My sister has 3 boys and visited the doctor, the Dr asked if her children were by the same father (which they are)....would you be insulted if you had been asked this?
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No I wouldn't be.
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Not at all. In this day and age with frequent divorces and remarriages, not to mention sperm donations, a good many families have more than one biological father.
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Extremely, it would mean I would be the mommy. I don't think my sense of manliness could take that hit.
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The question needed to be asked for medical reasons. If they have different fathers, they have different genes and therefore are possibly prone to other illnesses. I'm sure the doctor wasn't trying to judge her, but simply trying to ask the proper questions to ensure that her children received the best possible care.
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I've never heard of such a thing. What would be the purpose? If the children needed a blood transfusion or some kind of transplant and the doctor thought the father might be a match/donor, then it would make sense. Otherwise it seems nosy and unnecessary to me! :(
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I think its definately a bit rude, and a little pre-judicial and unnecessary. The Doctor should keep commennts like that to herself.
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What the hell business is it of that dammned doctor to know if all the kids had the same dad. Unless he he/she had valid reason to know this information he/she was out of line asking if all the kids had the same dad and you damn well better believe if I was your sister I would have been extremely insulted.
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Not really... I've had some doctors ask me much more inappropriate and personal questions. It was definitely a faux pas on his part, but it may be an important question to help determine the children's family health histories, genetic predispositions to things like obesity, heart disease, cancer, etc. He should have been much more delicate about this. Is your sis a single mom?
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A little, but it doesn't rank up there with "Do you know who the father is?"
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My wifes dentist asked her if she was married right after he realized she had no gag reflex. haha...
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I would not have been insulted because it is better to ask questions than to assume.
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No because even though my children have the same father, my children look like 2 differnt nationalities. I would question his opinions if he thought they were by the same man off the bat.
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I think I would ask if both his parents are human.. I wouldn't be insulted. I wouldn't think he was important enough anyway
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I wouldn't have liked it very much, maybe the kids look so unlike each other.
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i'd answer yes he is the father of yours too...
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Not at all. Instead of asking you the information for the biological father of each child (for hereditary disease reasons) he can just ask you once for all of them. But in order to know if he can do that he needs to know if they're from the same father. I couldn't believe a doctor would be so unprofessional as to infer a woman gets around. I think she simply took it wrong.
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No,I wouldn't be insulted, I would naturally, think he was asking, so that he can determine what the family genetics are, for possible health risk.
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may and maybe not....it depends if one of her children was in a very serious medical condition that may require a kidney donation, blood transfusion, bone marrow transplant where time was of the essence to save his life. But you know, the doctor could have been more professional about asking for sensitive info like that. There's a right way and a wrong way to ask for sensitive info.
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I wouldn't. But I nearly backhanded my daughters dentist for asking my husband and I if we love her. For some reason some professions give people a supiriority complex. Not always good when they don't know or understand the whole situation.
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No. With the way society is now, anything is possible as far as paternity goes.
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No I wouldnt be offended as its soooo common these days...he must have been asking for a reason..you can't just assume anything these days as there is so much diversity...whats that saying?...to assume makes an ass out of u & me
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Most doctors do ask this because of the kids family medical history, if not from the same father your sister would have been required to present their family medical history on the father's side. Think that diabetes or a heart condition could have been inherited from one of the possible fathers, had the doctor not asked he would be blind to a possible future health problem. Or would you have preferred he did not ask? What if a health issue surprises the doctor and it is too late to do something about it?
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yeah it seems offensive. if she were at the dr for all 3 kids and it were for medical history it would be different.
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I wouldn't be offended. It's so common to have children with different fathers today. Besides needing it for medical history, it is the pediatrician's job to know if that child has a healthy home life. If you have 6 kids from 6 different men and 2 of them have been incarcerated, the doctor may count that as a risk factor for abuse. Not that they are calling the abuse hotline, but they are more sensitive to it. Your sister may be a great parent, but not everyone is.
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I don't think it is something to be insulted about. Perhaps he asked so he could get all his information right, what if the kids were from two different fathers and had different medical histories?
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