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Sure. Married is a whole different ballgame.
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I'd consider giving it some time before the actual wedding. Especially at your age but for everyone I really suggest pre-marital counciling. Studies show it improves the odds of success by a third. I will definatly get pre-marital counciling when/if I get engaged.
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yea. I think its ok. people can get engaged at 17 and married at 25. If the person is right for you, then I say GO for it. I'm 18 and I want to get engaged.
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I think it's perfectly fine! Just as long as you really think it's the best for the both of you! Hope all goes well =]! (if you're the one considering getting engaged, of course!)
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I dont think it matters if your 17 or 97..if you found the one you love, and know for sure, your not too young.
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sure why wouldn't it be? that is a very young age but so what. if that's the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, what should it matter how old you are. you may change your mind later, but nothing is ever for sure. no one knows the future. but, no i don't think it's too young.
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If you are sure this person is the right one for you, age doesn't matter. I once new a girl who was engaged at 14 (a bit ridiculous I know, but they were in love). Though, Valparaiso is right about the pre-marital counseling. It certainly wouldn't hurt.
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Yup, i know loads of girls that have engaged at 17! And their still happily married:)
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If thats what you want but is it? Marriage is sacred and if you both feel this way then of course! Follow your Heart...
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It's up to the 17 year old's parents, not the 17 year old or anyone elses opinion on the matter. But personaly, I don't really care, my cousin got married at 17, and she is now 28 years old with 3 kids, a loving husban and they are doing pretty well.
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I was married at the age of 17. My mother signed the papers because she knew if she didn't I would wait 5 months to my 18th birthday and marry him anyway, and probably wouldn't be speaking to her. We were married for 13 yrs before I decided I didn't want to live with a man who never seemed to mature past the age of 18.
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thats sweet. my freinds were engaged at 16. i think its fine.
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Yea! If you love that person go on and do it.
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I think so.
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It's fine if that is what you want, who are we to tell you otherwise. Go for it !
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Sure, it's okay. I do recommended, however, a long engagement (for any couple). I was engaged at 19, married at 21. We went through counseling at our church as part of a pre-marriage program and I have to say it was great. You find out things you'd never think to ask. My parents were fine with my being engaged young, but everyone else thought I was too young. Our marriage has outlasted many of those naysayers. Follow your heart, and plan for your future.
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its fine I know people married at 16 and who had kids at 17 its fine to be engaged at that age if you love the person..why wait right?
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Yea I guess, but it's really hard if you marry someone before college is over just trust me!
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You will hear a lot of people telling you "if you love that. . bla bla bla!" But frankly, at 17 what you are perceiving as love is just attraction, and attraction dies. I will not recommend engagement talk at this age. No matter how mature you are at this age, you will never be mature enough. At this age, focus on you career too, you will reap its rewards when you get engaged in future, but for now, trust me and give it some more time
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yeah i dont see a problem with it as long as you are not rushing into anything. age doesnt make a difference. if you are happy thats all that matters
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It's definitely ok to be engaged at 17. Just because you're engaged at 17 doesn't mean that you have to marry right away. Trust me on this. I was engaged at 17. :-) Besides, back in the day when people married young, their relationships lasted a whole lot longer than those who get married in their thirties these days, because it was like growing up together. I think that's a special bond. My grandparents got married at 17 and and they've been happily married for 64 years and have 6 children. Good Luck!
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I was engaged for a year at 17.
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i was engaged at 17, but too many people hagged and moaned at us so we put it on hold for a few years. if you have the support of family and friends and really love him, then why not?
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Yes it is okay to be engaged at 17 as long as your parents are okay with this idea. Seventeen is an age that you can explore many great freedoms, engagement is a huge commitment and can tie you down but if that is what you want then go for it. However, love at seventeen tends to change on a dime so be forewarned.
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I agree, i think that theres absolutley no problem in getting engaged at 17, i personally would wait to marry for a while just till settled at univeristy, or whatever, get the exams done with. I would love to get engaged, makes you feel happy and if you are confident and secure with the guy your with, be happy :)
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Sure, just don't say "i do" until you've completed college and have gotten a job. Trust.
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I am looking for the same answer. How do you know you're ready? I for one am so lost. I know I love him, but I am not sure about marriage.
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yeah why not
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I was at 17 and just because it didn't work out for me doesn't mean it won't for you. Just stay engaged for a long time....years!
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Sure..as long as you wait a few more years before the wedding. :-)
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no
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okay - it might be okay if you live in a third world country LOL
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okay - it might be okay if you live in a third world country LOL
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My grand parents were married at the ages of 17&19 so I dont see why its not ok to be engaged at that age.
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If your father and husband is Warren Jeffs....YES. IF not, NO. Stupid me married a 16 year old when I was 19. Yea, it lasted 1 year but thats what they teach you to do here in Utah =( GOOD LUCK.
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Sure, just set the wedding for when you turn 25.
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Engagment is one thing, but I wouldn't tie the knot until MUCH later. Its much easier to get out of an engagment than a marriage at any age.
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It is ok but not recommended.
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At 17 people don't know much about life so I think just because you wanna be around someone forever doesn't mean you know what getting engaged and being married means. That is why the divorce rate is so high, people don't take the logical step when it comes to relationships.
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I am 17 and i have just recently got engaged so i obviously d#feel that it is ok! i am a firm beleiver in when you meet the one you know it! both my fiance and i have sat and talked and agreed that were going to wait till im at least 19 till we start planning the wedding, so i will be 20 by the time i marry! we have taken a evry mature attiude towards it and i my family are every happy for both me and my fiance! at 17 you are starting to realise what you want out of life so i want to get my career up and goign before i get married and he also agrees this is fo th best but we just want ot make it oficail that we are intend on being together forever!
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Ok? Sure... Recommended? No!
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i got engaged at 17 to my man so no i dont think its too young
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I got married at 17. I'm still with him after 8 years of marriage. Most people think that I was pregnant when we got married, and thats the reason I did marry him. Truth be told, I was pregnant when we got engaged, but later lost the baby, and gave my husband the opportunity to get out of the engagement. He said he wanted to marry me, and I truly wanted to marry him. I still love him as much if not more 8 years, and 3 babies later.
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No. You will regret it when you turn 18.
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I think it is. But if you're asking you must have some doubt and that's not a good sign. If you're not ready, hold off.
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NO! You have lots of time be engaged. Enjoy life for awhile. Travel and go out with other people. If you are meant to be you will be together.
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I say go for it!!!!!! I am engaged at 17 and i love her to death she is there for me sickness or health so i know its right. And i know i will do my damnedest to take care of her financially and emotionally. It will be hard there will be fights we may want to kill each other but I'll always remember i love her. If you feel the same congratulations.
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Sure, I was engaged at 17 and lots of people are. It usually does not work out (mine didn't)and a lot don't when that young but go for it.
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I think that if you're trully in love and you think things will work out then you should go for it. I'm thinking about marrying an 18 year old and I'm only 16... Do what you think is right or just take your time with things.
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i dont think its a good idea. a lot changes from 20 to 30, let alone 17 to 25...i would wait until i was 25 before getting married. Wait until you are done with college and are able to live on your own and take care of yourself for a few years...you have a long time before you need to settle down
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It is okay. My mother engaged at 17. Yet, this is not the same world. Marriages are not lasting at long. Be careful with how you proceed. Long-term engagements are a wonderful idea. As well, you should have the support of your family. Otherwise, it may be too hard. Young engagements are hard even with family support. You will be continuing to discover yourself and each other. Just ensure that you are in love not infatuated.
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I think it's totally fine to be engaged that young. Just because you're that young doesn't mean you haven't had alot of experience in life in general. You have to be totally honest with yourself when it comes to this because if you're questioning it, then it's probably not a good idea for now. Marriage is a whole other ball game, so make sure you know what your getting into -- like with research you'd be surprised to find even the basics. But here's one word of wisdom, no one truely knows what they want even when they're older they can only feel very strongly about what they want. I'm not saying to go out on a limb because you feel madly in love, just that after reviewing the whole truth about marriage when it comes that time, you still feel very strongly about wanting it THEN GO FOR IT. <3
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I want to say that I think a person at 17 is not fully aware of what they are getting themselves into. I know a coworker that is engaged and she is 18. To be engaged at age is not wise because this is a HUGE step in a person's life and it should be approached with great caution and an open heart :)
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i got engaged at 17 (well a month before my 18th)and were perfectly happy not yet married but thats to do with money not age
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It was the last thing on my mind at that age.I wanted to go have fun,not be tied down .
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I was and we are still together 3 years later. Iam 19 now, he is 21. We are getting married in 12 weeks.
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I was I got married 3 months after I turned 18 and I have been married for 8 years and have 3 kids The whole you can't make it if you get married young thing is not always true I know more ppl who got married later in life and didn't make it past 2 or 3 yrs it all depends on the couple but just being engaged at 17 what would it hurt you are not married yet and it can be called of just as easy as it got started. I think having a yr are so of engagment is a good idea and to live together for a bit too so you will know what you will be living and dilling with. Goof luck.
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I'd be the last one to criticize. I was married 2 days after my 18th birthday. Still in high school(not pregnant). Maybe that explains failed marriage #2, and no desire to ever be close to anyone again to the point of marriage.
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yeah if ur happy carax
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OK? = Yes Stupid? = Most of the time
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Well , i have just become engaged , and im 17 , i mean whats the problem, who put a label on how old u fall in love.. people think 17 year olds arent aware of what theyre getting themselves into , but think of it this way , would you rather have a baby at such a young age , which you cannot get rid of this commitment or would you rather have a ring on your finger and wait a while , im going to uni and after ive completed my degree im going to get married. On a serious note though, its your life , everyone has individual circumatances and at the end of the day, my parents don't mind . so why the heck should you let people on the internet try and alter your decision. Go for it keep smiling and good luck. x
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LOL! Well what do you think?
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No...you haven't yet experienced or understand what it feels like to have lived, loved, worked, or raise a family. You need to see how others did it first at an older age so you can see how to change things first before it's too late and you can only react and live with the consequences. Too many singel moms out there because normally the guy realizes he made a major mistake and then he bails leaving the girl hanging. Think hard about this one, there's no fairy tale ending for many teenage marriages....Sorry for the brutal honesty.
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Are you out of your mind..I got married at 19, didn't live or experience anything except work and the kitchen..Don't you dare do it..go to college and go on vacations..Marriage is later in life when you have experienced some life..
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How long have you know the person? 2 weeks? 2 entire months?!
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yeah but if ur both mature enough.. i knew this boy n girl that got engaged in yr 11, they were 16ish but i dno whether they'll last or not i don't think a lot of people are mature enough to be engaged at 17, but if you think you are go for it (Y) :] cara x
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it is if you feel it is right in your heart.. jsut make surre you wiegh out the pros and cons thats all.. and its also best if you live with this person you are engaged to for awhile because they say you never really know a person until you live with them.. and since you are still really young my best advice would eb too have a long engagement.. give it some time to sink in first.. get used to the idea.. we live in a world where the divorce rate is high and the reason is because people just rush into their relationships and it just falls apart.. and i dont think you wanna be one of those divorce statistics.. but anyways good luck!!
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its OK but not legal
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Sure if you are mature enough and ready to be a spouse, a partner to someone else for life. I was engaged then, married at 18 and still married to the same man at age 53. But it did help that he was 23 when we were married and more mature and decided about his future.
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Sure it is. If you are mature enough to be in a stable and relationship i see no problem with it. i have a friend who is also 17 and just gfot married in nevada i think it is wonderful that she is happy and has a good husband. Best of wishes to you!
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Really, I think it is too young. I was engaged at 17 and am still married..41 years. But, this is the exception.
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yes, i have tons of friends who have gotten married at 18 and 19 i'm going to two weddings next year so far for couples whom are under 21. as long as the love is there, why worry about it?
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Sure... If you start saving money to pay your divorce lawyer within the next 10 years.
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Sure, as long as you have known this person for at least a year and you can't think of any good reasons why you shouldn't marry him or he wouldn't be a good husband. Anyone who jumps down your throat about your age is just doing it because they are jealous.
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my best friend just got engaged she's 17(18 in march) she's really happy i'm happy for her too but i personally wouldn't do it. just make sure u know what you are doing
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im 17 and if my bf pops the question, i'd probably die of heartattack (and not because im happy) lets leave it at that.
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At 17, seriously? I'm sorry, but from a psychological perspective, that's just not the greatest choice one can make. You haven't really even begun to start the extreme psychological changes that will begin here in about 6 months to 2 years from now. You'll be a different person by the end of this extreme psychological change which should end sometime by around the age of 22 or so. I wish more people would take this into account, as this contributes to the divorce rate being so high. Another factor that plays in is emotional development. Women aren't done developing emotionally until about age 24, and men 30. Where it's not quite as big of a deal, it's still a factor nevertheless. It's not quite as vital for men to be emotionally mature, so it's not really that big of a deal there. As for what I would advise, be young while you're young, commit when you're more mature and complete. Just wait, and enjoy life. Don't rush things-EVER.
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way too young 21-30
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