not.
  • That seems very uncaring to call them that!
  • absolutely not
  • Not normally. It all depends on how they act. If they were raped 10 years ago and have moved on with their lives for the most part, I respect and admire their courage. If they were raped 10 years ago and lets say bring it up within the first 2 minutes of meeting someone like someone did whilst talking to me at the bar, i tend to think yeah, this person is damaged, emotionally.
  • This phrase was made up by the same "smart" people that revebalized the whole english language.That person was sexually assualted.Giving an incident or condition some "flowername" doesn't change the incident.Sad but true and that someone will never think of herself she was a damaged good.
  • "Damaged", probably, they could necessitate medical and psychological care after this. "Goods", certainly not, we are not talking about lettuce or apples here, are we?
  • WHAT!?..........Anybody who would treat a person this way for having something done to them they couldn't help in the least should be hit...hard, lol. So no, I don't..
  • For me, being raped made me feel like I was damaged goods in need of repair.
  • Absolutely not. I have been in relationships with several women who have, unfortunately, been raped or sexually assaulted at some point in their lives. It breaks my heart to hear that someone I care about has been through such a tragic and evil violation, but it is also heartening to know that they are (usually) strong enough human beings to have refused to let these experiences ruin their lives or turn them into bitter, jaded, or fearful human beings. In my opinion, it is absolutely unconscienable to blame a victim of sexual assault, or to in any way consider them inferior or "damaged" because of something over which they had no control.
  • Definitely not. That person has been through enough, they don't need others thinking less of them because of something they had no control over.
  • As someone who has been through rape, I will tell you that I am in no way "Damaged Goods." I would find it insensitive and disrespectful if anyone were to refer to me as such. Was rape damaging? Yes, of course it was, but I have managed to survive and move forward. It was brutal, and yet I know enough not to project my own bad experiences on to others. So though it was a damaging experience, I myself am not "damaged" because of it. I am a very stable, strong person. I know that in your question you yourself were not projecting your own views of raped/sexually assaulted women as "damaged goods." But there are people who feel that way - unfortunately, my family are some of those people. I wish that this weren't so, that society as a whole could recognize that in no way is rape the woman's fault, and how much more painful it is to first of all go through such a thing and then subsequently be stigmatized for it. What the victims and survivors need is support and understanding. It really isn't fair, but such is life and human nature.
  • Of coarse not. This sort of thinking implies that women are comoddities to be controlled by men. Some people are even so sexist as to describe all unmarried non-Virgin women in this category. My girlfriend was unfortunate enough to be raped when she was 15 and it does not diminish her in any way in my eyes.
  • Who are we to judge, if we would be the victim we wouldn`t like that judgement. Damaged goods is the person who commited the crime, they have been put through the mill and back!
  • NO! Thinking that way about people hardly makes you any better then the person who raped them.
  • I have to say again, damaged goods would only be a word used by someone very ignorant! Damaged is in the mind and not in the soul of a person. So the one who commited a rape is not only damaged but damned for life!
  • no its a horrible thing to call anyone who went through that. its referring to a person to a thing or object.
  • of course what else are you supposed to call them?
  • Definitely not.
  • Yes and No. I was raped 14 years ago and every once in a while I feel like damaged goods. The feeling will sneak up on me and completely throw me off. Unfortunately, everyone who has survived a rape has scars that will never really heal. I am now a rational, well adjusted member of society, but the scars linger. So while it is unfair to label people such as me, the fact remains that we will always view life differently than we would have had the act not occurred and while the anger, resentment, bitterness, fear and every other emotion under the sun will eventually subside, the damage and subsequent scars don't ever heal.
  • No, that would be very demeaning.
  • No, but I wouldn't consider them virgins.
  • I wouldn't view them that way at all. I would have some worries though. Here's how I think about it. If someone's came near death by drowning, they will naturally have a reaction of fear around water. At least it's common in that scenario. If I were dating a rape victim, I would fear that if I attempted to have sex with her, that it would scare her, because of the association factor.
  • That sounds like something only a rapist would call someone who was raped. Only a heartless bastard who just wants sex would say that. I was raped and reading all these answers (even though I only saw one that said yes before I stopped) really just triggered me. Sometimes I feel dirty because I've been touched by such nasty people or slutty because I feel like I should have done more to stop it or like I let them do it because I didn't go as far as to scream and break their noses. I don't really feel damaged, just more needy in terms of having to hear and see from my bf that he cares about me and isn't just using our sex for his own physical pleasure. Sorry I rambled. I had some feelings to get out...
  • NO ABSOLUTELY NOT, JUST UNFORTUNATELY IN THE WRONG SPOT AT THE WRONG TIME. BUT IF YOU WERE, THINK POSITIVE AND MAKE THE BEST OF IT AND KEEP GOING TO MAKE YOUR LIFE BETTER FOR YOU.
  • No way! I have no reason to think that. The only one who's "damaged" is the person who did the raping! At least they would be if I got hold of them...
  • NO. LIFE GOES ON, SO LET IT GO AND LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER.
  • Good god no. It was no fault of theirs.
  • NO, JUST AN UNFORTUNATE SITUATION FOR HER.
  • No, as a victim of a tragedy. +4
  • No it is never their fault that they are raped.

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