I told a guy that things weren't working out between us and to take care. He texted back saying he thinks the same and don't call or text him anymore. Why did he say that? I thought I made myself clear the first time that I'm not going to!
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Well, he might have been a little pissed that you broke up with him via text message, not very considerate. He probably wanted to have the last word, because he was unhappy.
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It's called getting the last word. Some see it as a soothing balm to their injured ego.
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Probably because you beat him to the punch and he wanted the last word in.
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I think that the part where he said, "don't call or text anymore" means that he's butthurt about it, but him saying that he thinks the same part, means that he is only trying to part ways as at least an equal to spare his ego.
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he's stupid
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He's obviously an idiot.Dont worry about the jerk.
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To just get an edge up on you. It is meaningless..you know it and so does he. It's like firing someone who says "you can't fire me, I quit". Well, that is equally ridiculous. You said it first..he simply added something on his end to make himself feel better. I'd ignore it, forget about it and move on. :)
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That's easy, he wants you to feel guilty because he's hurt as hell.
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Why would it bother you? If you weren`t going to call or text anyways it`s a moot point. Like someone telling you not to touch the hot stove when you had no intention to anyways.
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Maybe it's a control thing - he wants the last word and he wants you to think it was his idea not to have any further contact.
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Everyone seems to have the same idea. He just wanted to get in the last word. He probably feels hurt and wanted to hurt back. Don't dwell on it. People do these things all the time. RosieGHM said it very well. "You can't fire me, I quit."
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He was a butthead,,And wanted to have the last word;)
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Hm... I wasn't aware that "We should break up" and "don't ever talk to me again" were synonymous. I still keep contact with some of my exes, so I must be doing something wrong.
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Sounds as if you will be happy apart.
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He's playing head games,he wants you to respond,although if you do, he will play like he doesn't want anything to do with you.You did the right thing he's a waste of time.Seems like he has abandoment issues,he needs to work on.
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Ha! He had to get the last word. He sounds like a jerk, don't let it bother you.
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"Take care" never sounded like a "don't call or text me anymore" to me. Take care always seemed like something you'd say till you guys decide you've had enough of a break from each other.
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You bruised his ego. He wants to feel better by telling you to not contact him. It's bragging rights... "Nah, Man, I told HER not to talk to me anymore"!
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Push and pull games. He thinks by him saying that you will change your mind. Silly boy.
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You should text him back and say "fine, I won't text you ever again, and I have blocked you so you can't text me" ;) He sounds pretty immature.
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Because he agrees. Just don't text him anymore and that page is turned.
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I just went through the same thing this weekend lol. When we cut someone off, they try to make it seem like THEY cut US off. It's all about their ego.
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It was just retaliation and to have the last word. Some people are that way.
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Maybe you didn't make yourself as clear as you thought you did. Besides, breaking up via text, while very 21st century, is about as tacky as asking your friend to do it for you.
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Hi hun! It is true that his response does not make sense, given what you said, but common sense did certainly not seem to prevail from his response J. This is probably due to his need to feel "in control" J, mixed with feelings of rejection. Sound about right to you? :)
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You made him feel rejected and instead of loosing face he had to make it sound as if he was rejecting you as well.
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Lol he must have really liked you,and you hurt his feelings,not that it's funny.
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he wantted to have the final word... some folks be like that... don't sweat it.
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Well people tend to get offended when you break it off in a text!
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he's trying to get his last say in. his feelings are hurt.
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that's ok, now you know it's ever for sure!!!
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Maybe he was feeling a little insulted that you didn't have the common courtesy to break up with him in person
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Sour grapes! Some people just cannot stand being dumped.....have to have the last word.....you are well rid of such immaturity!
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It's a game to him is why. He wants to have the last word. If you texted him back saying anything at all then you're just playing the game with him. I've been here. Trust me, the game never ends. The only way to win the game is not to say anymore and let him be happy believing he won when he didn't.
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It is a done deal....you hurt his feelings and he is trying to get back at you...leave it alone and move on down the road....
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because he's an ass and he needed to give you evidence that your feelings on the matter were correct.
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his ego he wanted to believe he blew you off not the other way wround
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To convince himself that it was him and not you that ended it. That way he can feel better about it and myself and think he had the last word. Some people need that
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He's just trying to exert some control and act like it's him that made the decision. It's bush league immaturity.
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honestly its to get the reaction your having right now..he is making you still ponder and think about him
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he was obviously feeling rejected and wanted to fight back to what he viewed as an 'attack'. men act very strangely when they are hurt. their best way to cover it up is to be defensive and get angry. in the future you might want to try and soften the blow if you want to remain friends with someone. the rule of thumb for delivering bad news is one negative, then two positives. do this for every PEICE of bad news you must relay.
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