WOMEN: How disapointed will you be if your lover wants to spend the rest of his life with you, and brings you a cheap engagement ring? I know some of you will say..all that counts is the love. Dont lie!!
by 
The Wise Guy
ANSWERS: 61
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My first engagement ring was CZ and I still married him. I couldn't care less about the price of the ring.
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its allways nice to know that some women are so shallow that they only care about what someelse thinks of this piece of metal on your hand. welldone.
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My engagement ring is somewhat small, but I have small hands and it looks good on me. I did not recieve my engagement ring until we had been married for two years, because we could not afford it earlier. Nope, the ring really did not matter.
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If I ever get married again I don't even want an engagement ring. I'd rather just have a nice band. As far as the expense of the ring, I wouldn't want him to spend any more than he could afford - I'm not much into material things so the size of the ring or price tag doesn't really matter to me. A plain band would do the trick for me just fine.
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I wouldnt be disappointed at all. He could give me a ring that he made from aluminum foil and I would be happy. THATS not a lie.
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My wife picked out the engagement ring- which was a cheap one! Apparently it didn't matter to her!
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I have a question for you, what is more important.....The ring?? or the Commitment???
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isn´t love worth so much more than any ring? hell, he could make a ring outta a blade of grass. i once made a bracelet out of threads from my pants for my s/o
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I could care less, if he bought me a ring, that is not important, it is metal and glass, as far as I am concerned. What is important, is being together. You need more than love, you also need, Respect, trust, honesty, etc.
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The ring isn't what's important. It's the quality of the relationship. I know this first hand. My ex bought me a beautiful ring that was supposed to be a "reflection" of his love for me--HA! It's a long story, but suffice to say, the rings could have been rhinestones and it wouldn't have made a difference. The ring is only a token and maybe after a few years, when you and your lover have a little more money, you could size up.
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Well my engagement ring was the cheapest in the shop and i picked it,we had no money then so thats all he could afford and since then has offered to replace it with a new one...but i love my little cheap engagement ring it was bought with love rather than money and i will always cherish it.
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After reading most of these answers, I'm so glad to see that there still women out there that are not materialistic and shallow. Thank you all! I have often felt that any woman who would place that much importance on the price, size of the ring, expensive weddings, how much I make, etc. is not the one for me. You can't put a price tag on love. My parents were dead broke when they got married, and they have been together for almost 40 years now.
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I don't care about the engagement ring. As long as it's something pretty that he picked out with me in mind, I don't care how much it cost. I don't even want an expensive ring. When it comes down to it, I want a plain wedding band with an inscription.
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well i picked my ring, we got engaged in Cyprus on holiday, and it was so cheap but looked so good. Its 18ct gold so its more yellow than ones here and the stones are simulated diamonds, but i fell in love with it... hubby has said he will buy me the 'real mccoy' but i love my ring and its 8years old now... so why change??
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Not at all. I dont even like jewelry so I wouldnt mind. Just having something he put thought into and is just for me is enough. I dont need fancy cars, expensive jewelry and materialistic things.
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no lie..I could care less about some goofy ring. i didnt even get an engagement ring...honestly, I'd be insulted if my husband to be had purchased some diamong ring for me..it would show me that he didn't know me at all.
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I would not be disappointed,because he might have some money issues at that time, he could get me another one later on. No big deal at all.
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MEN: How disappointed would you be if you were about to marry a girl you loved and she threw a shit storm over a ring?
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It's not all that important really...my ring was custom made and the diamond was his grandmothers. It's not a huge diamond by any means but I think the thought and the history behind it is WAY more meaningful that the cost/size of the ring.
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I would rock it ! then when we had more money I would suggest we upgrade our rings for our anniversary. Honestly it is a symbol for me and I wanted women to see his ring and think " damn ! i'm not gonna even step to him ." and he wants men to see my ring and think " her man loves her look at that fat rock !" I've got a rock let me say and it does make me feel good to know he wanted to impress me and save money to get me something really nice.
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Yep, I'm one of the ones that will say all that counts is the love. I really mean it. If I was given a 10 karat diamond ring by a guy I didn't feel head over heels for, that ring on my finger certainly isn't going to keep me warm at night. I'd rather have the sweet gesture of a twenty-five cent candy machine ring from a guy that I'm crazy about.
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Im married and i have a promise ring, monthly army paychecks while deployed only go so far, When we actually have a ceremony were gonna upgrade. It wouldnt matter to me if it was cheap or not.
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i'd be really sad. mostly because my guy knows that i dont wear jewelry but I want a really nice diamond. Also it would hurt my feelings if he just didn't get me one because he thought spending money on that was stupid because after all, its not really about what the guy likes. My b/f said he doesnt like diamonds that are raised....i think, SO WHAT. It's not his hand its going on. However if a young person is getting married and obviously young people usually dont have money then a minimal ring would only be logical. It's not right for a girl to get mad at a guy because he can't afford it.
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No it really doesn't not matter to me as long as the ring do not turn my finger green :P
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I would be a little disappointed but know that I would now want him taking out a second mortgage on our home just to give me a ring. I know I would re-gain perspective after the initial shock.
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My daughter, who just got engaged, says it should depend on his salary, and how much he spends on himself. I still don't think I agree, but I DO get her point, (her fiance has tons of TOYS, like a 4-wheeler, motorcycle, etc.).
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That depends upon his financial means, actually. What matters is the thought and investment in the ring. What I'm saying is, please don't give me a ring you bought from the cash in your wallet or your beer fund as an afterthought. If that's all marrying me means to you, then I don't think you are the match for me. Put some investment into it. That doesn't come in a dollar amount, because it varies by the person's means. Then again, if he spends too much, I will think he's crazy. If I could be driving something for the amount the ring cost, you spent too much on it. Really, a sparkly stone isn't worth that.
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I told my boyfriend, it didn't matter how cheap the ring was; I've showed him rings that I liked that were only maybe $50-$200. When couples really love each other, they can overlook the materialistic things, and that's what a ring is. Is this person going to be completly committed to you? The ring doesn't neccassarily say that.
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IF he bought me a cheap engagement ring i would still accept it. all it is is a symbol of your love for eachother. maybe he will be using the rest of the money for something extra specail on the honey moon!!!! other than that, i would be disapointed, but just as long as its not a ring from a dollor store or a cerial box i will be fine..haha
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Iwouldnt be dissapointed, in fact we dont plan on getting married at all, and to me that makes life all the sweeter! I just got out of a 18 year relationship with an abusive man, and the differance is that living with Robert, we respect each other, and there is not that feeling of being tied down. My honey bought me a house to live in, and shares his children with me every day, and loves me, and is attentive to me. I dont need no ring to know that the man is committed to me.
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While I think a lot of women will agree that the price of the ring honestly doesn't matter, it can matter according to your guy's financial status. For example, if he's driving a brand new corvette, got a boat and a 2 story house, etc., if he brings you a some $59.99 Wal-Mart special... that really speaks of his character and yeah, I might be disappointed at the underlying message of that. "You're not as important to me as my toys" would be how I would feel. I'm not talking a $10k ring, but a couple hundred dollars, maybe a thousand, would be reasonable in THAT situation. On the other hand, if you are just the average Joe trying to make a living, yeah it could be the $59.99 Wal-Mart special and it would mean more to me than the $10k ring I might have gotten from Joe Cool in his corvette. So honestly, it depends on the guy and his situation. I would rather he not spend a ton on the ring - I'd rather spend it on a wonderful honeymoon together.
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Honestly... it depends on our financial status and whether I like it or not. I'd much prefer a $100 ring I adored than a $100,000 ring I disliked. Likewise, I'd feel really uncomfortable if someone stretched beyond their means just so I could have a pretty much non-functional piece of metal on my finger. And of course it's the attention he's paid and intention behind it. If a guy spends a long time looking and choosing the one he thinks you'll most like, and putting thought into it, then that means way more than a ring that was in the Top 10 on Amazon no matter how much either ring cost.
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My ring cost $200.00 and it can from walmart. we have 7 kids all together a night out is way better then some outragous ring. and that is being very truthfull
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If I were a girl, I would be disappointed if they gave me a real diamond ring. To me it would signify they have no clue about the world around them and the people that died to make that worthless rock possible.
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This question is a perfect example of why it is so important for a couple to really get to know each other before they get married. Most happy couples will go together to get the engagement ring, or at least do some looking together before hand. I personally am very happy with the family heirloom my hubby gave me, several months after we got married (it took awhile for him to convince his mom to get it out of the safe deposit box)32 years ago.
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I wouldn't care. The only reason I would even want a ring is that it shows the person is serious. But it doesn't matter. It could come out of a 25 cent thing and it would be just as nice. Besides, the excitement over getting a ring would dim in comparision to the excitement over actually getting married anyway!
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It wouldn't matter to me.I don't wear my wedding ring as it is,and it's quite lovely.
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So if I say that all that counts is the love you will call me a liar??? Actually, I don't like rings so wouldn't even want a wedding ring never mind an engagement one. My husband gave me an engagement ring and we both have wedding rings, I never wear either.
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Not at all. My husband had my ring made with dimonds he had bought on loan from a friend of his mom's. The ring in total was about $700. He went to the jeweler and had them remove the diamonds, and the he told them how to place the one diamond on my engagement ring. He also has the plans to make a matching wedding ring for me when we can afford it. We;ve been married a year and a half. His wedding ring that he has been wearing was $14 at walmart. We will get out "real" rings when we can afford them. Right now, it is the bond between us, and providing for our son that is important.
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I think it depends on the ring. I wouldn't care how much it cost - only what it looked like and whether I liked it, which is not neccesarily linked to the cost.
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My husband chose a ring that he liked, and tht he could afford. It was a really wonderful choice for him that the ring he liked best was not expensive. But it was unique and not like other rings, came as a set and I just love it. The setting is unique and will never look dated or boring. It isn't just a big rock. IT was something that HE thought was beautiful, that he picked just for me. What we thought was very funny, was at the time I was still in high school and into making jewelry in class. I was casting a ring that looked very much like the ring he picked out, except it didn't have a place for the stone. But he was shocked when he saw what I had designed because they are so similar:-)
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My now husband, when he bought me a ring it wasn't the biggest or best diamond but the fact that he bought me a ring and it is nice, he did it because it was all he could do at the time! I don't look down at him at all, I am in love with him and he is in love with me and to US that is what matters....it's only a ring, what matters is we are happy and together...not what he paid for it!
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my engagment ring was $20 and it turned my finger green and all the fake diamonds feel out but I still wear it today even though I called it off an we split up (I still am madely in love with him) He couldnt afford a REAL ring and I wanted to get married an we were on vacation an we were lookin at fake rings an I seen one that was hearts with CZ an I said i loved it an he bought it an proposed to me!! I LOVE IT! It still turns my finfer green an stuff but I love it!
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An engagement ring is just to tell men "I'm taken by the one I love," so I wouldn't care the price of it, and be too excited about my boyfriend asking "Will you marry me" to be concerned with the price. Besides, I much rather have the money be spent on more important things such as getting a house together, food...Things that both of us can enjoy.
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If I was considering marriage and he bought me a cheap ring.... he would be so OUT THE DOOR! LMAO Just kidding. It might matter to some but his love is what matters to me!
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I did get a cheap engagement ring and it showed everyone for 1 year and 3 months that I was "off the market". I am still married almost 22 years later and don't even wear my wedding band cause I hate anything on my fingers. Call me weird.
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Well Im a little more of a woman in my relationship I guess. I wouldnt give a damn about the ring, spending the rest of my life with my love is all that counts, it could be cardboard for all I care(Altho I did buy him a BMW)
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My husband didn't have a lot of money when he proposed, but he got the best ring that he could afford, and one with a design that has personal significance to us. I can say that I'm happy about it, and I still cherish the ring (and my spouse) to this day. The only reason I can think of to be unhappy about it is if I gave a damn what other people thought about my engagement ring... and that's a pretty shallow reason, IMO.
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tell him it's unacceptable & go halfies
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When I was married I had a beautiful high quality expensive ring and very nice setting that he designed, I received many compliments on it and I enjoy its sparkle, when the sun hit it, it danced, it was just over a Karat so not real big but very shiny I think it was about 14,000.00. Regardless, even though the ring was very nice I enjoyed the meaning behind the ring more than anything else, in fact, when I got divorced I put the ring away for my best friend's daughter, I can't wear the diamond in a new setting of any kind, it is that sentimental. so, in the end, it is the meaning behind the ring, not the ring itself, no lie. Besides, you can always trade up on an anniversary or something if you want to, don't let society influence you, be happy you're in love, many people are miserable and those are the ones you're apprently concerned with.
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not disappointed. i dont mind if it's cheap because we'll be picking out the wedding rings TOGETHER.
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To be honest, I don't care about the ring, just the effort. I'm not lying and I think that its a ring and I think that some guys don't always have to spend big money on it.
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Not only do I not want an expensive ring, I don't even want one with a huge rock on it. I'd rather have an interesting ring, with a design in the metal over a rock so everyone around me can get all jealous. I wouldn't want to get married to make people jealous or to show how much money I have, I want to get married because I love this person. This question just shows exactly how people really feel about marriage- many people in the US are mostly concerned about how they look to other people and don't worry about the actual marriage that happens after the party. Sad- this is why the divorce rate is about 50/50.
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I think an engagment ring is a token of his love for you. If he is a wealthy person and buys you a cheap ring, I would wonder if he is cheap in other ways and if you will be living a miserly, miserable life with a selfish person. I think the ring should depend on the income level of the person. If they love you and a small ring is all they can afford and you love them then who cares about the ring.
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I could honestly care less if he even got me a ring, since Im not a fan of having jewelry on my fingers. But.. seriously?? This question bugs the crap out of me. He wants to spend the REST of his LIFE with YOU. And all you might think about is how expensive the ring is?? (smacks head) Honestly people.
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truely, I would not be upset, you can always trade up when you have the money
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Considering the way you phrased the question, I'm guessing you won't believe it, but I really don't care at all about the ring. As long as it's something he got because he thought I'd like it, it's fine with me.
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i dont ever want a ring. i just want him. but if he ever did propose, i wouldnt want a diamond or gold. i dont espouse slave labor.
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I'd be disappointed if he brought me a big one, given how often I point out that a) i don't like conspicuous consumption or diamonds and b) people should try to stat married life *not* in debt.
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well..i dont think i deserve a cheap ring. but if he cant afford to buy me an expensive one,its okay..i dont care bout the ring.i care most about him.
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anything he can afford but is considered 'nice' to him.. i'd love so much
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