Just tell him what's more important to him. The alcohol or you? It's as simple as that. And you only care about him which is why you want him to stop. I was in the same situation. I would rather lose the drink than the love of my life. I hope it works out. All the best.

Honey, you deserve a boy friend that DOESN'T drink! Get a new one, one that is considerate of your feelings and wishes. Grammag

You dealing with his drinking problem is the problem, not you. and, you will never learn to "deal with it". I have seen this so many times, where one persons life is ruined because of a partners love of alcohol. it will ruin your life. Some people are born with a gene, that makes alcohol like a magnet. its addictive and these people cannot help themselves. this person will do one of the two: take you with him to his grave and your life ruined or he will either take his life or the life of an innocent person. again, your life will also be ruined. Run, do not walk away from this person. its your life that you have got to save, before he ruins yours.

If you've already talked to him and nothing's changed you need to get out. This is just a full on recipe for disaster and you deserve better. As far as I can see he's already made it quite clear that alcholo is more important then you are. That's not the life you want, trust me I've been there.

I think we are all assuming that his drinking is an issue. Maybe we sould ask first. Does he drink socially? or does he get violennt and/or abusive? If its the second..Leave, if its the first maybe its a bit of a mentality change for you both. My girlfriend doesnt like going to pubs with me and my friends (or her friends either) so we have other activities we do together. Like going to the gym.

You deserve better than having to get angry with a drunk - That doesn't care how you feel

Take it from these people telling you and someone who's had three husbands that drank... get out and get a good guy that cares about YOU first! He's NOT going to stop for you or he would have already. Don't put yourself through senseless misery, find someone that loves and cares about you.

you need to consider this from a whole heap of angles 1 what sort of drinker he is 2 is it affecting anything besides your opinion 3 how he feels about it and you if he is a social drinker or jus does it to get pissed out of his mind if he isnt a social drinker and does it as maybe a one time thing evry several months, this isnt a problem, he may jus want 2 enjoy having a drink with his buddies but you can deal with it by saying that if its what he wants to do then do it but for you to feel more comfortable with the situation could he tone it down if its affecting something say his health or if he is studying his grades and he cant see it, rather thann saying or attacking him about it print up some highly recomendable facts of just how it cud affect him, and if after this he still drinks well u tried ur best if he likes to drink find out what specifically he likes if he says somthing like how you feel when you drink he is drinking for the wrong reasons but if he does it because say he likes the taste or for other reasons this isnt so bad,consider this think of your favourite food..... why do yiou eat it.... beacause you like the taste .... this isnt any different to what i was meentioning most of all about the drinking voice your opinion but dont ram it continuosly into his brain or face as this can only lead him to resenting you in a way because he may see it as your trying to control him or that your letting him be himself tell him you love him and ur concerns if after all of that nothing happens or changes you need to decide how much you can handle with out it driving you insane and try think of future repercussions how they could affe ct you or if you choose to have children, them i hope this is in somewhat helpful as it is coming from the receiving end of you situation an dthis is how i would have it approached so that it wouldnt anger me or make me resent the person

i was in the same position as you and i could tell you that he will always choose drinking over you. the more you tell him to stop the more he will drink. this is the last thing you would want to here but just move on because this will not work out... sorry for putting it like this but it is the truth

You shouldn't have to deal with it. If it's something that is destructive in some manner, to your relationship, (even if the destruction is your unhappiness,) it should be dealt with. Problem is, alcoholism is something that most people choose, and don't see it as the big problem their partners see it as. Don't hold your breath hoping he stops for your happiness because I know, from my own personal experience, it's not an easy, or desirable thing to do (as the person with the problem.) HOWEVER, if this makes you unhappy, seriously unhappy, maybe you shouldn't be with him if he can't stop.

If you're interested in a possible alcoholic, I would just forget about your life now (think of all the fights, and picking him up from the bar when he can't drive, and all the stuff you'll have to redo because he was too drunk to see) and start thinking about the future. Maybe you should quit your job so you can drive his drunk ass around. Maybe you should start possibly punching yourself in the face to get used to it when he starts. Everything you need done around the house- I would probably start doing it yourself, because he'll be too drunk to do it. That's how I would learn to deal with it, anyway.

bad news it only gets worse until he either quits drinking or dies. get out now and cut your losses ( I know I used to be that guy)

I'm in the same situation you are the only difference is I know what alcoholism can do to a family. My sister is an alcoholic and now I am in a relationship with a drunk. If you take the time to read some literature on alcoholics anonymous and maybe even go to a alanon meeting I can guarantee it will shed some light on the situation for you. I came to the realization that this isn't what I want nor is it what I want for my children. My children are not use to having alcohol in the house and now its here all the time. I tried to over look it because I seem to be the only one bothered by it. That doesn't mean it isn't affecting my children or lives. He isn't going to quit drinking for you. He may love you with all his heart but that drink will be the most important until he gets help. An addict has to want to quit for themselves not for someone else. The first step to recovery is accepting that they have a problem. I have heard my boyfriend say he might drink more then he should but he goes to work and never misses work, he isn't a jerk when he drinks nor does it affect anyone else. The hell it doesn't when he drinks he won't shut up. He talks and talks and talks. There are times he only has a few but more often then not lately hes been drinking alot more then that and lieing to me about how much he has drank. You will get advice from both sides and you will hear many different things but in all honesty you need to decide if you really want to live with this or not. He won't quit for you that doesn't mean he doesn't love you he just can't quit because hes an alcoholic. I have talked to some of his friends and they have even told me that he will never quit that I will have to live with it and at least he doesn't do drugs. Well come on alcohol is a drug it alters the mind just like street drugs do. If it didn't it wouldn't be such a big deal. I can go on and on with this but I think you have the idea. I know its time to get out before it gets worse. Im not afraid of him hurting me but I'm afraid of what my children are seeing. I'm also afraid of not being happy. So time to look for a good guy that doesn't need a drink

It not you moral duty to deal with his drinking, it his himself who must deal with his own demons. That said by all means if your up to it, direct him to get some help.

You can decide right now to either be a drunk's girlfriend or you want a better life for yourself. There is no dealing with it and if you already have anger issues with his drinking, that won't improve either. I know because I divorced a man I loved because I did not want to be married to an alcoholic. Not easy, but the important things never are. Good luck to you, sweetie!

It is what it is... If you're not leaving him for it, you're already dealing with it to the best of your ability.

well you already know whats going to happen when he drinks so your resolution is to take it as a joke, if he makes an ass of himself then laugh at him... dont take anything serious that he does cause chances are he might not remember everything anyways..... or you could always tell him to choose between the two of you.

Torture him

Dont "learn to deal" with anything in a relationship. If his drinking is such that it makes you angry, Then he needs "to Deal" with the drinking problem he has.

You don't need to get mad anymore just get out of the relationship.

You should not deal with anything, drinking can kill and if you want a family one day, do you want an alcholic around your children? He needs to choose one or the other and if he can't them I would move on b/c it will only cause trouble. If he wont stop then it seems like hes already choosen alcohol over you , and you will always be second to that.

don't get angry at him, that solves nothing. LEAVE HIM and next time do not date a drunk. YOU WILL NOT CHANGE A MAN!!!!