What do you think of a stay at home mom,making her husband or boyfriend (who has been working all day),as soon as he walk in the door at home,she makes him help her take care of the kids?
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They shouldnt need to make them as the dad or whatever should want to. :D
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I think the stay at home mom has been working all day, too. Having worked full time and been a stay at home mom, I have to say that staying home is more difficult. The job doesn't end (it's 24 hours per day), and by the time her husband comes home, she needs (and deserves) a break! What good husband or dad doesn't want to spend some time with the kids after he's been away from them all day?!
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I've been a SAHM for a year and half now. I love my job but mommies need a break as well. We clean, cook and watch after kids all day everyday! When my hubby gets home, I give him 20 minutes to unwind then he takes over for a bit so I can go to the store or what not. The system works out great us and my hubby is spending quality time with his kids.
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I would expect to take care of my children as soon as I walk through the door. After all, both parties have been working all day. I'll take them with a big smile on my face....mostly.:-)
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That was the first thing I did. They are my children and I wanted to be involved with them.
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You've been working all day long, too. He got off before you did from his job. He shouldn't be 100% off duty while you remain 100% on duty! Wouldn't him reducing your load and both of you going 50-50 actually accomplish the workload balancing side of what marriage is intended to be?
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She has been working all day too, the only difference id that he probably got a lunch break and a chance to leave work for a bit. She, on the other hand has to be there all day no matter what. I think both parents should help equally once he gets home.
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Let's see, I've been sitting in a cubicle all day answering emails and talking on the phone. She's been chasing after two rambunctious kids since 7am. I think I'm ready to take over when I get home. Save a big stinky diaper for me!
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I don't think she should have to make him. He should want to help her take care of the children, especially if they are his own or if he is treating them as though they are his own. Taking care of children is a huge task and if my dad can help take care of children when he gets home from work (13) without complaining (including helping us with homework, answering our questions, helping with the chores, etc), then so can other fathers. My dad actually wanted to be here for us so much that he made it so that he can work from home.
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no more sympathy than i do for the average mother who comes home from work and takes care of the kids anyways. both of them have great respect from me, don't get me wrong. but i don't think there's anything wrong w the mom asking for the dad to help take care of their children
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As this question referred only to non-working, stay-at-home, full-time moms, then I would say that the mother is not really being fair to her hard working, stressed husband or boyfriend. After all, stay-at-home moms do have respites during baby's nap times, or while the children are at school. Please! don't accuse me of not appreciating how hard full-time moms work and the stresses that they are under; it's just that I believe that they do have rest periods and stress relief at various times during the day, while Dad or boyfriend contends with work and then, sometimes even worse, a commute that is fatiguing in itself.
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It is a wife's duty to care for and give comfort to her husband first. Read your Bible.
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From experience I'll say that homework is by far more difficult and stressful than your average out-of-the-home job. It is a husband's responsibility to make sure that his stay-home wife get the respite she needs, whenever she needs it (even if it is after he comes home from work). Taking care of the kids comes out of love, not obligation, and this goes for both parents.
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I think they should both sit down and discuss how they each feel about it and work out a compromise that suits them both.
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I have no kids but if you make me dinner and let me eat it then i would have no problem.lol
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I think that depends on the couple. They should work out what works best for them. I was a stay at home mom for several years, and when my husband got home, he craved time with the kids. So as soon as he got home, he took over the kids which allowed me to get to some of the chores I hadn't been able to get to during the day because of the kids.
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my husband takes our daughter when he gets home after a shower and something to eat of course. I dont make him do it he enjoys doing it and knows that i need a break i cook, clean, spend time with my daughter, teach her things while at the same time i look after 3 business and im pregnant with our second if he didnt take her i would probably break down.
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Sounds fair to me, so long as there isn't some other pressing business. (For example, my wife doesn't manage the bills. If she isn't going to manage the bills, then she'd better expect to be keeping my son out of my way while I do it.) Both husband and wife need to manage stress. The husband may not get much time to relax during his work hours, but if he has anything to complain about in helping with kids when he gets home, then he must logically conclude that the wife hasn't gotten much time to relax either. (Logical proof of fairness.) At least the husband (myself, in my case) gets a little variety between work and home responsibilities. (Though that can be its own disadvantage along with the advantage.)
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A stay-at-home mom actually does a lot of work during the day. My wife had post-partum depression. This was one of her complaints... That I didn't help take care of our child when I got home from work, and she'd been with him all day. The other was that I "zoned out" and stared at the TV, while she took care of the kid(s). I realized that this is what I had been doing. All she needed was an hour or so to feel more like herself. As soon as I got home, I took the baby, and usually fed and held him while she got supper and relaxed. After we ate, we both watched the kid. It was much more relaxed at home after I did. Some men will need time to take a shower (depends on the work they do), and to "decompress" from working before they do, but if they assume that it's a woman's "job", then they aren't being a good parent. It's BOTH of their jobs, and she's done it all day. Give her a break.
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"...make my husband" do something? I'd like to see you "make" him do anything. He'll do right by me, and after he came home when the children were little, he did help to some extent. But that was his own idea. I wouldn't want a husband who I could "make" do anything. Anyone who thinks that running a business is easier and less stressful than taking care of children--just hasn't run a business.
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as a stay at home mom and former full time employee I know that raising a kid isn't a 9-5 thing. that just because my husband worked all day doesn't mean I didn't. He doesn't feel the same way either. if i need help with the baby he is more then willing to watch her.
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Too much of a nag and pretty thoughtless when it comes to her boyf/husband. He doesn't need to come home to that. I'll garantee he'd be a lot more helpful if she let him unwind and rest first..duh wouldn't anybody?
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I can only speak for what goes on in my household. We have 2 children here and one is autistic. My hours are terrible next to my husband's . He works outside the home and I care for my kids. When he comes home, I get what work I didn't finish, done. We both do whatever needs to be done and he goes to bed. He has my daughter's schedule and I have my sons mostly.. We are both usually very tired. I do not try to make anyone do anything. I think he would feel foolish not to, he knows the dynamics here. I had another marriage where my husband came home and rested and slept. My life was easier then also, and I had more rest. My first husband would come home and jump right in, helping out and we always had fun too. He had 8 children that I cared for while he was working. I guess that I am saying , depends on the situation
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i dont have kids yet but my fiance says that if i stay at home while he goes off to work we will take care of the kids together feed them bath them and when we BOTH but them into bed we shall chill together!! this may not always work i will always have a drink or something 2 eat waitng for him but when hes home we work as a team then spend some us time,
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Personally, I think making him is a little, and i mean a very very very little wrong, but the man should WANT to hang out and help take care of the kids if he is any type of real man. I know if my wife in the future wants to be stay-at home then that is fine, but when i get back from work, i am going to want to help take care of them. I think it is important to have a father for children and what type of father would i be if i never spent time with my kids becuase i am always working. So i would say i would be fine with a woman like that.
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Just because someone stays home doesn't mean they don't work and taking care of children is really work!! Many work out of the home people don't do that much physical stuff and kids are physical and emotionally draining at time. What's wrong with both parents taking care of children. They are BOTH parents and should do the job. If only the mom watches and disciplines and teaches the kids, both the parents and children are missing out on half the knowledge and benefits of a whole family.
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I would like to think that there is love between him and the kids and that he'd like to play with them for awhile so that mom can get dinner on the table or whatever she needs to do..if they look forward to his coming home and are happy when he is there, I don't understand why he wouldn't be looking forward to coming home, giving out hugs and being with them for awhile. :)
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If the stay-at-home mom had the house decently picked up and it looked like she was looking after the kids and not on AB all day, then of course, but that’s why we both work.
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Stay at home moms work 24/7. There are rest periods occasionally, which for me are filled with housework. My SO and I have a rule. He gives me a 30 minute break when he gets home, then we split the duties for the rest of the evening. It seems to work for us. Then we are both doing our share. We also try to be honest about what our day was really like. If I had a rough day, he does more. If he had a rough day, I do more.
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i think is perfectly fine for the woman to tell her man to help her out with their kids
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well if a guy needs to be forced to show attention to his children, then something is wrong with him. there are no breaks when it comes to parenting. they chose to have them together, they raise them together, no matter the circumstances.
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I have 2 children. I'm a stay at home mom and my husband work anywere between 8 and 12 hours but his job stop when he's done at work and I'm a stay at home mom and I never stops until my children are in bed and then I still have thing to do before I go to bed. So this is what I tell my husand your done with your job I'm not done so who works hard me or you. Now he helps out because he know what I do. He finally realize that I do work hard. So yes I think parent should help one another no mater who work a job out side the home.
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