I am sorry that two people found this question of so little value as to give 3 negative pts. I still miss her and wonder if my dream, which occurred when I just dozing, was a message. She was fiercely independent, to such an extent that I could not get her to stop smoking. If you are a smoker, Please Please stop.

I have no idea what "normal" grief is, still trying to figure it out, but I agree smeone is very sad to downrate a question like this.

Hey dude. Really sorry to hear about your loss. Very, very sad. (I don't smoke, BTW)... I don't think there's such a thing as 'normal' grief. Everyone must do it in their own way. I'd guess that your dreaming is the beginnings of your dealing with the loss. You're watching your wife bury herself. The body is gone - that needs to be clear. But your wife is not. While people remember her, she continues on. While memories of her continue to influence you - bring you happiness or sadness or smiles or tears - she continues on. You obviously have to let go of her bodily presence. Bury it with that coffin. Your bodily life has to go on - you need to keep living your life! The spirit and influence of your wife's life and love is something you can keep, tucked away inside, for as long as you want though. That's your choice.

I am so very sorry about your wife. You have my sympathy. Maybe what she is telling you is that only her body is there but her spirit isn't.

Yes, this is so normal. And a blessing. She's telling you she's okay and to let go of the grief. Which is going to be hard. If she was an independent woman she would indeed try to do it herself to save you the pain. Since my fiancee died I have had many dreams about him and have even got glimpses of the accident he died in as well as him waiting for me on the Otherside. So I can tell you that this is normal. You well feel her and catch glimpses of her and have dreams of her for many years to come. Take them for what they are, her telling you that she's still here and still loves you.

I'm so sorry for your loss vinc3nt - I had a experience with my Grandmother also - She came as a beautiful fairy and put a red rose in a vase and then flowed back to the clouds - I've never forgotten that dream and it has been many many years ago - Bless You and Your Faimly

i have had one of my loved ones appear in my dreams after he had died. it was awhile after his death though, but i don't think i was ready for it earlier anyhow. anyway, the message i got out of my dream seemed to be that he was still the same person and that he was happy. he was messing around in the dream, very playful. whether i was actually being visited by his spirit or not, i may never know. i'd like to think so. it seemed like the right timing for me to be open to such a message. anyhow, in your dream, it sounds like your wife is trying to put finish up the details from her death and put it behind her; she probably wants you to try and do the same. although, the fact that she appeared in your dream may have also been to let you know that even though she has passed, she isn't really "gone" and still loves you.

so sorry to hear that. I lost my daughter two years ago and there is no normal grief. It is just important that you let yourself. Dreams can be awesome to sad after losing someone close. Thoughts are with you.

I believe it is normal. My mother and all her sisters dream about their parents and siblings who have died. They are very vivid dreams and usually occur just after someone dies, not just at the time of that particular person's death. I'm sorry to hear about your wife. You have my sympathies.

Wow, what a profound vision. That's a special gift. I think people really can visit us in our sleep. A lot of my dreams come true as well.

My most sincere condolences to you. Grief isn't all black and white in what is normal and what is not. Everybody deals with it basically the same but also different. I truly hope you find peace, happiness and healing.

Dreams can help you from madness or drive you into it.

I am so sorry for your loss. When my dad died, about a week or so later I had a dream wherein he was on a bed (a 4-poster) in a very bright room...everything was in white, there was a slight breeze and the curtains were swaying...the view out the window was of an ocean...and he turned to look at me and had the most beautiful smile on his face. I still see that image and this was many years ago. It made me feel so much better, because I felt it was his way of letting me know that he was o.k. I hope your dreams about your wife provide comfort to you as well.

This is not something I have expirienced you should visit the grave. Do what you feel is right I have no more advice than that.

My heart-felt condolences to you! She probably asking you to let go!!! My mom died when i was very little and sometimes i do dream of her asking me to do something!! Just like she would have if she were alive!!! Psychologically speaking, dreams et al are ways to cope! As long it isnt recurring and not affecting normal functioning its ok! Its been only a short time since she left! Its ok to grieve but you need to go for others who need you! Hope you find peace !

Actually I used to look after a pony and I had a dream about her a week after she was put down :( I'm so sorry about your wife. I think she was reaching out to you, telling you she is ok.

Grief is such an intensely personal thing that I am not sure the concept of "normal" applies. I suspect its very common to "see" loved ones we have lost. Evem though it has not happened to me, I do dream and think of such loved ones often.

I think grief is individual and there is no one "normal" way to grieve. As far as 'seeing' your wife is concerned though I have a couple of thoughts. First, extreme stress, such as the loss of a loved one, can trigger very strong reactions in our minds. Perhaps your's was a vision triggered by such a reaction. Second, my mother was in a nursing home when my father died. He had been ill and unable to visit her for a long time. A close family member was with her for a usual visit and keeping her company until we could all be together to tell her the sad news. No one told he that her husband of 52 years was dead. However, she told the relative who was visiting, that earlier that morning our father "had picked up his coat and walked out the door." She was not in the habit of hullicinating or making up stories. She was indeed certain that she had seen him.(It had upset her because she said "If he can do that, he can come to see me." .... which seemed to imply that she had had a vision of him being somewhere other than in her room in the nursing home.) I see strong similarities between what you "saw" and what my mother "saw". Perhaps our loved ones have an opportunity to make a "farewell exit" of sorts by way of visions imparted to those with whom they are closest. Perhaps it is necessary that it be purely symbolic and therefore, your wife being by a gravesite... and the stones representing burial.... as my father's getting his coat and "walking out the door" both symbolize that they have gone on and cannot return. Other similar incidents have occurred in my family but not as visions. Within a few days of my grandmother passing when I was a child, one beautiful perfect red rose bloomed in the rose garden that had been totally neglected during her long illness. It too late in the season for the roses and that particular bush had never bloomed before. My mother felt it to be a final gift of love from her mother. 40 years later, about a week after my mother passed on, one tiny purple violet bloomed at my mailbox.... the only place in the yard I am guaranteed to ever be as I don't garden. The terrain was the harshest of harsh and I never recall the plant having even been there before...I would have noticed.... I know for certain there had never been a bloom there the entire 10 years I have lived in this house. It was still too early in the year, and too cold for wild violets to be blooming as I had asked the florist to look for some for my mother's funeral because they were her favorite flower. The florist had been unable to locate any, even in the wild, yet there, just a few days later was a perfect tiny purple violet blooming out of hard packed ground!I felt that it was somehow a gift from my mother..... then I recalled the red rose that had bloomed after my grandmother's death. I believe in heaven and an after life. I certainly don't understand it, and these things may just be freak coincidences, but I find it more probable that they are provided to us as a connection to our loved ones. I am indeed sorry for your loss and you have my heart felt sympathy as you move through these difficult days.

honestly i think she is trying to tell you that you might have burried her body but her love and spirit will be there for you always and forever.

IT MAYBE A DREAM.IF IT WAS NOT SO I THINK THAT THAT IF YOU THINK OF HER SPECIPHICALY YOU MIGHT BE THINKING OF THE SCENE AS YOU HAVE TOLD IN YOUR QUESTION

How old are you? How old was your wife? Did you have a happy relationship? Was she ill? Needs some answers before I can answer.

..........but I am very sorry to hear of your loss.................

I think that she is telling you that even though her body is in the ground, that she'll be with you always in spirit.

To see the dead in your dream, forewarns that you are being influenced by negative people and are hanging around the wrong crowd. You may suffer material loss. This dream may also be a way for you to resolve your feelings with those who have passed on. If you dream of a person who has died a long time ago, then it suggests that a current situation or relationship in you life resembles the quality of that deceased person. The dream may depict how you need to let this situation or relationship die and end it. To see and talk with your dead parents in your dreams, represents your fears of losing them or your way of coping with the loss. You may want that last opportunity to say your final good-byes to them. To see your dead sibling, relative, or friend alive in your dream, indicates that you miss them and are trying to relive your old experiences you had with them. In trying to keep up with the pace of your daily waking life, you dreams may serve as your only outlet in coping and coming to terms with the loss of a loved one.

To see the dead in your dream, forewarns that you are being influenced by negative people and are hanging around the wrong crowd. You may suffer material loss. This dream may also be a way for you to resolve your feelings with those who have passed on. If you dream of a person who has died a long time ago, then it suggests that a current situation or relationship in you life resembles the quality of that deceased person. The dream may depict how you need to let this situation or relationship die and end it. To see and talk with your dead parents in your dreams, represents your fears of losing them or your way of coping with the loss. You may want that last opportunity to say your final good-byes to them. To see your dead sibling, relative, or friend alive in your dream, indicates that you miss them and are trying to relive your old experiences you had with them. In trying to keep up with the pace of your daily waking life, you dreams may serve as your only outlet in coping and coming to terms with the loss of a loved one.

I am so sorry for your loss.

I know this is over a year old question but I wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss. If I may ask, do you still dream of her?

Before i say anything allow me to say i am sorry for your loss and i hope that your sorrow heals soon. Reguarding your question, you should realize that there is a spirit world. We are only spiritual being inside a physical body. The dreams you are having could be caused by either 2 of the following possibilities. The dream could be caused by either your greive or her.....yes her..... I will not elaborate on that because i wouldnt like to force my opinon down you throat. I DONT THINK THAT YOU REALIZE THE SYMBOLITY OF THE DREAM, research the symbolity of the coffin(specially their history), also the rocks are a tremendous symbol in the dream, also the HILL and most important her. Why would a person do this? what would lead a person to do what she is doing. if you happen to have the dream again PAY CLOSE ATTENTION ON WHAT SHE IS WEARING, DOES SHE EVER MAKE EYE CONTACT, WHERE AND IN WHAT FORM ARE YOU. if you need any further help i would be most happy to help. just let me know

i dont know much about spiritualism or religion but i do believe that the scientific fact that energy cannot be created from nothing or destroyed by anything shows that the thoughts we have which are infact electrical impulses,electricity is a form of energy obviously, so the minds energy obviously cannot die with or body, and therefor i beleive your wifes living thoughts which are obviously now part of the greater mass, has contacted you through a plain which would be easy for such energy to interact with, your subconcious mind, a dream state would go under that i believe. Well anyway to the point i beleive she symbolicaly sent you an image of her laying stones on her own grave showing you that she is laying herself to rest, which would therefor lead me to believe she is at peace with her transition from mass to thoughts, and would like for you to know that she is ok with the whole situation. i hope you look into these thoughts of mine cause they are backed by facts and not any form of religious beliefs. i am as confused and scared as you are about life and loss, but time is the revelator, so just try to be as strong as you can be, and remember the good times you had, because they are eternally you and your wifes to share. thoughtfully yours morningmaker xx