fuck no. it's either or, to be honest with you I'd break up with her just for asking that.

No.

Are you fecking mad ?? your marriage would be dead in no time, if she loves you she would not be asking this. The answer is No. And you both need to take a long hard look at your relationship and find out what is missing before its too late. Good Luck.

No you should not agree. This is not a good thing for your marriage. I think it is wrong of her to ask this of you. She can justify both relationships?????? Wrong.

i cannot believe that your wife would actually ask you for "permission" to engage in an adulterous affair. to me, this sounds like a cry for help. do you think that she would agree to couples counseling? how do you feel about sharing your wife sexually with another man? is this guy in the office married also? just because a person is sexually attracted to someone doesn't necessarily mean they should act upon it. in the marriage vows, there is something about fidelity to each other, maybe marriage is not your wife's "cup of tea" any longer. i hope that you can work things out.

That is so disrespectful toward you, your feelings and the promises you both made when you got married. It is not up to me to tell you whether you should agree or not, that would depend entirely upon how YOU feel about it. I only know that if my husband asked me for permission to have an affair, I would certainly give it to him..followed shortly by divorce papers.

Should you agree to let your wife have sex with another man that she is in love with? You honestly don't find anything wrong with that? Do you think if they sleep together once, twice this will go away? It won't. It starts here and ends with the two of them together and you broken hearted and alone, wondering where you went wrong. Stop this before it gets even further out of hand.

NO WAY. I'd recommend some marriage counseling, stat!

Going to play devil's advocate ;) You seem to have an honest relationship. She is not simply cheating on you as others would. I disagree with the remark that you should break up with her just for asking as you should be able to openly discuss anything (now you can mention the threesome you've been fantasizing about with her wild girlfriend or the babysitter?). But your decision is what matters and must be respected--you are not her doormat. Why does she want the affair? Is your relationship rock solid besides this? Is she missing something in your relationship (sort it out, counselling, etc!) or does she want sexual variety? What do you get out of it? Unless you're having a laugh, something must have made you pause before saying "no bleeping way!" Does the idea turn you on? Would you like to sleep/have an affair with somebody else, too? Or are you [trying to be] spiritually enlightened? If it suits your lifestyle and neither of you are going to be jealous or insecure then maybe go look up on the alternative scenes for advice. Some starting points: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Open_marriage http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swinging There are two worrying words in your post. She has mentioned 'love' (too much feeling there!) and the other guy is 'obsessed' with her (he could well do anything to keep her). This sounds dangerous as phile4evr said. Don't say yes unless you are 100% sure you know what you're doing.

I think this is ridiculous. No. When you get married to vow to be with that person until death. Not share them with others, even if she is open with communication. Have you had an affair with someone on her???

That's up to you but I would divorce her. She obviously doesn't feel compelled to honor her marriage vows.

WTF?!?!?!?!?! 2 words, marriage and counsellor. shes crazy!!!

Heck No! first id have a much needed word with your wife. Second, id go meet this guy and show em where its at.

you little pussy, how can you believe her when she says she loves you too, when she wants to screw someone else? And then wondering if you should agree to it! Hey can I have a piece of her too? I'm a nice guy and I won't threaten your marriage. If your into sloppy seconds and kissing a mouth that you don't know where she's had it, then go ahead and allow it you dumbass, pack her cloths move her out and find someone who knows how to be monogamous........

Holy bejesus...that's funny. She's quite the crafty one.

No. You should file for divorce.

My friends (we'll call the Joe and Sally) are married but have been having problems for a long time. They didn't have sex for a very very long time. Joe met a woman through his job (a clients wife who claimed to have an open relationship with her husband) and asked Sally permission to have a sexual relationship with her. Sally agreed and he had sex with the other woman. Well, now Sally is really pissed off about it, even though she gave permission. Well, this other woman wound up getting obsessed with the situation. Started going to Joe's second job all the time as well as following Sally around, even going up to their child at day care (their children were in the same day care...WOW!) and hugging and kissing her just to irritate Sally. It turns out that Joe and Sally were trying to renew their marriage and were on a date and they just happened to bump into this other woman and her husband. Well, the Sally got really upset that she saw the other woman and went up to her husband and told him "Tell your wife to stay away from my husband!" Turns out that they didn't have an open relationship and are now also getting a divorce. Moral of the story....NO! This is NEVER a good idea. You can love 2 people at once, but once you made a decision you should stick by it. If you can't then break the relationship. There is no justification in cheating, with or without permission.

if you agree would you please tell me where she works-i'll take a piece of that action ;-)

R U Kidding!

It probably is not a good idea.

All together now: "You're going to lose that girl (you're going to lose that girl) You're going to looooooo-ooo-oooo-ooo-ooo-ooo-ooo-oo-ooose that girl You're going to looooooo-ooo-oooo-ooo-oooooose that girl!" You can give a woman the world, only to find out she hates you because "you haven't got the balls to stand your ground". Love misinterpreted as weakness happens all the time. You can treat a woman like shit and she still clings to you just because she thinks you are strong. She is drunk with the power of your love. She's had too much to drink so as bar tender, you have to refuse any more drinks. Otherwise she'll wake up face down in the gutter with a bad hangover. You'll be pretty crook yourself, in fact your misery has just started and will get heaps worse if you don't put your foot down. If she ends up having 'his' kids, will you go to work and pay for their upkeep? He might be having a rough trot you know .... The can of worms is open but it was actually a 44 gallon drum of rattlesnakes ...

It's your call. At least she had the decency to come to you first and discuss it with you. The thing that would worry me was her using the word "love" in the description. I think you and your wife really need to talk further..I think she is about to have this affair anyway..whether you approve or not.

if you need to ask the question you already know the answer!!!

No. She's playing with fire.

That's a perk of SINGLE people. Married people are supposed to be committed to ONE person. Or is that considered old fashioned now???

Yeah, I wouldn't say file for divorce, but I think you both need to do like a trial separation or something. Just the fact that she let herself become this comfortable with someone at her job means she is unhappy or lacking something in her relationship with you. It may not have anything to do with you (to a degree)-she may just be bored. But whatever the reason, this is a very bad situation for you to be in. She is GOING to cheat or do something equally destructive. You bneed to nip this in the bud, so to speak, ASAP. If you opt to stay with her, she needs to change careers like NOW.

I see this two ways. First and foremost, I thought that marriage meant two people who are fully commited to each other and no one else. But on the other hand, at least she's asking you how you feel about it rather than sneaking behind your back. In the end, it depends on the kind of relationship you two have. If you have any doubts about this arrangement(which you obviously do), its only going to bring problems.

For you to even ask US if you should agree...makes you a complete WUSE! Don't you have more respect for yourself? If you allow this, she will never respect you as a man. Be the MAN she needs and take control of this. I will bet you that deep inside, she wants you to tell her hell no. She wants and needs to know that you even give a damn about her. To do this, you are showing her that you are her little dog on Her leash. MAN-UP man...

sure, trust your wife. realize, it is only the beginning.

Hell no I wouldn't. And the word "obsessed" is kinda scary. You should be the One and only to her. Or tell her if she can, than you can go do the same thing and see how she reacts.

Um lets see, NO. Grow some nads and tell her shes married and if she wants to sleep with someone else she needs to get un-married.