I was engaged to one, but it didn't work out. His mother was Cuban & I am Italian and as far as she was concerned, I was a Wop piece of shit. The sad thing is, this guy will never be happy with a woman because he's always seeking his mother's approval, and since no one will EVER be good enough for her son, he won't find anyone that DOES make HIM happy.

I was engaged to one -- NEVER again! Dating a mama's boy is like dating him and his mother. I'd much rather a man that can make his own choices regardless of his mothers approval.

Yep! My EX husband...

I am engaged to a mama's boy now.. his mom is so annoying she pisses me off all he time undercover i tell ya and so noisy sometimes i feel like shes trying to steal him away from me secretly

YEP GOT ONE NOW. I AM NEWLY MARRIED AND WE LIVE IN KY. I RELOCATED HERE 2 YRS AGO FOR HIM TO TRY IT OUT. I AM IN PROPERTY MANAGEMENT ADN MAKE A DECENT LIVING FOR MY FAMILY. I HAVE 3 CHILDREN FROM A PREVIOUS MARRIAGE. I GOT LAID OFF FROM MY JOB HERE AND CAN NOT FIND ANY WORKHERE. I DID GET A JOB OFFER PAYING $80,000 A YEAR BUT IN ANOTHER STATE HE WILL NOT GO BECAUSE OF HIS MOTHER. HE IS A ONLY CHILD AND YES SHE IS OLD BUT I OFFERED TO FIND HER A PLACE NEAR US. HE SAYS NO. FOR 2 YRS I FEEL LIKE ME AND MY CHILDREN HAVE HAD TO LIVE IN POVERTY BECAUSE SHE WILL NOT BUDGE. I THOUGHT HE MARRIED ME NOT HER??IF HE DOES NOT SEE HER EVERY WEEK WHEN HE COMES OFF OF THE ROAD (OVER THEROAD TRUCK DRIVER) SHE ACTS UP HORRIBLY AND HE BABIES HER. IT IS SICK. AT TIMES HAD BEEN VERY RUDE TO ME AND MY CHILDREN AND HE WILL NOT SAY ANYTHING JUST TELLS ME "OH BABY SHE IS JUST OLD AND MEAN" HELP I NEED ADVICE

I was once engaged to a mamas boy, it was a nightmare, he even gave her the keys to our house, so when i came home from work she was there cooking his dinner, doing his washing etc, i went away for a few days and came home to find out she had been staying in the spare room to look after him, she had a husband and daughter at home but her son was more important, she never did anything for me, and i found her one day reorganising my cupboards and moving my furniture, i put up with her for 4 years and decided enough was enough, so i left him, and ill never go near another mama's boy again because im not coming second to his mummy

This guy was interested in me but he would come on to me so strong i thought he wanted a relationship. Well, after Mommy dearest found out he had an interest in me, he started breaking dates. He's 46 and still lives at home. Once I called his house and Mommy Dearest answered. She called him to the phone but she never hung up. a second later I cracked a joke, it was then I realized that it was 3 people laughing on the phone. Me, Him and HER. needles to say I didn't hang around long enough to get into a threesome. Very incestous and weird.

No, but there is nothing wrong with mamas boys - as long as the mama doesn't make his life decisions for him.

Sorry to be crude, but you must get him off his "Mother's tit" before the two of you can have a relationship. Otherwise there will always be three of you.

*raises hand*

I was married to one for 20 years, guess where he lives now??? Hehehehehe!!! With his Mama. 40 years old, LOL!!!

I am engaged to one right now. It's not the worst case ever, but he is very close to her (both of his parents, in fact.) He speaks to her several times a week (just likes to share funny or interesting things) and, as we chance to live nearby and he works from home, he visits them several times a week, too. Someone, please help? What can I do to make this better? His mother is very nice to me and isn't intrusive at all. But the problem is that his parents have always done everything for him, so that he's now unmotivated and unorganized, too. I feel like I have to nag him to get things done and, every time he has a question, the first answer is to see what mom knows about it.

Yes, his name was John. His mom decorated her house in green and red-so did we. his mom wallpapered-so did we. his mom cleaned the house and made him cookies-so did I. until the divorce.

I was married to an addicted white trash mommas boy for 8 years... They are the absolute worst kind, they party together and share drugs. It was a nightmare that I am glad I woke up from...

I am married to one right now. At first it was not a big deal but now its a nightmare. I think my mother in law knows my husbands life better then I do. Its breaking my heart to see how me and my husbands relationship is falling apar t.

God NO!!! I only date men who speak highly of their Mother--but a Mama's boy...never! That kind of guy is so OPPOSITE of what I find attractive. Big Ewwww and Never!

Never

No, but I did date a mama's boy before and everything was always about his mother and he would let his mom make decisions for him. Very annoying.

I was engaged to one!! THankfully I had a revelation before the wedding!

Lord I was for about 3 months. The I got my sanity back.

Yes 10 yrs ago I married who I thought was a man, but only 2 find out he was a mammas boy! Our marriage only lasted 1 yr & 5 days. I told hime 4get he can marry her and she can wash his clothes and cook 4 him. I am still more independant than him!

if you are engaged to this loser... break it off now... if you're already married to him... then i'll pray for you... i just came out of a five year relationship with a mama's boy... we actually lived with her for the first year and a half of our relationship... we then found a house that we(she) liked which was about ten minutes from her... she (unbeknownst to me at the time) co-signed the loan for the house... she had a key... she bought us new appliances (without my input and this was MY house)... we eventually sold this house because one became available (yep you guessed it) in the neighborhood next to hers... during this whole thing i'm still waiting on my engagement ring that i've been promised for three years... then i find out that she's paying his cell phone bill and his car insurance... i have no clue what i was paying attention to this whole time... he's addicted to xbox and would let a bill go unpaid in order to buy something game-related... when the opportunity came along for me to move to another state to make better money... i took it... he opted not to move so guess where he is now... you guessed it... back with mama... in her spare bedroom... he's 41 with absolutely no ambition in life other than to win the next forza race on xbox or get the latest porno or chat online with his e-lovers... five years of my life wasted... don't let it happen to you... lol...

I divorced a mama's boy-way too many people in the marriage.

I was in a serious relationship with one. Definitely wouldn't recommend it.

Yes, and I should have ran when they kissed on the lips the first time I met her.... yech!!!

Luckily enough it never got that far, I dated one for a few months, his mom wouldn't let him out after 9pm at night when he was 18 years old, and he used to have to lie about his whereabouts when he was with me, because his mom hated me, simply because in the past I had hurt her little boy.

I'm married to a reformed mama's boy.

No, but if you meet someone who hated their mother, that is even worse, cuz then he is ambivalent towards all women and has trouble getting close or bonding

Yes, I was married to one for 6 years. Some people might get mad at this (mom's with mama's boys) but here's the thing. Men can't be men until they have a chance to live like "big boys" which means that they must make their own money and support themselves. They must learn responsibility. My case was probably extreme but his mother and her "mothering" made it impossible for him to grow up and made him rely on his wife for the weirdest things. Like I used to have to wake him up in the morning. If I didn't make sure he was upright before I went to work, he'd fall back to sleep and sleep through work!! No responsibility at ALL!!!! It was a nightmare. I'm glad that he loved his mommy, I wouldn't want a man who didn't but she enabled him to act like he was in the 4th grade and that helped ruin his marriage!!!

i wouldn't say that he is a mama's boy but he is very good to his mom. whenever we come to town, we have to visit FOR SURE and "stay" a while... we live an hour away from her and he has to visit her when we first get there and when we leave to say goodbye. it's rediculous sometimes but at least he loves her and doesn't hate and disrepect her which could be WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY worse. i once dated a guy who hated his mom so much that he would talk about her all the time and how much he wished she would just die. it was haunting and disturbing.

yea, when i was 5 i was proposed to by a boy in my class. his mom made him call off the wedding we planned for the following weekend. we dressed up the dogs and set up little lawn chairs in the back-yard. dad freaked, i had to give the ring back and we've never seen each other since, we've talked though. oddly enough hes dating a girl now. and im being serious.

While we are raging on this topic I'd like to ask the mama's of "mama's boy" Why are you like this?? Why are you making your kids dependent losers?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Get a life!

sure my ex wife

I have experienced a moma's boy for the first time. I am feeling so much better after reading some of these comments. The mother was not part of our relationship for the first two months which is why after 4 months I am just now leaving. I blame them both. Her first and foremost and him now. He is not financially responsible, nor does he want to be. It's not just his mother that he seeks out in this manner. He has both male and female friends married and not married that take care of him like he is a little boy. It's a dance that he does with people that I think stems from his relationship with his mother. I am so sad and hurt to have to say goodbye. But, she lords over him, controls him financially to keep him hooked. Also, we no longer have our time. They have land in the family in Texas and Colorado that he wants so badly he has thrown relationships away. That to me is about him. Not her. I, when I make poor decisions have to suffer the consequences. That's what helps me not make them again. He on the other is like a boy. The parent continues to rescue so as to keep him unhealthily attached to her. This is a new experience for me. Had it started out with these variables I think we would not have lasted one month. He has lived with her for 3 years since his divorce. Supposedly to get back on his feet. He chose to buy an expensive vehicle which costs him $800 a month. But, live with mommy. And stay behind in child support but he can afford $800 a month for transportation. This is more about him in the end than even being a mommy's boy. He will always seek out that mommy even if it's not the birth mom. I almost went there and am so thankful for these emails that I have read. Because I have been feeling crazy. And, once again inept in the my love life.I am venting and am very hurt right now with life. My mom is in the hospital and I cannot accept the world in which the love of my life lives. Most painful this time of year. However, I will bounce back as I always do. Thanks for letting me vent! And most of all thank you God for being in my life...

I would appear that way but in that she went insane and Killed father when I was 2 that statement is incorrect. Manners does not mean weakness but stupid people think that manners are weakness.

I think every man is a Mama's Boy! Either they expect you to be like their Mom becuase they love them so much, or they just have serious issues because they hate them!

Yup and it isn't pretty. I was with my ex-husband for 11 yrs before I threw in the towel. It started when she called me by his ex girlfriend's name-which she had always said, "oops". she covered my side of the pictures over and placed his ex girlfriend's face over mine. When my ex had told his mother that he had asked me to marry him, her exact words were, "why?" She had first refused to go to the wedding, then said she would but continued to flip flop about her decision to attend until two weeks prior. She told everyone that she was going to wear a white dress. She showed ip and throughout our vows said for all the guests to hear, "don't do it" over and over again. I knew that I could not change her but was hoping he would change from a mommas boy to a man that could do things without worrying about her feelings. When she would disrespect me, he would never say anything. He allowed her to insult me openly in front of people.I grew weary of this behavior and had noticed that I was becoming less of a person. What wife says to her husband, "you love your mother and you love ne BUT you f*** me" or "Why don't you F*** your mother and get it over with"? I hated the woman I was becoming and thats when I decided to divorce myself from this toxic marriage.

My sister did. Poor girl, she was in hell for 11 years! When they met, he was 28, still living at home and a virgin! He was an only child to boot. They even left the wedding reception with her in the backseat of the car. When they got married, he brought her to live with the parents. She would barge in on them all the time, even when they were having sex to tell them not to! I kid you not! When they finally moved out after a year (because Sis threatened to move out), the witch would call at 7 in the morning to give him the weather forecast & tell him to wear warm clothes. WTF? It was a nightmare, she would call him on the phone to tell him that he shouldn't have married her because she was [fill in the blank with the worst that your imagination can come up with]. She also used to get the father-in-law involved and those were some massive pow wows. My poor sister took it like a champ till 11 years and 2 kids later, she filed for divorce. When my sister went into labor with their second child, she had to walk herself into the hospital & have the baby alone because the old bag refused to babysit for the older child. Of course, at that point, the witch told reminded him how she had told him that she was a good for nothing ho and it wouldn't last. and this is the short version, I could write a book bigger than War & Peace on the subject. Really, my sister deserves a Purple Heart for what she put up with!

I was married to a mama's boy for 15 yrs, now we're divorced. If you're considering marrying one of these 'boys' then I suggest you abandon all self respect now. You aren't the most important woman in his life, and you will never be. My ex mother in law disrespected me, very harshly at times, and in all the years that I was with him he never defended me. Ladies, I mean not once. Not when it hurt so much I cried, not when i pleaded with him to see that his refusal to place me first was going to end in divorce, not after 2 children...not after divorce, never. He's very lonely now but still in close contact with his mom everyday. He tells me he knows he's the reason the marriage failed and he will never 'get over it', yet he refuses to see a therapist or even admit his mother is the problem. If you aren't the kind of woman who can toss away all self respect then I suggest you run from this man...no matter HOW much it hurts. No, run like the devil himself is after you.

I was married to a "mama's boy" and they ruined our marriage. Someone who answered this as well mentioned that if you marry a mama's boy there will always be three in the relationship and this is true. His mother always had her say, especially if she didn't like my opinion even when it came to our daughter. If I called the doctor because our daughter was sick and asked what he thought I should do, my husband would call his mother to get her opinion too! And of course she would give her opinion and disagree with the MD. Needless to say we are divorced and he has re-married a woman who accepts his mother. Good luck to them and their "three-person" relationship. So much for our wedding vow, "And let no man put asunder." There is nothing wrong with a man who is close to his mother as long as he respects you and puts you first. You will know this if he defends you to his mother and/or speaks to her in your defense. Mine didn't.

I was engaged to a mammas girl and it sucked. I never knew grown women still got breast fed. She could make a move without getting approval from her mommy. Her mom would actually take her to the store and buy her underware. Who does that. What 28yr old women has their mom buying their panties. Once she put her mom as our wedding coordinator I knew it was a huge problem. Every idea I had for the wedding was cast aside because mommy didn't like it. And I was payin for it, fuck that. After 5 years I left. It hurts like hell, but I don't wana be in a 3some. I'm to dam grown for that.

My first husband was a mama's boy.