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  I was with my ex for 3 years, she was my first and I was her first. we've lived together for about 2 years and recently broke up in February. She dumped me because she had thought I was cheating on her but when she realized I wasn't wasn't things started slowly coming back together. Couple weeks later we got into a huge argument after our argument she started acting different and coming home late. It was unusual of her to come home late because she's a nurse and her schedule required her to work the 5-7 shift. I would stay up until she got home to talk about her why she's been coming home late, she would she grab whatever she needed and she would leave again and not come back home until about 2 or 3 am. One day she gets texted saying she needed her space and if I could stay at my parents, for the first week I disagreed to it but shortly after I changed my mind thinking it might be a good idea and that I should respect her space. Two days later I had found out she slept with her coworker by logging into her Snapchat. I asked her if she had done anything with anyone she kept telling me she had not done anything with anyone, so I pulled up her snapchat to show her that knew what had happen after I gave her space. We were officially done I grabbed my stuff and had completely moved out, couple weeks later she started texting me about how she had made a mistake so I went back to her. For about 5 months she was going back and forth between me and her coworker. Last week she broke down mentally and was calling and texting me non stop saying she wanted to hurt herself and she felt like a piece of shit for doing this to me, she wanted me to come over to help her out with her breakdown so I told her she needed to text her coworker and have him deal with it because I was really upset about the last few months. She continued to text me saying that he doesn't know how to deal with her when she's like this only I did so I agreed to help her out and comfort her, she asked me to be her boyfriend again but I refused because everyt
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  My name is Fabian. So there is this girl i have a big crush on, (not dating) I'm not ready to ask her out yet. But her name is Alyssa . I met her in middle school and me and her still text ALOT, like everyday. We sometimes hang out and chill. me and her care and love eachother alot, she loves me because i always been there for her, and i always made her feel better, she said she wouldn't know what she do without me. She said i am like one of the realest people out there. she said me and her will rock together forever. but these past 7 days i feel like me and her were getting dry, like if our bond wasn't the same , like if something was wrong with her. I miss texting her more, laughing and having funny and enjoyable convos, where we texted more and she replied faster. I noticed she has been sleeping in all day until 5 or 6pm , and she goes to bed earlier then usual, it made no sense to me. She also hasn't been texting anybody that much and she hasn't been on social media that much, i asked her and she "said You're the first person to actually notice. but idk, I've been sleeping a lot and idk why . Then i asked her what is causing all that and she said " I just got out of a really toxic friendship and it's been taking a huge toll on my emotions lately ". Turns out it was her bestfriend (Jony) they were really close. She really cared and trusted him. I asked what happened and she said "A lot of manipulation and mental abuse". What do you think she meant by that and what do you think might of happened? She said "We still talk a lil bit,, I just needed some space" But to be honest i don't know how to really help her, i need to find the right words to have her move on and whatever they have wasn't real anymore. I don't want her to think i am trying to talk her out her feelings, i also don't want to make her sound guilty or anything like that, i don't want to sound like An Asshole either. I am that type of person that is always going to be real with people and she knows that. I want her to be strong. Alot of people hurt
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  Emergency Question!!! So at Saturday 12/3/16 I was looking in my hermit crab cage. I have two hermit crabs. One small one named Claws, I had the longest (Since August 2014) which was very active but never moved shells it's whole life. I even had a bunch of shells of different sizes for both crabs to molt in. Never even molted neither. Then I have Shelly, which is a bigger one and lived since October 2015 but is shy and never looks out of its shell unless it gets food or water. So on 12/3/16 I looked in my cage and I found that Claws (the small active hermie) was laying out of his shell looking like he was exhausted. I went to pick him up and he fell right out of his shell. I was dramatized and quickly assumed he was dead. So I told my mom when she arrived home which was a couple hours later. So we got the cage out and we used two sticks to bring his body up and burry him about 2 inches down to the ground. We then did research because I was depressed and hoping he was alive. I then figured out he could've been molting the whole time. It was actually just 15 minutes after we burried him so we dug him back up and put him in a separate cage for a few days just in case he was molting. We put food and water and new shells in there. He then started to smell fishy and looks completely dead but we aren't sure. We wish he wasn't because we're all depressed because of it and we have no idea if he is dead or molting. So do you think he is dead, or is he just molting? What should we do?
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  So I joined college a week ago and it's been great so far. Haven't made a lot of friends yet but it's fine. My roommate is some girl I've never met before till like 4 days ago and she and her friends seem pretty cool. I'm not a very talkative person (probably awkward af) and I try to be social but it just turns into a very awkward situation. The hostel I stay in usually offer meals and since I can't eat some foods (tummy issues) I decided to order takeout on my first day stay. My roommate and her friend were on the top bunk talking during dinner and they told me to go get some food and I declined saying I was full and all but then my takeout arrived and when I got to eating, she and her friend weren't there so there's no way I could offer it to them. So when they came back, the food was already cold and I felt bad offering them cold food (bc it seems like I'm giving them my leftovers; rude) so I just kept it there till the next morning when I threw it out. A few days later, I hear her talking to her friends telling them how selfish I am. It really hurts bc we don't know each other that well and she's already making judgements about me. We don't talk much but I feel like I've been nothing but good to her despite being quiet and all. God knows what nonsense she's been feeding her friends. What should I do? I really do like her friends
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  I have a baby painted turtle named Avery, as of now I'm not sure of its gender. I have UVB lighting on her basking rock, and keep the temperature at 80 degrees. It has calcium supplements, and I'm doing the best I can with it, as I've never owned a turtle before. Avery is two weeks old, and its shell is slightly soft. I've checked for rotting and pyramiding, but there are no signs of either. My questions are; 1. Is the soft shell normal? I have its UVB light on all day, although I turn it off at night. 2. What is a proper diet for baby painted turtles, is it the same as adults? 3. Am I missing any of the needs for Avery? 4. Do I need to buy vitamin supplements? 5. I change the tank once every 2-3 days, do I change it sooner? Things that I have for Avery: 60 gallon tank Filter UVB light that also provides heat Water thermometer Basking area where it can completely get out of water Water at 78-80 degrees most of the time (it cools down to 72 during the night but heats back up again during the day) Calcium bone chews (it is using them) I do not have a tank heater, but I am not sure if it's necessary due to the tank staying relatively the same temperature, but I plan to get one once winter hits. If you can help me I will be so relieved, I love this turtle and I'm willing to do anything possible to keep it as healthy as I can!
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  How do I get my ex girlfriend back? Hi so I’m in a situation where I know my ex still loves me and is in love with me. However the reason for this breakup (48 hrs ago) was for us to work on ourselves, to get the ball rolling on our careers and after we do that she said she promised we’d try things out again. She said she has no time for me rn because her mom just went through a kidney transplant and she needs to focus on her plus she said she doesn’t feel like she loves herself enough and before putting all 100% into me she wants to do that for herself. We took a 2 week break and she told me she felt awful because she wanted to give me attention it’s just she needs to be strong for herself and show herself that she can be responsible. So she broke things off so she doesn’t feel like I’m waiting on the sidelines for her. She also wants time for herself to do yoga and make new friends. Our breakup wasn’t bad. We talked and talked and even had sex and took a last picture of us kissing before going our separate ways. She contacted me the next morning telling me she hopes work went good and we talked for a bit then the conversation ended and restarted again at night while we were both at work. She told me during the breakup that she felt uncomfortable in the relationship because when we argue or fight I’d be an a**hole and yell and cuss at her. I told her I wanna change for myself but also for us because I realized that it’s not cool of me to be yelling over dumb things. She said she doesn’t know if things will workout in the future between us but we will try again and as long we work on ourselves rn then only good things will come. Any advice would be helpful as this time for me is hard because we told each other we’d work through anything and that our relationship could go to hell and back and we’d still love each other. I know this is hell rn I just want things to workout again.
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  My father was having girls over for the night because he recently was divorced so he wanted to get me out of the house he bribed me with his nice truck and 60 dollars to leave and go do something i crashed his truck into a fence and then got out of the truck called him and he came and pulled me out with his big rig truck we got into a fight at the house and his retaliation was calling the cops on me for a hit and run now i have court over it who is at fault me or him? His truck his insurance and i was under his insurance at the time
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  Okay, sooo I have a girlfriend and i inserted my penis inside her for like 2 minutes before scaring away from it.This was on the 17th of January and i scared out completely and we both got really scared about pre cum and it had been the first time we had ever had sex. We both were also virgins. I bought plan b and gave it to her the day after. Shortly after, she had her period for 12-13 days. She regularly has it for 3-4days. She got off it on the 3rd of February, or the 4th.. i dont quite remember but she hasn't had it since and it's March 2nd. I read a lot about this and people say it completely messes up the cycle and im sure it does.. im just still so scared. To make my case scarier, i had sex with her without a condom for like 1 minute again before scarying away and i came in her mouth and not in her. Although i have never came inside of her.. it's my second time havingsex and im so scared of pre cum and im terrified. It's the next day since last nights incident butim still worried why she hasnt had her period yet. Also, a week ago when i was fingering her, she gets really wet and when i was fingering her.. a thin, sticky, clearish cloudy white liquid stayed on the tip of my fingers but people say it's cum and it's only when i finger her and it happens only sometimes... usually when im rubbing without a lot of friction in her so i guess its her wet lubricated vagina rubbing against my fingers accumulating on my fingers or i dont know. she hasn't had any white discharge out of her vagina.. its only been that when i finger her. Also, now that i remember... she used moisturizer around her clit one of the two times this cloudy white stuff stayed on the tip of my fingers so im guessing one of the times it could've been that because i ate her out and it tasted like the same moisturizer she puts on her neck that i dont notice when im kissing her neck.. the second time could be the cum though and what i stated before. im not sure if its pregnancy discharge because she hasnt had random discharge of white liquid
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  My girlfriend and I were happy together had a dog lived together and talked of marriage. My friend would always come over and hang with me, after a while him coming over turned into a everyday thing. Long story short, situations happend like me and my buddy hanging in the garage and him saying goodbye and then an hr later I go upstairs and he's sleeping on the floor next to the couch we're my girlfriend is sleeping. Other things like they had exchanged phone numbers without me knowing. I asked them both if anything was goin on I felt like an idiot when they both said no. Time passed then more stuff like I pulled into the grocery mart parking lot and there sitting there talking . I ended up asking my girlfriend and my friend a ton of times if what I was feeling like they were hooking up was real No no no your insane and insecure. Ok my girlfriend ended up leaving me because of all this she told me that they never talked at all. We're broken up now and my friend still comes around but he dosnt seem like a real friend he says I would never do that, and then bragged to me the other day about how he hooked up with a chick who has a boyfriend.
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  If we were hanging out at your house and you left for a bit, and came back and I was hogtied on your bed with a sock in my mouth, what would you do?