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  • My gf and I are getting ready to do our usual Valentine's Day thing - and we usually try to find something that makes the sex a little more fun. (My gf usually gets me sexy underwear for example.) A few days ago she stumbled on women's underwear for men. She thought it would be sexy - in a kinky way. I said no to the idea. What say you ladies? I've certainly done kinkier stuff, gosh knows. Am I being a jerk on this one? Would you find it sexy - in a "kinky way" to use my gfd's expression.
    • Deety
      Hope you do, I would love to see any man in my scanties
    • dorat
      Thanks for your reply. See my response below under your other reply.
    • dorat
      Hmmmmmmm. What are you trying to say? I sense that you don't think so. Actually, I did not ask this question very well and could still use your opinion. (I may re-post the question later in a better formulation.) I guess what I meant to ask is, given that I like to please my gf, and given that I have done kinkier stuff - I had a homosexual relationship for three months just because my gf thought it was hot to watch and I wanted to please her, for gosh sakes - was I being a jerk by just flat out turning my gf down? Frankly, she suggested it half in jest and she did not make a big deal of my uncharacteristically blunt refusal. Still, she seemed a little disappointed. So was I being a bit stodgy. No big deal or should I have been more sensitive to what my gf wanted to do? She tends to like being sexually adventurous - and I like that about her - so whatever it does not do for you, as a woman, do you think I should have been more accommodating?
    • officegirl
      No to everything. I can't understand why a man would want to wear that stuff. You and your gf - if you like it then fine. I guess I would have been considered "sexually adventurous" in the 70s. Which in my case mostly meant promiscuity and being with another woman. Since then and up to a few years ago I have learned to like a lot of other things like DP and anal and multiple men etc. but I guess I am very much a part of my generation in that a lot of things that are now commonplace I could never get into nor wanted to.
    • dorat
      Well, I had never done it before - that is until this weekend. My gf loved it. It really only turned me on because it seemed to turn her on. It was fun, but we only tried it Friday night and the rest of the weekend I enjoyed feeling like a man with my woman. I guess it is fun to try something different, but I seem to be wired a certain way. We had great sex that night - but for me it was more who I was making love to than what I was wearing while doing it. In any case, thanks for replying.
  • I sure would. Nothing turns me on more than dressing a man in the sexiest lingerie
    • dorat
      Thanks for your answer. Frankly, I have made this into a bigger deal than it probably warrants. My gf suggested the idea half jokingly and she did not make a big deal of my refusal. Still, she also seemed a little disappointed. I've done some other far kinkier stuff than wearing women's underwear, but for whatever reason this seemed to me to be a bit of a bridge too far. We have a couple of days before we are off for our traditional Valentine's Day getaway, so I may ask her again and if it really means something to her I may roll with it. Honestly, I don't know why that it weirds me out so much - although I have to admit that I like to feel, however retrograde it sounds - like a man when I have sex, especially with my gf. Still, I also want to make her happy, too. So I am being indecisive behind my decisive "no." If you don't mind my asking, what about it turns you on? If you have time, I'd appreciate the answer. Honestly, I have no similar need to see my gf in guy's underwear. That would actually be a "turn-off."
    • Deety
      Hi Dorat, in my opinion you may have upset your gf with a blank refusal. I do understand, I think, the threat to your perception of your masculinity, but I feel that is just an excuse for fear you might like it. Certainly all my bf's who have tried the experience have ended up enjoying themselves and successfully performed far better than normal without it subsequently turning them queer. Why do I like it, that is a good question. Partly an early fixation from my first boyfriend when we swapped our clothes for a laugh at a drunken family party. He just looked so gorgeous in my underwear that I just couldn't resist him. To some extent I agree with you about me wearing your underwear, but there is something about me wearing a man's dress shirt and nothing else that is very sexy indeed. If we were to truly swap, or you are prepared to do so with your gf I suggest that what I am currently wearing or was when I wrote the original question would be better replaced with much more feminine and sexy lingerie. Best for me would be boy in matching bra, brief and garter belt with black stockings and me in white dress shirt and wearing a tie and nothing else. You need to think what that effect it might have on both of you. It certainly would be an experience as your gf stroked that little bit of flesh between your stocking top and your knickers, and I wonder if you could then resist, or worry about your macho ideals. Please let me know if you try and how it felt for you.
    • Beach_Niki
      Mmmm that sounds delicious!
    • dorat
      Thanks deety. You actually persuaded me a bit - and I'll get into that in a minute. I do want to clarify, though, that my gf was not mad. She was surprised because I usually think about such things and try to accommodate her. (Heck, I had a homosexual relationship for a while because it turned her on to watch gay sex.) However, she wasn't really upset. That is not her way. As to me., I am not worried that I might enjoy it. If I enjoy it, I enjoy it and so much the better. Honestly, I just don't see it as being all that sexy. Yet, I think you made a fair point that I should be open to it. Since my gf and I are going for our long Valentine's Day weekend on Friday, and since the stuff she wanted me to wear had to be ordered through the mail, I told her to go ahead and order it for overnight and we will take it to the hotel. Sorry, she won't tell me what she is getting - otherwise I would tell you - but it is supposed to be a surprise. Anyhow, I think you made a fair point. I value the sexual openness I have with my gf, and then I shot it down. Besides, if it turns my gf on - it can't be all bad, right? Still, by the way, I think I would rather see my gf is sexy underwear or really just naked. The rest, though...well......has me turned on, no doubt about it.
  • I would find it very sexy! I love when a man is kinky and love it even more when they are honest with their kinkyness! If a guy likes wearing panties I have no problem with it. I love a guy in thong, especially when they are throbbing. My hubby and I like to wear matching panties, feeling his c$&k throbbing in the silk pouch is sexy. Sometimes we will wear silk stockings and the sex is mine blowing. BTW if you don't think a guy in lingerie is sexy check out Tim Curry in Rocky Horror!
    • Deety
      I am so glad I am not the only one out here. After I first asked my question I was starting to worry that I was perverted rather than just slightly Randy.
    • Beach_Niki
      Nothing wrong with being a bit perverted! Would love to get randy with you!
    • Deety
      Twosome, or three some. Could your hubby cope with two women AND would you let him?
    • dorat
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    • Beach_Niki
      Mmmm yes he can!!! I have no problem with it, we love to share!
  • I find it sexy in a kinky way. I'd also like to see him in thigh high stockings and a garter belt.
  • Hi, um... This comment here has nothing to do with the question, but as far as I know, theres no way to "message" someone on here. Um... I see you're quite popular on here, so I'm gonna get to the point... Im a 15 1/2 year old teen girl (name is Emma), and, um... I still dont know how to masturbate... any tips?
    • dorat
      Not sure to whom you are addressing the question - the questioner or one of the people who replied and/or commented on the question. If I might, your best bet would be to post this as a question yourself. There are at least 3 categories under which you might place it - "Adult," "Sexual health," or "Masturbation." That way you will get a far more diverse array of respondents. Don't wish not to be helpful, but as this is a site for questions and answers, it seems odd to use someone else's question to ask a largely unrelated question. That will not likely get you much of a response. Best of luck.

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