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  • emotional. It often lasts for years and causes low self esteem. Physical leaves marks but usually not anywhere near what emotional does.
  • since i have known both , to me the verbal was always the worst. i can still 'hear' today- (twenty some years later) all the terrible names and words heaped upon me , if i choose to think back about that time. the phyical bruises eventually heal- and yes, there will be arthritis pain from bones broken and so forth, but the mind is a powerful thing and holds memories forever. without trying to sound 'preachy', the only one who ever helped me heal mentally is the Lord Jesus. i sure hope you arent going thru it.
  • verbal is the less proven and leads to suicide
  • Emotional/Verbal abuse...without a doubt.
  • You have a chance to protect yourself physically. Emotional/Verbal abuse can stay with you the rest of your life.
  • They both suck, but from an adult point of view, emotional is tougher, cuz we tend to put up with it longer. +3. That sounds condescending, sorry. what I meant was experience has taught me a few things I didn't know, like, even 3 years ago...
  • I was physically and emotionally abused. I have no scars from the physical but the emotional have scarred me for life. I am now 38 and on disability because I hate myself so much I don't even want to leave my house so I can't work. I have constant anxiety, insomnia, depression just because my parents made me feel worthless. Even went as far as to say I wish you were not my child and had never been born. Everything in my life now is based on that emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is something that will NEVER go away.
  • Emotional/verbal
  • This goes against all the other answers, but personally, I'd rather be called names than dealt a broken arm or jaw.
  • definitely emotional abuse, as others have said when someone you love (who claims to love you) constantly belittles you, their words run through your mind repeatidly until you yourself begin to believe the trash that comes out of their mouth. It oftens takes victims years to recover and rebuild their self esteem.
  • I don't want to minimize anyone's suffering, but verbal/emotional abuse has its own unique challenges. If someone is physically abused, it's easier to seek professional help because the victim has scars and bruises as tangible evidence of the abuse. Emotional abuse, OTOH, is much harder to quantify, and I've never heard of Social Services or the local police intervening to stop it.
  • Physical because it always includes the others.
  • HARDER to deal with is the Physical for me. I've taken Emotional and Verbal Abuse for years!!! It rolls off my back now. +5 disturbed broken!
  • verbal reminds me of my father and grandfather
  • Physical abuse because at any time without warning or immediate reason for the rest of your existence you can suddenly feel terror and fear for your life and scream and hide. P.S. Sexual abuse isnt so easy to deal with either.
  • It's more a matter of the receiver than the sender. Some people are better equipped to survive the former and some the latter. . Society is of course better at prosecuting the latter as it leaves marks. . Regardless, once you're eighteen you inherit the scars regardless of their type or source.
  • I've been through both. They both had very lasting effects, so it's hard to say...
  • What difference does it make? = Anyone oughtta be outta there at the 1st instance of either one! No "deal with".
  • emotional I've had both. One replaced the other.
  • Emotional/verbal abuse is far worse.
  • Verbal. I can defend myself physically, but cannot make "snappy comebacks" F2F. +5
  • Its takes years too get over verbal abuse .
  • emotional abuse is worst in my opinion, it can take away all your self esteem and affect you for your whole life..
  • If u live througth the physical..ull stiil have to deal with the verbal,so they are both bad,but physical could be dethly,so can verbal because of the possability of suiccide..
  • They all bring pain :(. I had to deal with all of them.
  • Waaaay too general for me. Damn near-impossible to gauge things like this. And I'd end up disagreeing with myself just by saying one or the other.
  • I would say emotional abuse. Though my wife doesn't say a word to me that is verbally abusive it's the way she shuts me out of her life that hurts. I always have a phone on and text messaging is always available, yet she never calls me and rarely text me. Emotionally I feel dumped but even when I call her, she says very little or nothing. I say something about my sons and she doesn't seem interested. My therapist sat with her and ask about our children and my wife told him she didn't have any and didn't care about mine. So definitely it's the emotional abuse that stays long after the physical scars heal.
  • If I have the choice of being bummed or someone calling me names...Ill take verbal abuse...any day of the week
  • I would say that emotional lasts longer. Once the bruises are gone your mind has an amazing way of protecting us. With the verbal, it hangs on forever. Even now, I perpetuate things by saying the same things to myself that I heard when young. I would believe that this answer could go either way depending on one's own personal circumstances.
  • Emotional is harder to deal with because the effects are longer-lasting.
  • verbal I'm very used to but now it doesn't really phase me, physical abuse is just a bitch move no matter who you are, face the facts
  • I was both but I think having some f-ed up things done to you as a child can really f you up. When I was a kid it was easier being called an idiot than being beaten... with a hammer. C'mon, as a kid you are always told "who cares what they think" so that gives some leverage and coping but there's no coping when you're defenseless against your father who's a friggen giant a-hole. That's like asking "hey does being called nancy or being shot with a nail gun hurt more?" In my opinion the nail gun hurts man! Oh yeah, this happens man! I've witnessed it, I've been it! Then there's the children who feel like they can't rat- out because you'll break apart the family. It's pretty hard. Regardless, both are extremely messed up i admit but physical can go really far man.
  • Emotional...the verbal causes scars on the inside,changes your character, and effects everyone around you, by what you say back to them. He tried to hit me once, and I pointed my 9mm at him...he stopped both.

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