• I'd think the former, because you have to make the first move.
  • It is harder for me to apologize to someone I disliked, but I have done it and became good friends with them
  • For me it's harder to apologize to someone I dislike. Not because I dislike them, but just because the apology implies that I was wrong. I hate being wrong. It's one of my bigger character flaws, but I can't get over it. I've gotten better, though, I do admit when I'm wrong (but I still hate it)
  • So far, I seem to be the odd ball on this question, because I tend not to be so accepting of an apology from someone I dislike. There are not many folks I dislike, but if I dislike them I don't value their opinions as much and could care less about their feelings. which is why I would also not trust that they were sorry to begin with.
  • Probably someone I disliked, because this symbolically, even if it might not be true, signifies that you bow down to them and admit defeat, even if you know you were completely wrong. I'd actually enjoy an apology from someone I didn't like, because it would mean the same to them, no matter if they're being insincere about it. It's like, if they're hurt and feel the need to apologize, this only confirms and justifies why I don't like them. It all depends on how or why you dislike someone obviously and what they did or what you did, but really I'm stupid and childish that way. That's hypothetically speaking. Apologies in words don't mean a thing to me, as don't most people anyway. I always apologize to everyone for the most minor things, but when I did something really bad that would really warrant an apology, I never do. Probably because I'm aware that begging for forgiveness is not enough. So actually I don't know. Ask me that again tomorrow and I'll probably give a completely different answer. What is the meaning of apologizing anyway? To make yourself feel better, or because you sympathize with what you did wrong and how it affected the other person? Never mind that it's someone you like or dislike, the entire thing is so confusing to me.
  • Absolutely, both! I don't want to be around someone I dislike.
  • Apologize to someone that I dislike would definitely be harder. I'd be putting myself in a compromising position, and it's always a little embarassing for me to reveal that I was in the wrong, however it may have come about... worse to someone I don't like. I'd be P.O.'d about it all day. I'd apologize in a passive-aggresive way anyway, though. On the contrary, I'd enjoy it if someone I dislike gave me an apology. How gratifying it would feel for them to admit they're wrong. I'd probably make them grovel a bit, if that were in my power. :)
  • I would have to say both are about equal.. because if I dislike someone, I will not say anything to them nor will I listen to anything they have to say. The bottom line.. if we arrive at the point that we dislike each other, then what is the point of saying anything at all?
  • Definitely harder for me to apologize to someone I disliked...unless what I was apologizing for is something that is fact and proveble. Then I could easily apologize for being misinformed. It would be completely different if it the apology was more "social" in participating in a disagreement with them or something. If someone apologized to me first, then I would probably warm to them a little too.
  • Whatever from someone I dislike, but if necessary it must be done. Self discipline and justice must intervene.
  • It's harder for me to accept an apology from someone I dislike, especially when I feel that person isn't being sincere. I've never really had trouble with apologizing from what I can remember.
  • For me, the latter. ;-)

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