spank??? try shoot

Isn't a 15 year old a bit old for a spanking?

No ground their ass give them something to think about and what the hell its your responsibility to know where you 15 year old child is! and if it means they are grounded till they are 16 fine so be it you know if they know they can get away with they will and do know that when you give an inch they will take a mile so take control of your child before they end up in trouble

Spanking? hell no id go grab a 5th of the nastiest stuff i could find and make them drink it untill they turn green then its spring cleaning with loud music and no a/c at 5am in the morning

To late for that! All privelages revoked!!!!!!!!Till they show they deserve them!!!!!!! The End!

No, IMO after about 10-12 years, spanking is pointless and inappropriate. If she came home drunk and stumbling, I'd find out who she was with, and inform their parents, and tell her next time this happens that I'm calling the cops and having her arrested for underage drinking. I'm also taking away the things she loves most for a while, like her phone, t.v. and whatever else she loves. The point will be to remind her that there are consequences to her actions, and hopefully she'll learn from the aforementioned consequences, and not such possible consequences as having alcohol poisoning, driving drunk and killing someone, or having unprotected sex and getting pregnant or a disease from someone while drunk.

No, but they would get a stern talking to and lose some privileges. Then I would sit them down the next morning when they were all hung over, crack a bottle of Jack and make them drink till they puked.

I can not imagine ANY 15 year old on whom spanking would work. pain infliction is only effective when the yare too young for negotiation or for reinforcing obedience... at 15 they are beyond the obedience stage and trying to make them such will likely cause them to pull away harder. I would ground them and hope they got a hang over so all the noise we were going to be making would make them miserable. and hope they learned that drinking is the stupidest "adult" activity there is... it is however unlikely that my children will do such because they will be taught from childhood how moronic consumption of alcohol is... all their immediate and most of their extended family neer touch alcohol.

Honestly? (And I'm sure I'd be the worst parent but...) Spanking probably wont work...but stumbling in drunk is probably enough of a punishment. Let them sleep it off and deal with the hangover tomorrow (without pain killers for migranes and lots of noise if possible). That or get like the Cosby show, make them drink more so the lesson is learned.

No. They'd get treated like an adult.

I wouldn't but my wife would kick his ass, quite literally. I think he'd be safer if he spent the night in jail.

nope, boot camp!!!

No I do not think spanking a 15 year old would be Appropriate and it probably wouldnt affect them anyways. Theres mush better ways to handle teenagers. ;)

Spank them? No. But you can believe that 15 year-old would be on restriction until he's 21!!

No, because being drunk don't = abuse.

No, I would not touch my child, spanking is usually done by slapping the backside. A 15 year old is much too old for anyone to be slapping their butts, not appropriate. I would however be furious and try to ground the child and take everything fun away, I would also see if you could get some infoon alchohol and it's affects on the body and make the child read it.

take his phone away, no more allowance, no computer, no new clothes - there are a lot more ways to hurt a teenager

15 years old is too old for spankings to have any useful effect.... And everybody that knows me knows that I do believe in "whuppin' that ass" regular. I've tried three or four different approaches on this one, with mixed success.. You can ground them, but then you are stuck living with a grouchy 15 year old, and will end up resisting the urge to strangle them with the dirty socks they have left on the living room floor. In the end, grounding just ended up making them realize they needed to spend the night with a friend so they wouldn't get caught next time. I have created miserable, early morning projects that we had to get up and do at 6:00 am until 2:00 PM. 15 year olds don't like to work with a hangover. PRO: You get a dirty job done - dirt cheap Con: You have to get up at 6:00 with them to supervise. In the end, there really wasn't much lesson value. The 3d thing, that has proven best in 4 out of 5 of my teenagers - is communication and tolerance of drinking at home. I allow my kids to drink beer at home with moderation, and under supervision. They know they can drink at home, and they know I'm going to have a "come apart" if I catch them drinking anywhere else. In giving them the "respect" of not forbidding them alcohol at all, they really have nothing to rebel against, and a good alcohol education has reinforced their moderation. We teach our kids how to drive cars, but we expect them to learn all about responsible alcohol use on their own - and only after they turn 21. -- Pretty dangerous if you ask me --

No, even if I hate alcohol, I hate violence two. (And alcohol cause much violence...)

No. Why? You lovingly put her to bed. In the morning you sit on the end of the bed with an Asprin or two and a cup of tea. You say "That was really, really stupid. I know it is normal to experiment, but any fool can get drunk. Smart people know when to stop and can change to soft drinks in between the alcoholic beverage. Do you have any idea how vulnerable you are to someone raping you when you are that drunk? Next time you choose to experiment, you call me and I will come and get you. This is NOT me condoning your stupid childish behaviour...this is me loving and caring about you. My job is NOT to spoil your fun, but to protect you against further dumb behaviour". Then you kiss her...and let her sleep it off.

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No i would ground her.:-)+

No. I can't see how spanking them would make them or me feel any better about it. I would ensure they are okay, keep an eye on them, and when they are thinking more clearly I would discuss my concerns with them and do my best to discourage any future episodes of the same.

No

All kids experiment. I'd be glad they came home and that they were safe. We'd have a talk about it and we'd figure something out. I couldn't have my child riding in a car with someone drunk, or stumbling down the street wasted, or anything like that. It's irresponsible. I'd let my child know that drinking is dangerous at that age. I know they may decide to do it anyway, so I will let them know what is absolutely unacceptable. The Harm Reduction Model. He could drink at home with me someday, but not at 15. I'd have to punish him with extra chores and taking away privileges. Spanking them wouldn't do much good, in my opinion. If you're going to break the law, do it safely and responsibly.

I believe in a spanking. It isn't about the physical pain...more about the psychological aspect. I was spanked a handful of times as a kid...it didn't hurt at all...just my ego, and I turned out just fine. However spanking can only be affective up to a certain age. 15 is too old to use this method. This only thing it will do is humiliate and anger them. Take away privileges and talk to them. Make them realize that they are making poor decisions and they need to start thinking like an adult.

I dont think i would spank him, but he would get a bloody good slap round the ear, and a telling off that he would NEVER forget.. and i would make him get up early and let him suffer the hangover! I think i would also stop giving him any money until he promised he wouldnt buy alcohol again... until he is legally allowed that is.

My parents didn't punish me when they found out I am a recovering alcoholic. I was 12 when I started drinking, and now I'm 14. But they never punished me. They were just dissapointed in me (which is punishment enough.)

Absolutely not. Spanking should be replaced with other non physical punishments well before the child is a teenager. I would probably have a long talk, after they are sober of course and then do some grounding and restrictions.

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No, because it would be ridiculously ineffective.

I think 15 is a little too old to be spanked.

No, a good heart to heart would suffice yo...

Naaa, It wont stop it.

Sure- My 15 year old is 6'3 and could probably kick my ass !

I wouldn;t spank the child....I'd probably make sure they got to their room and once near the soft bed where their landing would be safe I'd give him/her a good push....lol Really I would put the to bed and the next morning I would vaccum at 7am, turn my stereo on turn the volume to maximum tune it to some country station with lots of twangy vocals (those would go right thru their hangover headache - dolly parton would be perfect lmao) Then i would make breakfast and call them to the kitchen, place a cup of black coffee and a bottle of aspirin in their place setting....whiel the rest of us "non offenders" had steak eggs bacon hash browns toast galore.....yea MY CHILD would NEVER do that again!!

Good lord NO!

No. The message you'd be providing is: next time you get drunk, don't come home. Is that what you really want? Talking out (once sober) is the best thing, combined with the temporary loss of some privilege. One thing that worked with my daughters (now grown) at that age was, after calmly talking with them and making them acknowledge they did something wrong, was to let them propose their own penalty. I'd give them a day to think about it, or else I'd choose. Most often than not, their penalty was harsher than what I would have chosen myself (of course I never told them that).

No they'd turn round and smack you back!

no. at 15 spanking is probably as effective as logic is at 2. I would find something better. hopefully the next day would be really sunny make him mow the lawn. other things forcing him to function in the agony of a hangover. aside from that he would be severly punished through groundings and the like.

Not at that age. If my daughter came home drunk, I would have to sit her down and talk about it, spanking will only drive a wedge between you and your child, as he or she is edging closer to young adulthood.

No, he/she would be punished, but not a spanking.

NO!!! That's way too inappropriate.

if it was my booze, yes I would.

First I would try to remember that you can't reason with someone who is intoxicated and hopefully have the wisdom to wait until they sobered up to try to deal with the situation. I think the punishment should decided after I had all the details of the incident. Is the child someone who is normally a good kid that made a bad choice? What's going on that would make it seem like a good idea to drink? Is the child allways into trouble and constantly showing poor judgement? What problems are they trying to deal with and why are they acting out? All of this should be considered because the wrong response will only trigger more bad behavior. Your punishment should help them to learn what they did was a mistake and unacceptable and must be severe enough to get this point across, but it should also show that you love them and want what's best for them, even when their actions drive you crazy.

Yes I would and I would make her get up very early and clean everything I mean the garage,attic kitchen,her room ,my room and take away her privileges.I bet she'll think twice before she drink again.

I sure would, my momma beat me for coming in late at 17 years old so why not 15? x3

no. i'd do something that mattered. when she was sober.

No. First of all, while he is drunk & stumbling is not the time for any type of punishment. It won't mean anything to him in that state and if he remembers it when he sobers up it probably won't be as effective anyway. After he sobers up is not the time either. Too much time has passed for this. While he's drunk is the time to make sure he's OK and will sober up properly and safely. When he's sober, and after he recovers from any hangover, is the time to open discussions with him and find out what happened and why. And to express your concerns, feelings, and rules. And to make arrangements for any help he needs.

Spanking at 15 is useless. Nitro's answer is an excellent one! The key in disciplining our teens is the same as it was with our younger kids. We have to maintain that relationship with them! For some reason, when they become teenagers we think aha! now we can let them go off and do their own thing. No way! Look at what Nitro is really doing. He's DOING a project WITH his kids. He's spending time with them, letting them know that he LOVES THEM ENOUGH to do the right thing by them, and spend TIME making sure they learn their lessons. That is love. Unfortunately, as a teacher I've seen too many parents who have just dropped off their kids at school expecting the "system" to teach their kids and they don't spend enough time anymore to let them know how much they are valued. Please, parents. Take the time, like NITRO. Especially with your teens. It's okay to make them do something they don't want to do, but do it with them, to let them know that you WANT to spend time with them (even when it might not be that pleasant sometimes.) This is for their future, and yours. Someday, you'll both be thankful you did!! And so will the rest of society!

NO I wouldn't I would be just glad that he or she arrived home safely. Descipline can be administered later. I think trying to convey the ups and down of drinking can be explained better by mouth than by the hand.

No.....I think I would send them off to a teenage boot camp before the child knew what time it was....lol

no....i wouldnt even try to get a 15 y/o to sit still long enough for me to spank them..thats not gonna do anything....a loss or privileges would work better in my eyes

No but I don't believe in spaking. I talk with both my 14 and 17 year olds about the dangers of drinking and especailly driving. So far we haven't had those kinds of problems. If we did I would probably have a long serious talk with them and have consequences that fit the crime. For example if they were irresponsible enough to drink and drive no more driving. If they can't be trusted to make good choices when unsupervised then no unsupervised parties. For my 14 year old no unsupervised parties or gatherings period.

No. But he has gotten into a lot of trouble for doing it.

No. 15 year olds are reasonable people exploring adult behaviors. If they are going to act like an aadult, they should be dealt with as one. They deserve respect and will likely show the parent more respect if it is dealt with in a sensible, adult manner. Obviously the parent is mad and with good reason, but in my opinion, spanking is reserved for children and a 15 year old is growing out of childhood and into a young adult.

no but i would have a big long talk and try and understand why she's drinking and take away any privelidges for a fortnight at least. this tends to hurt more than causing any pain.

No, but we would schedule a very long conversation where we would discuss realities of life, limits, accountability, and expectations.

Hitting any child whether 15 years of age or younger is not justifiable in any situation. Hitting ANYONE is not nice..; ) Just as the other post says, sit down and talk to them.

Talking and babying them will only make them turn into serial killers or even worse a politician. I say smack the whiskey out of him.Infact I am due for my "smarten up pill", better call my mom up to gimme a smack upside the head. Works everytime. Fear and intimidation along with the smack will really get your point accross. Actually I'm thinking of opening a company where we would go around and smacks teens up side the head, just to keep them in check, and it's a great stress reliever for us. :)

No. I think that would be highly humiliating to your child...and he would not forget it, ever. There must be a better way to deal with the situation. I am not a parent so I really do not know how to deal with children but I obviously have been a 15 year old and that spanking happened to me albeit for a different reason. That was 40 years ago and I have never forgotten about it!

Ok, so if you hit someone PHYSICALLY, someone you either know or do not know it is considered a crime, but you can hit your kids at home and its ok? WOW

i would congratulate him/her for not going home with a drunk driver. then have a serious talk with him/her so that she/he would not be afraid to come to me with there problems.

I would threaten them with calling the cops for being drunk and underage, though if you can get them over your knee, by all means!

15 is far to old to be spanking your children. They are young adults. I think its important to not loose it in situations like these. Most people experience this sometime or another as teenagers. A calm discussion about it can help alot and grounding them might be he wisest punishment.

Yes I would.I remember once I came home drunk,I was 17 you should see what my mom did to me and I was begging her not to tell my father!

Hell yes, I would! It might be my last chance to make an impression on a wayward teen! I won't waste the opportunity.

I wouldnt spank them, but my god, drunk at 15 , that is just the worst, their punishment would be severe to say the least...............

I would give him the ass whipping of his life you can count on that.

No, that would be called child abuse. Which is illegal. I dont think that a memory of their parents hitting them is very good. They are more likely to resent you than learn anything. Not saying you should let them off, verbal is much more effective than physical.

Thanks for your response. My husband is a retired deputy and yes we both agreee that there is a difference between discipline and beating a kid up. I agree that a child should be disciplined, however a 15 year old, we both agree is too old for the technique of discipline.

Spanking a 15 y/o won't do much for disciple.

I would not spank a 15 year old under any circumstances. By the time they are old enough to attend school - and I don't mean high school - there are better, more effective ways of discipline.

spanking is not very useful so ya but i have a 17yrs old sis and drank when she was 15 and so my dad spanked her on her back with a metal belt and still she does drink im telling you parents SPANKING DOESN'T HELP (NEITHER DOES GROUNDING)

no..HOUSE ARREST! no cell, no computer, no friends over, no going out..hard labor at the house!

No...spanking a child at 15 is too old and would be humiliating for the teen. I would never want my kids to feel like that.

Yeah so I'm 15 and gunna throw this out there, 15 is too old to spank. Cause y'know...they can hit back... >.< At this point your best bet it so put them on lock down?

No way. Take away their privileges. It will hurt more.

Literally, no. Figuratively, yes. For days, weeks, possibly months, on end.

A 15 year old is too old for spanking. And a drunk 15 year old just might kick your butt if you tried. I would ground them for a month and do whatever it took to find out who got the alcohol for them. I would find out who they were with and call the parents of the other kids. If the situation warrented extreme measures I would not hesitate to get the police involved. It may sound harsh, but you may be saving your kid's life.

Brute force is not the answer. Get your kid involved in something constructive. Give them goals they can reach so they are encourage to continue.

Spanking a drunk 15 y/o seems like such a cumbersome and messy affair. ;) I'd guide them to the toilet because I don't like cleaning up barf.

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nope you will only regret it... punishment is a better...for both of you...

Naa, not unless I wanted a 'repeat performance' yo...

Don't spank him.... Hurting your kid isn't going to stop him from getting drunk.... just send him to juvenile detention for a while.... If he doesn't like being in jail then he'll think twice before doing something against the law....

give them syrup of ipecac.

When my daughter did this last year, falling in a ditch drunk at 15 to me warented something with a little more jazz....a good ol fasion Teen Arse Kickin...(kidding) ...but not far from the truth. I spent the entire week after that little drunken stooper of hers being so loud, I'm sure her hangover was "held over" into that whole next week. Talk talk talk, really loud and o ften, follow her around and never let her rest. I'm hoping she'll think twice about having a hang over under my roof and not do it. But if she does, I've got my bongo drumbs my singing in the shower and my endless following her around and talking about everything and nothing at all. :}

No........I'm hoping the hangover would be sufficient punishment enough...........and then a good lecture while she's battling her headache in between hugging the toilet..........

That's kind of dumb. Do something more appropriate for the age.

no that's ridiculous! she's a young woman and spanking her is out of line. Taking away something from her room for a week or making her forfeit pocket money or do a small list of jobs in the house, something that will make her life less happy for two or 3 days is more likely to hit home that she was behaving irresponsibly. After two or 3 days, don't keep going on about her behaviour. It has then become the past.

not spank?? just take away privledges intill they stop maby they will learn that its not worth it

No. I picked my 16 yr old son up at the police station because he was drunk. When I got there I didn't say anything, we got in the car and then I said to him "I'm so dissapointed in you and we'll talk about this in the morning" He's 20 now and sometimes we talk about the past. He told me he will never forget how he felt when I said that. He said it was worse than any punishment he could have gotten.

No..I don't see how hitting the kid is going to do any good.

Speaking as a 15 y/o who comes home drunk, no. Personally, id hate it if you so much as recognised my existence at that point...

spanking is more for younger kids when that is the only thing they understand. he/she is sixteen take things away dont just ground them! take away there computer cell phone video game and tv rights! give them a book and show them a chair.

No because I think 15 is way too old. But I would sit him/her down and have a serious talk with them about drinking and its harmful effects.

Spanking them would just make them hate you more, and they'd blame you for it. At 15, they are old enough to reason, and you just have to show your disappointment with them. Hopefully the feelings of shame will last longer than the sting of some momentary swattings.

Hell Yes AFTER she sobered up. She might be too drunk to feel it. I would take away any electronics she has and ground her for one week and two weekends.If it continues County funded Rehab might be a lesson to learn.

not at all. its so much better to make the kid clean the house with all the windows open and music blasted in the house. that's punishment for you. a grounding would also be expected, naturally.