ANSWERS: 78
  • it seriously is a personal issue. i don't believe in waiting, but i don't believe in sleeping around either! it really is what you believe in and nobody should tell you it's wrong either way!
  • Seeing how this is under Christian beliefs, it is wrong by Biblical standards. It happens, even for people engaged, but as someone who has been there, it is NOT worth the possible negatives. Waiting is so much better for you in the long run, though I know its hard in the here and now. And messing around qualifies here, as I got pregnant even without "penetration". Also, if you wait, you avoid the negatives and have so many other benefits, like knowing you and your partner were willing to wait for each other and having a totally awesome honeymoon. God's plan for us is always the best plan. But He uses our screw ups too, "All things work together for the good of those who love the Lord"
  • I wish I had waited, but hind site is 20/20. But as munchkin_kids said it is your decision. You have to live with it no matter what you decide. God Bless, <:))))<><
  • no, it's not wrong.
  • it is Right.
  • Youve got to test the water before jumping in. It may be too cold or too hot EDIT: Never too hot.
  • Depends on how well you're doing it.
  • I think that each person should make that decision for themselves.Whether right or wrong,it has been done since the beginning of time. People just didn't talk about it then. If someone can wait til they are married,then I think it's great. If they can't wait,then that's alright to.
  • To paraphrase Oscar Wilde, provided it's mutually consensual, I don't believe there is such a thing as right or wrong sex, only good and bad sex.
  • I believe people should try to wait until they are married to have sex, but things happen and I don't judge anyone for what they do in their sex lives, and neither should anyone else.
  • People have a divine responsibility to have as much sex as they can from as early as they can. Most of the political strife in the world stems from this era of sexual repression we are living in. Marriage should not be the threshold permitting sex, your body should be. Once puberty is achieved, babies should be made. We were created to indulge in all of the sensual givings. Everyone should have sex with everyone.
  • Sex before marriage has been going on since the dawn of existance,and will go on.I beleive that it is fine,but I think it is sick that guilt sould be felt about it.It is just a physical act and the rediculous notion that it is reserved for married people is twisted.If it feels good do it,life is too short to be ruled by convention.
  • Premarital sex is right and wrong. In the eyes of christians and according to the word of god it is wrong, however in the eyes of non-religious persons it is o.k. On the positive side of this scale there is acceptance from your peers and a hope for pleasure and the fulfillment of your sexual desires. The negative side carries the weights of morals, fear of pregnancy,disease, and guilt. Most people don't consider the emotional effects of premarital sex. Sex is a pleasurable yet emotional experience and it affects peoples lives in ways. Engaging in premarital sex, many people express feelings of guilt, embarrassment, distrust, resentment, lack of respect, tension which leads to arguments between couples and can lead to a break-up. I think it's up to th eindividual to decide if it's right or wrong for them, I am guilty of premarital sex.
  • ithink its wrong cause god said to wait
  • I don't think it's wrong, but then, for some people it isn't 'right' either. So, neither, or rather, whatever is best in each case.
  • I believe it is a sin.
    • RareCatch
      What is a sin? dec. 13
  • Provided you are an adult and your prospective partner is also an adult, and neither of you has any bad feelings about it, I'd say go for it. It would be terrible to find out you weren't sexually compatible after marriage.
  • Yes,I believe in sex before marriage. People should be able to judge how sexually compatible they are before committing to any serious relationship. Of course the religious conservatives are going to say no and thumbs down my answer, but I am a modern, liberal thinker & this is what I feel is right and practical to do.
  • i agree with Sprash. Sex should be decided by the person. Not by the world. If i feel i want to have sex before marriage i will. If someone else doesnt then im not going to push them to have sex. Im not going to say DONT have sex. Yes i have had sex before marriage but i dont feel ashamed. I chose it and its my body. Its just like homosexuality. I am not homosexual but if someone is homoexual im not going to tell them to change because its immoral. its there body, there decision. let them decide not everyone else
  • i do not think its right :) but thats juts my opinion.
  • It is wrong. 1 Corinthians 7-2: to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines fornication as consensual sexual intercourse between two persons not married to each other.
  • Its wrong. unfortunately. But if you participate in premarital sex... it isnt the end of the world. You have just sinned thats all. God can forgive you...
  • As a Christian, I believe sex is reserved for marriage. I have struggled with this issue and have asked myself "if I love the person and I'm not hurting anyone, how is this wrong", but through spirtual maturity I have concluded that God knows what is best. There is a reason why sex is only for marriage. Of course the obvious answers would be unwanted pregancy, diseases, etc. But God commands to remain pure before marriage.
  • That depends on only 2 people, the people getting married.
  • The bible says no, but I don't agree with everything in the bible. I didn't wait, but I wish at times I had.
  • sure it is.i guess its ur decision but 99% of people go and have sex b4 marriage so chances are if u marry ur partner will have had sex
  • Sure it's alright as long as both people are over the age of 18.
  • right.. wrong.. neither.. that's up to you to decide.. just make sure to use birth control!
  • I think it okay,as long as the two people love and care about each other.
  • Well. That's a personal choice, I suppose. I think it's perfectly okay.
  • yes, but babies are not!
  • Sure it's alright as long as both people are over the age of 18.
  • It is better to wait 'til after marriage. Persons who have sex before marriage are more likely to have sex outside their marriage.
  • Depends on your personal preference.
  • It's not just right, it's amaze-a-zing. Well, that's what I think, anyway.
  • Would you buy a car without a test drive? buy a house without looking around it first? I would be inclined to say that sex before marriage is a good idea, however, with lots of consideration to many of the points previously mentioned. Regards
  • before marriage, in a commited relationship, yes. Before marriage, yes. After marriage, hopefully During the marriage ceremony, difficult.
  • I sure the hell hope so, whos to say whats wrong and right, its whats in your heart, this isn't 1940's , me and my husband was my second lover and we have been together 7 years and have a child together and are just getting married, I don't believe in just sleeping with everyone you see but if you love someone then go for it, I also believe if you want to save yourself for marriage thats great too!
  • In my opinion, Yes, of course.
  • I think it's fine just as long as the two people love eachother and they use protection.. or atleast realize the possible consequences.
  • It's fine by me.
  • It's not just right, It's OH so right.
  • As a Muslim, I'll say no.
  • As a Roman Catholic, I would have to say YES! Definately!
  • I would say that yes its wrong but in my case im glad i test drove him,and ill just say we are married with children.
  • No, it is not right, and test drives are actually kind of sinful.
  • i wouldn't do it, but that's because of my personal values. other people, do what they want i guess.
  • Cmon people this isn't the victorian era, it's not only right, it's necessary, especially these days with the financial impact it has should the marriage fail and for some religions that do not allow divorce,finding out that you are sexually uncompatible is a little late after you are married
  • I dont believe it is right but it is a personal decision for people to make themselves. Although - i learned in my psychology class that people who have sex before marriage with their prospective spouse, or live with them first, have higher rates of divorce than those who wait. I dont know why, they just do.
  • Extremely wrong. Gods explains it to be fornicating. And whatever God says goes, who are we to make rules in our lifes. We are made for just one women and/or for one man. I myself have fornicated but now regret it because i disobeyed God. And for the people that still dont know, God can forgive you but make sure to get it right.
  • It's good because 1. It's healthy for your body (unless you're contracting STDs) 2. You're less likely to cheat after you're married (from curiosity) -- or just be unsatisfied 3. You have some experience and it won't be awkward
  • Premarital sex is not part of God's plan for our lives. God is concerned with how we treat each other. We have been instructed to love + Our neighbor as we love ourselves + One another as Jesus loved us When we treat each other like sex objects, when sex is taking instead of giving, we damage the human dignity of both our partner and ourselves. True giving of yourself to another in a sacramental marriage is what love is all about. Marriage is a symbol of God's creation of the world in an act of divine love and self-outpouring. Marriage is a symbol of the love, commitment, intensity, and passion of Christ for the Church for which He laid down His life. Christians take sex very seriously because it is a glorious gift from God that lets us feel just a bit like God. We become lovers, givers, and creators. With love in Christ.
  • Glenn I'm pretty sure I've given this to U B4, but for those who haven't seen this Doctrine I post for their review, it's good stuff!!! Enjoy! John DOCTRINE OF RIGHT MAN AND RIGHT WOMAN A. The right woman is the oldest and one of many grace gifts to man. 1. There are three prominent grace gifts from Christ to man delineated in Scripture, and these are the order in which they occur in the human race: a. Right woman, He built her, Prov 18:22, 19:13-14. b. Salvation, He did it. c. Doctrine, He thought it, 1 Cor 2:16. 2. In all of human history, right woman is the oldest human gift, for Christ brought the woman to the man, Gen 2:18. 3. The fall of man did not change their relationship. B. Attacks on the gift of right man/right woman. 1. Reversionism, especially phallic reversionism is an attack on the concept of right man/right woman. 2. Life in the cosmic system is an attack on right man/right woman. 3. All mental attitude sins attack right man/right woman, SOS 8:6, 8; Prov 27:4, 6:34. 4. Negative volition to doctrine is an attack on right man/right woman, Jer 15:8-9, 15-21, 16:1-2, 17:9-11, 12:7-9. Negative volition to doctrine destroys right man/right woman relationship. 5. Scripture: Prov 5, 6:20-32; 1 Cor 11:3-16; Jer 31:22; Eccel 7:26-29. 6. No disaster, pressure, or unfaithful act, can destroy personal love between a right man and a right woman. 7. The greatest attack on right man/right woman comes from the soul: scar tissue of the soul, emotional revolt of the soul, and reversionism. These attacks are accompanied by fornication and promiscuity. C. Perversions of Right Man/Right Woman. 1. Auto-erotism, masturbation, or self-response to self. 2. Homosexuality or lesbianism, Lev 18:22; Rom 1:26-27. 3. Bestiality, Lev 18:23. 4. Fornication, Ex 20:14; Prov 5:20, 6:32. D. Analogies of Right Man/Right Woman. 1. Right man/right woman is used to teach many types of doctrine since it is one of the most common relationships to the human race. 2. The Lord and Israel, Jer 2, 3, 13; Ezek 16, 23. 3. The Lord and the Church, Eph 5:26-33. 4. Operation Z, James 1:19-22. 5. Christ, the shepherd and bishop of the believer's soul, 1 Pet 2:25 cf 1 Pet 3:1. 6. The mature believer is the glory of God, 1 Cor 11:7. E. Right Man/Right Woman Related to the Laws of Divine Establishment. 1. Monogamy is designed to remind the human race that there is only one right man for one right woman and visa versa, 1 Cor 7:2-4. 2. Under these laws marriage becomes the second divine institution. 3. Marriage is still the protection of romantic love, Heb 13:4; 1 Cor 7:9; 1 Tim 5:14; Rom 7:2-3; Gen 2:24-25; Eph 5:22, 25, 28, 31, 33. 4. Marriage forms the basis for stability in society, and rejects the theory and practice of anarchy, promiscuity, and communal living. 5. Marriage is also protected by the third divine institution, family, where parents have the responsibility of training their children. 6. The husband is the authority in the marriage, Eph 5:22. 7. God protects the woman from tyranny by the training of the little boy by his mother. His mother teaches the man respect for womanhood, and keeps him from becoming an animal. Prov 31:1-2. 8. Once the couple is married, the doctrine of right man/right woman no longer applies. Now it is a matter of honor, integrity, and impersonal love which must provide the power for the marriage to work. F. The Man and Woman's Relationship at the Fall. 1. After the Fall, God confirms the fact that the man's authority is not changed, even though he responded to the woman, Eph 3:16b, 5:22. 2. In Gen 3:6 we see the reversal of the roles of the man and woman in the Fall. 3. Until the Fall, sex had been a total pleasure and an experience of perfect happiness. After the Fall, a secondary role is added: it is the means of perpetuating the human race. Without children they had only themselves to consider. But with children a second authority develops of parents over children, and this develops problems and complications in the right man/right woman relationship. 4. Therefore, the woman bears the children, Gen 3:15, and through her comes Jesus Christ, Gen 3:16. G. The Recognition of Right Man/Right Woman. 1. Personal love is recognized by both parties. 2. Right man can always tell the mood of his right woman by her voice. The right man's soul will have a total understanding of the right woman's soul, emotions, moods, etc. 3. The right woman may love or hate her right man, but she cannot stop thinking about him. Right man/right woman can never be just friends. 4. You won't be adjusted to people until you find right man/right woman. 5. Every time right man is with right woman, it is a blessing to him. 6. The man cannot work to get his right woman; it is a grace gift from God. God always brings the right woman to the right man. Grace takes up the slack before you find right woman. Doctrine is your right woman until God leads her to you. You don't need to date others while waiting. 7. If a woman doesn't recognize God's authority, she will never recognize her right man's authority. Long hair on a woman is a sign of the right man's authority over her. Wearing long hair is a sign that a woman is waiting for her right man. 8. Your right woman will not react to you. Bitchiness in a woman is an indication of the wrong woman. 9. A wrong woman is always dressing to show off what she has physically. 10. With the right woman there is a period of waiting, resisting temptation, and a period of doubt before God brings the right woman to the right man. H. Right Man/Right Woman and the Soul Climax, 1 Cor 7:8-9. 1. When you find your right woman, physical compatibility is no problem; the difficulty is recognition in the soul. a. Right man/right woman are not ashamed or disappointed in each other physically. The right woman fits the right man perfectly in sex. The right woman's body is the most magnificent thing to the right man. b. You cannot make a woman your right woman by having sex with her. c. Right woman is a storm of passion when the right man makes love to her. When the right man makes love to his right woman, he satisfies her soul as well as her body. This gives her insatiability. The right man sees his right woman as personifying symmetry and beauty. d. Jesus Christ is the giver of sex as the total concept of happiness with one's right woman. e. Before your right woman comes along, you must have an affair with Bible doctrine by taking in doctrine every day until it becomes the love of your life. 2. When the right woman comes along, both will have a soul climax. a. Sexual burning is not a soul climax. This is an indication of wrong woman. Fornication excludes the soul, and therefore always produces wrong man/wrong woman. Shopping around is human viewpoint. b. The soul climax is the divine design of recognition of your right man or right woman. "Burning" has nothing to do with libido. It refers to when two souls have climaxed and are not yet able to make love because the two people are not yet married. No sex can compare with the sex between right man and right woman. c. Therefore, it is better to marry than to burn in personal love for right man or right woman after you have made the soul identification. The right man or right woman can make identification without touching. c. The right woman always emphasizes the soul of her right man when they first know each other. She is looking for his precious soul. The right man is the most precious thing to the right woman, but she emphasizes his soul and hunts for that soul. d. To recognize his right woman, the right man needs only to have the soul climax; no physical contact is necessary. There is no need for heavy necking before getting married. Heavy necking knocks out the ability of the right woman to recognize her right man via a soul climax. e. The soul climax is being out from soul control, because someone else so stimulates your soul. This is the only person who pulls you away from your own self-consciousness into being more aware of them than yourself. You become more thoughtful of them, interested in them, and more concerned and involved with them than yourself. f. A super-rapport develops where the two people cannot wait to share what has happened while they were apart. They enjoy conversation, and even their silence has super-rapport. g. Sex before marriage destroys your capacity to have a soul climax, Prov 6:32. Abstaining from fornication protects the soul, so that it can have a soul climax and the fantastic happiness Christ wants every member of the human race to have. God isn't trying to keep you from having fun, but from missing out on greater fun than Satan and his cosmic system can provide. h. Mentally this person becomes your frame of reference for everything. All memories are related to this person. Over a period of time your norms and standards change so that this person is the honorable one, while other people are insignificant. In your viewpoint, everything in life is related to that right man or right woman. From your volition, you adjust your life with pleasure to please your right partner. You dress to please them and omit things in life to please them. Your emotion has a fantastic response to them. i. If you are in emotional revolt of the soul, you cannot have a soul climax. j. The soul climax is that soul identification in every compartment of the essence of the soul, which stimulates total soul concentration on a member of the opposite sex. It is involuntary total soul concentration. k. Total involvement of the soul essence means that the climax of the soul as an identifier will cover every area of the soul except the old sin nature. l. The right man fulfills her norms and standards, principles, categories, provides soul stimulation, and gives reality to her romantic dreams. 3. The soul climax is the divine design for recognition of your right man or right woman. I. Identification of the Right Woman, Prov 31:10-31. 1. Verse 10 says that your right woman will have certain things for you that she doesn't have for anyone else. The man must recognize her first and be aggressive to her. The man makes the identification first. 2. In verse 11, the right woman becomes a home to the right man. The heart of the man is at home with the right woman's soul. The right woman regards the right man as her lord. The right man's right lobe has confidence in her. This is called love-security of the soul. The right woman won't flirt, tease, or think about some other guy. She is totally occupied with him when he is absent. 3. In verse 12, the right woman will do good to the right man, show him good, and cause him good. 4. In verse 13, the right woman makes decisions to please her right man. The right woman dresses only to please her right man. Her soul is so occupied with him that she is motivated to always appear in clothing he appreciates. She searches diligently to find clothes to impress him. She works with pleasure because it is for her right man. 5. Verse 14 says that she goes to extra effort to find things for her right man to please him, like his favorite food. 6. Verse 15 says that her mental attitude determines how things go around the house. The right woman places love for her right man above her own comfort and personal wants. 7. Verse 16 says that she pleases her right man in business, e.g., she is an aggressive business woman. 8. In verse 17, her soul and body are at his disposal. She responds to only her right man sexually, and anything goes. She encourages him with her arms. 9. In verse 18, anything she does related to her right man always tastes good to her. He always tastes good to her. She is stimulated by him and in a state of perfect human happiness. 10. In verse 19, her hands are occupied with those things which bless him. She gives him no cause for concern. She doesn't play games (cheat on him), nor is she vindictive and seek revenge against him. 11. Verse 20 says that because her soul is full of grace happiness from her right man, she extends grace to others. 12. Verse 21 says that the right woman anticipates certain kinds of disaster and heads them off. She prepares for disaster before it arrives and makes provision. Her instincts of love keep her concentrating on her right man. She no longer depends on parties, outside friends, and fun. She doesn't try to hurt her right man who is so vulnerable to her social or mental unfaithfulness. 13. In verse 22, the right woman makes herself beautiful around the house because her right man is there. 14. Verse 23 says that she is not a nag. The right woman makes it possible for the right man to concentrate on work and be away from home without worrying about her. She compliments and implements, but never competes with her right man. She turns him on, but never puts him down. She seduces him, but never belittles him. 15. In verse 24, the right woman supports her right man with fanatical loyalty and love. 16. Verse 25 says that the right woman is the glory of her right man and wears her glory in her soul, which includes having a sense of humor. She has beauty of soul. She is totally relaxed, giving her the ability to laugh at housework, office work, or whatever she must do. 17. In verse 26, when she speaks, the right man is thrilled because wisdom comes out of her mouth. Divine viewpoint and Bible doctrine is the basis of her conversation. She refrains from verbal sins. 18. In verse 27, she is alert in her soul and not idle. 19. Verse 28 says that her sons remember her with happiness. 20. In verse 29, she waits for her right man by taking in doctrine. For the right man only one woman surpasses all others: his right woman. 21. Verse 30 says that you should not use physical beauty to determine your right woman. Beauty is deceitful. Identification is made in the soul. When you get turned on by some woman's looks, then you missed your identification. She is not your right woman. Beauty, sex appeal, and a great body, is not the basis for recognition of the right woman. Once identification is made in the soul, you will find she has the most beautiful body. The woman occupied with Christ will receive praise from her right man. 22. In verse 31, the responsive right woman becomes aggressive with her hands and lips. No wrong woman can compare. You don't have to prove anything in public to others that you are right man/right woman; touching is private. J. The Responsiveness of the Right Woman. 1. When a woman is a true responder, she initiates her response from her own free will. Right man/right woman have true communication. 2. A woman in response is aggressive. She doesn't stand around and wait for the right man to be aggressive. He doesn't have to be the aggressor on every occasion. 3. The right woman can respond to an aggressive act the right man committed a year before. She is designed for compliments, recognition, and individual attention. K. The Submission of the Right Woman. 1. If a woman is in love, she is happy to surrender her volition to the man and he will care for it. Without mental rapport, there is bad sex life. If the woman doesn't give her soul, she is cheating her man. 2. Submission of the right woman is not slavery but fulfillment. Grace inner beauty in the woman is something which the wrong man sees which he cannot fulfill. A right woman may even change friends to please her right man. The right woman's norms and standards will become one with her right man's. One person's sins don't cause sins by the other person; the same is true for human good. 3. The man should never demand anything from a woman, because he won't get anything anyway. The man cannot demand volitional response or appreciation. 4. The right woman is never shocked by the good or bad points of her right man. Her right man is a point of doctrine. Because Bible doctrine is in her soul and he is a point of doctrine, he is always in her soul, and therefore she will always be faithful. 5. A woman goes quickly from objectivity to subjectivity because she is a responder. 6. The right man will always give her something to which to respond. She saves those things in her memory so that she can respond to them again. 7. The right man, positive to doctrine, will lead in spiritual things. 8. A woman has no security in life except the security of her right man. When a man comes along and is faithful to her and no one else, and she knows it, then that person has her attention forever. 9. When you keep a promise to a woman, it impresses her. She responds. A woman who is a responder to too many things in life also makes herself a reactor to many things in life. The more you respond, the more you react. 
    • RareCatch
      Who do you think is going to read this~this is to long!!
  • totally WRONG THING TO DO!!!! God created it for marriage & marriage alone!!!!
  • Fornication. My 2 cents.
  • It isn't premarital sex if you have no intention of getting married.
  • Absolutely right if that's what you want to do.
  • Adam and Eve did it. :-) . Assuming it's between consentual adults, pre-marital sex is perfectly normal and can help each learn the ... uhhh... ins and outs as well as gain emotional confidence. . The only reason it could be wrong is if pressure is applied by one of the parties or by their community. But that applies to not having sex as much as having it. . Ready for the DR orgy? :-)
  • It's wrong. Sex is the closest you can physically and emotionally be to someone and you shouldn't just throw it around for kicks.
  • i wholly believe what the bible says. as the divinely inspired Word of God it condemns sex outside of marriage.
  • It's wrong. The Bible is very explicit on this point, and it cheats your future spouse.
  • It's wrong. The Bible is very explicit about this and it's not fair to your future spouse.
  • I believe it is right, why? beacause I love sex!! haha..
  • No, but I'm not a Christian. :)
  • It is wrong. I have waited, and plan to stay a virgin even if I'm still unmarried at 80. I will not marry a girl who has not waited either. I see my virginity as something that no one else can give to my future wife. On our honeymoon it will mean more than just a traditional vacation after the wedding. We will learn how to have sex together and share our gifts, our virginity will be a sacred gift saved for each other.
  • If you don't intend to get married is it still ok?
  • Hebrews 13:4.
  • It's not premarital sex if you have no intention of getting married.
  • i think it brings a lot more problems than it's worth. i know a woman who has kids by two different men, has been divorced, has a boyfriend 20 years her junior and is still having sex with other men. she feels frustrated and says she can't figure out why she keeps having problems in her relationships. (wonder why...) her life, for lack of a better term, is fucked up. i know there are people who lives are even more fucked up because of premarital sex. not to mention STDs. i don't take sex lightly. i cannot be so intimate with someone and just let it go; i can't surrender my body to just anyone. it'll end with tears and broken hearts all around. ultimately, i would not like to find myself in that woman's situation. so i want to avoid sex until i am in a place to handle the product of sex - a child. for me, that place is marriage.
  • It is wrong.
  • Personally I feel that if the individuals involved are consenting adults, then it is right. According to almost all Christian denominations, however, the answer is that it's wrong and a sin. In the end it's up to the individuals involved and their beliefs and concerns.
  • I believe premarital sex is wrong
  • Definitely. You wouldn't want this to happen to you, would you? http://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/lifestyle/julie-boyde-discovers-she-is-allergic-to-husband-mikes-sperm-on-their-wedding-night/story-e6frf00i-1225794788050
  • Yes, for everyone except my daughters. And Not even after marriage for them. LOL
  • It is wrong... Sex outside of marriage is fornication...
    • Nosmo King
      That's a good thing, pugwash. I've always liked the word "fornication" and I wish it was used more often in rock songs. Lol:)
  • If I believed premarital sex was wrong I would have been a virgin all my life. As it happened I first had sex in 1980.
  • It can be wrong if it causes hurt to a person or people.

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