Im 14 and my boyfriend is 21 , is it wrong for me to date him ? the fact is he loves me and he siad he will do anything i wish , and i tolde him no sex, but the question is that is it wrong for me to date him cuzz his older than me?
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Yes, it is wrong. Tell him to come back in 4 years and if you guys still click, then by all means, date him.
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14 will get him 20....
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You are a child, he is an adult. That's TROUBLE according to the law. Ask him and then yourself, what he's doing dating a child.
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Yes it's wrong. He's a grown man who has no business with a 14 year old. If he really cares about you, he'll wait four years for you to be of legal dating age.
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Honestly, I would be afraid of attempted rape. I have seen too many relationships with that kind of age difference go bad real fast and real hard.
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If he can keep it in his pants for at least 3 more years then no one will condemn this. Now you are waaay too young for him.
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You are fully participating in having him incarcerated for a very long time and branded as a sex offender and tracked for the rest of his life. One small penetration...or less...is all it takes. And you will have that on your conscience for the rest of your life. If you think it will not happen, you are a fool. It WILL happen between a legal male adult and a legal female child.
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um imy apinion is thats not gonna end well 4 u sweety im serious when i was 13 i went out with a 25 year old make sure ur making the right choice i got in heaps of truble and not just from my parents
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Sweetie you don't understand this now, but when you are 21, you are going to know just how inappropriate this is. When you are 21, if you saw this situation you would think to yourself "what the heck is wrong with this guy that he has to date a 14 year old." It's just gross. Sex aside, it's just gross!
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Yes it is very wrong. Talk to your parents about it.
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Even more than it being wrong for you to date him, it is way more wrong for him to be dating you. You need to severe this relationship ASAP, and find somebody your own age. Believe me, you will have a lot more fun with somebody closer to you in age than someone that old.
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Statutory Rape comes to mind when reading this. pull out the barbie dolls and stay a kid for as long as you can. Of course he is going to tell you he loves you if you havent already given up the punanny thats what he is aiming for ...What is your rush anyway...Where are your parents?
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dating him is a grey area... I am not sure if any states can send him to jail if you do not have sex or sexual conversations (I know some can send him to jail for phone sex with you) it is legaly dangerous for him to date you. I personaly believe that in a society where modern education puts as much strain on the developing mind as ours that you should not be dating until you are 16 and even then keeping it casual. eliminate the adulthood delay caused by education by going back 150 years and you could marry him next year without getting so much as a strange look dispite what everyone has brainwashed themselves into thinking, dating peers is just as if not more risky than dating people who are more mature.
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you know what, age is nothing but a number, if this dude truly makes you happy then do whatever it is you do, just be careful
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it is wrong. i want to know what is going through his head to even turn to young girls..you can get into alot of trouble with the police and much more because its sagitorial rape
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First, if said he would do anything you wished, then tell him to wait for you, until you turn 18. This should tell you what his true intentions are. No sex? hard to believe two healthy people, a man and a child have not had sex. the temptation is too great. To answer your question, yes its wrong for you, but especially for him. he knows better. While you are on the computer, look up the definition of rape of a child. If sex has occured, be sure to read how much time your adult boyfriend is going to serve in prison. Bottomline here is for him to go to college for four years and get his degree. if he still feels the same about you then, you will be 18 and THEN you two can date.
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I dated a guy who was 22 when I was 15. My whole main purpose was that he let me drive his car everywhere while I had my learner's permit! I think back on that now and realize he was such a loser. No offense, but people are so different at 15 and 22 (or 14 and 21 in your case) you're going to be so much different that it won't work...if he's not controlling (alot of controlling guys go after younger girls because they may be more apt to get caught up in it) or he's so immature that he'll bore you to death and drive you nuts. There's always that slim chance that it'll work, but honesty, the odds are against it.
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Yes it is wrong. If anything unusual happens, he will go to jail and you will finish high school as if nothing happened. If you like this guy, save his ass and tell him goodbye.
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I'm gonna be the bad guy here. YES, it is wrong. Just the fact that he has shown any interest in you at all, says to me that he has pedophiliac tendencies and you are in danger. Expect manipulation and possibly date rape on this one. Don't expect to be his only child fling.
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I know at 14 .. I really did not listen to warnings from adults on things.. I thought I knew it all and felt they did not understand where I was coming from.. Now 33.. I have repeatedly told my parents I wish I had listened to them and really "Got it" but as teens.. we seem to lock our brains in the closet because we are caught up in the NOW.. and thinking no one else has ever been there.. but they have. Please think about the poster who said it best.. WHY is a 21 year old man dating a 14 year old? Seriously. There is nothing healthy about it.. forget the law.. it is rather sick but as a growing young woman.. you may not see it now.. but you so will later. Enjoy your childhood hun.. we all try to grow up so fast and envy the driving teens..no curfew anymore teens but really? You are going to get there and trust me.. you will want to turn back time and enjoy being young.. do it now!
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yes very wrong he's an adult and your still a child i know you may think that you are a grown up but really at this age you are not .. why do young girls always go for so much older guys its silly!! find someone who is your ages maybe just a year older but seven years diffrence is not good :( sorry you may love him but he's done so much more than you have and i dont mean to embarress you but he will want sex he's a 21 year old lad and if your not going to give him that which i think is sensible he will eaither get agressive or will go somewhere else and you will get hurt my darling xx
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He is going to jail. Just the fact that you mentioned "no sex" leads me to believe you are covering up, for him. You will learn. Tell him to get a job, and you go do your homework. Lotsa time for love; he is NOT "the one".
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It is WAY-Y-Y-Y-Y-Y-Y wrong and HE could go to jail! If I were him. . . . . . .I'd avoid YOU like the plague!!!!
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Too much age differance, sorry. You should wait until you're 16 or 17 to DATE an adult. I am not talking about sex.
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Your 7 years younger then him ewwwwww
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he can go to jail for child melesting it's no right
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I would consider waiting till your older to date an older man. Im 21 dating a 45 year old. All men are boys they need someone younger to act the way they can. But in your case 14 is too young to do anything. Does your parents know? My dad recently past away and he loved my older boyfriend because HE is older and he can take care of me and love me the way i should be. 14 is waaay to young to be acting more mature than you really are. And I agree with goooody on this one your better off dating someone ur own age because believe me its hard acting your self with an older BOY
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Well in theory it is illegal because you are under age. The problem with dating an older man at your age is that he is at a different stage in life then you are. Being a teenager your hormones are raging and changing and sometimes you make decisions you will regret. Another problem is some men date teenagers because they like the concept of young and innocent and when the teenager gets older they dump you for a younger women. On the flip side if he is respecting you and not forcing you into anything you do not like that is very good. Tell him you will not have sex or do anything sexual until you are 18 and see what he does/says.
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As far as I'm concerned, you're old enough to make your own decisions. However, you should keep in mind that 21-year-old males aren't that different from 14-year-old males: they love sex. They're just somewhat better at attaining it. And a high school freshman or sophomore probably shouldn't be attractive to a 21-year-old, so I don't know what's wrong with him. Anyway, be careful!
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by law its wrong but i dont think its wrong if its some you love then you have the right to be with him. but you should be carefull he might think just because hes older then you then he can do anything he please. watch out for that.and when you say no sex girl that is real hard to hold im not lieing. he will try to make up excuses on why yall should do it dont fall for it. my boyfriend did that to me and its real hard to stop having sex. i would pretty much try not to be alone with him for a long time things happend that way. but girl go ahead and date your me beut watch your self that shit is dangerious.
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whats you parents think???? i think you very young
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Its illegal. Your 14 and your still going through puberty. Im sorry, but im going to predict this relationship of yours lasts for a max of 6 months more.
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duh its wrong for you to date him. thats gross
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i think you should wait till youre 18 to date him otherwize its illegal
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its illegal for him to date you since youre underage
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R.I.P. question #1740389........................... Oct 8th, 2009 - Sep 24, 2017
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yes, cause youre underage so its illegal for him to date you
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