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  • Yes, there is. There are several applications available to undelete files and to spy on other people's computers. PC Inspector File Recovery is one of the applications which allow you to recover deleted files. Applications like BO2K also allow you to log pressed keys: http://www.bo2k.com/ But if you don't trust your boyfriend, maybe spying on him won't make it better, no matter what you find out. Besides, what's so bad about porn? Him looking at porn does in no way imply that he does find you lacking in any kind of way, if that's what you think.
  • I second what everybody is saying. Just looking at the stuff isn't necessarily bad. Why not just ask him?!? If you can't trust him to answer you truthfully, why bother with the relationship? (yea, I know, known of our business) Some possibly better ways to spy on him might be use transparent http proxy between the machine and gateway/firewall/router (if he is on broadband) or have a sniffer logging traffic on another machine on the same network.
  • It's not a question of him finding you lacking in any way. It's a question of him gaining satisfaction. What would you prefer? Him looking at porn to quell his sexual urges...or cheating on you with another woman?
  • You can defiantly purchase a program that spies on him.....or if he was using internet explorer and cleared his history and such, you can still see what sites he was going to. There is a file called Index.dat on his pc. Index.dat are files hidden on your computer that contain all of the Web sites that you have ever visited. Every URL, and every Web page is listed there. Not only that but all of the email that has been sent or received through Outlook or Outlook Express is also being logged. The file names and locations depend on what version of Internet Explorer you have. If you are running IE version 4.0 or above, the file name is "index.dat". In Windows 2000 and Windows XP there are several "index.dat" files in these locations: Documents and Settings<Username>Cookiesindex.dat Documents and Settings<Username>Local SettingsHistoryHistory.IE5index.dat Documents and Settings<Username>Local SettingsHistoryHistory.IE5MSHist012001123120020101index.dat Documents and Settings<Username>Local SettingsHistoryHistory.IE5MSHist012002010720020114index.dat Documents and Settings<Username>Local Internet FilesContent.IE5index.dat You can open them in notepad and see what sites he has been to. Good Luck
  • Hmmm...lots of porn browsers here....an not necessarily computer geeks giving the answers. *s* Because they would know the vast majority of those sites have software that automatically installs when visiting many of the sites. Not an STD but a virus none the less. :) To the question, you could check the history and all that fun stuff. You could also install a porn blocking software, and add the password. If he goes to a site, he may confront you on it. I wouldn't suggest snooping around without him knowing, because assuming it is his computer, you would be violating his privacy and possibly also violating some laws. If its your computer, or shared property then you can install this software. Most guys wont fess up when asked point blank about it (been in that boat) and blocking it may be opening lines for communications. An added note with the way you're suggesting snooping, many times you run into porn on unsecure computers without meaning to. Even looking up Disney on google can weild rather unsightly results and all of that is saved in your cash and temp files. Be direct dear, can't go wrong that way regardless of the outcome.
  • You can download a program called Iambigbrother. It is hidden in your hardrive, you are the only one that access it. This program records everything that is done on your computer even off line! It is 29.95 to download! It was the best money I have spent! I caught by boyfriend and his porn problem!It can give you passwords, websites visted, and even screen shots of what he is looking at!
  • My Boyfriend does the same and last night I caught him looking at something but I'm not sure what cuz he's pulled the wires out and I don't know where they go!! But Yeah I think it's defo cheating, He's thinking about having sex with these naked women and getting aroused therefore, sorry guys, but thats wrong!!
  • Yes, but that's illegal. If you don't trust him, then either speak to him about it or leave him. You betraying 'his' trust by illegally spying on his private property without permission isn't going to solve anything, it is just going to satiate your desire to know what he is doing on his computer.
  • Sure, but since it happens to be his PC, you'd be breaking the law. I suppose you're not going to mind if he opens every piece of your mail or listens in on every phone call you make or receive? Exactly the same thing. There may be a legitimate reason he's got his history cleared and temp files dumped. I do that regularly myself, to save space and keep my hard drive and internet apps working as efficiently as possible. I'm the only one that uses this PC, so it's not like I have anything to hide even if I decided to go on a porn romp, look up how to build a nuclear weapon, learn the basics of murder or what have you. I think you need to talk to him, not mess with his computer. Doing what you propose is just as bad as what you think he may be up to. Even worse actually. Installing something like a keylogger on a machine you do not have the right to install software on could actually get you into a legal problem. Not just from a criminal aspect but a lawsuit as well, depending on your jusrisdiction. Yup, if your BF was pissed about it, he could sue you, especially if that software damages his PC which is quite possible. An example is if you installed BO, which is short for Back orifice and what I see some idiot posted here as an acceptable keylogger (none are in my opinion, this one though goes beyond that). Sure, you'll see what he's doing. So will the Cult of the Dead Cow, the guys who came up with that software. When they're done cleaning out the banking and credit card info they'll be going after every other scrap of useful personal info on that PC. You just installed the key for them, not just you. Getting the idea now? There are chatrooms run by hacks that are just chock full of this priceless info, courtesy of people installing software to spy on other people and not understanding what they've actually done. This would be different if it was your PC, since it's your property and he would have no right to use it for that purpose unless you gave him permission to do so. You would also have the right to install whatever software you deemed fit, to monitor the use of your PC so long as that software was obtained legally and not used for any other purpose but to monitor your own machine.
  • id leave it alone.. people usually dont like to be controlled. By the way, it doesnt mean he wants other girls, and if he does, and you take the porn away, where u think hes gonna go next? Maybe he will waste money on magazines or something.
  • You no-doubt can - but first ask yourself - what are you going to do if you find out that is what he's looking at? Are you going to say "I've been snooping all over your computer in an extended attempt to find evidence you're looking at porn....." There's some trust at stake here. I would also suggest that almost every male in existence who has access to the internet has viewed porn. The ones that haven't are lying ;-). I would not go accusing him of being somehow perverted for looking - because that's simply not true.
  • I have a very simple question for you: why do you want to do this?
  • I think your best bet is to just confront him and talk with him. If you monitor his internet activities without him knowing, you will be pushing him away and he will end up learning how to do things behind your back - possibly elsewhere - and you two will eventually grow apart. You ARE being very controlling and you can't control him. I would try to compromise with him and I would also try to understand "why" it bothers you that he views porn and if his viewing effects your sex life with him in any way.
  • Honestly... does it matter? Maybe you could broach the topic of watching some erotic movies together.Maybe this could allow him to not feel shame in looking at porn on the internet. He might choose to share this with you if he knows that you aren't going to be disgusted by this behaviour... So long as he isn't accessing illegal or VERY questionable content, there shouldn't be a problem. However, this is my opinion only and I know that some people do not condone pornography and of course your own course of action is entirely up to you. Just please have a think about why you are so desperate to find out what he has been looking at. It is not a reflection of his feelings for you if he is looking at porn. :)
  • It's his computer. He can look at whatever he likes, unless it's harming someone in some way. If you pursue this, it will likely ruin the relationship. If you have a problem with it, try talking to him, not spying on him.
  • The recycle bin?
  • i think that eveyone looks are porn one time or another. you have probably looked at porn one time or another so why do you care if he does. hell i look at porn from time to time.
  • Why go down this destructive road? If you ask, he denies, and you still can't believe him, then just leave it alone. I have not known one guy that didn't obsess over naked women on the web because they like to believe perfection exists. If it's a fact that you don't want to accept, and you don't want your beloved involved in, then kick the perv to the road and find someone else, (a guy that is smart enough to enjoy the real thing than oggle a computer screen).
  • Can I ask why you want to see it? If you are possibly doing this because you are looking to get into what he is into, the answer is quite simple: Next time you talk mention to him that you would like to watch porn with him - this way you can both see what would fascinate your desires together.
  • Do you really want to live your life like Sherlock Holmes? Negotiate with your boyfriend for the compromise you can both live with in regards to this issue. If there is none, end it. Life is too damn short for this kind of stealth operation.
  • I'm going to go down a different tact here and say that the boyfriend is in the wrong for looking at porn, he already knows this and that is part of the thrill he gets from it (if indeed he is even looking at porn). Nevertheless, this kind of mistrust if not addressed correctly can lead to more serious relationship issues. From experience, I know that it is a slippery slope. It can get to a point where you are checking everything he does, installing keyloggers (which leads you to get his passwords for social networking sites/ email accounts etc and checking those regularly too, in some cases even long after you have split up), intercepting text messages, pretending to be him online in order to try and catch him out - and in doing all of this, with an assumption about what is happening already in your head, you then begin to read something sinsister into everything he does. Once this mistrust becomes known about by him, and it will eventually either because he stumbles across your keylogger, or because you mistakenly ask him about something he has never said to you but that you saw online, then he will begin to mistrust you too. And indeed, from my experience again, most of those who go snooping in this way, usually have the most to hide. The key to any relationship is always communication! Nevertheless, if you want an answer without all the judgement - the answer is yes, there are ways of doing this. Indeed there are many commercial applications which will do it, and others that will get rid of everything so that even these commercial applications won't find anything. Most of the freebies that people talk about will have trial versions that expire after a certain amount of time or come lumbered with spyware, adware or if you're lucky just a virus, so you should opt for a commercial product if you decide to go down this route.
  • the best option here is probably to confront him about it. try to bring it up without being judgmental though. most guys have looked at porn so, while you might feel like he is one of a few, he is actually one of almost every guy.
  • Technically, you can. However if you are THAT distrustful then you are better off walking out now. And since you had to ask, there is a good chance that you lack the expertise to be TOTALLY traceless. Without trust, you have no relationship. You don't trust him and you could easily give him reason not to trust you. Leave. Now.
  • Talk to him about it. If your relationship isn't changing then you could be paranoid I clear my computer regularly ( its set automatically) and I do it to keep my hard drive clear and reduce the risk of someone getting a hold of my bank info or e-mail etc etc
  • I think if you are considering attempting to recover his deleted info and monitoring his actions from another pc without him knowing, then you probably have bigger problems than him. Maybe you should do him a favor and break off the ralationship, then maybe do a little bit of work on your own self so that if your BF happens to look at some porn, you don't feel the need to go all CIA on his ass!
  • Temporary files aren't the only files saved.Whenever you visit a page on the web, an manuscript of it is saved in your cookies file.The easiest way to access the complete set of these, as long as he hasn't deleted them, is to open your hard drive, go into the documents and settings file, their will be a list of the users of the computer.Go into his file and open the file labeled cookies.Finding the pages that contain porn shouldn't be difficult if you read the names of the documents.Be warned though,their will probably be a lot to search through.
  • I know this is an old question, but I couldn't resist answering it anyway. I'm wondering why you can't just ask him about what he's doing rather than reducing yourself to the level of having to break into his computer - you do know that doing this is the biggest way to destroy what little trust you share? Clearly you don't trust him. Can I ask, why is it an issue if he's looking at porn on his computer? As a woman, I do understand that Porn in the wrong 'hands' can perpetuate the stereotyping and sexist attitudes against women, but I also understand that to be completely opposed to its existence is a sign of relationship insecurity. So your boyfriend checks out porn. Unless it's porn that is against the law- ie involving children or animals, it's perfectly normal. I want to make it perfectly clear that I'm not sitting here and thinking that you're clearly not meeting his needs. In fact anything but. Alot of males are visually stimulated but females are emotionally stimulated. Can you work around his desire to check out porn? Perhaps look into a way to work it into your love life and spice things up a little? And you can't honestly tell me you don't think of things like that in your 'alone' moments? I'm adult enough to admit that I certainly do - fantasies are the things that spice up the reality of romance and if harnessed the right way can really help put a little zing into things. Anyway, I don't think that sneaking your way into your boyfriend's computer is a good thing to do - what if he finds out? And what are you going to do once you work out what he's been looking at? And how about how you'll feel if you find out that he hasn't been looking at porn? Please take some time to think this through.
  • Im not sure if there is, but if my girlfriend even attempted to spy on my computer without me knowing , and I found out, it would certainly cost the relationship
  • You don't trust him. End it now and cut your losses. Get rid of your BOY friend and find a MAN who doesn't degrade women by feeding a bottomless appetite for porn and has some self-control.
  • omg i think exactly the same i wanna no aswell!!!!! im so paranoid about this i need to know love xx
  • that's called invasion of privacy. he won't be happy if he finds out
  • Why would you want to spy on him? Let him do whatever he wants. Who cares if he's looking at porn?! Porn is just a sexual fantasy for him, that doesn't mean that he likes you any less. It means nothing to the relationship!!
  • FACT: 9 of 10 men masturbate until their 40's-50's and almost all of them watch/read/etc porn as a masturbatory aid. The bigger issue is that knowing this, are you still insecure with the idea of him viewing it?
  • You can. However, unless he specifically asks for his data to be recovered, he is entitled to privacy and you may be doing something illegal by trying to retrieve data that he has already attempted to get rid of. Also, you're abusing HIS trust by wanting to persecute him for something 90% of the men on this planet do. Think about that.
  • is there any free sites were ou can get software to do this?
  • If you take away the computer he might just have to leave the house...
  • YES GOOGLE YOUR QUESTION. BUT NOT FROM HIS PC, GO TO THE LIBRARY IF YOU NEED TO.
  • Tell him you will give him erotic pleasure if he tells you the truth and don't do it until he admits he watches porn then you got him!! Or you can find a keylogger and see what he's doing. If you don't know what a keylogger is read this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Keystroke_logging
  • Go to the trash file. Unless he deleted it from there also it will still be there,its that simple. But its not so bad for a guy to look at porn so dont go psycho when you bust him.
  • I completely agree, it is his computer and you don't have the right to edit, view, copy, modifiy any content without his permission. Sorry, not much you can do since it is his computer.
  • Why would you want to waste your time and energy doing that? Just go find a guy who shares your values and who values YOU. Enough said.
  • If he is doing those things, there is almost a certainty he is looking at porn, just like every other guy on the planet. It's not like cheating to us. It's not unfaithful and it's not emotional; it is just a means to an end.
  • You already know he does it, so you have to decide if you can live with, try talking instead... I wouldn't make a fuss about the fact you are aware he clears his history or he'll know you're spying and untrusting which is quite unattractive to most men. You could ask him if he knows any good internet porn sites? Don't spy on your boyriend, it's dumb, you either trust him or you don't. Only my opinion however. Good Luck :)
  • A good monitoring software is eBlaster. It's designed for parents who want to monitor their children's actions. To use it for the purpose you specified, you would be breaking the law and he could sue you. What's really nice about eBlaster is that you don't have to install it on his computer by yourself. You could just "hide" it in an email that you send to him and it will auto-install. It will email you every key stroke he makes; including IM chats. Pure invasion of privacy. I live in a place where we lack laws or digital crimes, so it doesn't matter me. I caught many liars and broke many laws, and that's not just because of eBlaster. I should be sentenced for life if I was in the US, but that's just me... Honestly, just let him watch the porn. It's not really worth the trouble. Those are just fantasies. I have no problem with my boyfriend watching porn; sometimes I'd join him. again, that's just me...
  • there was but i forgot and it only checks deleted items from the recycle ben. for the history and temp. internet files you need to ask a hacker or a programmer who work for a telecome service and such.
  • Maybe he is spying on YOU! Are doing anything sordid or kinky that he'd be watching from that spycam in the bathroom?
  • Oh so what..seriously, what is the problem with the guy looking at porn? Men are visual..deal with it..doesnt mean he wants anyone else, doesnt mean he is going to cheat..He probably clears the stuff off the comp because he knows you are trying to "bust him" and he doesnt want to get into a big overblown arguement. Men look..it's normal..let them do so without the drama and you can cut the stress level. :)
  • The first and foremost question is why do you want to spy him may be it is your such kind of behavior that is making him speak lie to you. If you have taken him as your friend it is only if you are trusting him else you are not a friend. Sachin
  • I think you should ask yourself why,in what should be a loving and intimate relationship,would he want to look at porn. Just ask him, if you go snooping that will surely end the relationship because trust would have gone.
  • Why the hell would you care? everyone watch porn so what is the big deal? It doesnt mean he doesnt like you or doesnt find you attractive its just a habit.( unless its too much) If it is too much i suggest you to take him to a shrink
  • do you really think spying on your boyfriend is going to help your relationship? If he is an adult and chooses to look at porn, so what! If him looking at porn is something you cannot tolerate, talk to him directly and do something like..um break up. Playing KGB with your boyfriend just leads to more lies and deception.
  • Maybe, but only if you are very much more proficient in computer use than he is. It is difficult to effectively monitor someone who knows what they are doing. Look on the bright side, he might already be doing it to you. Why don't you post his email address and some of us can send him some porn links or files. Then you'll know for sure. Always happy to help.
  • Men are visual creatures, so they look at porn. I learned a LONG time ago to let it go when I have caught my husband in the act. My god, don't you masturbate? That is all he is doing, masturbating and looking at pictures to stimulate him. If you ask me, its way better then finding another women to have sex with! Grow up and realize that he is only human and pleasuring himself as I am almost positive you have done from time to time!
  • yeah but no need. he's looking at porn. we all do that. get used to it. guys will always be stroking it to the things that you refuse to do...
  • You could simply ask him. Talk to him!
  • HI there i have answer for you install eblaster on his pc and you recive evrything on your pc even website he visit email facebook myspce and softare u install will not apear on his pc no where
  • Use a tracking software.
  • Of course he is. He's a guy with a PC. Therefore he is looking at porn! I think you should lighten up about it to be honest.
  • tell him you foud porn evidence and see what he says
  • If he uses Firefox you can follow these steps: History > Show All History > Import and Backup > Backup But anyhow, who really hasn't looked at porn. Gosh, give him a little space.
  • I have recently been confronted with the fact that my boyfriend has a substantial amount of porn on his computer. I grew up in a house dominated by girls so this was quite a shock. When I confronted him about the issue he just shrugged and said "so... it's just porn". Emotionally I feel betrayed but the logical part of my mind tells me that boys are visual creatures, therefore are intrigued by these films more than women. I'm am just a little torn between these feelings so I have decided to turn a blind eye to his computer files and concentrate more on what I can offer him. Either way, boys will be boys unfortunatly...
  • Ok now you have 2 choices. You can download a trojan, like prorat, sub7, there's a lot available out there just google for them, but they probably won't be undetectebale since they're free. Or, google for "Recover deleted files" and you'll get a shitload of information and free downloads of software that will allow you to, recover deleted items from his recycle bin. I still have 2 warn you that using a trojan on his computer without him knowing about it & accepting it is against the law, im not sure about recovering deleted files
  • Watching porn is something that many people do, more than you would think, and which causes no harm. Snooping and prying into other people's business can do a great deal of harm. If he ever finds out you are snooping on him, he will probably dump you, and quite honestly I wouldn't blame him.
  • I hope he's rid of you by now.
  • Mind your own business, nobody likes a sneaky rat.
  • That's a violation of his privacy. If you are uncomfortable with something you think he is doing, talk to him about it.
  • You can hire a hound dog and an FBI agent to cover all bases. Dress in camafloge to match the surrounding living and/or dining room furniture to get an eagle eye view of his every move. Put a camera on his shoe's so you can moniter his ever move, literally....ew...get a life while your at it!
  • You might want to ask what you are doing or not doing for him that makes him want to look at porn. You have to remember that men are turned on sexually by sight as well as imagination. Use your imagination to turn him on and he will have no reason to look at porn. Its either porn of fooling around that you will have to deal with if you don't try to be his everything. Remember it you that holds the power in your relationship with your man.
  • Recuva or install remote admin
  • What's wrong with porn? Perhaps he would be honest with you if you recognized that it is his prerogative. It's not like it's cheating.
  • You only think he is looking at porn. Perhaps he is wrestling with or is inquisitive about some issue in his life that he would prefer you not know about.
  • -Why are you on his computer -What he does on his computer is not your business -Why don't you simply ask him -The person who cannot trust cannot be trusted -I personnaly would not want to be with someone who regularly looks at porn, nor with someone who did not trust me. -He needs someone who doesn't care and you need someone who doesn't look at porn
  • I know they make software theat monitors and reports all activities that are done by that user and you can later view them and see if he is viewing porn and you can block out content from the internet like if any kids would be using that particular computer.
  • OH MY GOD!! What is wrong with that? Every man watches porn, YES, EVERY MAN. So give it up, it's not like he's cheating and it's perfectly fine for him to do it (unless you give it every night, then it's a problem).
  • A much better question: is there any reason why my boyfriend and I should trust each other?
  • leave the man alone. porn is porn. i can accept that why can't other girls?
  • my question is simple,why would you want to? are you some kind of control freak. so what if he watches porno. I would put you to walking asap.
  • So you think this gives you a right to invade of his privacy? You wont be in this relationship long, you are insecure, sneaky, dishonest and breaking the law.
  • If you're into the same kinda porn, I'm sure he'd willingly share if you ask him?! ;-)
  • what would you think if he did the same to your computer, hack into your emails you and your friends wrote, things personal you dont want to share; you dont own him sweetheart, and if you start doing crap like this, hell never trust you and hell just do stuff out of spite, thats what I would do, Id give you something real to fuss about, like making out with your sister, video taping the whole thing on your computer.
  • Please give your boyfriend his privacy
  • gat a cheap laptop, and a very small webcam, hide it at his computer, then watch the footage. -.o
  • It appears he's just looking at the "menu." You don't have to worry unless he orders.
  • I clear my history and temporary files regularly and don't look at porn at all. (I'm also female, so you idiots out there can believe me.) He doesn't have to be hiding anything to do that. If you think he IS hiding something, why not just ask him? If you can't trust him, if he won't tell the truth, and if you feel the need to "trap" him, you have a much bigger issue than porn. Don't spy, just ask. Communication is key to any relationship.
  • It's his business what he does on HIS pc. If you suspect, talk to him. If you don't want to be with a person who looks at porn, it's time to go. Don't play games and try to check up on him. Be honest with both him and yourself.
  • Can you talk to him nicely?. I won't be annoyed too much if he ONLY looks at porn site. It will be a problem ONLY if he talks to webcam girls and keep in touch with them, you should confront him and tell him how you feel.
  • I think you would be invading his privacy since it is on his computer. If it bothers you he is looking at porn, you should let him know how you feel. Honestly I think is is perfectly normal for a man to look at porn. Its a matter of how much it is a deal breaker with you. Also depending on what type of porn maybe a concern. For example say your man is straight and is constantly looking a gay porn, It would definitely raise some questions about his sexuality. Again that is just my opinion.
  • i wont place my own morale's on you for this act. But there is a way to find out use system restore under system tools and set the date to whatever you want. System restore restores the data to that particular day beware though all information between now and the set date is erased and lost forever
  • Why don't you just break up already? What kind of toxic realtionship is this anyway?
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  • He's a dude. He's gonna look at porn. Get over it.
  • i would leave it alone, you cant stop his watching it

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