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  • Yes. I think so. At least you can trust yourself not to stab you in the back or use you.
  • I would say you need to be stronger and have more self-respect than that, yes.
  • It may be considered the easy way out. I think it is, in a way, agreeing that you do not deserve better. It is hard to take the first step, but things will not improve until you do.
  • Yes - I learned that only I can love me and not to expect anything from someone else
  • You're not weak but I think you deserve better than abusers as friends. Don't sell yourself short.
  • I guess it might be a form of weakness or low self worth. Friends, in my opinion are not abusive and if one did become abusive in any way, they would be history.
  • Yes. I have no friends except my spouse and I prefer it that way.
  • I dont know about weak as such, but i wouldnt stand for it.
  • Yes, it is very weak. I had friend like that and I decided to not have friends at all. Once I stopped being their friend good friends suddenly emerged.
  • Yes I am afraid so, people that abuse you are NOT your friends they are using you as an outlet for their cruelty. Find nicer people to have as your friends you deserve better
  • No, I don't think so. You can turn this to your advantage. Clearly these friends, being the way they are, have highlighted the fact that you need to be more assertive around them. There are so many resources on the Internet about Assertiveness; just Google the word. There may even be some stuff on here. Once you start becoming more assertive, they will begin to treat you differently. Good luck xxx
  • No one has to do either. People can find friends who don't abuse them. But, to answer your question, yes, it's not only weak, it's also masochistic.
  • Yes, I am afraid it is. I know what it is like to be there. I will not settle for friends who abuse any more ! Those people aren't your friend. They will use you for their advantage. You may be "their" friend, but they aren't your friend. You can be their friend from a distance, but I would not continue to associate yourself with them any more. Yes, it is better go it alone. I am sure that there are better people out there who are willing to be there for you and appreciate you then those who will use you and abuse you.
  • Absolutely. You won't be alone for long if you start thinking more of yourself and acting accordingly
  • I would have to say its fear. But, I hope you can overcome that and obtain a healthier situation for yourself.
  • If they abuse you, they are not friends. If you've ever asked them to stop whatever they were doing and they laughed, that's it. They care nothing for you but to be their toy to abuse. You don't have to "go it alone". You may BE alone for a bit, but you will find new friends more worthy of your attention and affection. "Weakness" is a matter for you to decide. If you feel you are being weak about it, and don't like it, it's time to take a stand or simply stop hanging with them. If you make the stand, though, don't be surprised if you get abused even more and STILL end up leaving. Being "assertive" as another suggests, is not being "aggressive" but it's standing up for your own rights (and maybe others'). YOU have the right NOT to be abused. Remember that. Good luck.
  • With friends like that, who needs enemies? Go it alone or make new friends. Things change.
  • People who abuse you are not really your friends. You may be hanging out with them so you do not feel alone or you are trying to fit in. It is not about weakness but about how you feel about yourself (i think).
  • It can be tactics if you are aware of the fact and exploit it.
  • Yes and No - I have met many people who would rather be abused by someone, anyone than to spend their days alone. I believe it's the alone part that they try their best at avoiding. If they only knew how much more this life has to offer them they would most likely kick their own asses for not getting rid of thoes who are not their friends and get out and make real true friends. Being alone isn't a bad thing - It's being lonely that really cuts deep.
  • If you go it alone - for awhile - you will find strength you didn't even know you had. If you are being abused it is not by friends. A friend is someone who cares about what you care about because you care about it. someone to laugh with and share with and enjoy life with. and someone to grow with. If they don't meet any of this criteria, be alone for awhile, allow yourself some personal growth time and you will become a good friend to someone who will be your good friend.
  • I would choose to go it alone over being around abusive people.
  • if they abuse you are they friends?
  • Absolutely. You have to respect yourself, or nobody else is going to.
  • if these so called friends abuse you then they are not really true friends I would say cya l8ter and go to some true friends who understand you and who do not abuse u by the way this may sound a bit gay but I'm str8
  • i think calling you weak is mean but you need to value yourself more
  • we really should find happiness from things that we love doing rather than always depending on companionship for fun. and what good will it bring you and i if we hang out with people who do not do us good? surround yourself with people that will lift you up.
  • Yes, it's weak. Get some confidence and toughen up.
  • Are those truly the only two choices? To be alone or be abused? There are alot of nice people in the world who would make great friends. You just might be looking in the wrong places.
  • I hesitate to use the term "weak", but in reality, yes. If you have "friends" who abuse you, they are not friends. NOTE: There is a MAJOR difference between occasional teasing, and relentless teasing or constant abuse. You may want to "go it alone" for a short while, to build your own self-worth and self-confidence back up, but, on most cases, you do not have to "go it alone". You just need to find a different and REAL set of friends and/or acquaintences. Good luck.
  • Being sad and miserable because of friends does not make a person strong. It just makes them sad and miserable.
  • Friends who abuse you will weaken you, that is their intent. You'll find yourself much stronger after you drop the friend.
  • Very weak. Love yourself enough to go it alone until you can meet a friend that values your friendship and values you. A real friend won't hurt you.
  • Please start feeling better about yourself and know you deserve to be treated correctly. There are people out here that willnot abuse you. You do not need to go it alone but you deserve better then abuse.
  • NEVER allow yourself to be abused by ANYONE under ANY conditions ... it is definately BETTER to be alone; than with abusers ... +5
  • yes it takes courage to be single and on your own, but in the end you find peace and make new friends that will treat you with respect. +5
  • I don't think it's weak, just super needy if you are willing to tolerate being abused just to have friends.
  • everyone deserves a friend who will respect them for who they are. they should never abuse you. you should try to find a friend who has a postive effect on you in any way. it took me a while to find my best friend, it wasn't untill last year when I mett her. Im in 11th grade, and Im going to be 12th. I wish I meet her befor high school, because in middle school i had really bad friends. she saved my life. I always had friend who used me, or talked trash about me behind my back. but now I am proudly to say i have 3 best friends in the whole world, and I wouldnt trade them for anything.
  • TRUTH IS NO ONE IS PERFECT. SOMEWHERE YOU MAY HAVE TO PUT UP BOUNDARY FOR YOURSELF. MAYBE YOU SHOULD LET THEM KNOW, MAYBE THEY DON'T REALIZE IT. HOWEVER, ABUSE IS NOT ONLY SPUN FROM RECENT EVENTS,ALSO, FROM PAST GENERATIONS SECRETS AND ALLOWANCES. WHATEVER YOU DO TRY FINDING NEW FRIENDS. NO YOU ARE NOT WEAK . YOU ARE STRONG TO SAY I AM NOT SETTLING. CONGRATS
  • you need to ask yourself why you are putting yourself into that kind of relationship. You are a better person then you think and deserve to be in normal friendly/loving relationships. Some people get off by being arround abusers but you do not seem that way cause of your question.

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