How would you react if your wife secretly racked up $700.00 on a credit card she said had a balance of $0?
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Chris the other white meat
ANSWERS: 18
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Depends. If you're looking for a good reason to end a relationship, such dishonesty might do the trick. But if you want to honor your vows, then you need to look at what you are doing to make her feel she has to cover up her spending. It is her money too.
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That's why I divorced my last wife.
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I'd be pissed. Lying is like cheating. She's cheating with your finances and credit. Take that beeotch to a financial advisor asap.
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My ex husband used to do stuff like that all the time, not just one credit card either. He was always sorry and promised it wouldn't happen again but it did, the children and I got fed up with having to hide from bailiffs. We are not together anymore.
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She could be saving money to get you a big gift...
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It depends... First of all $700 is insignificant to me and wouldn't in itself be a reason to want out of a relationship. I think you need to take a look at yourself first and determine if how you respond to things promotes honesty between you and her or whether it does the exact opposite. I've personally been in a relationship where my partner was absolutely unreasonable. If that's what you are you've already fostered an environment in which a person will keep things from you. I don't know what the money was spent on but it just seems to me there may be more to the issue than meets the eye in your question.
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"im not paying, in fact im breaking up with you because i cant trust you anymore"
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I would feel bad that she lied to me!
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Now thats beyond a joke..and not nice at all..but find reasons first..
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If I love her we will try and pay off the debt together and tell her never to do it again if she does I will maybe leave her but if I love her so much it difficult to dump her.
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wow and to think my husband could only wish for balances that low, lol
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I agree with Jim - you need to look at what you are doing to make her feel she has to cover up her spending.
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My wife has done that. Luckily I was at work so I couldn't do anything, but I sent furious text messages though lol.
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I would go out and rack up seven hundred dollars on my mastercard. I would show her!
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I would be as happy as a pig in clover. When she starts getting up into the thousands, has her bill mailed to her friends house, and writes checks on an account that has been closed for several years - give me a call, than we'll have something to talk about.
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Separate your credit and your wife's credit now. It is best for you, and definitely will teach her how to manage her own money. It is almost impossible to MAKE someone change their financial habits. If they are lying to you about money, you are already in too deep. You can take 6 months more and try to work with her. But the best way to make someone more fiscally responsible is to give them their own financial status. Have her pay her own insurance for auto, her own credit cards, if you can deal with it, do separate bank accounts - seriously. I always advocate for separate financial arrangements - not just because I'm a feminist - but because I don't believe ANYONE, male or female, should assume responsibility for someone else' debt. Also because a person is only half grown if they can't handle their own money affairs.... Being married is great. Being partners is wonderful. But having respect is foremost in importance. Having respect means no lying, no sneaking and total honesty.
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Keep my pimp hand strong!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I would tell her I loved her dearly but finances were coming between us and that I did not see any reason to mix up a legal arrangement (marriage) and an emotional one (loving each other) and we should get a divorce so I wouldn't have to declare bankruptcy, but since we love each other, we should continue to live in the same house. I would explain she wouldn't have to cover up anything since it would no longer be any of my business.
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