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  • It means YOU are a dumbass for staying with him!
  • Anony, it means you need a reality check, your life could be at stake. It means he can't control himself or his anger and you need to take care of yourself. You deserve better!
  • Dump him or he will kill you eventually run for the hills and call the police!
  • NO ONE should allow themselves to be assulted by another human being ... ONLY a low down skummy COWARD beats another person like that ..especially a man hitting a woman ... You need to realize that you are worth something and need to get away from this piece of shi* who continues to beat you ... Get to the Prosecuator's office ASAP ... Put his lousy ass in JAIL. While he is there ; pack your bags and get away from him ....
  • It means he really loves you and just wants you to understand his needs....I mean....really....are you gonna ask this question? Are you that stupid? Apparently, getting the fuck away from him would be a dandy start.
  • Its not your falt! You need to break up with him and then you need to report him to the police(if you want to).
  • he is a control freak and you are not safe. get the hell out and charge him with assalt. it will not get better,it will get worse,to the point where you will be laying on a slab at the morgue. sorry to be so blunt but this is what you need to hear. go somewhere safe. good luck.
  • Why would he say sorry? He's not. If you aren't married just leave now, and get on with your life. If you are married file for a divorce. Don't let anyone abuse you. How old are you? Have you always been abused?
  • No matter who you are or what you've done, NO MAN is right to hit you. Thinking you did something to deserve it is the second wrong thing you've done. This makes him feel that hitting you is acceptable. This IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE and it needs to stop NOW! Abuse starts off little and eventually grows, report every incident or seek help from a friend or parent. Get as far away from this abuser as quick as you can.
  • So if he tells you his sorry will that make it right?I don't think so.It's not acceptible for a man to hit you no matter who's fault it was.
  • Be careful and get out asap. This behavior will never stop. This can only end in three ways: 1) You get out, save yourself, heal, and rebuild your life, 2) You stay forever with your heart, mind, and soul dead to you, or 3) He kills you. Your choice my friend. I hope you choose life. Humans were put on this earth to love and be loved, not be a punching bag to some unredeemable creature who lives for the sole enjoyment of torturing others. Again, as I said, Choose Life. You can do it.
  • I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you need to understand that these are two separate issues. If he hits you, that is wrong, wrong, wrong, in and of itself whether he says he's sorry or not. The fact that he doesn't say he's sorry is just further confirmation that this is a bad relationship for you. You deserve not to be hit. His hitting you is not your fault. Even if you can come up with something you did that annoyed him, he still shouldn't hit you. And you need to realize that there is something about him that makes him need to hit you. Whether you can find some reason or not to explain it doesn't matter -- because even if that reason did not exist he would invent some reason to hit you. Call a hotline and get out...now. There are women (and men) out there who will move heaven and earth to help you. Right now there is someone sitting by a phone just waiting for you to call because they know you're out there, but they just don't know who you are yet. Answer their question.
  • Anonymous, I don't know where you're from but there is no question you should get in touch as soon as possible with a local domestic abuse helpline (you will be able to find one via google searching or perhaps from your local GP clinic), or if you feel you want to, go to the police. Some things in a relationship are inexcusable under ALL circumstances- hitting is one of them. No matter who you are, there is nothing you are capable of doing which makes it okay for him to be violent towards you. If you struggle with strong feelings of guilt and you feel as though you are making him hit you, I think it would also maybe help for you to seek out someone to speak to- a counselor or someone you trust ... because you deserve to feel better about yourself, and to know that it's him who is to blame, not you. Good luck.
  • You're boyfriend needs serious help. Please get yourself away from him as soon as possible. He might really lose it someday and kill you. Do not hold on with false hope. Get out!
  • You are to blame. You are silly enough to stay with a no good woman beater. Get out and find a man that loves you and treats you with kindness and respect. Nobody deserves to be beaten nor should anyone be silly enough to put their life at risk. I wonder how brave this man of yours is if he is called to task by a man who is stronger than him.
  • he might not feel easy to say such things. he mightn't be emotional
  • You've done nothing wrong. Nobody deserves to be hit If he is hitting you then you need to leave. Now. Period. End of story. It's best if you make a plan and try to get help from someone close to YOU someone you can trust. Parents, siblings etc. Arrange for a place to stay first. Call the United Way, Salvation Army, Goodwill, your church, any church. They can direct you to a shelter. Don't say anything to him, just disapear one day. You don't want him following you or to know where you've gone. Wait until he's away, pack your stuff and leave. If you don't have transportation take a taxi. You should move quickly on this...you should move even faster if their are chidren involved.
  • It means you should have left him long ago.
  • Domestic violence should not be tolerated in any form. You need to leave.
  • Why? did you think it's your fault that he can't control his anger? First of all he is responsible for his own emotions, reactions and responses, you're NOT his punching bag. No one deserves to be abused under any circumstance ever. This is only going to get worse if you stay, one minute he will love you with all his heart and when he's not in his "good" mood then wham it starts all over again. It's like watchin' someone transform into a monster… I sincerely hope you'll get help, I know this too well because I was once in that situation myself.
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  • A you are stupid to stay with him. B he needs to see a profesional because lack of self control is dangerous C women are often stupid enough to egg it on (not a justification) I have never hit my wife but when durring a heated argument she said "why don't you just hit me, that would make you feel better" I wanted to. women sling insults and verbal assaults to the point of verbal and emotional abuse more often than men resort to physical abuse.
  • It's not your fault, at all. No matter what you do or say, it is never ok for him to hit you. He probably has some psychological problems -- ones that you can't help him with, because ultimately it's up to him to go and see a therapist and confront his issues. You need to get out, fast -- doesn't matter where to, as long as it's a safe place.
  • Yikes, another one. Big ego. That's all there is to it.
  • Don't let anybody tell you that it's your fault that your mate abuses you. There is no good reason for domestic violence. I posted a question about my wife hitting me. Sadly, many people said that I must have done something to deserve it. I don't accept that and neither should you. I left and filed for divorce. Now she's losing her place and her car since I paid the bills. She's getting what she deserves.
  • no man should ever hit a woman NO EXCUSES
  • It means he wants you to feel guilty like you're the one who made him do it. Don't give him the satisfaction. He is not your man or any kind of man at all. He is just a jerk. Pack up your bags and get to a safe place.
  • address and name please. I'll teach him how to treat women. the other option is to tell the police. Only cowards hit women. I know you probably love him. But don't let him do that to you. just don't fight back yourself because he's most probably stronger than you. But if you really need some help my offer stands. I can't stand men who hit women. But you have to hurry coz I'm gonna go back to Iraq real soon.
  • i guess he is a maniac......... and cant help by doing any thing.. so you just dont talk much so he wont tell you its coz of you...
  • Wait until he is aleeo and hit him in the head with a hammer.
  • Well women its time for us to rise now. If someone hits us , i think we must hit back so that the person understand and can feel our pain. We cannot live all the time quiet.
  • He is a sorry person for doing this to you. A appology is nowhere close to making it alright. You deserve someone that will love and appericate u 4 the wonderful person u r
  • It means he's not a hypocrite or into emotional manipulation in a big way. This is from my point of veiw a way better situation than most women find them selves in. With out the element of male emotional manipulation the situation is much easier to analyze he's either a jerk and needs to be divorced or your an annoying nagging hag. Take a couple of deep breaths, smile and be nice if he hits you call a cop and divorce him. If you cannot or will not smile and be nice walk away before he hits you for being annoying.
  • It means he is a dominant personality who belongs in the 1800s. Don't feel guilty because he is unable to respect you and communicate in an adult fashion. Dump him and find yourself a man who is less Victorian.
  • What does that mean? Don't be a fool. Take your things and leave him. Also, press charges against him. There is always a first time for a woman to be hit by a man, but there needn't be a second.
  • It means you should buy a baseball bat and KO his ass then move to Alabama.
  • he is a loser, drop him..
  • Honey, RUN don't walk to the nearest exit. NOBODY can 'make' ANYONE do anything. If he's fed you that line of BS, he's a lying coward who won't take responsibilty for his actions. Get away from him FAST.
  • Why do you think so badly about yourself that you would even think that lowlife has the right to hit you. You need to speak to a professional who can help you sort out any feelings of low self esteam before you beater gets more aggressive and you get hurt badly. I am a man and feel that any man who hits woman is a piece of garbage and not worth your time. Look in the mirror and see what the root of the problem is. No man can hit you. You are more deserving then you are giving yourself credit for. No woman should have to live with a beater. Dump his ass and move on.
  • I DON'T KNOW AND DOESN'T MATTER HOW OLD YOUR MAN IS. CHANCES ARE HIS BEHAVIOR IS LEARNED AND HE CANNOT ACCEPT HIMSELF BEING WRONG. EASY OUT TO BLAME YOU. GET AWAY FAR AND FAST. COULD YOU IMAGINE KIDS WITH HIM, HE WILL BEAT THEM TOO
  • If you truly feel guilty then .... he has succeeded! The next time he physically abuses you show him the door, throw out all his stuff, and tell him to get lost! ..... And stick to it! If he has been physically abusive there is even more reason to be rid of him, as it will only get worse. Don't ever believe he is sorry for what he does. Contact your local law enforcement and ask their advice; file a restraining order; don't answer his calls, etc. If possible move as far away as you can, and don't let him know when you leave, or your destination.
  • I was 25 yrs old and was tortured by a boyfriend.I have only one thing to say to you-RUN.If you had a child would you want your child to be abused?Why do you accept being hit?Do you feel you deserve it
  • Leave him immediately! No real man hits a woman. The physical abuse will only get worse. I know. I was brought up in an abusive home. Get away from him NOW!

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