ANSWERS: 83
  • Overcome cynisism. It's got to be the hardest thing for the cynical mind to convince itself that all you have to do is stop being cynical. When you believe the old adage, "If it sounds to good to be true, it is", it's a tough thing to simply change the way you speak to yourself. You don't believe it will work, and you even tell yourself frequently how stupid you sound, but low and behold, after a few years you look back and say, "I'll be damned! It's working". Doing anything to improve myself that makes me feel stupid is always the hardest thing for me.
  • Convince my family I wasn't going mad and strange things were happening at home. Yes, I suceeded, in the end, although for a long time it was an up-hill struggle and very, very frustrating. Eventually some members of my family witnessed certain events, and the relief I felt I cannot describe..
  • Follow my at the time, 55 year old Mother, out the door of an aircraft at 2 thousand feet. I have a hard time dealing with ladder heights, that damn near killed me with fright. It would have been worse if I hadn't done it.
  • i'm in the process of it right now. i'm trying my best to save my virginity for marriage because of my religion and the fact that my mom pressures me everyday to live a life of purity. it's so hard ; most people think that i have no desire to do what everyone else does, but they are terribly mistaken. i'm a 15 yr old girl like any other one out there, and the only difference is probably the fact that i yearn for the thing i can't have more than the rest. it has been having a bad effect on my depression, and i have had a hard time controlling my suicidal and self-destructive thoughts. it's way too hard for a 15 yr old to deal with, and i dont know if i can last much longer.
  • Telling my 10 year old son that his mother had just died.
  • I have my elderly father here in town and a job I love, and my kids and grandkids 2000 miles away who I'd love to be with. I'm very torn by this and keep vacillating. The "sandwich generation"'s conflict, I suppose, and it weighs on me a lot. Most of the time I try to make THIS moment its best, and clear some pathways toward resolving the problem (like convincing Dad that Florida isn't so terrible, even though it doesn't have seasons).
  • tell my parent,that their son ( my brother) just killed himself. ( blew helf his head off) 2nd hardest; realize i should have taken the phone call he made to me 20 min before he did this
  • I had to have my beautiful German Shepherd dog 'Arnie' put to sleep when his back legs would no longer support him & he was unable to walk
  • tell a man he was right grrrr!mind you that doesnt happen very often.
  • Quiting heroin cold turkey while escaping from LA during a 3 day drive to Austin.
  • Confess to someone my ultimate secret. With all the details. *shudder* It was awful
  • When I was a firefighter, I had to take a man who was a friend and father of two children in my neighborhood for his "final ride" to the hospital. He was dying of liver disease, and he knew that he wouldn't be coming home again. I talked with him all the way over in the ambulance, remembering some of the good times we had in the neighborhood...the soccer games he organized, the haunted house that scared the crap out of us, the cookouts with burned chicken wings, the time he fell off the scaffolding while painting his house and didn't get a scratch on him, the way everybody (including his wife) called him John-a because of his Portuguese accent, how his kids were doing in school. The absolute hardest moment of my life, was when we brought him into the emergency room, and he broke down crying, asking me not to leave him there. It has been nineteen years since that moment, and I can still remember every detail. I went back to the firehouse, locked myself in the dorm and cried for the rest of the afternoon.
  • Burying my twin boys. I was only 18 at the time, my boyfriend decided they weren't his (even though he was the only one I had ever been with) and very ill at the time. I still celebrate their birthday every year, and that makes some of the pain go away. But I don't think I will ever forget their little faces.
  • Liking myself. There's a bunch of other stuff: quiting smoking, law school, alcohol withdrawal, breaking someone's heart. But none of that really compares.
  • Learn to forgive those I did not want to forgive. (admit that even someone I totally despised had taught me something of great value)
  • Say goodbye when I was moving, telling my parents I want to move back to New Jersey or New York, and being able to convince myself that it wasnt my fault that my dog died.
  • Nursing both my dads with cancer.
  • Getting through the movie, Artificial Intelligence. LOL I thought some humor would be good on this page, there is much sadness.
  • US Army basic training.
  • Watch my grandson lose his struggle to live.
  • Self Sacrifice and feeling powerless will always be the hardest trials humans will have to endure... It does however go hand in hand with being emotionally aware.
  • The hardest thing i ever did was realize that i had to change. I stoped smoking, drinking & taking drugs all at once because i realized i was destroying myself & my family. VERY hard.
  • I think it would have to be hearing that my best friend [Who I was in love with at the time] had hung himself earlier that day because he had been in love with me and had thought I would never return his feelings. So people, please tell people how you really feel to stop things like this happening.
  • Doing my Leaving Cert (exams in Ireland) 10 exams, 7 days, STRESSED OUT!! Most important exam you ever do in your life and the results you receieve depend on your collage etc
  • Take my 17 year old beloved dog in to be euthanized because she was suffering.
  • realize that I can move on without him. Supriseingly, after 2 years of perfection, 3 months of deep sadness isn't much of a time...
  • Leave a bad marriage, and have to see my daughters being raised by my cheating ex and her weird new fella.
  • Watch a casket close.
  • Learning how to walk again. I broke both of my ankles in a rock climbing accident when I was 22. I was in the hospital for two weeks and in a wheelchair for another three months. Going to physical therapy every day, month after month was brutal. It took me about two months before I could put my weight on my feet, and another two months before I could walk down a flight of stairs :)
  • Telling my children their mother was dying.
  • giving a child up for adoption
  • Letting him go..
  • coming out
  • Forgiving my stepdad. It took many years.
  • Let my b/f go.
  • Signed the papers to have my daughter taken off of life support.
  • Had my favorite pet put to sleep.
  • Tell my adopted son that I wasn't really his father.
  • Bury my firstborn grandchild.
  • Say a "speech" at Mom's funeral.
  • Dealing with what multiple mini - then moderate - then finally, one last massive stroke did to my father over time ...
  • When my mom was dying of cancer, the doctor told my sisters and I that he could cut her up again, but the humane thing to do was to let her go. I had the power of attorney, so I had to decide to put her on a morphine drip and let her go. Til this day, it's been the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
  • Tell my b/f I had cheated on him.
  • Bury my father
  • Making the decision and having my dog of 16 years put to sleep.
  • Telling my son that his mother just died
  • Quiting heroin cold turkey
  • Making the decision to stop life support on my mother and had hoped to never make that kind of decision again and yet have had to do it twice since with a set of grandparents....
  • Getting out of bed
  • waterskiing was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I had to all the others were doing it and could not appear chicken. Loved it but hard on the legs. Fun, Fun, Fun.
  • Losing someone special
  • I had to tell my daughter her father had just died.
  • Taking my mom off of life support.
  • Believing that my grandmother is no more!
  • Leaving my abusive husband with no job and 3 children.
  • Leave my husband for something I could not forgive him.
  • Used a backhoe to "dig-up" a man out of a ditch that caved in. I'd heard many horror stories about how often only 1/2 body would come up. We were lucky, saved his life. Could have easily gone the other way though.
  • Left the love of my life.
  • Went skydiving (first time).
  • Seeing my love one die in a car crash,
  • Staying with my mother at the hospital on her last day.
  • Bury my 1st born
  • Quit smoking.
  • Leaving my previous church because of some differences
  • Attend my parents' funerals. :-(
  • way to many to mention.
  • See my father decline, and see him in and out of a few different hospitals and nursing homes. I think that was as hard as the day of his funeral.
  • waiting for biopsy results to see if my 7 yr old daughter had lymphnoma
  • Watch....my son almost die and then hold my mother in my arms as she took her last breath....
  • sleep with my 50+ female boss to forward my carear
  • Go to my son's funeral.
  • say goodbye to my brother who commited suicide in 2001
  • Report my ex to the police.
  • Saying goodbye to my mom
  • When I became an OR tech long ago, I had to go out into a waiting room and tell a family their daughter died and the doctor would be with them shortly. I don't know about all hospitals and I know its always the doc that does it on TV but I soon found out in my experience as a tech on trauma shifts, I usually got stuck being the bearer of bad news for families. The first couple of times were the toughest. Seeing the families there, hoping beyond hope the family member would survive, it was always really tough when it was a child. I could deal with all the blood and guts in the world but when small children came in to the OR injured because of some stupid parent's actions or negligence it was always kind of tough to see, it drains you. I only did it for a couple of years before I got out of it for other reasons, but regardless I was glad to be done with it. I just don't think I could deal with another child ejected 30 feet from a car because mom didn't like to hear the kid whine about the seatbelt, or some idiot deciding it was a good idea to try to climb up the side of a mountain in a pickup truck with the bed of the truck full of kids and the axle snaps, or some idiot buying his 9 yr old a 4 wheeler and not supervising them while they use it and they roll it and crush themselves....I think if I would have seen a few more of those cases I might have gone out to that waiting room and strangled a parent or two.
  • holding my nana's hand as she turned off my grandpa's life support and watching a part of her die with him. that was worse then even the funeral.
  • go to jail and then go to sentencing not knowing if the judge would give me a chance or send me to jail!!! He gave me a chance then the hardest physical thing Ive ever done happened!! I gave birth!!
  • Thinking of answer to this. And I didn't do a good job of it.
  • Go to the toilet when I was very very constipated.
  • clean up sick! every time is the hardest
  • Someone I love very much needed help. That's all I can say.
  • deciding to continue with my pregnancy knowing that my daughter would never have a father!!
  • give vaginal birth to a 10 1/2 lb baby. (no pain meds)

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