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  • No, because I was just given the bill and it was like $10,000
  • A little of both I guess.
  • A bit of both, but I think most people cry because they will miss the person that has gone.
  • To me....it's the loss.
  • For me I am crying because the speaker and the other props in the room remind me of the great times I had spend with that persom when they were still with us, I also think about the things that I will do later and not have them to share it with. But then you go up there to the podium and think about some of the things the persom thought of doing and what you can get help doing to Create a Memory OR Memorial of that person so everyone can say "Yes- they would have loved this"...
  • Personally a bit of both, but what i really cant cope with is the fact that i know i will never hear that person speak/laugh/talk again, and never see their face. That to me is the worst thing in the world.. i guess im scared deep down that i might forget how they looked and sounded.. i dont want to lose that.
  • Because of my loss not there's. There in a better place. (we hope ☺)
  • The last non-relative funeral I attended, and pall beared for, I got news an hour before that a friend, the last friend I've ever had, had suddenly lost his life. I did my best not to show emotion at the funeral, for I didn't want anyone to think I was reacting for the one we were there to honor. I also tried to hold back the tears when my father-in-law passed a couple years ago, for someone in the family had to be strong and God knows that the deceased worthless son surely isn't a strong anything.
  • I have not cried at a funeral. I dont recall the last time i cried over something that sad. I grieve inside. And i think thats how it is for me: for something stupid i cry like a baby, but for something very very sad, i dont cry at all, as if tears aren't enough. So im just very quiet and in my thoughts.
  • A combination of both - they are dead and because they are no longer here, I will miss them. As a guy, I don't cry often and the last time I cried at a funeral was over 6 years ago when my father passed away. I cried then because I loved him and then all of a sudden he was dead and I will miss him.
  • Because I will miss them. Death brings peace to those that are suffering and ill, so that does not make me sad. The loss of that person and what they brought to my life is what makes me cry the most.
  • For our own loss. Most people I know believe in some sort of afterlife (or next life), so the end of one's dsuffering in this existence is not really something to be mourned. We, on the other hand, must continue with an important part of our lives missing. On a few occasions, I wept at funerals of people I barely knew. I did not weep fo myself or for the deceased, but for those I cared about who I knew were hurting very deeply.
  • Sometimes I cry because it was a painful/wasted life.
  • Both, I think. But more because you'll miss them. We studied Funeral Blues, in English, a while back. Grief can be really selfish. You sort of become lost in yourself, I think. Funeral Blues Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone, Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone, Silence the pianos and with muffled drum Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come. Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead Scribbling on the sky the message He is Dead. Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves, Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves. He was my North, my South, my East and West, My working week and my Sunday rest, My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song; I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong. The stars are not wanted now; put out every one, Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun, Pour away the ocean and sweep up the woods; For nothing now can ever come to any good. If you read that, you notice how it's 'I' all the time, 'My'. The speaker wants the whole world to end, just because he's lost his partner, his everything. It can make you forget. I'm not sure any of that really had anything to do with the question, but I love that poem.
  • for sure, because I will miss them...
  • its a bit of both, more often because of our loss, but when my mum and dad passed away, I cried as well, for the loss of them not being able to see their grandchildren grow up, my dad not knowing he was going to be a gradnfather again, Dad not seeing in the new millenium, he so wanted to do that, so there were reasons for both............
  • It is a bit of both, especially if it is a young death. When my mum died, I was relieved that she wasn't suffering any more and that she was with Jesus. But I missed her and I still do. Same with dad.
  • You wouldn't miss them unless they were dead?
  • When I was at my last funeral, I think I was crying just reminiscing about the times we spent together and the fact that none of them will happen again, so I think it is because I will miss them
  • The last time I went to a funeral, it was my dads and I was very happy and smiling. Everyone asked me what was wrong with me! I said that I felt happy whenever I visited my father, so today my dad has gone to his father in heaven,so why should I be sad or cry?He is happy to meet His Father in heaven and so I am pleased!
  • I think funerals are for the living and allow mourners to memorialize and grieve for the loved one they have lost. In other words, I think most of the time we are mourning for ourselves because we have lost someone we love. However, if the person was young, or really in love with life, the grief is both for ourselves and for the shortened life of the lost one.
  • In my experience, grief is almost always because of your own loss and not particularly because somebody else is dead.
  • Mostly and selfishly because I will miss them. If it is someone that died very young and in a tragic accident or someone that has taken their own life then I cry because of what happened to them and how their life ended.
  • The last one I went to I was laughing the woman was a relative that was stealing from the family and here death showed everyone in the family what was really going on and how they were wrong. I disowned the majority of them.
  • Because of my loss of the person...or the loss of the people I love....I could go to anyone's funeral and cry.......

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