• What do you like to do and what do you expect him to do? I do not necessarily mean BDSM, though it can be that. However, what sexual positions, etc? What I am getting at is how is the experience palpably different both physically and otherwise. (Note to Officegirl, I mean this question in the most benevolent way, but you are officially exempt from having to answer this one. Promise - and kidding.)
  • The recessive male is problematical in human evolutionary development. The most commonly accepted analyses across the scientific community are that either he has lost touch with his basic biological impulses and instincts or undertakes to consciously rebel against and shun his procreative and protective societal roles. McCullough (1998) has found that 17.1% of males ages 16 to 21 and some 27.8% of males ages 22 through 34 will assume passive positions during normal male-female sexual activity 12.3% of the time and refuse to initiate penile thrusting.9.3% of the time while Niederbecker and Colomby (2005), in a larger sample but one limited to college males, puts those averages respectively at 10.7% and 8.2%. In data collected and measured across several years Thornhurst (2007) has recorded a collective increase among sampled males ages 21 to 41 in such activites of 5.5%. while the more thorough and nuanced approach of Schuller (2010) registers a similar increase (but limited to ages 25 through 34). While no one scientific biological explanation is at this time agreed upon various have been posited over the years including infantilization (Houde and Cross, 1992, Williams, 2003), insufficient nutrition (Neville and Saylor, 20012), lack of appreciation (Burnside, 1997 but see Lockyear's refutation of Burnside 2007), irregularity of breath (Hudson 2005, Ventrist and Wertheimer 2013), and mental instability (Colomby 2009). Attendant or corollary is the increase in human females seeking to mate outside of and in addition to their marriages. It has been estimated that 32% of married females whose husbands engaged in such behavior at least a third of the time sought other partners (Stinson, 2001) and that of these 16.7% consisted of neighbors, 17.2% business associates, 24% friends, while 13.9% were random acquaintances. However such percentages decline in direct proportion to their number of offspring (Niederbecker, 2004). Contextualizing such results Dr. Helen Baniff at the University of Vermont has recently (2015) offered the explanation that the greater number of married human females, through the prism of their subjective perceptions, feel cheated and unfulfilled at an irreducible level because of male lack of attention to their elemental need to conceive and bear children, while a smaller percentage of them (6.31%, 2015), feeling inferior to certain other primates because of their inability to carry more than one child at a time, will be 3.5% more likely to copulate with any human male, especially neighbors 21%, workplace associates 17.6%, strangers 6.0%. But citing the lack of a scientifically valid random sample she adds that such statistical analysis must be, for the present, limited primarily to conjecture. And Donna R.(2017), an observer but a layperson, can only offer that, limited to the parameters of her own experience, males have never indicated that they are "feeling submissive sexually".
    • dorat
      See? That wasn't so bad, was it? (Kidding.) By the by, in any evolutionary pattern, there will be deviations. If those deviations become effective adaptations to the environment, they endure and are passed on over time into the gene pool. When not, they die out. However, in this case, in my question I was referring to a choice and a mood, not so much to the broader pattern. As I have noted before - to your colossal annoyance from time to time - in general males tend to be instinctively more aggressive. (It's how the species survived for a million years or so. In that context, see also the very interesting 2015 study from the University of Vermont cited in the material you quoted.) There are some men who ARE submissive, nature's law of averages being what it is. I tend to prefer to be the guy in charge, so to speak, but even I enjoy those times where I sit back, so to speak, and let my gf take charge. That is what I was referring to here. That all said, great answer. One thing that "Donna R." missed, however, is if no males have ever "indicated that they are 'feeling submissive sexually,'" what would explain the appeal of BDSM - and specifically that involving dominatrix women? (Keeping in mind that we are not primarily, in an evolutionary context at least, talking about conscious behavior, but rather unconscious motivations. The submissive guy no more necessarily thinks of himself as submissive - though he might - than does a dominant man think of himself as being dominant.) She has clearly not taken that into account. Grant that it is a minority interest - most men who prefer BDSM prefer to be in the dominant role - but clearly there is an interest in the role reversal. She fails to take this into consideration - albeit she is by her own admission a "layperson," which may account for the gap in her analysis.

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