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  • We've been together 16 years... and we have lots of alone time - we both work jobs with responsibility and serious stress. We are both frequently exhausted at the end of a day. We have separate home offices/dens and often retire to them for the evening. Mostly because we know we're not fit for sharing company with any human, much less one we love. We focus on the quality of the time we share, not the quantity.
  • We've been together 16 years... and we have lots of alone time - we both work jobs with responsibility and serious stress. We are both frequently exhausted at the end of a day. We have separate home offices/dens and often retire to them for the evening. Mostly because we know we're not fit for sharing company with any human, much less one we love. We focus on the quality of the time we share, not the quantity.
  • I spend almost all my time with my husband. He's disabled and I'm currently on summer break from school. But, it is normal to want a little time alone. If you want a fair amount of time then there may be some issue that needs to be resolved.
  • Hi ,I am divorced after 20yrs of marriage, and when I think about it we spent all our time at home, and not really doing things together..Now I am in a relationship with a man who spends time doing his thing and i do mine..He enjoys fishing, hunting,working on vehicles etc..and I am glad he has those interests.I spend the time when he is off doing his thing doing what I enjoy..I also feel that we do share in each others interests also and do them together sometimes too.. it important that we do not forgot about ourselves in relationships and marriages. keeping the communication open and just enjoy the time we spend together and spend apart..:) you should spend time alone , we need to do that once in awhile..just to be us..and we are important and need that time alone.
  • No, I don't think it is odd for you to want a certain amount of time alone. There's nothing wrong with that. You simply may be more of an introvert than an extrovert. Introverts, in general, find it taxing to be with other people. Their energy comes from within, and they need solace in order to recharge their inner batteries. Extroverts, on the other hand, focus on their external environments. Interaction with people energizes them. A highly extroverted person needs to spend time with other people. These are core parts of a person's personality. If you need time alone, you're only being yourself. That's normal - and healthy.
  • I've been married for the second time for 5 years now. We are getting to the point where my wife is understanding and accepting my need for being alone sometimes. (And that it doesn't mean I'm rejecting her by doing so). I also enjoy my time of relaxation, i.e. reading, the internet, listening to music, etc. Fortunately we usually do many things together and enjoy each other's company as well.
  • G'day Nightowl, Thank you for your question. It all depends on the couple concerned. As long as they spend some quality time together, there is nothing wrong with them spending some time alone. It all changes of course when you have kids. Regards
  • It all depends on their personalities and work scheduals. Jay and I worked diffrent shifts so we spent a lot of time seperately. And since he needed time ot recharge it worked out for us. And on the weekends and days off we spent as much of our time together as possible. You guys aren't weird, you just have your own kind of relationship and if it works for you don't worry about it.
  • Working five days a week I am not really "alone" but am not with my husband so it is like being alone. At home I see him for two meals a day then he either goes off to work or into his office at home and I may not see him the rest of the day as he comes to bed after I am asleep. So when weekends come I like to spend as much time together as possible doing things we love like shopping, taking walks, going to concerts, opera etc. But usually he has to work part of each weekend as well. So I get more time alone really than I would like to have - which I can enjoy reading or listening to music or cleaning or doing volunteer work for a few groups I help out. But mostly I look forward to being with him.

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