Would you end a relationship because your s/o started smoking?
by 
Zack Be Gone - All Hail Firebrand.
ANSWERS: 79
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No, but I would banish his nasty cigarettes to the back porch and he would definitely NOT be allowed to smoke in the house -- or to kiss me.
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No but I would end one if they quit
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no
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Of course not. That's ridiculous!
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If she started smoking cannabis I would not mind, as long as she was not reckless with it. I might have to draw the line at cigarettes though. Even so, I think a woman smoking a cigar can be very sexy if done not more than once a year (give or take).
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I love lighting cigs using nifty match-striking techniques. At least,it really amuses me. So no, not that far, but I'd carry around an awful lot of breath mints.
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Probably..that is bait and switch, false advertising..I didn't sign on to have to breath second-hand smoke for the rest of my life. That would be a very big dealbreaker for me! :(
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naaa even tho i don't smoke i kinda like the smell
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If it were cigarettes, no...Meth, maybe.
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Naaah ! I would get into a fight though :-)
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No. But they would know very well how much it bothers me and would not consider starting. If they still did it there would be quite some rules to keep that smoke away from me.
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Nope.
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I smoked when I met my boyfriend. He said he accepted it and didn't want to change me. We dated and then he changed his mind and said it bothered him. So I quit. I stopped buying cigarettes completly. One night I went over to my friend's house and had ONE cigarette on the porch with her. He had a huge fit and said if I ever smoked a cigarette again he would basically break up with me. What a bait and switch! I am glad I stopped but ut still pisses me off why I stopped. Hm!
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Yes. I'm allergic to the smoke. It makes breathing very difficult for me and i have to begin breathing through my mouth, which I find disgusting in a smoke-filled atmosphere. As much as I like women, kissing a smoker conjurs mental images that reduce from reward to punishment. I don't enjoy the filth with which they associate themselves, nor the litter they produce. The relationship would end, as several others before them have done. It's a shame, really, because smoking is so unnecessary. A joint every now and then is OK, but tobacco cigarettes are just right out. It's my preference and I see no reason to change it.
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Yes, I probably would because smoking turns me off. I don't think I would be as attractive to him.
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no i would not. he smokes now anyway.
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No,i dont smoke but my ex's have it makes no difference really,if you love someone them smoking is immaterial
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I don't know. I've never dated a smoker, so I've never really been in that situation.
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If it was a new relationship, I probably would. If it was a long-term or committed relationship, I would be sorely tempted to, but I wouldn't.
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I smoke, I dont think it be cool if I ended a relationship when I smoke.
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Strictly based on that, no.
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I probably would. I just can't' stand smoke. If someone smokes, it's usually a dealbreaker for me.
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yes, smoking is a big deal for me. Not only does it ruin their smell, it's unhealthy for me and everyone else involved.
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No i wouldnt it seems a very petty thing to do a bit like dumping them because they love eating garlic and having a stinky breath lol.
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No. My boyfriend quit smoking not long after we met. I would have a serious issue with it if he started again though.
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It would be a serious problem. I'm an ex-smoker, and cannot tolerate smoke for any long period of time, nor can I tolerate the smell. Thankfully, my s/o never has smoked and has no desire to.
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Depends how much I really wanted to be with them... I met someone and he smoked and I said I cant date a smoker cause its a dirty habit and I hated the smell. We dated for a year because he was willing to quit to be with me. He now smokes again. ut I met someone recently and really like him and he smokes casually and dont really mind since he doesnt do it infront of me.
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No i will try to talk first and nothing happend. I will end the relation. I can't smell the smoke I have Asthma. that is why.
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it depends on what he started smoking
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No, but I would probably smack the crap out of him for making such a terrible decision. Then I would do my best to help him quit. Smoking is a waste. A waste of good health and a waste of money.
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It's a definite possibility.
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No, I wouldn't.
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no but i'd probably rant and rave and pretty much spam them with anti smoking ads. so they might end the relationship because i don't like it. =/
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No..I'll just tell him to stop but I will not end our relationship.^_^
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i ended a relationship because my s/o wouldnt quit smoking cigarettes. i couldnt stand the smoke, the ashtrays, the ash, the terrible taste from kissing her lips. yuk.
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No way. I could see breaking up with someone for cheating or killing my cat but smoking? What's the deal? Just tell them that you would rather them not do it around you and if they say no and don't respect that, there's an issue to consider!
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That's hard to say, I wanted to type "YES" in bold letters with 43 "!" marks following but I second guessed myself. Situation based, if it was a GF yes if it was my wife No (sickness and in health; my sickness of her failing health) We'd have to work through it, but smoking is such a turn off.
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No. But she would be requierd to smoke outside the house and never in the car. And she would need to brush her teeth or rinse her mouth before kissing me.
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It depends. If you are not okay with them smoking then you need to tell them so and if they don't stop then you should break up with them because you don't want to be with someone who smokes. But if being with a smoker doesn't bother you then keep dating.
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if i didn't smoke probably...but first i would see if they are interested in stopping since it's a bad habit, and once you start its very very hard to stop.
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i wouldn't because im a smoker and it doesnt bother me. and before i started smoking it didnt bother me unless they REAKED of the smell.
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Ive ended one for that exact reason. I hate smoking. And when my s/o started i told her that better be her last one. Then she started doing it behind my back so that was the end.
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No but I'm really sensitive to smoke so they would either have to stop or really go out of their way so I didn't notice.
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Being a man, That would depend if I was in love or just lust
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no, but i would make sure that he knew that i didn't want him doing it around me.
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I have thought about what I would do if my significant other smoked I used to think leaving him if he did, but now I think differently I would suggest him to stop smoking because is harmful to him and me and our kids and other people, but if he did not stopped then I cannot do nothing but be 10 feet away when he smokes.
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I dont think so but if they were smart they should stop.I mean people average like 4 -6 packs a week i think and that could be money for your gas tank.
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If we weren't married, yes, I could do that. If we were married, I would have to learn to live with it, but I wouldn't like it.
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he does smoke but hes quiting for me, but even if he wasnt quiting, no, i wouldnt break up with him cause of it. if he started smoking though without being addicted i think thats so gay, i can stand people that just start smoking randomly, they just do it cause it makes them feel cool or something and they come up with the gayest excuses too, like 'i have adhd so i like doing things with my hands' lame, lame lame lame i can understand people who did it when they were a little kid, like my s/o started smoking when he was 10 and then it became an addiction. if someone i was dating took up smoking though i guess i would break up with them because it shows a weak personality cause theyre using something so stupid to try and fit it. its like those people who get tattoos as fast as they can and none of the tats have any meaning to them
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Well. If he started smoking crack, I probably would. Anything minor though, no.
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Maybe, I convinced my Boyfriend to quit smoking last summer because it was killing him, In the way that he'd already lost one lung to smoking and is still at a risk of getting a blood clot (and he's only 22). I remember about 2-3 weeks after he 'quit' I caught him smoking. I didn't get mad, I just blanked him for the whole day, and he hasn't smoked since, But if I did catch him smoking, I'd take that as him disrespecting me and probably call a break or something, (Coz I could never leave him,)
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Did they really just start smoking, or did you just find out they're a smoker? I don't think I'd end a relationship because of it, but if they hadn't smoked before, I would try to convince them to quit now, while it's easy. Years from now, when they want to, it will be MUCH harder, if not impossible. Also, if there are kids in the family (or will be) they should not smoke inside or in any enclosed space (say car) with them, and they also need to think about what they are modeling for them.
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Nope. I'm married to a wonderful woman. I am sure she will never smoke. If she starts I will help her quit.
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If I really loved him than smoking would not make me leave him. If you love each other you stick together through it all & help each other.
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No. Now if they started shooting up heroin or popping pills maybe...but cigs, no.
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there would not be any kissing going on, that is for sure
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No, I smoke sometimes, but if I didn't, no. I would intervene and help him quit so he didn't get addicted. I wouldn't be with a guy who would end a relationship just because of smoking either. So I guess I'm set.
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Even if I was not already a smoker myself, the fact that she actually is a smoker too would not bother me.
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depends on what they were smoking
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I would strongly disapprove, but I would not end our relationship, no. Relationships - serious ones - are about good and bad, pleasant and unpleasant. I would never dump my partner because he took up something like smoking cigarettes. I would be very disappointed that he didn't take his health more seriously and I would be hurt by his insensitivity - especially after losing my Grandmother recently due to smoking-related Cancer - but I would not break up with him. I'd rather live with his smoking than without him at all.
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I wouldn't divorce my other half, but I'd become sooo grumpy about this - OMG! I know his weakest spot - our daughter. Last time he quit I've pressed that spot so hard, he couldn't even light that deathstick up anymore. So, if he starts again (which I doubt), I know what to do. ))))
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Yes
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Only if it were someone else's "cigar" and not mine... :-)
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depends on how much i love someone but i def. wouldnt want them to bring it into my life especially after i quit
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Tough question. Probably not...but I would really have to see how much of it I could tolerate. The smell is pretty foul...we are both ex smokers so we both really don't like the way smoke smells anymore (it seems that ex smokers have the least tolerance for it?)
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only if they stopped doing other things, its not what you do for your mate but what you don't do that will piss them off
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I was a smoker when I met my ex- husband. We were together four years before we got married. After seven months of marraige, he decided that I was disgusting and he didn't love me because I was a smoker!
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No.... I don't mind smoking!!! I think I am addicted to second hand smoke!!! lol I just say that because I have never smoked but I am always around smokers!!!
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I would have to due to my asthma. I can't breathe if the smell is even in my clothes or if I even walk by a room where someone has been smoking so I would have to .
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I would not start a relationship with someone I knew smoked. But if someone that I was already in a relationship with started smoking, no, I would not end the relationship.
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no i wouldn't i mean it their personal choice that they have to make for themselves and it would be unfair to make them choose...
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no, I would explain him why he should stop, but ultimately that's his choice, not mine
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"started smoking"....ok, then you must be young teenagers. there are much better reasons to end a relationshop and smoking isn't one. it may be a phase...but it's up to you. Would you end a relationship because some stranger on a website told you to? Think about it then make your OWN decisions.
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No i would not.
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I have thought about it. I know I avoid kissing her as much as I use to, it does really turn me off. She also avoids me when she comes back inside after having one, that really pisses me off although I know why she is avoiding me...
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my last girlfriend ended it cuz i started smoking weed so id say yes some would
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No. But i would tell him i would prefer him not to smoke. We had this conversation before we even started anything. I made sure that he knew that i would not tolerate a smoke addict, or an alcoholic.
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My best friend, who is blonde, threatened to break up with her boyfriend for starting smoking again. He swore he hadn't. She produced his undershorts, showing the nicotine stains, as proof that he was lying! :-)
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No
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