If you really want to keep it keep it. There are women that are way older than you that are having babies (and you are not old). Women are waiting longer and longer to have babies now (into there late 30's and early 40's). My best friends sister-in-law is in her early 40's and just had twins. You can do it.

My mom was 40 when she accidentally got pregnant with my brother...she's 60 now and very healthy and happy. :)

I've known several women who have had great late pregnancies, one even had a home birth delivered by my husband, a massage therapist:-) Talk to your doctor. It should be fine, just be prepared and listen to your body. Enjoy your pregnancy:-)

You are NOT too old. There are many stars/celebs having babies even older than 41... And there are older people having babies, for themselves and for others. If you're healthy, and do what the doctor tells you to, you SHOULD be fine. ;-)

As long as you're carefully monitored, you should be perfectly fine to carry the child and keep it. Relax.

If you really want to keep the child, then do it. Keep in regular contact with your doctor. As you are 41 there are a few extra tests that will be done along the way during your pregnancy. My mother was 40 when she had her last child (my 'lil sis) and had no problems. A good friend of mine at 42 recently had a child. You read all the time about women having children into their mid 40's. Bottom line is....It is up to you. Good luck and congratulations ((HUGS))

move to Grand Rapids - a slight bit on the conservative side but I tell ya women here start popping them right after college and I had my OB tell me 7 years ago that she was turning 50 and having her first! Your baby....He/she is waiting to meet you. He/she was/is a suprise to you but he/she is simply an amazing and spectacular part of your life story and without him/her a chapter in your life might get left unwritten. I gulped when I read your question because I myself am turning 40 and although medically it is not possible for us to conceive again - there are sometimes things in our lives that supercede the "medical" reality. Our family is out of diapers and glad to be! I would be crying too if I was in your situation but would also have an undercurrent of amazement and maybe in a few months a bunch of wonder and excitement!

I had my child 6 weeks before my fortieth birthday. She does have a genetic disease, but as far as I know, it isn't associated with age. She could have had the same issue if I'd had her at 19. Even with all we've been through, I wouldn't trade any of it for not having her. You will love this child more than you can imagine. Get to a good high-risk OB/GYN so that you know you will get good supportive care. Then hang on and enjoy the ride. Is this your first? I know it is scary, but it will be the best thing that ever happened to you. In a few months, you'll be wondering why you were ever so panicked. It is going to be hard work, but its the most rewarding work you'll ever do.

I think you should keep your baby. A child is a gift from God. I can understand being afraid about it, but there have been other women older then you and they have done just fine. Pray for it and I'm sure you will be just fine. Remember God helps those who help themselves, and with a little faith and hope he will provide.

my wife had her first at 40.........Her doctor kept a close eye on her....we had a healthy 8lb girl.........sure theres risk...but ultimately.......dont do the unthinkable...give yourself a chance at the best feeling in the world.

Keep it, im 42 and i have lupus but i would do anything to have another baby but i cant cuz hubby is fixed....but there is great doctors out there that will take good care of u and i wouldnt call u old your still pretty young!!

Has it been confirmed that the baby has some disability or condition? Otherwise, I really cannot understand why you'd consider aborting what could be a perfectly healthy fetus that you want. It seems wise to delay an abortion (or the plans for one) until after you've had scans and such, yes?

In your 4th month you can get the amniotic fluid tested for genetic defects. In the meantime - BE HAPPY!!!! Don't destroy the little guy. There's no need for all that! 41 is NOT all that old, dear. Calm down, and relax. This is a wonderful gift!

If you haven't gathered from reading the other answers here, you are NOT too old. I too know women older than you who have had kids. One of them wasn't/isn't the healthiest to begin with yet their son is. I think it's funny that her oldest is old enough (college sophomore) to be the father of his two brothers, but that is a separate issue. If you want to keep it then get regular checkups just like any other expectant mother. Either you won't have any problems or you won't have any that women half your age wouldn't have.

You will be fine, calm down... This is not abnormal at all. I hope you have a wonderful child, and name it Chris, or Christina, whichever... Congrats!

Keep it, love it and cherish it :)

keep it... my neighbor had a baby late into her fiftys, yeah its gross but she did and it wasnt my fault... she was in pretty good health though, worked out everyday... idk

I know a woman who had a baby at 45, and there was nothing wrong with her or the baby due to this, don't worry everything will work out, and your doctor will talk to you about your pregnancy due to your age...

Keep it I would say unless you are sufering from any other health related problem... go for regular check up.. and Be happy.. get ready to welcome the new member of the family.. and yes my mom gave birth to my brother at 40 so Chill!!All the best..

You're about the age my mom was when I was born. I'd like to think I turned out OK, and she was (and is) fine.

My mom had my little brother at the age of 42, and she was fine, although women are different from one another, i'd say go for it.

you are certainly not going for a record, that is at 66. sure you are outside the "prime childbearing years" by a little, but that does not mean you can not have a perfectly healthy pregnancy and child. has the doc said this baby will kill you? if not then stop crying and celebrate with some welched sparkling grape juice because you are having a baby.

Um, you'll probably be fine. That is not too old.

Keep the baby--let it live, please.

If you're in good health all is well. Talk to a doctor, but try to research that he has no ties to eugenics organizations.

You'll be ok. I was pregnant at 40, freaked out, then lost it just as I was beginning to accept it. Now I wonder sometimes what my child would be like. As long as you are healthy, go ahead. Enjoy your baby. You are not the oldest mum in the world, by any stretch.

you should be just fine. a lot of women have babies these days at this age or around it. but there is one thing.. i also have a friend that her mother got pregnant at 43!! the pregnancy went just fine .. but i'd be lying if i said that it is good for the child. the mother will be 50 soon her little girl is only 7 y/o...when the girl turns 17 her mom will be 60 years old!! when i was 17, it was one of the most important and most needing attention periods of my life as i was going through my "teen" years... will a 60 year old mom be able to deal physically and mentaly with a teenager at this age?....honestly.. i dont think so. but it's up to you in the end :).. if you think you will be able to raise a child properly and give him/her all the attention, support and everything he/she will need so theres nothing wrong about it :) Goodluck whatever you choose to do!!!

The risk is higher over 40 but just barely, it goes up much more rapidlyover 45. Talk to you OB. I would recommend testing even if you decline an abortion. You will know what to expect and can be happy with a normal delivery and no surprises.

With today's technology, many women older than you have no trouble successfully carrying and delivering a healthy child. I suggest you find a good doctor with a lot of experience with older women and relax.

awwwww ull be good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yay baby!

Keep your baby, you are not too old to have baby its normal :)

I had 5 friends in highschool that got a new sibling all of a sudden (something in the water I suppose). The babies were always adorable and healthy. Go to the doctor and get yourself and your baby checked out. I'm sure that you'll find everything going beautifully. I definitely think an abortion is the wrong choice for you.

Congratulations! I agree with the others in saying you are not that old. As long as you are in good health and keep all your prenatal appts, you and new baby should be fine!

Apparently you are not to old....and it is very obviously you do not want to abort...eat right...keep active and see a good doctor...don't cry...it is one of the most amazingly wonderful thing to have happened...

Congratulations!!!!!! Keep him/her! Since when is 41 to old? Congratulations again!!!!!

41 is not too old to have a baby. You may have additional risks that a yonger woman wouldn't but a good OB will manage that. If your heart tells you to keep the baby you should.

Relax! Unless your doc gives you a reason that you arent in great health to have a baby you have no cause to fret. My aunt is 44 and she's due any day now. Women of all ages are having babies these days. It's okay. I'm sure you're going to be just fine! Congrats!

my mother had her fifth child at 40 years old, you should do what your heart tells you.

If you want to keep the baby, then make sure and take care of yourself while your are pregnant and keep the baby. Autonomy is the greatest gift of all. You already made up your mind. so be happy and keep the baby. :)

So keep it. Don't let fear rule your life. And please don't let people who abuse statistics frighten you into doing something you don't want to do. Every child is different, and NO child is guaranteed to be a 'health risk'. Do what YOU want to do. Our youngest son is the sweetest of all our kids.

You're not too old to have a baby! You may be in a higher risk group, but that just means you should be extra vigilant about getting good prenatal care and taking care of yourself and the baby. This website has lots of articles and advice. Congratulations!! www.pregnancytoday.com

Suck it up and do the right thing...carry the baby to term and give birth to the child. Every child is a gift from nature. However, if you think this is not feasible....abortion is the next best thing, and quite natural. The worst thing you can do is have the child and put it up for adoption.

I have 2 friends who had their first (and only) children at 40. They were both fine and so were the kids. If you want to keep your baby, then that's what you should do. Just make sure you take care of yourself, you are not too old to have a baby. Congratulations!! :-D

This question was from July...is there an update?

My mum was 40 when she had me ;D Never too old really unless you're in menopause. Thats natures way of saying you're too old.

Keep the surprise that you have been blessed with. You are not to old to have a baby. I know a few women who have had babies who are even older then you.

This is an old question BUT, you're about the same age as my mom was when she got pregnant with me. I'd like to think I turned out OK...

It is a growing trend to have children later in life- Nancy Grace gave birth to healthy twins and she's 50... Sounds like a little miracle- if its not meant to be the body will naturally work things out.

Make sure you have a good obstetrician. Many hospitals have "high risk" pregnancy centers, where you can been seen by OB and neonatologists. They can really do a lot to maximize the chance that both mother and baby will be healthy. I was a high-risk baby. My mother was in her late 20's, but had had 2 miscarriages. She went to a high risk pregnancy center 36 years ago, and the rest is history! Good luck with whatever you decide. :-)

trust your body and keep the baby. you're not that old.

PLEASE keep it!!! I think you'll regret it if you don't. My mom had a baby when she was 43. Congrats!!!

My wife was 43 1/2 when she had our wonderful, beautiful, perfect son. Nothing is certain in life, but you can't live your life from fear.

In your forties the big issue is probably folic acid - see your doctor to discuss a supplement ASAP, just to be safe. There's no reason why you shouldn't keep your baby. CONGRATULATIONS!

There's really no cause to worry but more precaustions than usualy may be aoppropriate. Where are you located? And why are you asking for possible life-or-death advice on AB?

If you really want to have the child then keep it. There is nothing stopping you. There is no reason why an older mother should not have a perfectly healthy child. Just make sure you have plenty of medical supervision. Congratulations. :)

..my mom had a baby at 39..i have a little sister that is 17 years younger than me..you got pregnant..thats step one at showing you your still capable of having a life inside you..go through with it..you won't regret it..stay healthy and think positive

so how r u doing with the pregnancy?

hello, i hear you, talk to your doctor first to see if he /she has anything to tell you in regards to your health,ask all the nessasary questions that are important,listen to what your doctor tells you,then if youre still in the dark ask a priest or a rabbi for the guidance you need.

You go with your gut feeling - you sound like a good person and I think you will do the right thing - you are not too old, my mom had me when she was 40.

You have two on the way. Hope things are going well for you Temptress

Hi, I know we are not living in the days of old and you your not a Bible story. I do know one thing in this life God will help you through any and all probs or test we are going through. I know that sounds like it is from the middle ages, but God is still God we are still people. He dose not leave us we leave Him. Hes always there and just waitting for us to ask for his help. You are looking for a simple answer, and I say to you there is none in the world we live in. We do as people do and then we think later about it. Do we see behind us how it will be for us and do see in front of us what it will be tomarrow for us, NO! We cant see the tomarrow but we can look behind us at what can or will be before it. With that being said you have to live with you and no one els!God sees your deeds bad or good.You can change your future for good or bad for yourself. Most people blame God for the bad things on the erath, If only you would listen to My words, He said!Quite harding your hearts and see what He can do for you!Tomarrow is a big word and today is what will help you see what tomarrow will be like. If it is ok I will say a prayer for you and yours,and for you to make, today the right move for tomarrow? Did you read about the woman that give birth at 65, it was her first and only!My sister give birth to 2 after 40. Shara was almost 100. I know we dont in Bible times.We just have the same GOD as always!His has not changed man has! Living today for tomarrow, A friend

my mother was thirty nine when I was born, and I had a few health problems, but nothing serious, and now I'm fine. a strong healthy twenty year old man. The childs health isn't doomed.

Congratulations! Go for it. My 2 cents.

Have the baby! Don't be worried about health! Life is a gift!

Oh you wrote your question a long time ago.. please don't do anything to harm your baby! Your baby is innocent and is so cute and so lovely.. all babies are so cuddly!! i hope that by now you have done nothing wrong to your baby and that you have accepted the fact that you are going to have a new person in your life. God Bless you and all the people around you. May you find help and lots and lots of support and love.

Stop crying. Keep yor breath a while....chid's coming!

OMG. If you ask a doctor, she may be able to help you determine if you are at risk for problems for you or the baby. Hang in there. This must be terribly emotional, but with the father's support and the doctor's advice, I know you'll be fine.

KEEP THE BABY! IF you decide not to, I WILL ADOPT THE BABY! Seriously. There are several parents out there that want babies and can't have them!

Please Relax Go to you Dr. and know your physical condition. Continue your pregnancy only If your health is fine and your finance is ok If you can undergo this with good emotional balance go for it This is a crucial decision.Its not just about pregnancy but also about the future of another humanbeing.

My mother was 42 when she got me. Both she and me worked out fine. My partners mother was 40. That worked out well also. But since there are more risks, make sure you have a good doctor and that you are under good observation.

sex is what you did so either you pay the consiqences or you have an obortion. if you are talking about adaption then dont do it. my mom was addopted and she did not really want to meet her parents. so do you want your child to die, know you, or not want to meet you? it is your desion and no one can make it up for you.

i know of lots of people in their fourties who have gone on to have pefectly healthy babies. please don't go the abortion route. many women who do end up regretting it later. you can always give your child up for adoption.

if you want to keep it keep it. you're not too old. i'm a preschool teacher and LOTS of parents that come in who are late in life parents. your not alone (and not really old either).keep this baby. you won't regret it!

Your baby is a blessing. With God, all things are possible, keep your baby and enjoy every day of it.

A baby is a blessing from God and even though it will be hard you must keep and raise him/her.

My mom was 40 when I was born (I'm nearing 60 now!) and my good friend was 42 when her son was born eight years ago. Many women have carried a perfectly healthy baby after the miracle age of 39. If you really want to keep the baby, consult with your ob-gyn and explain your fears. They are probably baseless. And congratulations!!

You are not too old! My sister gave birth when she was 40 and had health problems. Her daughter now is a 3-year-old beautiful girl and my sister is really happy!

Friends of mine had their first child when the woman was 41 and they now have three beautiful healthy kids, I wish you all the best whatever decision you make!

Well, i had my first child at 28, then the second at 40 and the third at 41, my kids are now almost 18, 5 and 4. There is no reason at all why your health should be a problem, and 41 is ANYTHING but old in todays world to have a baby.. relax and enjoy!!

ok, if you really want to keep it, then there ya go! Keep it! I think we can pray for you to have a healthy baby. The power of prayer is amazing!

If you really want to keep it then do so. Ask yourself if you'd be able to live with yourself if you terminated a pregnancy that you really didn't want to. ♥

41 is not a problem by itself, but you need especially good pre-natal care and nutrition and a doctor-supervised program of exercise and stretching. Now stop that crying and be thankful for this blessing.

Please please please keep it. Just schedule a C-section and take all the precautions suggested by your doctor.

My mother had 4 after 40 - a lot of women do it - try not to worry it will be fin! But maybe have the tests to put your mind at rest? The only disadvantage of your age is that you will probably feel a bit more tired than a young mum. But think of all the advantages of the extra wisdom and life experience you have had! best of luck x

keep it!

KEEP IT

You said twice that you want to keep the baby, and the other option is unthinkable. It appears you have answered your own question....Now go into the bathroom,shut the door,sit on the toilet and scream.."MAMA,MAMA,MAMA!!!!" Congratulations,why not your fellow AB'ers help you with a name?

this is a very stupid! question, im in my 40s and id give anything to get pregnantbut i cant!abortion is murder and all the abortion doctors will answer to god its a life and should be cherished. god has blessed you witha gift cherish i and by the way youre in your 40s you should use birth control duh

I have friends who would kill to be in your situation (desperate to have a baby in her late 30's). I have another friend who has had two children in her 40's. If you're affraid of having a child with down syndrome - first of all, it's not a guarantee given your age that the child will have problems. Secondly, I have a child who is autistic - and I wouldn't give him up for the world. Not only has he taught me a million life lessons, he has also taught the rest of our family (two older syblings) the same. He is definately a gift from God, and I never, EVER take that gift for granted.

hi,really if your in good health and see your ob gyn often and follow his instructions,i dont see any reason to worry.my brthers wife is your age and had a beautiful girl shes a doll.btw,hes 63 yrs old!

Speak with your doctor - they can more then likely help you through this entire process.

First off... Congratulations. New life a great thing. About your concerns... go see a doctor, if you haven't already. (It sounds like you haven't).

keep the child, you aren't too old, my mom had a child at 60, no problems what so ever

Go to the docs.Don't think anything else.It's not late. Congrats.Happy motherhood.

keep the baby, Don't do the unthinkable. it does not matter how old you are, I'm 23 and having my first my partner is 41.

Yes! keep the baby! it's normal.. you're not too old. And the babies are cute. =]

Go with your heart. Check with your doctor so he can make you feel more assured. My mom gave birth to her last child at the age of 41; my Dad was 47! She was healthy, happy, welcomed, loved and well-adjusted. My aunt gave birth to her last baby when she was 46. Just because you are older than the typical woman giving birth, does not mean it will be a horror or something will be wrong. Good Luck and God Bless.

Keep it then, yeah, you just answered your own question, if you want it keep it, if you don't then get it sucked out, or do a postmortem abortion -Bud Greenly

Keep it. Older women have babies everyday !! See your Dr ...take good care of yourself

Keep the child as it is life. We all need the blessing of life! Smile!!