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  • Research and learn the facts about the abortion. This is a very difficult decision to make and you need the support of your boyfriend right now, since there are alot of people that will try to persuade you to do or not to do it. Talk to the doctor that will actually be doing it, the more you know about it, the more of an informed decision you can make. If you do decide against it, you can always research adoption as well. Giving up a baby to a woman who is unable to have her own is the idea of giving the baby a better life than you can currently provide for them. Best wishes to you regardless of your choice my dear.
  • Adoption....Ever consider that???
  • Consider adoption if abortion isn't in your ideals. You are giving your baby to a woman who is often unable to have her own and truly values the child. It allows you to continue life as it is for you, and you can often choose to have full communication with the new family or none at all based on your prefrences.
  • I know I'll get knocked down for stating the obvious, at 15 I can understand a bit, but only just a bit. What were you thinking?I don't know what country you're from, but mine teaches the basics and consequences in school. Heck, I'm 44 and I still recall my "Male health classes" that were taught as part of phys ed in grade 6. No more preaching from the non secular pulpit. You've decided that you are having an abortion. That's your right. It's your body after all. Having a child at your age can be extremely difficult, not just for the parents, but the welfare of the child. That's the end all here. Not you, not your boyfriend but the prospects of a child. I think the fact that you're asking this in a public forum is simply looking for an excuse, to put it bluntly. Welcome to being an adult. Your choices in how you deal with things now matter to you exclusively.I'm not anti abortion and I'm not pro abortion. It's not for me to decide what others do with their lives. I am, however, pro child. I'm an adopted one. One of those tag lines that follows you wherever you go. There's another option, should your situation permit. Bottom line, what's best for the future of ALL concerned,in your mind.
  • Do not ask the same question more than once.
  • When I new on AB alot of mine were dups, just try to ask another question, we'll see it:) As a matter of fact I still get dups........it happens!!
  • I'm not even going to pretend to know what you are going through. I know you must be going through a lot of hell right now. The only thing I can advise is to find someone whom you really trust, a confidante, and let them know how scared you are. When it all boils down to basics, humanity is all we have on earth, and if you can't find the answers to life's questions here, where else is there to go but above this world?
  • Well, simply put you are killing a child. If you do not believe the fetus is a human, then you are killing something that will develop into a child. Either way, there will be one less child being born in a few months if you have an abortion. If you have an abortion, that choice can not be undone. If you want the child now, but soon realize you can not afford it or just aren't ready for a baby right now, then you can always give it up for adoption. In some states, you can even drop the child off at a hospital, no questions asked. I highly suggest you talk to an adult about this. Talk to several with different backgrounds and don't make a decision until you've spoken with all of them. Good luck and God bless.
  • I dont see abortion as killing a child (most probably because im not a religious freak), but i do think this is a serious decision so think hard and clear on this one. Whatever you decide to do, it's up to you. You realise, I suppose that having to take care of a child at your age will... basically ruin your life. The Child is not born, so technically, it's not killing it a child. My advice is basically do as you want to do and feel is best. Im sure you know what you want, so do it. Dont listen to any bullshit at all. Come to the decision between you, and go along with it, but just think hard before you do decide.
  • Watch JUNO and decide for yourself, I seriously think it's a great guide!
  • i think you should write a diary of how ur feeling everyday, once u have written in it for a few months go back and look at how much u have improved over the time you will be amazed. be strong :)
  • I'm not even going to comment on whether I think abortion is right or wrong. You have to go with your gut on this one. You are the one that will live with your decision. Try to make the choice that you will be happiest with in the long run.
  • I have no experience with abortion, and will not pretend to know what you must be going through. Is there an adult you trust enough to talk to? Your mom, or nurse at school? Talk w/ someone you are close to and trust, tell them your fears. I am assuming your parents do not know. It is alot easier to tell them than you may think. Yes it is scary telling your parents something like that, but they love you unconditionally. They will be able to help you make the right decision for you and your baby. There are many women out there who can not have babies of their own that would take and love your baby. Before you make any decisions I really think you should have an adult help you. I am not for abortion, or against it, I am also not for judging people. Do not take to heart any nasty comments some may leave. Good luck.
  • its all about what you feel is right i have never been pregnate or nothin but if i was i would do what was right for my child and me...if you are ready to take on the reasponsibility then go for it but if you think you cant give the baby what he/she deserves then adoption is another way to go
  • i know you feel shit at the moment but your makeing the right decision and ignore anyone who says your not when it's all over you'll be pleased you made the right decsion.Iv'e got mates who've been thought the same thing and now there lives are back on track your luckey to have a supportive bf a lot of girls in this position dont have that,good luck.x x
  • I know your young and getting an abortion is killing another human thats your baby yes its a baby its real inside of you a baby is a gift from God you may think having an abortion will help down the line because your young your gonna hate yourself later dont kill your baby for your mistake raise that baby love it more than life itself or you think your not ready or you cant afford it there's places out there that will help you or if you dont want the baby you can put the baby up for adoption but DONT kill that poor baby the baby did nothing worng THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU DO BEFORE YOU DO IT
  • If you feel like you're killing your child, don't have the abortion because if you feel like this, you will regret it.
  • Do Not GET AN ABORTION It is a suffering thing for the baby
  • all of you guys are retarded. dont listen to any of them. getting an abortion honestly shouldnt even be an option for the following reasons: 1. its not the baby's fault you were irresponsible. okay you had sex, not uncommon for teens these days. but unprotected sex... i'm not even going to say anything about that. your baby shouldnt have to suffer for what your mistake 2. its a child, not a choice. since when did it suddenly become okay to murder? at only two months the baby starts to grow eyes and teeth, and begins to move. it doesnt get more alive that that. getting an abortion would be murder. its as simple as that. 3. if you do decide to get an abortion you will honestly regret it for the rest of your life, if you have any concious. waking up every morning remebering that you terminated your first child... well. thats on you. 4. everything happens for a reason. why would God give you this beautful gift if he didnt have a reason? God doesnt make accidents. EVER. 5. getting an abortion is the most self-fish thing you can do. do you have any idea how many couples want to adopt? having a new born would complete their lives.
  • well i don't have any experience but i do know lots of girls who were/are pregnant when they were young and have kept the baby and are doing fine through it all. i believe that because you made the choice to fool around, you need to take responsibility and make the right choice for your baby. i don't believe that abortion is the right way to go if you do that you will be having to live with that decision for the rest of your life. not an easy thing to live with im sure. theres always adoption too if you dont want to keep it yourself but still give your baby the chance to life that he/she deserves.
  • do not do it. you are killing your baby, you know its wrong thats why you dont feel right about it. There is so many people who would love your child, if you could not take care of it, or if you would raise it there are people would help you with that too. Please dont kill it. That baby inside you is the one person who will give you unconditional love. I beg you not to do it, people say its a womans choice,but they forget tha t they had a choice that night, and if it wasnt your choice, you still have a choice not to kill something that has a heart beat already. All you have to do is carry it in your body for 9 months thats not long at all, some people love being pregnant and some people dont like the feeling, but i tell you this a mother of four children they maybe a pain some days, and tiresome some days but at the end of the day when they are sleeping and are so beutiful,knowing that you are going to be there for them the next day, it fills you heart.When you hear them say im mommy boy or girl and they love you, makes thoses hard days worth it, when you see them compete in school and do something and look at you because they love you and look up to you for reassure it worth and fill your heart with love. Abortiion is not your only option, there is so many other ways . Have you seen pictures of the babys they abort, its terrible how you can see there arms and legs all smashed up. If you want another choice or help you let me know and i will help you. email hinchley@mwt.net. I had a hard time getting pregnant and now i have four buetiful children, and one of those pregnancy was not a good time in my life, and now hes fifteen months old, my only blood haired boy and buetiful and he gives me kisses and huggs every day and his smile tells me every thing.Who knows maybe he'll be the next American Idol or some one who will help some one who's in trouble and it all because i made a choice. The right one.
  • I have had an abortion. Your young, way to young. Just do it and I promise that you may not see it now but one day you will. I know you feel like your killing your child but you will be killing your future and it will create a whole lot of issues and hard times for you and your child. How far along are you? It is a complex situation but its call sacrfice. I could have an abortion before I could give my kid up for adotion. Just think about it as a learing lesson and move foward and get an edcuation and a career and then have a baby. Its just will provide a better life you everyone.
  • No more killing it than if you had never got pregnant you'd be killing your egg.
  • Well, if you're worried about that, why let the misogynistic anti-abortion cretins on AnswerBag pile more guilt on?
  • All i can tell you is what i have heard from friends and seen from women that have done this on tv, most all of them look back and think what if i had kept the baby, for some its very traumatic and they wish they could take it back. There is usually a whole lot of regret involved, and like i said it sometimes messes alot with their heads.
  • Ok this is coming from a Christian perspective, there are many options other than abortion, you can carry the child full term and then give him/ her up for adoption. I was raped by my ex and ended up haveing a son by it, I kept my son, but I am a lil older than you! I suggest adoption hun, abortion is murder, and you'll have to live with that for the rest of your life. And next time you decide to have sex, I would suggest a condom, and birth control. Or abstinace!
  • Everyone chooses what they feel is best for them at that point in life, but if you feel like you're going to kill your child if you have an abortion then why do it? I ride the fence when it comes to abortion. I feel that there are right and wrong reasons to do it but each person has to pay their own consequences in the end so I don't see the point in preaching to you about if it's wrong or right. Just as a word of advice through experience it could end up hurting you later on in life. My sister had an abortion four years ago. At the time she felt like it was the best thing for her at that moment in her life. Then a year later she got pregnant agian but had a miscarriage because of the scar tissue left behind from the abortion. Then two years ago she was trying to have a baby and when she couldn't concieve she went to the doctor and they told her that it was unlikely that she would ever be able to carry a child because of the massive amount of scar tissue in her uterus due to the abortion. Ultimately you have to look beyond today and into tomorrow when you're trying to decide on abortion because it could have even worse consequences later then just the loss of what could have been a beautiful child.
  • I beg of you, please don't! You ARE killing you child. If you are having doubts and feel this way, imagine how you will feel about this for the rest of your life. Can you handel it? And how long have you been pregant? If its been long enough, your baby could already look like a human. Within the time frame you are allowed to have a baby, they usually already have a beating heart, flowing blood, and the part of the brain that helps speak and with languages has already formed. They have already begun forming bones. Please think clearly about this. And YOU are carrying your child, not your boyfriend, so don't listen to him because this is your choice.
  • I love how this question was asked back in 08 and people are still answering. Unless she has carried her child for over a year, I don't think our advice matters anymore.
  • This girl had an abortion 15 months ago or has a baby -- one or the other. The question is old.
  • Well there was a video tape that was shown one time of the baby as they where doing the abortion. and it was so horrific, you could distinctively see the baby screaming in pain. Imagin putting a baby kitting into a pot of boiling oil. Abortion is no doubt MURDER.
  • I say you should give the child the same chance you were given. Wanted or not, you should go through with the pregnancy and find a couple that wants to adopt your child. In some way or another I believe this is the right choice because it will give life to the child, a family to have a child when they can't otherwise have one, and you a valuable lesson to be careful! You're 15 and you made a mistake, own up to it and get on with your life!
  • You will have to live with your feelings for the rest of your life. Many women feel great guilt over their abortions, and some even see their would-be child growing up in their dreams. Don't let a selfish, self-centered society talk you into doing something you know in your heart is wrong. There are plenty of adoptive parents who would be tickled to raise your child for you. Then one day once he or she is grown, you may even get to meet him/her. That is a joyful occasion for many, and one you can look forward to if you spare that life.

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