ANSWERS: 28
  • "Well, I know, but I'm sorry it's happened to you, and if you need to talk let me know!" ...something along those lines is what I usually say when someone says "its not your fault"
  • will i dont know!i relly dont know,do u?
  • Really? Now that is strange. Maybe they just wasnt thinking about their response in relation. You know how we sometimes automatically answer with the same common answer & realize later you should have said Im sorry, rather then thank you? You know what i mean...thats all I can think why that response!!!:)
  • I got one better... how about they say "It's a relief, she was suffering and she is at peace now." A gal I know lost her 29 year old sister to cancer in 2001 and that is the rsponse she gave.
  • You say, "I know. I just want you to know I'm here for you." Just as people don;t quite know what to say to someone who just lost someone, the person experiencing the loss doesn;t quite know what to say to those expressions of sorrow.
  • Well maybe if the death was some kind of accident they might say that?? I dunno.
  • Say i'm sorry for your loss.
  • You say, "I know, but I was just expressing my condolences."
  • you dont say anything. When my brother died, i often said that to people. i didnt expect or want an answer from them. it was just all i could think to say.
  • Tell them about Chaos Theory and how if you hadn't burned that pile of leaves in your yard back in 69 things might have turned out differently today.
  • Simple, don't say "I'm sorry." I admit, I do it to, especially online, but, I think there are two better alternatives. 1) May I offer my condolences? or 2) (only if there is a way you can) How can I help? I don't have any friends, so, this doesn't happen to me much, but, when my spousal unit tells me that something significantly badly life altering happens to her her friends (death, major accident, kid gets arrested, anything that causes depression and takes time) I quickly make a large casserole of something generic (taco casserole, tuna casserole, anything that you can just eat and not have to think about it). That way she doesn't have to say anything except, "Here, now you don't have to cook tonight."
  • Nothing........... dealing with the loss of a loved one can be (most cases .....is) the hardest thing one will go through. Let them deal with it their way and just try to have a heart and be there for them.
  • "Whew! That's a relief!" ************************* No, not really, of course. Just pretend you didn't hear them. They don't know what they are saying at the moment, and probably won't remember having said it.
  • I am always honest with people in those situations and tell them "I never know what to say at times like these" The most common response I get is "I know, Me Neither" Then I usually hug them.
  • Well, I'm sorry, doesn't exactly mean "I apologize" as it does, "I am sorrowful" I am sorrowful for your loss.
  • Wisdom lies in silence.
  • Just take it. Death etiquette is just weird. I thing saying "I'm sorry" is weird, cause I didn't do nuffin "It's God's will" is enfuriating as is "It will be alright" and "Let go" It's all bad. So just nod, thank them, and keep on moving.
  • Take it on the chin, they are not thinking straight, just be there for them when they need you ;0)
  • hHahaha just dont say "oh"which would make you look like a dumbass..i.e my ex
  • this is the type of moment where the phrase kicks in "actions speaks louder than words" i've personally never attended a funeral.. none of my family has been decease since my present so i don't have any experience. but i will use logic that maybe when somebody loses a love one.. millions of things are running through their head. constantly over and over agian. there's really alot of things you can say. there is no wrong answer.. you don't seem like a person that will say "go to hell" so yeah... for you there is no wrong answer.. i would say "i know, but i'm still sorry" other than words, i will spend alot of time with that person just bonding. because there's a million things running through that persons head and if you just sit there with that person, eventually he/she is just going to start talking and crying and talking and crying. the best thing for you to do is just be there beside her and comfort her. i'm really sorry if i couldn't help... never losted a love one.
  • Why would you be sorry for something that's not your fault? Why should you say anything back? The person does have a point, you know.
  • that would be an awkward moment...people are often overwhelmed during times of mourning and will say awkward things. i wouldnt say anything in response to the comment. but i would offer a hug. sounds like they need one.
  • was i the first to say it?
  • Wow........this somehow applies to me........My co-worker just got back from burying her husband. And its confirmed that he committed suicide. What do you say to someone about that? (I've already posted this as a question)
  • Mortals die, but it doesn't means that the others too should stop existing on this earth.
  • "true, but i hurt for you"....blaming started with adam and eve,always has been and always will be..and all they should say is "thank u":)justme
  • Do you want a drink, I'm going to the bar?!LOL!!
  • It is not yours either.

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