ANSWERS: 100
  • After the first cheat, I would be carrying his balls in my pocket.
  • o you lose all trust after the first time at least I did anyway. That's why I divorced her.
  • 0.00. As they say in HR, that person would be "managed out".
  • People talk about cheating like it's something that just happens, like leaving the toilet seat up or burning dinner. It's a major deal and serious reflection on a person's character. It should not be "tolerated." I can understand forgiving it, depending on the circumstances, but if it's a routine event then the relationship is already dead.
  • Once. People are human and make mistakes. But a second time? Probably not. Relationships can be tough, anyway, but they're impossible without trust. I would see cheating as a sign that something in the relationship was broken and try to work with my partner on a fix. Maybe that's impossible, maybe not. But I wouldn't throw the relationship away without at least trying to get things back on track. No way. That's just not my nature.
  • Well i'd probably tolerate the first time maybe, the second time? no way. I think it's possible for people to make mistakes, but one time is more than enough. It's totally disrepectful and it removes any trust that was built up in a relationship.
  • I have zero tolerance for cheating. :)
  • The vows are pretty clear and I know he heard them because he had to repeat them so ....zero times.
  • 0..zilch..nada..bub bye.
  • If you can put yourself in the other person's shoes and feel the pain, It usually helps end the train of thought that leads to infidelity. If breaking your vows and the hearts of your spouse ,your children's and God's doesn't concern you .You are already on a Self centered path of destruction. Unless there is CLEAR signs of a complete change of heart and Lifestyle I would not see the point. I would be in Damage control mode protecting my self & children from any more suffering.
  • Everyone has their own tolerance level. Depending on how smart you are (you know they wont change and dont respect you if they continue to do it) ands how much you respect yourself (how many times are you going to let someone you care about crap all over you) you will make the right decision.
  • I would not tolerate it once. I tried in the first marriage, and ended up feeling vile and used. If my new love cheated on me, I would forgive her, I would be her friend, but I would not be her husband. Life is too short.
  • ZERO. None. Nada. Zilch. Cheating is a deal-breaker for me. And, that's clearly defined at the very beginning of any relationship. Cheating is lying. Cheating is dishonest. If you can't have complete honesty in your relationship, it's worth nothing.
  • I hate the word cheating -- cheating is really being dishonest to yourself and your partner, and taking the easy way out of a difficult situation. The fact is, cheating wouldn't occur if there weren't already problems in the relationship -- it's just that nobody is talking about the problems. So my answer is once -- that's the red flag that tells you there's a big problem. If both partners don't fix the problem, with visible results soon -- I think it's time to bail out of the relationship, because it takes two to fix a relationship, one person can't do it by themself.
  • ZERO!!
  • I think it must take a special kind of person to give more than zero chances. I just don't think I could.
  • i don't know if i like the word "tolerate".... i know a man who has cheated on his wife on multiple occasions and she has chosen to stay with him, this is her decision and it really is none of my business. i think you need to look at the circumstances surrounding the infidelity... there can be numerous reasons or it was just a temporary lapse of reason... in any event, i would like a chance to be redeemed if it was me, whether it would be extended would depend a lot of my attitude i suppose.
  • It would depend on my relationship with the person and the reason as to why they cheated. But generally, once (if I really like the person).
  • Come on ... why would you "tolerate" cheating? ZERO!!! Is the best answer.
  • Never! Because if someone cheats once they WILL EVENTUALLY CHEAT AGAIN AND YOU WILL EVENTUALLY TRY TO TOLEARATE IT AGAIN! and thats not healthy.
  • Complicated question. Each case could be different and the response different as well. Surviving cheating can happen if you determine that the family unit is more important than figuring out how to "trust" him or her again. When trust is breached the relationship can never be truly "open" again. You can maintain other facets of your life, family and security by placing the importance on them rather than on a "hope" of the return of the impossible. In a nutshell you can survive it if you learn to love and care less, not more.
  • I used to say once..twice...and you don't get a third. Now it's ZERO. I'm tired of the heartache.
  • Zero :)
  • Absolutely Zero. He should break up with me, if he doesnt want to be with me.
  • Zero times.
  • Depends if the cheating were emotional or physical. Emotional: 0 Physical: Depends if they're remorseful.
  • NEVER EVER EVER
  • myself cheating or my partner?
  • Absolutely ZERO!
  • Ideally, zero of course. But unfortunately, we live in an imperfect world, so I would tend to be more tolerant. I think I could tolerate one instance, but no more. It depends on the situation though.
  • Oh I would say 7 or 8 (as long as it went both ways) just kidding - It depends on the case.
  • Zero. I'm too old for that shit.
  • none!!
  • I don't think I could ever tolerate cheating, you can forgive but you would never forget and your relationship would never be the same. So I would say zero, you both deserve to be with someone who doesnt cheat on you, and doesnt make you want to cheat.
  • ZERO!!!
  • zero - once a cheater always a cheater
  • i have tolerated it once...i really hope it doesn't ever happen again or i a gone
  • none..Zip..zelich..nada.
  • None. You cheat, you're gone.
  • 0. Not because I'm an unforgiving person, just because I'd be unable to touch the person ever again if I found out.
  • once other then that they would be gone!
  • It depends on what you define as "cheating". All of it makes me cringe, but I don't think I'd mind if my partner kissed or caressed a guy. I'd prefer he do it in my presence, though. (Wow, that makes me feel like such a perv!)
  • maybe once..nothing more.
  • I don't know and have not ever been confronted with that, but I don't think I want to deal with it. I would wonder if it was going on all the time etc
  • Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. If I am not good enough the first time I would never be good enough. Been on that band wagon and fell off a dozen times. NEVER take a cheater back, it would only cost you heartache. Shame on you if you fool me once... So NO! I would NEVER take a cheater back!
  • I tolerated it for eight years and I'll never do it again.
  • None, there is no excuss for it if he feels the need to cheat then he should be with that other woman because i dont want him.
  • None at all.
  • It just happened to me. Thinking of tolerating it once. But it just hurts so much that I don't know if I can do it. I don't think she would tolerate it from me honestly knowing her. Why should I? Would I be the "stronger person" ? or the "bigger fool" ?
  • yeah, i dont think i could tolerate even happing once. it would hurt a lot and everytime i'd look at him... i'd wanna kill him, so it wouldnt work.
  • When you love a person the natural thing is to want to work things out. But as much as the heart will try, the mind knows something is wrong. It's like a war within yourself. I honestly tried to turn the other cheek but it ate me up inside. So I had to let him go. Couldn't wait for the second time. Honestly the hurt that cheating causes is devastating. It just isn't healthy to stay in that kind of situation.
  • once and only once
  • I don't tolerate cheating at all. If you cheated on me, I don't talk to you anymore. It's that simple. There is no excuse for cheating.
  • Zero times, I believe once a cheat always a cheat, if he cheated his butt would be history for good.
  • Once and ONLY once (one one-night-stand, or one person - MAYBE over time), and I'd MUCH prefer zero.
  • zero zero zero zero!
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  • I would like to say none,but i have tolerated it once im quite soft so would probally tollerate it twice if i love some one!
  • Once, but she would have to regain my trust. But only time will tell if the wounds would heal.
  • There are many circumstance in life that may be used as an excuse for stepping beyond the vows of marriage. Each excuse is a justification for the individual to step out. The problem does not exist within the spouse who is following the vows, but within the individual who stepped out. Can we judge another person by what we would do? Do you truly know what is going on within another person? Low self esteem, drug use, alcoholism, resentments; each are used on countless occassions as justification. Yes, stepping out of the vows of marriage is a sign that something is wrong. Yes, there is much guilt, blame, resentment on both sides of the marriage. Does this justify breaking the vows by ending the marriage? There are studies that show that even those that leave will end up with the same kind of person the next time. Why not stay and resolve the issues within each other and make better people out of both parties? An individual is only responsible for their own actions. Where is the individual perfect enough to judge anothers action? Where is the individual without issues, faults? Only where there is spiritual growth will there be forgiveness, trust, and a healthy relationship. Not perfection but progress to a better life.
  • i don't tolerate cheating. once they cheat, it's over for good.
  • i dont but if I were married with kids and it happened one time then I would probably still try to work it out....only one time though
  • I would say zero. But it depends on the cheating. A kiss is alot diffrent then having sex with someone. It all depends but i'd have to say zero
  • One time, and one time only...they have a tendancy to "test the water". BUT you have to make it known after a first indescretion that if it happens again it is done.
  • once... i was once one of those people who replied that they'd never tolerate a cheating relationship.. however, saying it much harder than actually following through with it.. i've given him another chance, if he takes it for granted, then i'm kicking him to the curb. everyone deserves a second chance depending on the circumstances.
  • I couldn't tolerate it once. I would be entirely too worried they would do it again to try to take them back. I've been told that if you let that mess up your relationship, it means you weren't really in love to begin with. But I think if someone loves you, they wouldn't want to "test the waters."
  • I am with someone who cheated on my TWICE. I know right? Your probably wondering "the hell is with this dumbass girl?" but there were a few instances in our lives where I can understand why he did it. The first time was during high school..I delt with it hard, and moved on. I had trust issues with him for awhile because of his drinking. He drank... ALOT! The second time was during his sophmore year of college and I called off our relationship for a good week. He blacked out from drinking and ended up sleeping with a girl. He went to his parents for help, got himself in to AA treatment, vowed to never drink again and has not touched alcohol in 7 months. The reason for his infedility? the alcohol. Now that it's gone I'm treated so much better and in a more passionate way than I was before girl number 1. So how many times have I tolerated cheating? Twice. Again, it depends on the situation of the incident. How did I manage to conintue the relationship I was currently in? Forgiveness and ruling out the problem that triggered those "incidents" : alcohol.
  • You get one warning.
  • In my current relationship? ZERO. I've been cheated on too often, and let it slide, and had it happen again.... and again and again.... Enoughs enough. No more. Nobody deserves this to happen to them. If you care so little for someone, that you would actually cheat, you don't deserve a second chance.
  • Probably a few times, I’m forgiving, and she better be too when I’m doing the same.
  • Once...maybe...
  • Not even once. I may be tolerant, but cheating is no mistake: it is a deliberate action.
  • i would never ever ever get back with someone if they cheated on me, because once a cheater always a cheater an there would never be any trust from me for the person so it would deffinitly not work out for me
  • once, a mistake.. second,a habit.. third, it becomes a weakness... so its for you to decide how long would you tolerate.. i would tolerate just once.. but not again..
  • Maybe once...but i think sooner or later the relationship will soon fall apart it will start to feel fake. Things just wouldnt be the same everytime you go to make love it would be painful because always in the back of your mind you have that painful feeling that another person had what you had, what you still have...so it would just be fake itself it wouldnt feel real....so i don't think i could im not sure but you know what they say once a bad habbit always a bad habbit so don't look suprize if he or she does it again :(
  • i forgave my ex for cheating on me with one person..."he was soooo sorry"...little did i know there was 8 others...i dont give second chances anymore...tho i havent had to. my husband wont go to his moms or the store without me and when i got a job he insisted i work at the same place as him...no room for him cheating...lol...he's to obsesed with me
  • 0. Not becuase I don't love him enough, but becasue I'm honest enough to know that I would hate him and punish him for the rest of his life. And I actually love him enough to let him go and not do that to him. I'm a jealous, passionate person. I'm not changing anytime soon.
  • If they cheated one me once i would break up with them. If someone says they love me and could cheat on me i think that proves they dont know anything about love.
  • I was always a firm believer in no chances, even a kiss and it would be the end, and it's easy to say that if you've never been confronted with it and you've never been inlove. I hadn't ever been inlove untill I met her and I've just found out my girl of nearly three years, who's my best friend and who i live with had sex with two guys she barely knew in the space of a messed up regrettable life changing week. She sounds like a sl*t, right? Wrong. I know her, she isn't, she's far from it. She's a young and confused girl who admits she made the biggest mistakes of her life. Now we're left in pieces and i'm aching to give her another chance but can't quite find it in myself to do it. It's stupid because i still trust her, i sound like a fool? I'm not. She wouldn't cheat if she loved you though? Even true love can endure strained periods when mistakes can be made. People aren't perfect and neither are relationships no matter how much we try and project a perfect picture to the outside world. So my answer? You'll never ever know untill you're truley inlove and hit with it, and even then you'll spend every waking minute asking yourself repeatadly and searching for the answer. Untill you realise there is no answer only questions.
  • None. A cheetah never changes it's spots.
  • I did once.... that led to doing again, and on the third time, I threw in the towel... Why did I even let myself go through the pain of the first two times..? More fool me!
  • I love my partner and after five months being together she cheated with one of my best friends, maybe i did do some mistakes but i did'nt know what to do at that time. The problem is you forgive, but you'll never forget, never. In like two days ago we've split because we had a small quarrel and I went out with my friends and met her. I was drunk as hell. I went to sort things out but she pushed me away and I smacked her seriously in the face, it was my subconcious. I forgot to mention that I did the same to him a few weeks again. I'm not the fighting type of guy, never hurt anyone but as a normal quiet person i didn t do anything, but when my subconcoius was in charge I spared no mercy. Now i'm really depressed, don't know what to do, I still love her but I did the most shameful thing in all my life. I didn't even know why I did it. My next plans are going to see a councellor or psychiatrist maybe i'll remove all this pain and rage from my mind.
  • It depends on the circumstances. Looking back at my last relationship I would say never.
  • 1 time becus after that time yall shud sit down nd and discuss the reasons y he or she cheated and watever tha problem is fix it
  • One time!!! But more importantly why did they cheat? If the two of you have not talked this part out you can't really expect ANY changes. You need to be sure that you know that you can't help what has happened or change the past. It is all about moving forward. can you?
  • That is a big fat 0.
  • I wouldn't. That's an immediate deal break for me.
  • only once, if you continue to put up with the other person cheating and you do nothing about it, they will continue to cheat on you. i believe everyone deserves a second chance not a third.
  • Only started reading some answers and already getting pee-ed off! NONE is my answer. I've been cheated on a few times and if they do.. out the door. However I decided to try and understand with one of my ex's and move on, but as hard as I tried, I couldn't and the trust was almost gone.. then destroyed... as he did it again! If you forgive them 1st time, they know they can do it again! saw some statistics on tv... says that if a married man (in UK) cheats on his wife.. and she takes him back... statistically speaking.. he is 90% likely to cheat again... and I quite believe it too! I t's all up to you guys personally but I say we start standing up to men's pathetic excuses!... there are none!.. and say "zero tolerance" to cheating! Word of the day... self respect!
  • Not one, I have never found it in myself to be able to forgive someone for that. I lose all trust.

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