I think that it is possible for someone to loose sight of reality and loose their judgement, or in a sense be pursuaded, But not stolen. I believe that we are all resposible for our actions.

I agree. I don't think you can steal someone away, though you can play a part in their decisions to stray. I think the term is an old way of villifying the "other person."

Excellent question. It does indeed seem impossible to 'steal' a person. I think that 'steal' is being used here in a non-literal sense. The person making the accusation probably feels that the 'stolen' party was somehow manipulated into transferring affections to the interloper, but even here, the implication is that the transferring party is either too dim-witted or too much of an automaton to realize what is happening and to do anything about it. I also believe that this expression dates back to the Victorian era when the marriage contract did indeed give each party certain 'rights', including the right to the other party's affections. The term 'alienation of affection' was used in a legal context and describes just this type of conflict.

I would agree, the person being 'stolen' makes the decision to leave the other person. They choose to go leave. The person doing the "stealing", can play a part and can manipulate things to their advantage, but It's not like stealing a candy bar. People have thoughts and feelings and aren't just inanimate objects. They make their own decisions.

I agree to an extent. I think there are some people out there who are very persuasive and can get others to do anything they want.

1) humans are not "stolen" as things are, they are kidnapped 2) a partner is not a property 3) Something of this kind could be possible, if force were involved. Here an example from the legendary early history of Rome: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Rape_of_the_Sabine_Women 4) if no force were involved, I think you refer to the process of one man seducing the wife of another man to become his own (or variations of this). The smarter the seductor, the harder it is for a woman to resist. We cannot all be saints. And the same is true when the seductor is a woman, for instance. I would not describe this situation as a free will choice, because of the strong temptation. And this doesn't mean they should not resist, of course. I think this was the reason why in the mosaic law, the seductor is condemned, not the seduced.

I would disagree and say it is possible. Although the word steal is not correct in the literal sense. Let me put it another way... Love is just part of a neural chemical process. A very primitive way of that. As long as you can make yourself at least reasonably attractive to the other person you can get some one to fall in love with you. Even if the person is totally content and in love with there wife there will be times when they are more vulnerable than others. This is when you crank their levels of dopamine. In a lab rats will crawl across a hot plate for it but they will not do this for food even if they are starving. You want to turn to them in to a dopamine addict. Give them an oxytocin fix when they are around you. This calmness will be their reward. Also find out what his criteria for compatability is and tick as many boxes as you can. For say the husband loves Rugby but his wife can't stand it. Say you love it too. Become a mirror to him. Most men love mirrors. LOL. Hint at a better future but don't directly offer him it. Get to know the wife. If she likes you - she will sing your praises for you. Lend him movies you know he will love. Soon as they are out of sight crank the dopamine levels back up. Back home with the wife they will be aggitated, moody, restless and unhappy. Do things to keep you on their mind from morning until night. This will litterally drive them crazy. Be illusive. Send mixed messages. Say you went out a lunch and bought an obscene amount of sexy clothes. When he starts to bite. Tell him its just for you. You also bought a huge toy. Give him enough visual clues to imagine it! The mind is sex organ! In no time at all his marriage will be wrecked and you will be the amazing woman he has to have.

Why would anybody want to take someone elses husband, other than for personal gain?

What goes around comes around. I was very much in love with a man and another (very slutty) woman stole him from me by becoming impregnated with his child. So he left me. I was devastated and it took years to get over it. But now...another very sexy man is interested in me...and he wants to leave his wife and kids for me. Wow. Life is funny.

Unless you're talking about someone's spouse passing away and either being buried or cremated and then another individual digging them up or stealing their ashes, then no it's not possible to steal someone's husband / wife. You're right, despite how relentlessly the other individual may pursue the spouse, ultimately it's the decision of the spouse to enter into a relationship with the other person. So many people say they didn't know what was happening till it was too late. I don't think that's an accurate thing to say. That's just making excuses. Ultimately at some point during the process the person has been required to make a decision and they've made it- whether consciously or subconsciously. And yes, if someone doesn't want the relationship they won't allow things to proceed beyond what they would consider an appropriate boundary.

It is impossible to have stolen that which you cannot own.

I agree! It's very hard to break up a happy home.

NO NO NO I am not getting with the new guy. I just said it was really ironic that I had a man who left me for another woman, and now there is a man willing to leave his woman for me. Oh yeah and for your information katespana, I'm still a virgin...we were waiting for marriage...or apparently only I was in that relationship...so I can't be an 'easy lay'

Yes omg i try to explain this to my bf every time he mentions how he stole me from my ex. i was concidering breaking up with him long before i met my current bf i just didnt have anything to gain from doing it i was quite indifferent either way my current bf just gave me a reason to end it he didnt steal me

Let's put it this way. Even if a recipient is ripe for the "stealing," there must be a "stealer" out there who wants to violate the sanctity of a marriage or deep relationship in order for the "stealing" to happen. I couldn't "steal" someone.

oh yes and i am currently on the take. I am so attracted to this man nothing is going to stop me having him not even his wife. I am making him notice me more and more and making him very curious he wont be able to resist me soon. even if i can only get one date i will be pleased that i was able to *steal* him for a few hours paula

People are not going to do something they do not want to do. "Stolen" is just a smoke screen. Its really called "adultery".

Yes but why would you want to? If they would leave the person they made a marriage commitment with they will do the same to you. Once a cheater always a cheater.

No,but you can kidnap someone.

I don't know if it is technically accurate to say that but it seems that it could be. There are people who troll around looking for married people specifically to have affairs, bust them up for their own malicious amusement, or just see if they can draw them away temporarily with free, no commitment sex. If you are experiencing trouble in your marriage (and in any normal one you will) this is the partner's worst nightmare.

Well, First things first is that the question is asked based solely on preconceived answers. The answers that I have read so far is well "far" from the truth. I will put it this way... I am once a little immature boy. Then all of the sudden I met this very funny and east going girl. I thought in the first place that she's a tomboy, when I said that she's a little bit boyish on her actions is that she got mad and politely answered me that she is a solid woman. Then a few days later I am beginning to see changes in her actions.. What kinds of changes? Well in the first place she does not laugh like she does before. She does not seem to move like she does before,and obviously she does not act like she use to act before. Everyday when I get to meet her is that changes is happening to her. That is when she asks me about our specialty cooking in out place. As for we live in a different region. So I told her and the rest is history. Everyday we would lie on how we feel about each other. Everyday we would deny it. As the days past lies don't mean much anymore. As the days past I finally confessed to her on what I felt about her. "I just woke up one day realizing that I am seriously in love with this immature woman that I once called tomboy. There on the process is that I have got to have the moment wherein I had known her a lot better than what my judgment is telling me to her. Then we got separated. We have never got to be boyfriends and girlfriends type of relationship because I never made the final move because I am stupid, but if we are together then we can beat all the marriage couple in Hollywood combined. I mean when are are together is that we laugh, we tell jokes. Well we did not kiss and had sex but almost. We are conservative type of people. After we got separated, a few years I came to their home knowing that she was married, her mother told me that she and her husband were fighting on the phone. There I found out that she was already 8 months married. Yes I know, I felt like heaven and earth just crush me to death again. But did I gave up? NO... The answer is no. So do you want to know what I did next?? Well not to mentioned the tears that I have cried is that I have never moved on. I know that she loves me and she was just forced to marry that ass clown for some God knows what reason. So I have planned a step by step assassination of her husband and killed her husband and stole his wife.... Hohohoho. Just kidding people. I am not a killer. That was a joke. Ok this is what I did. I prayed to God that if she is not truly for me then let her be happy with her husband. I prayed to God that please remove this insane madness of love that I felt for her because somehow it has got to stop, but it never happened. None of my prayers where answered. So I wondered, I should never give up yet because throughout all those years I am fighting for her as she is for me. I will not exactly go into the details on how I manages to take her away from her husband, but the thing you need to know is that I did it. You can call it stealing, you can call it cheating, you can call it anything you would like to call it. I have fought for her with all my life. I have manage to did the impossible. The moral of this story is this: You cannot just give as just yet. Even if it seems to be so dark, even if it seems to be impossible. There is always this thing you need to remember. This simple thing is that "if that is for you, then it is for you". Believe and know the reasons why this is for you, and it will be yours. Do what is right and not what is not right. Fight for someone you love and don't just die in a corner. Right now, we are happy, she has a daughter with her previous marriage though but it does not matter. What matters most is that I truly love her and she does for me. Now we are living happily, we are always having a fight... pillow fight.. always laughing, always smiling, always flirting, always sharing God's grace, always kissing, always having sex. hehehe... and a whole lot more happy couples do.. I love her. The end

Well, First things first is that the question is asked based solely on preconceived answers. The answers that I have read so far is well "far" from the truth. I will put it this way... I am once a little immature boy. Then all of the sudden I met this very funny and east going girl. I thought in the first place that she's a tomboy, when I said that she's a little bit boyish on her actions is that she got mad and politely answered me that she is a solid woman. Then a few days later I am beginning to see changes in her actions.. What kinds of changes? Well in the first place she does not laugh like she does before. She does not seem to move like she does before,and obviously she does not act like she use to act before. Everyday when I get to meet her is that changes is happening to her. That is when she asks me about our specialty cooking in out place. As for we live in a different region. So I told her and the rest is history. Everyday we would lie on how we feel about each other. Everyday we would deny it. As the days past lies don't mean much anymore. As the days past I finally confessed to her on what I felt about her. "I just woke up one day realizing that I am seriously in love with this immature woman that I once called tomboy. There on the process is that I have got to have the moment wherein I had known her a lot better than what my judgment is telling me to her. Then we got separated. We have never got to be boyfriends and girlfriends type of relationship because I never made the final move because I am stupid, but if we are together then we can beat all the marriage couple in Hollywood combined. I mean when are are together is that we laugh, we tell jokes. Well we did not kiss and had sex but almost. We are conservative type of people. After we got separated, a few years I came to their home knowing that she was married, her mother told me that she and her husband were fighting on the phone. There I found out that she was already 8 months married. Yes I know, I felt like heaven and earth just crush me to death again. But did I gave up? NO... The answer is no. So do you want to know what I did next?? Well not to mentioned the tears that I have cried is that I have never moved on. I know that she loves me and she was just forced to marry that ass clown for some God knows what reason. So I have planned a step by step assassination of her husband and killed her husband and stole his wife.... Hohohoho. Just kidding people. I am not a killer. That was a joke. Ok this is what I did. I prayed to God that if she is not truly for me then let her be happy with her husband. I prayed to God that please remove this insane madness of love that I felt for her because somehow it has got to stop, but it never happened. None of my prayers where answered. So I wondered, I should never give up yet because throughout all those years I am fighting for her as she is for me. I will not exactly go into the details on how I manages to take her away from her husband, but the thing you need to know is that I did it. You can call it stealing, you can call it cheating, you can call it anything you would like to call it. I have fought for her with all my life. I have manage to did the impossible. The moral of this story is this: You cannot just give as just yet. Even if it seems to be so dark, even if it seems to be impossible. There is always this thing you need to remember. This simple thing is that "if that is for you, then it is for you". Believe and know the reasons why this is for you, and it will be yours. Do what is right and not what is not right. Fight for someone you love and don't just die in a corner. Right now, we are happy, she has a daughter with her previous marriage though but it does not matter. What matters most is that I truly love her and she does for me. Now we are living happily, we are always having a fight... pillow fight.. always laughing, always smiling, always flirting, always sharing God's grace, always kissing, always having sex. hehehe... and a whole lot more happy couples do.. I love her. The end

It's more complicated than it seems usually and the reason is unique and very personal in every case. For me personally, if there's love involved (between the cheater & 'other man/woman')and they know where are they going to achieve happy ending then it doesn't seem wrong anymore. Definitely I'll fight for the one I love. It's about choice and consequencies, not right or wrong. Love so mess up sometimes ...it just come to you disregard you are married or single. It's certainly possible to 'steal' someone's husband/wife. And I agree, it takes two to make such 'stolen' case happens. Question is, where will you go from there and how much you are willing to pay the price.

I feel that you cannot steal someone away from their spouse. The spouse has to make the decision to want to leave their marriage for the other person. I personally don't see why you would want to have an affair much less pursue a relationship with someone who clearly cheated on their husband/wife to be with you. It's only a matter of time before history repeats itself and you are the one who they leave behind.

Well ofcourse the partner would have to decide if they wanted to pursue the relationship you just cant up and take someones spouse. It has to be a mutual agreement between the cheater and the cheatee. But I suppose if you really want to take him go ahead and try... Hope everything works out for you