ANSWERS: 32
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"Lies too often..." how often is acceptable???
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Not being honest is a real dealbreaker in relationships. You made the right choice in my opinion
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Yes, yes and yes. What do you have without trust?
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The fact that you said no, shows you know you wouldn't be content with someone who lies too often. So of course you made the right choice- trust your instincts.
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Yup, sure sounds like it.
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Yes, you made the right decision. You seem to know yourself well. On the other hand, I hope you didn't break it off completely, but told him why you rejected the offer, and gave him some more time to prove he can be honest.
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Yes!
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Yeah, you don't want to have a "wall" built to never be able to trust the person you are supposed to be trusting your mind, body, emotions, and complete life with
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Take you time eventually you will soon find if you did the right thing...but surely I would have done like you..cheer up
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Yes. I probably would do the same thing if I was in this situation.
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Absolutely! Smart decision; trust is a very key part of a successful relationship. :)
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You know you made the right decision Martina. A liar will betray in other ways as well. Lack of honesty ought to be a dealbreaker it seems to me for all kinds of relationships, including romantic ones. :) ((hugs))
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Yes.
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marriage is tough enough. with the added tension of "never knowing" and the doubt that is sure to develope...it would not have lasted anyway by no fault of your own. then you would wonder if you made the right decison then. better to save the time and legalities...
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Yes, absolutely.
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You made the right decision, it would not be good to marry someone who seems to be lying all the time.
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Yes you made the 100% right choice. You cannot trust someone who lies all the time and if you cannot 100% trust you really cant have a proper and comfortable relationship.
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I commend you highly for standing on your decision to turn down that marriage. Trust and Honesty is very, very important in marriage. Marriage can never be built on lies, which will eventually die out later on. You might not know, you could be living with a cheater later on who wears the most honest face in town. It might have hurt you, i understand. But it will hurt you all the more if the marriage had been done and you now live under one roof with a liar. You don't what lie comes next, or what lie will hit you next.
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Yup, now you can die alone like the rest of us
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This the man did not deceive you can. You can be mistaken?
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Let me jump on the "Yes, absolutely!" bandwagon with the other ABer's, Martina. One bit of advice for the future, though. Next time, before the number of known lies get to be "too often", cut the person off at the first! A lie is a harbinger of a of a hellish relationship. Be grateful you didn't continue to rationalize for whatever reasons you did. I hope you not only didn't accept the offer...but that you cut off the relationship altogether. Now, you can enjoy a REAL love of one who will ALWAYS be true to you...and himself. My best wishes to you for just that.
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You definitely made the right choice. A good marriage needs to built on trust, not lies. You will find someone else when you least expect it!
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Yes.
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When you get married you want to be able to start a secure foundation...having someone just throwing lies into that foundation would be like forgetting the concrete that holds the weight bearing beams in place (sorry if thats not the right metaphor, I'm not a carpenter :P but you know what I mean!)
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Many people would probably made the same decision if a person does not appear to open up completely.
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You did the right thing. You can never trust a liar and who knows what kind of trouble that would have landed you into. It would have never worked out
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Wow Elinor, sounds like you're having man problems again. In my opinion, if there is ANY doubt then marriage is not the right choice. If you over look things now that bother you, those problems will just grow stronger through out the years. In the game of love, take your time. There is no time limit. Did this just happen recently??
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yes you did. Its all about trust if you can not trust somebody it will never work you'll always fell like there hiding something.
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Absolutely :)
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The key to your question is that you did not feel secure, for whatever reason. So, yes, you made the right choice.
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Yes, although there is a chance that he is the right guy for you, you did the right thing because it is not the right time. You still have some things to clear up if it will ever work out. Trust is very important.
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Yes you did! You have to be able trust your "mate" .... most important thing!
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