ANSWERS: 30
  • You keep your child away. I am sorry, but nothing is worth putting your children in such a terrible risk.
  • Im not sure of the statute of limitations that relates to the case. The allegations would most likely not end in a conviction, so you'd probably only succeed in letting the whole family in on the secret. Its probably just best to not leave the child unsupervised with the Grandfather, if you even choose to let the child near him. Its perfectly acceptable for you to approach your wife and say "I don't like our child being near that man, I dont think it's a good idea." You should definatley voice your concerns to her. The child will probably be very confused as to why her Grandfather is suddenly out of limits, but it's probably for the best.
  • No I would never allow my child to be alone in his company. Child molesters do not change their sexual prediliction I do not know if you have reason to call the police ,your partner only has to deny the abuse. If he has not abused your child yet then keep him/her away from him.
  • Personally, I would never let my child near him. If I wasn't sure the claims were true, then I might allow the grandfather to spend an hour or so a week with the child, so long as it was supervised by me personally. But if you KNOW that the claims are true, then it's a non issue, you can't let it happen. Paedophiles don't suddenly reform.
  • I would never consider leaving my child with a known pedophile. Once a pedophile, always a pedophile! Surely your wife will understand and would never wish her own child to go through what she's been through herself!
  • My daughter's grandfather molested my ex's sister when she was small. HE raised them, so they all lived with the g-parents. When I found out, I was furious that nobody had ever told me before. I mean, when my daughter was a baby, she took naps with grandpa. I let her see him, but everybody knows they are not to be left alone. She is 12 now, and I still don't trust the pervert. I was 13 when I started dating his grandson and he hit on me all of the time.
  • No way in hell would I let my son near him, Grandfather or not. If he wanted to visit thats fine, by my son would be attached to me the entire time.
  • Not for any reason or at any time would I even let that monster into my sight. And if your spouse is insisting that it be allowed around your child you have no choice, but to call the police to get some back up in keeping your child safe. Pedophiles don't change, they just get better at hiding what they do. The fact that your wife has no problem having that thing around shows me that she's in total denial of the reality of what it is and the kind of danger she's putting your child in.You need to go to family counciling and fast so she can get a dose of reality. And you need to do this fast.
  • I would let them spend time with their grandfather, but only under STRICT supervision. I don't see any reason to call the police unless he tries to do something wrong to them though.
  • Keep your kid away from the sicko until s/he is old enough to fend for her/himself in such situations.
  • Don't let your kid near him. I really would not risk that at all. From what I've seen, people that have that problem do not change. They might not act on it sometimes, but they have the urge and that's dangerous. It doesn't matter if your spouse can forgive her father, that doesn't make him a better person.
  • Of course not the man clearly has warped boundries, evene if he did profess himself cured.......
  • I wouldn't let my child be with him but I'd be hesitant to report something I didn't know was current or could report as first hand information.
  • I wouldn't let my child be with him but I'd be hesitant to report something I didn't know was current or could report as first hand information.
  • I personally would not let my child go to someone's house that once used to molest children even if it has been years since he last did it cuz you never know he could go back to his old way. Keep your child away!!
  • I don't think it's necessary to call the cops, unless something has already happened, but don't let your child around this man. If your wife doesn't understand why you would feel this way, maybe it's time to rethink the relationship. She of all people should understand.
  • This is like asking a perviously abused woman of her spouse is "better" years after the incident, and then allowing your daughter to date that spouse. All precautions MUST be taken to ensure the safety and to make sure the person has indeed changed. If you're comfortable enough with your father in law, speak with them. Or, ask your child if they are comfortable at grandpa's house. Never place your child there without asking, but by all means do not jeapordize a relationship between grandchild and granparent.
  • I wouldn't call the police, that is up to your spouse not you. But it is up to you to protect your child, I would not let the child spend time alone with him.
  • I wouldnt leave my child alone with him! thats for sure... just tell your husband that you are uncomfortable with it!
  • 3 words - "NO FREAKING WAY"! And I would encourage her to talk to the police. If he did this to her, he likely did it to other kids. I think people can change, but someone who would rape a child is pretty much a goner as far as the trust issue is concerned.
  • I would call the police against my spouses wishes even if they would hate me forever, and never let the child near the grandparent.
  • No, My spouse was mollested by both her parents, and they are not allowed anywhere near my kids.
  • I would NEVER allow that man to touch my child!!! Sexual offenders have a high rate of repeat offense, and realisticly they cannot be cured. Never ever allow that man near your child; it's not about what he deserves, it's about what your child deserves!
  • I would not allow my child any where within ( O ) feet of an abuser if that person is related or not the child always comes first before any family or love life putting it mildly. Also there are laws to that and knowingly placing a child in harms way whom ever the caretaker is can be arrested or do time for that no joke. If something were to happen to the child the consequences and aftermath would be far worse!Let your spouse know how you feel about the matter and you do not agree unless it is constantly supervised but I still wouldn't chance it.
  • I would never let him near my kids. It might be true that he is, but I would never believe it, or take the chance NEVER
  • There is nothing worse than a child molester...except those who betray the trust of a child that they are suppose to protect from harm, by molesting their OWN children. No..my child would not spend time with him..nor would I.
  • I wouldn't call the police -- making the case stick after all these years would be nearly impossible -- but I for DAMN sure would never leave my kid alone with the bastard...
  • Call the Department for Child Protection and report him and your spouse for wanting the children to see him. I wouldn't let my child within sight of this man. No way in hell. Keep your children away from him. They are never as they seem.
  • Nope. Don't call the cops, just keep him away. Your job is to protect your child from danger, so don't risk it. I'm sure your wife will understand.
  • Not going to happen, he'd be in my eyesight all the time, both of them.

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