ANSWERS: 52
  • I don't. I expect simply to get the respect I deserve for the things I do well :)
  • Its not a case of chivalry its just being treated nicely, I dont expect a guy to open a car door for me I think that stuff is lame. I expect to be treated as I would treat him.
  • I'm kind of torn on the whole "equal pay" thing. Look at it this way: I'm 5' tall, 120 lbs, with little upper-body strength. My husband is almost 6 feet, 240 and can bench close to 300 lbs. If we were both put to the task of building a brick wall, or installing a wood floor... there's no way in HELL I would expect to be paid the same as him. I am physically INCAPABLE of performing that work to the same degree he can. Now, if we were both put to the task of typing letters or data entry, I should be paid more than him, because he is not equally as adept at typing as I am. HOWEVER - there are MANY more people capable of typing letters (both male and female) than there are skilled tradesmen these days. The number of people vying for clerical and office type positions FAR outweighs the number of jobs available, so those positions will pay less across the board, regardless of gender of the worker. The skilled tradesmen, which is a very male-dominated field for sheer ABILITY to perform as well as willingness, is much higher paying. I'm not great at math... but wouldn't that come out to an average of men getting paid more than women?
  • They have faith they will.
  • How is this question not misoginistic and sexist?
  • Not all women think that way. Personally I think if a man and a woman are doing the same job equally well then they should get paid the same wage simple. If you are talking opening doors and pulling out chairs lets look at the other side, often the women of these men are washing their laundry, making their beds, and cooking their meals, I think it makes them even.
  • So, if I expect a guy to be nice to me, I shouldn't expect to have equal rights? Or, if I expect equal rights, I shouldn't expect guys to be nice to me? I'm not really into the whole chivalry thing, but being polite and nice wouldn't hurt. Maybe coming to my door to get me for a date, instead of texting me that he's here? Or honking his horn? Doesn't leave me too excited.
  • Equal pay for an equal day, is not too much to expect. If a woman can and does do a job as well as a man of course she should be paid the same and that is rarely the case. On the chivalry subject that is just respect for yourself and others and should be handed out to everyone and accepted with thanks by those on the receiving end. It is very nice to be treated with respect .
  • Now first thing, I want to get this myth out of the way. There is no wage gap. (See the video for information, don't bitch at me till you see it.) Second of all, you're mass labeling a huge group of people. I know one woman who is very sexist, who wants to be treated equally, but doesn't think women should be in the workplace at all! Likewise, I've been bitched at once by a woman for holding a door open for her at the post office. Really you can't make a blanket statement like that and expect good results.
  • Why do men expect a hot meal in a clean house? Why should women have to work and then come home to clean and cook? Welcome to our world.
  • Because women are every bit as bright as a man, and if they do an equal job, they should receive equal pay and equal rights, as well as an equal chance of advancement. They've had a shoddy deal through most of history and that should stop. As far as the chivalry goes, because they deserve to be pampered a little. Since many women go far and above for a man, with often little thanks and a lingering societal expectation that that is the way things should be, I think it's important to show appreciation and what's more, respect. My wife is my equal and she's a woman. She's also my lady and I will always open her door and pull out her chair.
  • Why should men have all the fun? Do you really want to take care of us for the rest of our lives? Yes, we should have those rights, and any other one you guys are hiding from us.
  • Chivalry and equality are two completely different things.
  • There is no room for those that wouldn't be kind and respectful, honorable to either sex, whether it takes on shades of being chivalrous or of quiet respect. And if someone does the same job with just as much skill as another, why should they not be paid the same wage? What difference does sex make? I don't think either sex gets the bad end of the stick if each is respectful and kind towards the other and both appreciate the fine work they do. How does that hurt either of them?
  • Equal pay and rights are financial, business, and political issues. Chivalry's exceptionally personal -- I know women who're actively upset if a man tries to pick up the check, or open the car door for them.
  • what would make women deserve less pay than a man? as far as i am concerned women are born with the right to have equal rights/pay... Thats kind of like asking do Black people really expect to vote and have the same rights as white people? why should they get the best of both worlds when they obviously share different genetics than most Caucasian Americans? the issue is dead, yet discrimination exists against women and African Americans. Yes women (humans) should expect equal rights in America and other civilized regions of the world. As for chivalry... they can open their own doors. Women should expect to be treated with respect. at the end of the day i think most people would rather be treated with respect and valued for their intelligence than have the door held for their beauty or their vagina. just my opinion though
  • Why shud we have the best of both worlds? Because we control 100% of the pussy, baby! lol
  • that's like comparing apples with oranges... if that segment of men and women who sit behind a computer churning out line and lines of codes... and if in that scenario the women are paid less than I would yell discrimination... compare that with a factory worker... I would say "pay depends on outputs"...
  • Well first off, equality & chivalry are two completely separate things. Should they take away our right to vote just to even it out? lol I, personally, expect to be paid the same amount as a man while doing the same job. I expect civil rights as a human being, I expect to vote and I also expect a man to hold the door for me. Nothing wrong with that ;) I believe that I am chivalrous in my own right. I will always stop to help an elderly person or a child or anyone in need. My man expects a packed lunch, a hot dinner, clean clothes in the closets and a clean home and that is what I provide. I work a full time job and contribute to the household expenses. Women also bear a lot of the pain in life, lifelong pain that allows the earth sustain life. I wouldnt call that having the best of both worlds at all.
  • Please excuse me for being crass but it boils down to... They havd the P*ssy so they make the rules! and it is best to let them think this is the truth...(Lol) If they are doing the same work they should get the same pay and wether or not you want to be a gentleman should not have anything to do with that!
  • Smart ass answer time: Because we control 100% of the pussy! lol
  • I don't expect a man to open doors for me or stand up if I leave a room. I think it's up to the man to want to do it, as a gentleman. As things go, I would open a door for a man or be as kind in return...it's only fair and polite. Some women feel entitled to things because they are women. I think it's nice to be treated well by men, but it's also nice to reciprocate. Equal pay/rights? Those are still a struggle for women. And I do believe it should be the same as for men. Period. It should not be one or the other!
  • So, if a woman makes as much as a man - he doesn't have to be nice to her? I think Men and Woman are really confused about their roles, in life and society. We used to have it all spelled out for us... then women started having "ideas" which opened pandora's box. Why can't we women just do what were told?
  • They expect it because they might be able to get it. There are yet enough chivalrous men - fools and tools - to make it happen for women for a little while longer. Why should they? If you're looking for a positive answer, I'd suggest "Power" by Korda.
  • I have to say that I hold open more doors for men than they do for me. As to pay, if I do the same job equally as well, why should I not be paid the same? I was raised to have a very strong work ethic. I have and still do put some men to shame when doing the same job as they are doing.
  • It's double dipping men were paid more because it was understood that they flip the dime on the dating scene. For example the last lady I dated was making more than me and I still paid. Man she really took advatage of me.
  • I don't. Chivalry is stupid. Hardly the best of any world, just an outdated tradition that was basically a consolation prize for being treated like an object to be given away, sold, married off, whatever you want to call it. I'd rather have equal pay, equal rights, and have men treat me as an equal. Not make some grand gesture of a piddling little trifle like pulling my chair out for me and expect me to let him call the shots in response. For example. I pay for my own meal, I pay my own bills, I don't want flowers. I want my boundaries respected, my body respected, and my rights equal. I want equal pay for equal work, and I want the same career opportunities and promotions. I want the right not to be raped no matter what clothes I'm wearing. I want to decide when and whether I have children. Anyone who doesn't like that, well, your loss.
  • I think it all depends on the woman, I actually find that woman admonish men who try to practice chivalry more so than anything.
  • I don't want chivalry. I don't want a man to pay for everything. Or rush passed me to open a door when I am fully able to. I do want common courtesy. If -you- asked -me- out. You're paying. If you are ahead of me or my hands are full, open the door. If some jerk is hitting on me, knock his block off. Chivalry is not being pampered and catered too. It's being kind, considerate and going out of your way to make a woman happy. We still, most of the time, do the cooking and cleaning, etc, even when we are working, why can't mean be chivalrous and take the dirty dishes to the kitchen for us after dinner?
  • ON FIRST DATES I INSIST ON PAYING IF THAT MEANS ANYTHING...THEN AFTER THAT, AT LEAST SPLIT IT. OH YEA, IM A WOMAN...HONESTLY I DONT THINK WOMEN HAVE THE RIGHT TO THINK LIKE THAT ANYMORE, CONSIDERING THEY INSIST IN BEING TREATED EQUAL...ACT LIKE IT!!! I MEAN DONT GET ME WRONG, EVERYONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT...BUT CHIVALRY IS DEAD
  • My wife gets chivalry but not some random woman on the train or even in the office. I treat them just like the men. I don't discriminate.
  • Out of curiousity, I looked up the exact definition of chivalry and chivalrous. Here's one: marked by honor, generosity, and courtesy. I'm very chivlrous towards my partner and I expect the same from him. Equality is not an excuse for members of either sex to behave boorishly.
  • I don't.
  • Hmm chivalry... Some say its to dominate but it all depends on the person anyways. I believe that women should be paid equally and receive chivalry only if they are respectable to begin with. And anymore chivalry goes both ways from what i have experienced. The thing i get caught up on is the draft and going to war. If women want equality across the board then that includes going to war and dying. A woman can pull a trigger just as well as a man, in fact women have slower basal heart rate so they actually have an advantage over men. I would like your input because i dont really know how i feel about this. FYI(sex issues are very touchy. they require a lot of thought from both sexes and should be handled with respectfully(includes both sides)
  • we don't expect. That's why we want to be able to support ourselves and not rely on ur generosity. It's a fairytale notion, and a guy would only do it if he was in love with u, and then I wouldn't expect it either.
  • THAT'S ENOUGH I don't need anyone's chavialry. I jst need to be paid for a fair amount of work and get on with my life. I don't need a pathetic guy to think he is giving me so much for opening a door for me. GOSH I can open it myself. Majority of people keep the doors open for each other anyway, what's the big deal? If ur dating me I have standards. You don't meet them fk off!
  • chivalry is nothing more than courteous behavior by men towards women...why should women have to settle for one or the other...do you really think women should have to put up with being treated disrespectfully if they are going to get equal pay? what is chivalrous about not having equal rights? men want to paid fairly and treated with respect, women should have the same thing.
  • ummm. first of all, work and home arev two separate places. i work hard, as hard as any man at works, so I should have equal pay. If you question equal RIGHTS, there isnt really any point in explaining it to you. It is a crime to beat, assault, rape or steal from a man, so its a crime to do the same to a woman. Women have equal education and involvement, why would they not be allowed to vote? So, why should my husband still treat me good, despite the fact that I can vote, earn money to help support OUR family and he isnt allowed to beat or rape me? The answer...because he is a real man and doesnt feel threatened by the fact that I have a career, and can vote. And he also has no need for domestic violence, so he doesnt see it as a loss that he is not allowed to do it. Is it hypocritical that YOU get paid for your work, but your woman still loves you and treats you well? of course THATS ok! If you want to talk about best of both worlds, lets talk about wives who have careers, do all the housework and raise the kids. all the husband has to do is go to work and come home for sex. So, WHO has the best of both worlds?
  • I understand your point, as I think its rediculous to expect the guy to ask out the lady, pay for the date, and be the one to propose. We are in a time of equal rights (which is definitely a good thing) and I wish that would translate to the dating world.
  • Since when has chivalry and or, courteous behavior gone out of style? I want to be treated decently, don't you? It works both ways. And why should I not be paid the same as any other person doing the same job? Who else is going to pay my bills except for me? The person asking the question? Doubt it. Rights? Shouldn't people also be treated decently on the job too?
  • It's a reasonable expectation as long as she's not some feminist. In that case, she needs to open her own doors. Equality.
  • Do women expect chivalry?
  • Why should anyone expect to be treated differently because they decide to earn an income? A person has every right to be treated well both inside and outside of an office setting. One aspect of daily living should not be influenced by the other.
  • I think we have every right to expect equal pay and rights when we are doing equal jobs. I don't expect chivalry but I do expect respect and kindness just as I would from a woman.
  • because we work as hard as they do and we should have the same right as them hahahaha kl
  • Equal pay for equal work. Chivalry because we're ladies. Generally a man's chivalry is an acknowledgement of his respect for her and a confirmation of his masculine role in society. And if she's a lady, she will show her appreciation for his actions through a thank you, or doing something kind for him in exchange, depending on what's applicable to the situation. I don't understand why anyone would have a problem with this unless they have issues with women. Of course, there is no law that you should act chivalrous, and not all ladies will expect chivalry. But the caliber of ladies who will enjoy your company will certainly suffer. Maybe you like that though, I don't know.
  • Because they are probably exquisite women. I'm being serious. It is entirely natural for any person to expect all good things their individual talents can make possible. If a woman is intelligent and attractive then she will expect equal rights in honor of her intelligence and chivalry in honor of her feminine beauty. If you don't like it, you could always just lower your standards a bit.
  • If it's equal,then you should have the best of both worlds too,so why complain?*
  • I think some people are misunderstanding your question....the women who do this are called "Opportunist" and claim they are independant and want independance, but live off of man....women, you may dissagree if you wish, but, its true...not saying all men are innocent of similar things, im just touching on this subject. The type of women you speak of, some eventually have reality smack em square in the face when they get dropped.
  • Best of both worlds? There's nothing so great about either "privilege", having someone being overly courteous to the point it has no meaning, or increasing the volume of useless items purchased by the public every year ... So they have their bad points and good, but that's not what you are asking, your asking why women deserve manners and an adequate pay rise to live in todays confusion of an economy ... why do men deserve the same? I wouldn't be courteous to someone who is apparently looking down on me like I think you are. Of course you may just be asking a simple question, and also I most likely would still be nice in any case, but I'm getting a point across here... You shouldn't generalize, I don't mind if someone uses "abusive" language towards me, and I "work" at something I really like doing, Its not about the pay. ( for me anyway ) There are no "best worlds", even if that just a figure of speech, we live in one world, and it's funny how this sort of thing has been going on for ages in a kinds of subjects ... In this case, it would be as simple as lowering the price of /everything/ and all pay from jobs, by a large, but equal amount ... but wait, the ratio would be the same, would you see the same value in what your given? On a separate note, again with the Darwin, ... males are meant to be "competing" ... maybe the challenge of wit isn't enough to show dominance?
  • Everyone has that right, even women...
  • Because they're women and they deserve it.

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