• I don't "blame" anyone. I'm too busy looking for the solution to getting the kid back on track to waste that kind of time and energy.
  • Every situation is different. There are often many factors that could be causing the child to do poorly in school. A child could be a victim of bullying before or after school that the teacher and/or parents might not be aware of. Don't forget that home life and parents are part of the mix too... and as an elementary teacher, let me tell you, it's a major part. I've witnessed students that were doing well, seemed well-adjusted who, suddenly, in the middle of the year, withdraw, lose interest, or simply begin to not care. Upon investigation, events like parents separating, new partners/spouses for their parents moving in, new baby siblings, an illness or death in the family, among others, have all been reasons for a child not performing as well as they could be in school. Having said that, I acknowledge that sometimes, yes... the teacher's teaching style may not be conducive to the student's learning style. It simply happens. We're all human. Personalities sometimes just don't mesh. Upon realization of this, a good teacher would do her or his best to find ways, resources (including other educators in the school) that can help the student. It shouldn't be a blame-game. Teacher-child-parent. All need to be involved in finding a way to make the student successful.
  • Honestly, blame my son a little and blame the teacher a little. My son for not coming to me sooner and hiding that he wasn't doing well instead of coming to me and showing me the issues so I can help. The teachers for not making a simple call home, rather waiting till 3 weeks before quarters end to send a 'progress report'.
  • the parents are the highest responsible
  • It could be either, both, or neither. I would put my efforts into trying to solve the problem rather than looking for someone to blame.
  • Both, The student has the responsibility to learn his/her school work,and parents need to get involved in this!. The teacher needs to make sure the students receive the information so they understand it;) It really tough on teachers and students now a days but it can be solved with parents help and teachers aids and tutoring;)
  • It's not usually a matter of "blame," but if I HAD to blame anyone, it would probably be the parents.
  • Most likely the child AND the parents. The teacher is there to present the data, discuss it if there is time, and grade the work. The child is there to learn and do the work. The parent has the responsibility to make sure their children actually do the work, and study. So unless the teacher is just horrible, all blame is split between the parents and child.
  • why do you take a step back and look at the kids home life.
  • This depends on the context. If the child is trying his best, does his homework, participates in class and asks questions - yet still does not get the material - I would blame the teacher (unless the child has a disability). The material may not be presented properly, or be above the grade level the teacher presides over.
  • The problem here in my mind is the word blame. There are so many variables to consider here withour direct knowledge this is a hard question to answer. Does the child hear and see well? Is the child getting support from home around learning and school work? Is the child dyslexic? Does the child have some other learning disability? Is the child teased at school? Rule out all of these kinds of issues and have the teacher and parent partner to help.
  • It depends on each situation but I do believe that the system is a little messed up. Every child learns in different ways and every teacher has a manual that they have to teach by and have too many children to even think about each child. I guess this is where the parents come in and work on their child to either help the child or seek someone else that can help him/her. It's not really anyone's fault.
  • 7-16-2017 Just tell me one thing: which of them was schooled for four years in how to deal with the other?
    • Jewels Vern
      BTW It's obvious that nobody here ever heard of "bussing". There was a tremendous battle in the late 1950s. Schools tried every trick they could think of to sever parental authority and influence, even to the point of teaching nonsense so the parents couldn't help with homework. Schools had stopped teaching civics about thirty years earlier, and that is why parents had no idea how to regain control.

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