ANSWERS: 40
  • Yes, once as a 'revenge' f_ck
  • Yes I was young and unhappy and I lacked the nerve to tell them the truth.
  • I have never cheated on a partner, ever.
  • Yes, I was totally and utterly unsatisfied. He was a lier and everything about him started to turn me off. I told him and he refused to leave, SOOOOO..
  • In my younger years I have cheated unfortunately. I never felt bad before doing it, never during and never after until I was caught. Back then nothing was taken seriously not to mention guys and girls passed each other around like school pencils. Now, since I have been cheated on and many years have passed, I look back at how selfish I was. I could have just stayed single and slept with whoever I wanted without involving someone feelings but my selfishness wouldn't allow for that. Today - I'm here to say I would leave the person before I cheated on them, even if they cheated on me I would end the relationship first. Cheating on someone doesn't do either partner any good - with all the diseases out there now - It may even kill them.
  • Can't say I ever did, I was never in one place long enough to actually hold to a GF as to have such a situation present it's self.
  • I have always been the one cheated on..never the cheater :)
  • No. The closest I every came to cheating was when I was on a double date. The girl who was in the back seat with my best friend was mad about me, and the feeling was mutual. It was just circumstance/juggling relationships that I was on a date with the girl in the front seat with me. I had every intention of being with the girl who was on the double as my friends date. I was very enamored with her and we had a date for the next Saturday night. During this double-date we were leaving the parking lot of the dance in my car and I saw my sister and her husband. I rolled down the window and talked to my sister. She asked if we wanted to come to a dance with them at Kickers Palace in Poteet the next Saturday. Without thinking I turned to Sarah, my date, in the front seat and asked if she wanted to, she said "sure", so I turned to my sister and said, "ok, sure, let's do it". Immediately I realized what I had done. The girl I was smitten with was in the back seat with my friend. She was devastated. I made a point to drop off Sarah first, then my friend (he understood what I needed to do), so we and I were alone. I could not apologize enough, I was so sincerely sorry, but it was too late, she was very deeply hurt. She cried like I have seldom seen anyone cry before. I tried for 2 years to make it up. It seems like a small thing when you think about it but she never got over it. We dated, we had a relationship most of that time but she told me all along that she could never get over it, and she never did. (Side note- the last I heard and it was about 10 years ago she is on her 5th marriage) I do not know if any of this has any bearing, just a note.
  • Because I got tired of him cheating & lying so I decided to play him at his own game then I kicked him out. Worked for a while but you can't change the ol leopard in them so I guess its time for me to change again this time for good!
  • I have never cheated but I have been cheated on but mostly because my ex bfs were lying scumbags who deserve any STDs they get from screwing everything they can.
  • Yes. I had a job where it was too easy to cheat. I was young and they were hot. What can I say?
  • I would never cheat. If someone ever did with me they wouldnt get a second chance. I have no time for cheaters, they can learn from their mistake with someone else.
  • Yes, I have. I would like to say it was because my husband was so emotionally dependant on me I couldnt stand it anymore. (I had told him that I couldnt take being his emotional guardian anymore and found him in a fetal position in the backyard 10 minutes later.) I would like to say we had grown apart. I would like to say we never got along. I would like to say its because we always argued. I would like to say all those things that were wrong with our marriage. But the real truth, I think, is that the man I cheated with had been chasing me hard (no pun intended) for about 6 months. He was calling me 10 times a day. He made me feel sexy, smart, wonderful. I had other men chase me before but no one as much as this guy. He was relentless. I wish I could have made him leave before I did it. I had tried to leave him 3 times before it happened. He would go to the nut house and they would call me and tell me I had to take him back. I should of just said no. The day I cheated I left for good anyways. I couldnt be married and do that. I wish I had been strong enough to leave before it happened. The good thing is we have been very happily married for 10 years, he has learned the meaning of monogamous (no I am not fooling myself) and my ex is very happy with his new wife too.
  • Nope. I'm happy to say I always kept the little man in my pants.:-)
  • Cheating is a matter of not letting someone go before you engage into another relationship---so do it on purpose when they are unhappy. And they can be w/ the partner or something in thier life. Also some cheat just b/c of opportunity.
  • twice.. one time after my girlfriend didn't talk to me for 3 days, didn't return my calls or anything.. so I had sex with one girl that was flirting with me, I had no intreset in her.. but I was angry, sad and heartbroken.. they day after I sent sms to my "girlfriend"... "could we atleast be friends and have dinner sometime?" she replied within seconds "friends?".. apparently we had a relationship.. second time 2 bottles of wine, lonely and horny with a girl that was more then willing.. my girlfriend, had a boyfriend, so I was singel but I knew she loved me, and I love her.. had sex with another girl and it feelt like cheating even if.. we not together yet.
  • cheated recently, ever since the next day have felt sick and disgusted with myself for letting myself do that to one person it ruely care about. having a few drinks with people and somehow drinking soo much i would act soo incredibly stupid is what im soo ashamed about... thing girl is the best thing in my life to date and look what i have done to her. i have no real reason why it happened, it just did.
  • i would always have forgotten about the person, or they had no value to me.. if they did, you just sort of loose yourself at times. and i guess i did.
  • Because I was young, reckless, attractive, sexually charged, and becaues the guy I was cheating on had assaulted me and I just hadn't gotten up the courage to leave him yet.
  • At the beginning of the relationship, I made it a point to tell him that I'd like an open relationship. (Yeah, you can tell that I wasn't too serious about him.) He simply forgot.
  • ive never cheated
  • in the past i have cheated because i felt neglected by my partner. so i sought the attention of another man, it was stupid on my part, back then i didn't know how to communicate very well. now if i'm not getting what i want then i just leave!!
  • I was in a really unhealthy and abusive relationship. He'd cheated on me before and I just felt really miserable and lonely. I had a close friend who I had feelings for. After that boyfriend left me for another girl, I started to see someone else and was actually about to have my first healthy and happy relationship, but then my ex came back to me. He was stalking me and insisting that we must get back together. He threatened and called the new guy I was seeing, so I told my ex that I was no longer seeing the new guy, but then my ex insisted that I should sleep with him and try and get back together. He wouldn't stop until I gave in. Now I'm finally getting rid of my ex, and I feel terrible that I had to do that to a perfectly good relationship. Now I either have to confess to my boyfriend, and risk losing him, or not tell him. I feel that I did what I could not to cheat on my boyfriend, but my ex was very controlling and intimidating. I know that after getting my ex out of my life I would never cheat on my boyfriend again. EVER.
  • Opportunity, attractive guy, thought I could get away with it, selfish on my part. Many reason why people cheat.
  • I was cheated on. She said I shutdown after my Brother Died and I was not there emotionally for her. She said she just kissed the guy, but I know she is still seeing them. She said "I didn't plan on it; it just happened" I just don't understand why people cheat. I mean why don't they communicate with you that they are having problems and why do they hide it when you know they have/are cheating(ed)?:) Thank you:)
  • I cheated on my ex girlfriend probably in the neighborhood of ~20 times. No I'm not proud. I was a little shit back in high school, and she'll never forgive me...but I sure learned my lesson. Since the last time I cheated which was years ago, I will never do it again. I finally got a taste of what I had done...I had no idea what it felt like...I apologized to her every day for years, but she never got over it. What good is an honest cheater? I think I would have been better of having no conscience and lying.
  • hotter girl, but realized it was a really really bad and dumb thing too do because i lost the best girlfriend i ever had.
  • I cheated because my ex didn't give me access to certain information within the first three months of the relationship. He wouldn't say how much he had in assets, he wouldn't disclose his e-mail password. He said it's way too early to disclose anything that personal, especially since we were talking everyday. He just said that his actions should be more then enough to prove to me that he's trustworthy. So I ended up cheating on him with some guys at the clubs, and with a friend of mines. After he gave me a mouth full, I never heard from him again.
  • I have cheated more than 10 times in the 13 years of marriage, i can't explain why i do it i just do. I am getting help though and my husband has forgiven me ,but most of our marriage is a lie and he doesn't want me to leave because of the children.
  • He didnt love me anyway.
  • Selfishness, same as everyone.
  • I am 20 and have been with my bf for six months. From the beggining it was pretty rocky. He strung me along and i suppose he was testing me to see if i was worthy. I had trouble trusting and looked for reasons to support my theory that he didnt really care about me and surprise found a few. There were dodgy texts and comments from people i didnt know warning me about him. I didnt say anything because i was weak and didnt want to loose him i was crazy about him. This messed with my head and one night i got horrendously drunk. Everything built up, the hurt and resentment and i cheated. There is absloutely no excuse. I did it because i couldnt face what was going on, i was weak. I truly believed he was going to break up with me anyway. I have never cheated. It meant nothing to me and the whole time i thought of him. All it did was make me love him more. I realised that i was going to have to stop being insecure and grow up. I decided that if he said he was with me he must be and i was going to put all my trust into him (something i have never done) and spend the rest of however long it lasts putting my all into the relationship. Strangely now much later things are perfect between us. I decided not to tell him because i know how much it will hurt him. He is unforgiving. Everyday I feel overwhelmed with guilt and disgust at what i did. I figure its good though becuase it reminds me how much i love him and how much i deeply regret my actions. If anyone should feel like shit and suffer its me not him it was my action. The guilt will never go away. I am completely loyal to him in everyway now. I always felt this way but jelousy and an immature way of handling things made me act the opposite. I have learnt alot about myself and relationships. I have changed alot. But sadly it has stemmed from a wretched act. I dont know if ive made the right decision by not telling but our past of playing games and hurting each other is over and i just want us to go further and to work.
  • Boredom, looking for new experience; Paris Review Summer, 2009 Gay Talese on infidelity. "Here's what people don't get. Sex is not that important. It isn't the most important thing in any relationship. Marriage is never about sex, and yet in American fiction so many stories and novels present a sexual dalliance ans an unpardonable sin. (In real life) I never thought that should be true. Marriage is the main event. These other relationships bring me into worlds I would otherwise not know. These relationships have helped our marriage. ..I think of all these people who get divorced over minor matters...I don't see how people can live in conventional marriages. " Gay Talese has a fifty year marriage with a very accomplished,independent and fiscally successful wife.
  • Nope, and I hope I never will or want to. =]
  • I didn't cheat because of the e-mail password, but because I didn't feel that he was the right one for me. I told him that he never accomplished anything and that he wasn't what I wanted out of a person. So I ended up meeting someone else. The e-mail password is just to keep tabs on him to see that he isn't messing around or anything. He told me he has not yet I still like to keep tabs on my boyfriends in case.
  • Yes, he was locked up for a year.
  • I was hurt by something terrible that happened to me months prior. I felt out of control of my life for months after that sad situation I had experienced. Unfortunately, my grief and pain caused me to want to destruct myself, my relationship, and my boyfriend's love for me. I will never cheat again, and I know I deserve nothing more than to live in loneliness.
  • i cheated because i had liked the guy before the person i was with.. i felt horrible and really guilty. i later found out that i was cheated on too. we both cheated on each other a lot of the time. we were young also i was 16, she was 18 and we were together 3 1/2 years it was the case study on what NOT to do in a relationship
  • Greed. Had a lot, wanted more. Knew I could get away with it, so I did it.

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