ANSWERS: 19
  • I would say it is definitely something to watch closely. Turn-ons can vary as widely as there are people, but domination/control is a common one. As long as the person can draw a definite line between fantasy and reality, then no one gets hurt.
  • As long as you dont get obsessed with the idea.............people who don't keep the fantasy in check try to put themselves in dangerous situations. be careful .
  • Matthew: 5:27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. 5:29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. That makes it pretty clear to me,I hope it helps you.
  • All fantasies are OK as long as you know they are fantasies. And rape fantasies are fairly common - even among women or men playing the victim. With a like minded partner you can even act them out - though in the case of rape it's best to have a written, signed agreement; have Safe Words that will instantly end the session and otherwise keep general S&M rules and good manners. +5
  • I agree with your answer phillis +6 However some people are first time rapists without any clues, (like stalking/battery etc.) Some people just do ALOT of fantasy and then go straight to rape to make their fantasy real, unfortunately the person with the fantasy sometimes does not or CAN NOT differenciate between them. So I would recommend the questioner to go to a counseller if they were afraid of their thoughts. They may have experiences of molestation as a youth or have had alot of rejection from the opposite sex. So I beg if this is a sincere question if you have had fantasies of rape to tell your closest friend so at least they will be honest with you if something doesn't click right. Please.
  • "You may be afraid to talk about them, but sexual fantasies are normal." http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-1268.html "Rape fantasies, for instance, are far more common than rapes themselves. So unusual fantasies are a concern only when they become compulsive or exclusive, or for individuals "in whom the barrier between thought and behavior has been broken," say Leitenberg and Henning."
  • Depends, is it about raping someone or being raped?
  • It's good to get these feelings out of your system, so that you don't act them out for real.
  • I dont think so
  • As long as they're fantasy, I don't see the harm.
  • As long as you don't act on them... No, fuck that. My gut is telling me NO! It is or could be a very serious problem. Rape isn't really about sex. Rape is about control and control is an illusion.
  • The nice thing is that no one can take what you think from you. If a guy likes to imagine a 14 year old girl friend, thinking about it is totally harmless. Rape fantasies, fantasies of violence, heck, fantasies of any kind are not only harmless but inevitable.
  • Are you the raper, or the rapee in these fantasies? Hey guys, gals have imaginations too.
  • its according to if u got a handle on this ,cause it can get out of control!! acting out such fantasy is horrific and dangerous for u and the victim... how was ur childhood? mother? why would u want to "dominate" and "hurt" an unwilling person?:)justme
  • There are two kinds of rape fantasies. The rape fantasy where the victim is not in pain and enjoys it, and the rape fantasy where the victim is in pain and does not enjoy it at all. If it's the former, those fantasies are extremely common among everyone. If it's the latter, it's "OK", but I would suggest counseling.
  • Many people have fantasies of different levels of dominance or submission. And these aren't necessarily wrong. However, they can certainly be taken too far. If it qualifies as a "rape" fantasy, I would certainly recommend talking to a psychologist about it, because I'd anticipate you may have some reasons for having such a fantasy that should be talked out. Also, there's a bit of a difference between having a fantasy about being raped vs. having a fantasy about raping someone else. While an overly submissive fantasy may not be healthy... chances are, it would be played out with someone you fully trusted. However, if you develop a fantasy of unreasonable dominance to the point of violence... you would be much more likely to hurt someone or do something illegal.
  • I would say no.
  • Perversion can take you to any limits.

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