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  • That's up to you two! It's NOBODY ELSE'S business! Good luck! :D
  • Sure. To put it bluntly, just remember that when you're his age, he'll probably be dead.
  • You might want to ask yourself what a man 30 years older than you has in common with you. Is it personality compatibility and the same desires for the future or is it that he's looking for a younger woman? Romance can surprise anyone at any time, but a person largely through their life and a person just starting out don't often make for long-term successes. Good luck to you.
  • As long as you love each other, it's not really anyone else's job to judge you or your relationship.
  • Is it okay with you? Are you having second thoughts? Will you be okay when he's a senior citizen in five years and you're a sprite, young 25? If you feel uncertain, take a step back and really look at what kind of relationship you'll have with this individual. It's really up to you to judge if it's okay.
  • Actually, it sounds kind of strange. Sorry, but that is my view.
  • If ya'll are happy, it's okay... :)
  • no its not okay. As my mother would say, "It's just not right Sara!"
  • Sounds like you're looking for a father figure and not a lover
  • I mean are you asking relationship wise? I think if you feel comfortable with it its your business... you're grown...young, but grown.
  • Cant have that much in common for a start surely? Im only 22 & I dont even know what im doing yet. Even raising the question shows your subconsious feeling about the subject
  • How ya'll look at it is what REALLY matters. My best to you both.
  • It's fine. You're both legal, which is important, but you both most likely have some serious issues that you may want to address in therapy before you make any long term commitments. JMO ****EDIT******* Emphasis on the "get therapy!"
  • Depends does he listen to alot of Michael Jackson?
  • You really shouldn't be concerned about how old your father is... wait... he's not your father, he's your lover?
  • Very few details given. But IMO, it's okay if he's a little bit younger than your parents.
  • Well its legal but I personaly think its a little odd.....Im 18 and I like someone whos a few days short of 23 and even that seems like a lot.... but if thats what you want good luck.
  • I'm 25, my bf is 43. We are incredibly in love. Although I am physically young, I feel that I have had a lot of experience with relationships and I've never had the desire to have anything completely serious until now. It IS possible to have a lot in common. Me and my bf like the same music, we have the same sense of humor, etc. And the fact that he's lived longer only makes it cooler cause he has introduced me to a lot of cool stuff I never knew about :) And the funny thing is he's my only boyfriend that ISN'T a complete pervert!! lol If he's a good person, that's what's important.
  • it's OK with me. but bear in mind that if it develops into anything he'll be 70 when you're 40.
  • It's not OK if one of you is misleading the other. There are many old men who want to think they can win over a young lithe person, while there are yonger people who think they are dangerous and impressive getting involved with someone much older. I wouldn't encourage it, because although physical and emotional maturity is more sexy than all these immature young people you meet these days, I think it's better to wait until you meet someone a bit younger who agrees with you. But it's up to you, really.
  • thats fine as long as you love each other and you are both ok with it nothing else should matter go for it and be happy
  • eh.... questionable.
  • I think it seems odd because I don't understand what a 50 year old and a 20 year old really have in common, their passions in life, their goals for the future, their values are. I'm 52 and I just think it's odd and don't feel it makes for a good lasting foundation.
  • I don't think it is OK. A few years from now you will be very sexually incompatible. I can't see that kind of marriage lasting for many years to come.
  • 1 yr ago iw ould have said yes.my bf is 35 and i am 22. it sounds weird but we have a lot of the same interests. all my friends knowhim and love him. he treats me better than any guy my own age ever has. IF IT MAKES YOU HAPPY
  • age isnt the factor in anything... its mainly how well you 2 get together
  • if you are both happy---yes, that's fine.
  • well, that is completely up to you. But IMO i think it's weird & you need to think things over again. you have your full life ahead of you, while he's over his youthful years
  • For most people, the answer would be no. However, this really depends on how compatible the two of you are. I know people who are happily married with a ten or twenty year age difference. I don't think I know anyone with a 30 year gap, though. There are going to be some difficulties you wouldn't run into if you were with someone your own age: Generation gap: do you talk and think about the same things? do you have similar views on marriage, religion, money, politics? In ten years: will you mind if he can't keep up with you sexually? if you have kids, will he have the stamina to help you raise them right? if he starts being unable to take care of himself, will you be able to stand being his caretaker? If these basic questions don't send you screaming after some careful thought, I say: "Go for it!" In the past, such marriages/relationships were very very common.
  • age is just a number and my coworker said it ok only if his bank account is big and he is in poor health
  • what do you think if she was 50, and he was 20? anyway you have to get out of bed sometime-dont you?
  • I know a now 46 y/o woman and a 78 y/o man they married when she was 19 and he was 50 and now she's having problems in her intimacy because he don't get no erections so this could be a problem for you or if you don't mind go ahead
  • Don't listen to anyone who tells you it won't work... they will only be right if you take what they think into consideration. Do what you KNOW it right...
  • I am 51 and my husband is 79 he will be 80 on May 1, and we have been happy married for 21 years this Apri 30. Love has no age limit.
  • Hi, VERY extreme Questions ahead!!!!!!!!!!!!!Do you love him, or are you just after a lonely man's money? Does he love you, or are you his trophy? Two big questions, answer those honestly, and you will know!
  • My fiance is 17 years older than me, and we plan on getting married. I'm happy, you just have to do whats right for you and nobody else.
  • The age of your dad? No, it is about right. ;)
  • Sure, but if he outlives you, you can't say I didn't warn you.
  • OK for him! lucky old sod!
  • It's a bit much. :(
  • Yes, but remember this........... When your child turns 21, your husband or boyfriend, will be 71. Did this shock you? If not, go for it.
  • as long as you love him and ye can make love there should be no problem
  • As long as you're both adults, I don't see why not.
  • if you think your love is true why not just remember that is gettin old and by the time you decid you might want a baby imagine how old he will e compared to you
  • it doesnt sound to ok, in 20 years, he could be dead, and you'll only be 40
  • Strange even desperate comes to mind. But if your happy enjoy.
  • Ok, so, like, does he have money or something?
  • As long as you're ok with it, it's ok.
  • Well. Do you think it's okay? It's too much of an age difference for me, personally... And if you have to ask, maybe it's too much for you too. If you love him, age won't matter.
  • he is 50? he is also lucky. i think it is ok as long as you spend enough time to make sure he is right for you and not just a phase. and i hope his heart is in good shape. my cousin was engaged to someone 30 years older and he had a heart attack during sex. Posting Comment...
  • If you love him age wont matter...then again if you want something bad enough nothing matters, even if it's the wrong descision. Time is the true test of our descisions.
  • If he's rich...you go girl. That's the American lottery.
  • IMHO it might be fine now but 20 years from now not so good! I'm sorry if that was rude. Just see where it goes & how you feel down the road. Your very young & have a whole life a head of you. No reason to lock yourself into a 4-ever relationship now. :o)
  • As long as you 2 are happy, then it's no one else's business. The man I date is 55 and I am 27. We are very happy together.
  • thats nasty hes an old fart
  • Technically it's ok, just unwise on your part. When you're 30 he'll be 60. When you're 40 he'll be 70. Think about it.
  • viagra. all i can say
  • I don't think that this age gap is acceptable it makes me shiver. I could never imagine wanting to jump into bed with someone 30 years older than me. You are only young and there is so much for you to experience. I went out with someone who was 14 years older than me, and in the end he just bored me, he really bored me!! He didn't want to have fun any more his idea of a great night out was sitting down his local his work mates. Please wait for someone closer to your age i wouldn't want you to get stuck in a rut like i did and end up getting hurt.
  • slam away
  • no one cares.
  • It doesnt make sence to say no if your in love and most people are going to do what they want anyway. So what ever floats your boat , Just keep in mind he isnt going to keep up for very long before you get bored with him
  • If you don't mind old age creeping up on you. lol
  • sounds like your father substitute?
  • If you two really lve each ther then I think it is most definitely okay. Who cares about your age? All that matters is that you two are truly in love.
  • I'm 53 and I wouldn't have any problem with it. Ask "Kat" for her opinion.
  • everything is fair in love and war...!!!
  • I would say no. I'm sorry.
  • Seriously? Well.. Lets see here. What do YOU think?
  • I guess your into Daddy's..stay away from that, he is old and his body is falling apart..you'll be cheating on him within a month..What the hell could you have in common..
  • damn!!!!!!! you seriously have got to stop your realationship... this guy is old enough to be your grandfather
  • If it's ok with you, then it is ok with me.
  • Well that is old enough to be your father...In my opinion that is way too much of an age gap...but that is only my opinion!
  • If it's okay with you and it's okayh with him, then it's all fine.
  • Sure. Love is blind and age makes no difference. I would not have children. He will not be around to see them graduate.
  • 30 years wow, I think he is to old for u sorry my opionion.
  • your both over eighteen..if your happy then its more than ok..and if your ok with this then its ok..lol..you and him are the only ones whose opinions matter..its your relationship
  • If you are happy together, then yes its ok.
  • its pretty common. he has the bucks. he devorced his wife for the younger crowd. he is fearfull of getting older. its all about male menopause. go for it. have fun. if he gives you cash. SAVE IT! you will need it later.
  • I'm sorry the age difference is way too much. Your going to want to go out and hes going to want to stay in.
  • For him:)
  • Sounds great-for him.
  • dude, lucky man.
  • It's not how we feel about it, it's how you and your parents and family feel. How much flak are you catching? Are YOU having serious doubts? Is it serious stuff, or just someone to play lovers with? IF you and him are comfortable with it. Go for it and enjoy, I wish you a long happy relationship. When I was around 22-3 I worked with a guy about my age that married an old woman of 70. It was very obvious they were both deeply in love with each other. I left the area not long after that, so have no idea how long it lasted, how long she lived or much else. I do know they were very happy and she bought him a new Riviera and some nice toys. But, it wasn't all her money that made Mike happy either. I wish you the best,
  • I would say no, but those are my own personal values. If you're cool with it and your family is cool with it and you really love the guy, go for it. You're out of high school, age doesn't matter anymore. Make yourself happy; you're the one that has to live with the choices you make.
  • That is totally up to you. I couldn't do it because one day you'll be 30 and he will be 60. You'll still be energetic he will be slowing down and almost ready to retire.
  • Ummm how about Hell NO!! well that's my opion. Unless you want him for his $$$$$ LOL then that makes you a gold digger, but hey it's your life and if you think his going to make you REALLY HAPPY then go for it :)
  • if you're asking this question.. don't you think you're doubtin already?
  • You both are of legal age. So, wtf do I care.
  • Depends on what type of relationship it is. If its marriage, make sure you are the benificiary on ALL the life insurance policies.
  • I'm sure it's plenty ok for him....
  • yes it's ok if it's your father you are talking about...your best friend...not your best life partner...
  • Forgot about Old Woody I worked with. He was mid 60's and single, the rest of us were 20 or around that. He made a trip to Hawaii to see his son in the Navy. Damned if he didn't ome back married to a nice looking Hawaian girl about 35. Just a few months he told us he'd gotten her pregnant. Of course we all jived no end. NFW Woody, she's been playing while you work. Until he was nearly convinced we might be right. Woody was a tall skinny guy with a huge nose, turkey neck. Different looking dude all the way around. When she had the baby, my wife and I went to the hosp to see them as the gals had become friends too. Oh man, that baby matched him in looks so much it was shocking. Overly tall, long neck and it's nose was big already at two days old. No denying it was his. They were happy, no of our business. So don't discount the older folks just because of age. That was in the mid 60's then.
  • That's very low IQ's for both of you, so no it's not ok... should go back to school :)
  • Kilograms?
  • what ever tickles your fancy i suppose.. and i thought eight years was bad..! Just tell me is it weird going out with someone older or the same age as your dad..
  • If he is rich, SURE!
  • yes, if you really love him
  • juuuuust stop. back away. find someone at least with at least 10 years of your age for cryin out loud. zoom out. look at the big picture. is this the best situation you could possibly be in? no its not.
  • I don't think, couples like these would last long.. Are you sure, you know Him/Her 100%?

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