ANSWERS: 40
  • I'm a guy - i have little money. no. girls should not pay for half.
  • Not entil they have been going steady for a while
  • Half of what? Dinner - Sure. Rent - Definitely. His clothing - Nope. Engagement Ring- Hell no. There are a LOT of things that can be considered 'half'
  • I make sure I do , I can't stand when someone throws it back up later down the road
  • Depends if the women is willing to, I am more than willing to pay for both of us (As long as you don't order something very expensive).
  • no they should not pay for half. its all about the courtship, and if the guy want to date the girl then he should pay for the date. sorry but iam really old fashioned.
  • If it is a date the person (male or female) who made the invitation should pay the entire bill, if the other really wants to pitch in they can offer to pay the tip. If the other person is to pay half they should be made aware of that at the time the date is made.
  • There's no mention of 'condition' of relationship .. difficult to answer this one. I agree male pays for date .. but that too would depend on how often dates occur too .. nothing worse than being used. I also disagree with the idea of a female being given everything & so being led to believe 'he' is a walking bank & can afford whatever she may 'whim'. A date .. good place to start .. but getting to know each other in many aspects .. well .. I hope it soon follows. I'd pose tot he one asking this .. is there a future where the paying party may be paying too much too often, or is there something amicable meant to come from all this? Whole different ballgame if so.
  • I'm kind of old fashioned in that if it's the first date the guy should pay. Maybe even the second. Once you get to the third date forward it might be a good idea to start sharing costs or take turns.
  • Only if she wants to. There's not specific guidelines as to who should pay- but the guy asked HER out, he should pay. And if she asked HIM out, she should pay. If they both agree on going dutch- that mean's they both pay. Either way, whoever does the asking does the paying, unless agreed upon by both parties.
  • Only if she wants to!
  • Only if the invitation made that clear from the start. But I feel usually that whoever does the inviting, pays
  • Sure, it's only fair.
  • I think so - modern women are always fighting to be considered equal to a man, so why should they get to revert to being traditional when it comes to who pays? By all means, the guy should get to treat the girl, and pay in full occasionally, but the girl should do the same in return x x
  • never that
  • The girl should pay half if she wants to be nice. However, traditionally the guy is stuck paying. Personally I like that arrangement.
  • It depends on the money which should be paid, and the money that both have. If she insists on paying, let her do it. If not, and the guy is inviting her, he should pay.
  • It depends on who asked who out and how long you have been going out.
  • I think that in this day and age it depends who asks who out...the person who asks should pay...usually the guy, i think. I think this going half is for people already IN relationships.
  • First dates- Men should pay and insist on it. Few dates after- Men insist on paying, if she offers to pay for half, he should let the woman. All in all, the MEN makes the call whether he will or will not let the woman pay. Yeah, I agree that women in the 21st century wants to be equal and not be treated otherwise...but lets let the man be the man.
  • If the guy invited her then he should pay. Although I would never let her pay. I don't care what day we live in or what equal rights people are trying to display. I think a woman should be treated like a queen. I will give her equal respect but I will still treat her like a lady. Just to point out something, most guys do not like to spilt up a check even if its all guys. It seems like many women are more likely to spilt up a check. Just ask a waitress.
  • That is personal choice between two people.
  • it's always a plus to me if the guy is considerate enough to offer, but i think for me personally i always pay for myself unless he insists. sometimes i'll cover him one time and he'll cover me other times, depending on the guy, but i think generally she shouldn't expect him to hand out his money.
  • not if the guy eats 3x as much, unless it's an all you can eat buffet! I really prefer splitting the bill though, actually. Maybe that's my Dutch ancestry speaking. :P
  • Depends on the situation. The first date, the guy should pay. But after several dates, then maybe they could start alternating. I don't think it is necessarily fair for guys to always have to pay for everything. As women become more independent, I think you will see more women paying for dinner, movies, etc. Also, you could set it up so that whoever asks who out is the one that should pay. I have done it that way before. If it was my idea to go to the movie, then I pay. If he wants to get dinner beforehand, then he pays. If paying is an issue, then the person who cannot afford to chip in or pay at least sometimes, should have a talk with their partner and let them know.
  • Of course we all know that tradition dictates that the guys pays for everything. But if a girl wants to share, I think she should pay for what she's eaten. And that's usually not that much ;)
  • To be fair she should pay for all of it..
  • I don't think so, but I don't think it's a hill to die on either.
  • half of what? dinner, gas, theater tickets, condoms?
  • I think it should be like a team effort deal. I would hate knowing that someone is spending all their money on me.
  • I think a realtionship should be 50/50, now this doesnt mean when your at the register that you each pull out your wallet and pay half like that i mean you shouldnt always pay and she shouldnt either. When you get into a serious relationship eventually you should develope the trust and have a joint account and then it doesnt matter whose pullin out the wallet at the register cuase its commin out of the same account but only when your serious and have enough trust and your ready.
  • The one who asks out should be the one to pay. It's common courtesy. I've heard about women asking men on dates. But usually, it's the man who does the asking.
  • Chivalry, so no the women should not pay.
  • i think that after you have est. a relationship then ya no problem. If he takes you to a nice dinner then buy him lunch next time yall go out or maybe the drinks after dinner... But I think its weird to say well lemme pay my half. Just take turns. I also agree that it depends on who asks who out. But once you get to know eachother then you will figure it out.
  • I think if you both of you have jobs is ok. OR if not going to be a permanent relationships, it's better to spend each others for something is ok. if you or she doesn't have a job, help and understand each others situations is OK too. Another reasons, After(may or may not) break up(don't have to argue or fight each others spending on anything and nothing, be cautious) Good luck.
  • Well I'm in 2 minds on this one. Personally I dont let my girlfriend pay for anything when we go out - but that's more about me than anything else. From an objective point of view it seems hypocritical for women to demand equal rights but expect special treatment as well though doesn't it...
  • not on the first and maybe the second date but after they could
  • No, Never, Nada!
  • It depends. My boyfriend usually pays, though. Sometimes I offer to pay for myself. I always, always, always treat him on his birthday!
  • In my opinion, generally not, at least while in the dating phase.

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