Whether of not your boyfreind had sex with your freind, what is quite clear is that he violated your trust. Given the circumstances it seems quite likely that they did do SOMETHING, since they spent the night together. It was far over the line for two people who were ( I assume) supposed to be in faithful relationships to other people. The fact that they offered up different explanations guarantees that one or both are being less than honest. Under these circumstances, I would suggest that your boyfreind is not a trustworthy person and you might be better off telling him that you want to end your relationship with him.

It's possible. You'll just have to ask him and find out. The simple fact that their two stories don't merge, would lead me to believe that it is possible that they had an affair, but this doesn't mean that he did. The only way you'll know is to ask him for his honest answer. Of course don't jump to conclusions. Ask your boyfriend to be honest with you and tell him that if he can't be honest with you, then you don't want to date him. Dishonest people are a dime a dozen. If your boyfriend can't be honest withi you, then you're better of breaking up with him and seeking someone else that IS honest because dishonesty is never a good way to begin, or end a relationsihip. Good luck!

Oh very likely, almost certain in my opinion. If nothing sketchy happened, the stories would have lined up. Either way it sounds like they're trying to conceal something and someone might be lying.

Why did he visit your friend, why did he stay over, and is there a good reason why he slept in her room?

Yeah, they both screwed you over, loose them both or they'll just hurt you again.

it depends on how well youknow him, and if he does this sort of thing all the time.. if he does do it all the time, then it is possible that he cheated on you.. and ask yourself how long you and your friend have been close. but, it is also true that a women should follow her intuitions. good luck

Look at it that way: in some states, for a "fault" divorce to be granted, all you need to show is that your spouse had "opportunity" for adultery. The situation you described would definitely qualify. Hopefully, you don't need more "evidence" than what would be required by law and thankfully, you are not married... Your call, but I would dump him, regardless of what truly happened behind that door, as I would never truly feel at ease with his version of things. Someone else will know how to be more thoughtful and respectful of his relationship with you - for sure. Best wishes.

I believe your question and statement in your question pretty much speaks for itself. He should have never been at your friends house to begin with and she should have never allowed him to be there without you. As far as how you handle it from here that is strictly your call. Good luck.

I have learned something very important. Trust takes years to build and only suspicion, not proof to destroy. How strong that trust was or is will determine whether or not you believe him and are able to continue and trust. IMHO, anyone who stays over night with the opposite sex (unless they have a different sexual orientation) is asking for nothing but trouble. Most men WILL try, and most women will give in. That's just the sad fact.

you may never find out just by asking questions. and if this relationship has a chance to go somewhere u will have to know for sure or the suspicion will poison your mind as long as u r together. give him enough rope to hang himself and see what he does.it seems dishonest but if he wants to date and sleep at other girls houses and in the same room no less hes asking for it.

Best bet is to trust you instincts if you aren't getting the same answer. I have heard statistics that a woman's instincts are close to 90% correct when it deals with infidelity.

YES. if nothing happenned they would have had the same story....someone's guilty...

What do you feel in your inner heart, usually we can tell if our partners are cheating on us, we just don't want to admit it to ourselves! My advice = Ditch the boy and ur best friend, you are to good for them. The best way to go is a sharp slap 4 both of them and then stalking out with ur new bf, tht being impossible, bulk by the choc chip ice cream and get out ur movie collection. REMEMBER eat from the tub bot a bowl or it doesn't work! lol, no really, they are both rats, i know it hurts now, but in a couple of months u will be over them, and u can either get hung up on them or move on, they will be losing if u do the latter!

It is possible that he did cheat but then again maybe he didn't. The fact the spent the night with another woman in her bedroom without her boyfriend present is very suspicious to me. Unless you get undeniable confirmation that he cheated it's hard to say what you should do. I would hate to see you break up with him if nothing happened. However it is still inappropriate of him to be sleeping in the same room with someone who is not his g/f. Especially when she has a b/f.

this one has red flags all over it so im just going to keep it short and sweet: IT IS HIGHLEY LIKELY HE CHEATED ON YOU.......

I think it's very probable, but it doesn't have to be.

i think this is very likely, however, even if he didnt ....would you be happy and give your consent to him even sleeping in another girls bed??? i know i wouldn't so either way i feel he has disrespected you. this maybe something you will never find out about, unless of course you get them together and ask why their stories differ

It is a possibility and the situation is enough for me to say... enough.

have you talked to her boyfriend & asked him what she told him about the situation or did she even tell him at all? If she didn't then you know she had something to hide. I think you know the answer to this question but whether your willing to accept it is up to you. I would say 99.9% yes he did because they both knew it wasn't right to do it but given the opportunity to get away with it most friends are the first to screw you over because they know what things you will believe & what stories to tell you. Also the same with the boyfriend.

Yes - the 'different stories' cements it I'm afraid. There are reasons to sleep in the same room (one bed in the house..er, that's it...)but they wouldn't have different reasons. Unless they know you will have a problem with it and are trying to mitigate the damage? Even if nothing happened, the fact that you are so unsure about your friends and your boyfriends loyalty suggests that your relationship is fairly shaky. If you love him, explain your concerns and ask for the truth. Say you can forgive him if he's honest. (Note that it's ok to lie to a cheater and you can ALWAYS go back on this...!!!)

Even if he didn't, I wouldn't be able to trust them together EVER. It's suspicious enough that he went there in the first place...with or without her BF being there...without you.

If both of their stories are not adding up then someone or both are lying. They might not have had sex, but what is your boyfriend doing if he thinks it's not a problem to sleep in the same room as your female friend when your not there.

come on i cant give you a proper answer unless i know the facts. yeah he may have cheated or may not have. how do you know that they slept in the same room. did they tell you? why would they tell you if they cheated? thats just illogical . i think so anyway. and why did he stay over your friends house? usually someone doesnt just decide to sleep at their girlfriends friends house. are they close? if not then its very likely that he cheated.

IDK. But it don't look good.

Your boyfriend spending the night at your friend's house should have been the first clue.

First of all, why would he have to sleep at your lady friend's house? and even worse, at the same room? And to have two different stories as to what happened that night is suspicious. There are boundaries to a relationship and clearly one boundary was violated. Try investigating a bit on this, but be discreet about it.

Why did he have to do that in the first place? You shouldn't have to deal with that. It should never get that close to anything that would inspire such obvious need for suspicion.

Sounds fishy to me...

Hell yeah he hit it like a McDonald's cheeseburger what did you think.

Oh dear.... are they both usually trustworthy? Gee, it doesn't look very good, especially with the different stories, so I'd guess yes. Who told you they slept in the same room? And why couldn't he have slept on the couch/sofa?

Your BF & friend probaly had sex. You state they both had different stories. What did her boyfriend say when he found out his friend stayed with his girlfriend, in the same bedroom? It just sounds fishy. Imagine if it were you sleeping over at a another guys house overnight/same bedroom? Guess, you'll figure it out on your own. Hope that it works out for you, for the best... regardless if he's in your life or not. Be well.

sounds abit fishy to me - why would he be sleeping in a room with another girl if nothing happened. I would definately look at breaking upw ith him, especialy if they have conflicting stories. Dodgy as!

Oh magic eight ball *shake shake shake* "Signs point to yes"

believe your gut instinct..what do u think happened?

YES its clear that both had different stories therefore all is a lie. your friend and boyfriend have no place alone in a situation where they could be alone for even a pop tent. its very unlikely that nothing happened! DUMP THE GUY AND LOSE THE SO CALLED FRIEND BOTH LIED, THEY DESERVE EACH OTHER AS THEY BOTH BETRAYED YOU.. YOU CAN FIND BETTER PEOPLE TO BE AROUND THAT LIARS.

sounds pretty likely to me.

your boyfriend should never have been there in the first place. and the fact that they slept in the same room and came up with different stories on the event may not mean they had sex, but it sure wasn't that innocent either.

It's VERY likely.

I probably wouldn't be comfortable with my boyfriend sleeping in another girl's room alone with her at all. I find it's disrespectful, whether they cheated on their partners or not.

Just like all the clichés I started to suspect something was up when my boyfriend of six months became distant and started working late. He also didn't answer the phone when I rang him, and he always had his mobile switched off when we were together. I wanted to check it for text messages but he was really protective of it. I must admit I tried to hack into his e-mail but I couldn't figure out the password. I know I should have talked to him about it but I couldn't face the showdown and guilt if he denied it. My techie friend told me that I should get his mobile phone checked out. So I brought him a new mobile for his birthday, he was gadget mad and loved it, and I assuaged my guilt by thinking that even if I found out nothing, at least he'd still like the present. I got the opportunity to use it a couple of weeks later when he said he was going to the gym, having already been earlier that day. I contacted the http://www.computersleuth.co.uk and had the phone checked, and it had loads of hidden text messages on it from his ex girlfriend. By the time he got home his bags were packed. He didn't have a clue what was happening when I told him to leave, and that I knew he was cheating on me. He didn't deny it. I don't feel ashamed of what I did, but I would have felt very guilty if he was innocent. If you have an inkling it's better to know. If I'd have asked him straight out, I know he would have lied to me. I didn't tell him how I'd done it but all my girlfriends knew and were very impressed. Lisa

hell ya he's cheating.if they slept in the same room then he waz likely to get in the bed!!!!!if your still going out with him i would dump his ass now!!!!!

to be honest babe, i've been in this situation before and i think he probebly did. i can't amagain a boy sleeping in the same room as a girl and not doing anything, sorry to hear about it. hope everything goes okay with you xx

Yea, he cheated. Sorry to hear it

Your friend probably did also.

..very possible that he cheated..ugh

LOL thats a bigg yess..ima guy ..MEN R D trust

I say give him the 3some, obviously he is interested in her. He may actually have feelings for you and claim u as his woman but this is not the way for him to go about it. From this action my guess is he is younger, try not to be mentally hung up on this guy. Time heals all wounds and another guy will come along who loves you dearly. Actually scratch that 3some idea, save that for the special man who will marry u. He will appreciate the experience u give him. Ask your friend to be honest with you, tell her you will not get mad @ her (& u wont) because yall are girls & you feels she owes you her honesty. if something happened its ok, let it go and give him space. Your girl friend just helped you out of a bad situation so dont get pissed with her, but tell her not to ever lie to you either! She was weak and horny, they can have each other its cool. let him be her problem not yours. He's young, going to be more girls untill he's really ready to settle down. Trust me I know, I was that way long long ago. I had to appologize to a few some 10 years later!

Why don't you sleep over your "friend's" BF's house too? Or, he can sleep at your house without your boyfriend being there. The fact that your boyfriend and your "friend" cannot keep their stories straight means something probably happened. Now it's time to turn the tables. Like I said her BF should spent the night at your house. Or, you at his. Then you can make up shit too. And see how they like it. Never, and I mean never just put up with this. It's BS and you know it.

with out hearing the other sides of the story it would be wrong to comment cause that would be judging someone by what you say.