Why am I gay? I wasn't seduced, abused, raised to be gay, exposed to gayness at all before I discovered I was gay. What happened?
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There appears to be no reason and why should there be :) I just read you profile and was touched that your wife is supportive of you (i hope) dont search for the reasons why....just enjoy who you are and a new lease of life, being gay has been around for centuries and yet we are only just coming to terms with it in society.....i hope you are not knocking yourself for being gay as i dont need to tell you there is nothing wrong with it :)
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That is like asking why am I white? You are what you are, accept it and make the best of it.
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We're not born with the ability to control our sexual orientation. We are born with the ability to choose between honesty and denial.
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simple. it's genetic. period. all those stereotypes people think "cause" us to supposedly "turn" or "choose" being gay are just that....stereotypes.
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You were born gay.
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Well, possibly something in your brain made you gay. Scientists have ruled out the brain, but there is certain sections that are still not completely explored. I have gay friends and I know the majority would have never picked the life that they are currently living.
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You were born that way hon.
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since '06 i have been writing about this,being gay is not a choice. go on and live your life as best suits you.from creation gays and lesbians existed.
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If I could give you a definite answer, I'd be rich and famous. Possibly the amount of older brothers you have caused your mother's body to react in an unknown way to the horomones your little fetus exposed her to, and you're gay as a side effect. Possibly your parents carry genetic markers for it that allow for somewhat random expression and it's expressed in you. Perhaps mother nature just decided you got to go into that 10% pile, and it can't be traced to a single addition of this horomone or rerouting of that neural pathway. Read some of the current research. Almost all of it points to a biological cause.
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Your question implies that you think being gay is somehow wrong. There's nothing wrong with being gay. In fact, it's faaaabulous.
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You were born that way. Our sexual orientation is not something we choose. You must not feel that you have done anything wrong, it is the wayyou were meant to be, when you can accept yourself you will be happier with life.
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The same reason I'm straight, it's just who you are.
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I don't think of being Gay as anything abnormal. I know a couple bible thumpers that do, but they are brainwashed
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its not a bad thing that you're gay its just what life has thrown at you. embrace it and enjoy it, you may as well coz you've got a fair bit left of it, would hate to be miserable!!
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No one actually knows the answer to this question.
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BTSOM yo...
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You are gay because you find men attractive. I bet other gay men find you attractive, too. Do stress about they why's of it, just be who you are, and try to be happy with that. :-)
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The scenerio you are describing fits most of us GLBT people perfectly..we were never seduced, abused, raised to be gay or recruited or anything...Your question makes about as much sense as someone saying. Why am I blond:)?
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You are gay because that is who you are. You did not choose to be gay, as I did not choose to be straight. It is who you are, what helps make you you. There is nothing wrong with you, embrace your gayness.
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The same reason I'm straight, I like the guys. There's nothing wrong with being gay, never, EVER think that. Don't let anyone else have you think that either. It's not your choice, it's the way you are. Love who you are, and everyone else will too. :)
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I guess you were born that way, nothing happened and nothing wrong.
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duuude, you were born gay. Dont listen to the converters, they know nothing. I am gay, and I have always been, just before 5th grade didnt know what name to attach my feelings to.
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The most appropriate answer is yet another question: "Why is anyone straight?"
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Rejoice that you are aware of yourself & are ok to talk about it. Many people are so scared of even having "gay" feelings, that they stay in closets their entire lives, unhappy & miserable (usually judging others, as well.)
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The truth is that nobody knows. The majority of the answers given here claim that it is a fact that it is biological and that isn't true. There isn't enough conclusive evidence. There are studies that suggest that it might be true though. That said, I still don't really think that it's a choice. If it isn't genetic, or even if it's not purely genetic, the social factors involved are so complex as to make clear cut choice nearly impossible. My guess is that it's something similar to alcoholism in that there may be genetic predispositions, and then events in your life (not necessarily choices) guide you in that direction. I also think this is much to complex to asume that there aren't some individuals that are gay purely due to genetic factors. Anyway, that's my two cents.
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Dude, your just gay! It's no big deal! I'm straight! Who cares! The ones who do care are probably secretly gay and pissed because you've got bigger stones than they do to admit it! There is no clear answer to the "Why am I gay?" question! And that bullshit about all gay people being molested or suduced is just that, Bullshit! Your gay because you are! No other reason! "F" the haters!
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you are gay because it is just a label - i dont care what you do in your bedroom - as long as you are a good person
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genetics. I see absolutely nothing wrong with being gay. I don't think a person needs to have been abused, seduced into it, exposed to it, or anything else to be gay.
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People are born gay. It's not a bad thing or a character flaw. Why we are attracted to someone is unexplainable it comes from within. Be happy with who are. There is only one you and you are just as special and imporatant as anyone else. I wish you well. Good Luck to you!
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It's just the way you are like the colour of your eyes and your height. You didn't do anything wrong.
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You're gay because you were born that way. It's not sociological like some bible thumpers will try to lead you to believe. It's purely physiological and there's nothing wrong with it, which given the way you phrased your question, you seem to think there is. No one is gay because they were "seduced" or "abused" into it. You're gay because thats how nature designed you. Just be thankful you're gay in 2008 and not in 1808.
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You make it sound like a deadly disease. But to answer your question its just who you are.
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You might as well ask why you have brown eyes, or why your hair is curly or why you love veggies and don't like sweets so much..it is how you are wired..it is your genetic makeup. :)
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The only person that can answer that is you!
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There seems to be a genetic basis for some who become gay during their teens. Perhaps this is you.
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Genes handed down from your parents which included the gay gene i expect. nothing you can do about it and don't ever let it get you down,.just get on with life and enjoy being the person you were meant to be
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You might want to look up the Pheromonal-Influence in early childhood development. As it plays a major role in our sexual maturity, more so than most people suspect.
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You are gay because you just happen to be attracted to men instead of women. Just like I am bisexual because I am attracted to both sexes! Does it matter why? I sure don't think so, you are who you are...anyone who doesn't like it, doesn't matter.
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It's fairly well established that sexuality has a genetic component. Just what this is is still open to debate.
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Because it gets you attention
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Because you are. Freddy, what a complicated question to ask. Maybe a little switch went off in your mind and you made the decision that this is who you are. I hope that you are comfortable being gay because if you aren't then you might want to see a counselor. If you are very happy with the path that you have chosen then go on with your bad self and, Behave!
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You got lucky? :) Homosexuality is built into our genetic makeup, just as skin colour, hair colour, height, and body type. It is not shameful, nor sad, nor disgusting. It is not something to hide away, nor deny in yourself. Being gay does not make you a bad person. If you have challenges, face them. If people make you feel badly about yourself, discontinue associating with them. Accept yourself, love yourself for who you are in your mind and heart (both of which have nothing to do with sexuality) and make a choice, every day, to reaffirm that love you have for your own worth.
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its definitely genetic issue...may be it traveled through your parential side.....
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Don't ask that!! you are who you are! why am i a woman? why am i spanish? i don't know i just am, same for you! embrace it!
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You are just lucky:-)
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maybe you arent gay. maybe you just like to act gay. there is a certain freedom in acting gay that straight people dont enjoy.
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There's not a gay gene. There's not a straight gene. There's a gene that makes a person attracted to men. There's a gene that makes a person attracted to women. It's natural. But society (particularly, religion) has condemned it and called it unnatural. There's nothing unnatural about being different from "normal" people. Being normal is weird. It's not human.
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The simplest answer is because you like people of your gender. Nobody chooses their sexual preference, it just is.
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you were just born like that, sweetie..no shame in that:)
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Maybe it is the fact that you find it easier to love people from the same sex.
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i don't think the "why"s really matter. you're who you are.
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you will never know the answer to that question - none of us will, so you might as well just put it out of your mind and live your life.
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Why you are Gay doesn't really matter, Gender preference is about "LOVE". A Mother can love all of her off springs,Does that make her a Lesbian? Or a man can love his sons,Does that make him Gay? Only a fool would say yes to either of the above questions. Lets look at love,and kind of dissect it so as to speak.There are three kinds of love.(1) The Physical Love,we touch with our bodies.(2) Mental Love,we touch with our minds,(3) the Spiritual Love, where we touch with our hearts. But the lines between them are often blurred and cannot be be distinguished one from the other. So a healthy balance between them would be a mixture of all of the above. One's love must first begin within self and then it can radiates outward to others. So in a few words,"If you cannot love yourself,you cannot love others'. You might want to look up "Pheromones and the little understood role that they play in our Physiological-Psychological-Sexual-Make-Up. You need to Love yourself for who and what you are and also learn to love others for who and what they are. Love from the Philippines. Doug.
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maybe you got lucky?:)
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I'm the same way dude i've just liked guys since as long as i remember
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There is an area that just may answer any questions that you may have about your Homosexuality,and even other's normal, healthy, sexual preferences. Look up (Pheromones And Human Sexuality). I tend to believe that Pheromones,can, and do, affect our sexual preferences,as I have seen lots of young children who are Gay.and they too have nothing to base their early Homosexuality upon socially or culturally. And a child's introduction to a mother's Pheromone at her breasts,just may be the answer that you are looking for.
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No one knows what makes someone gay, there isn't enough moeny in the field to research it in depth. Some studies coming out of the Slavic countries show a correlation between hormone levels in the hypothalamus and sexual orientation but it is by no means proven. However a glance at the other great apes shows a propensity toward homosexual behavior including some socities where homosexual and bisexual behavior is as common or more common than heterosexual behavior. There is no way to "raise" someone to be gay, otherwise there would be no gay children of fundamentalist parents. There is no good answer but this, "you simply are". You can accept it, or not. But it is the way it is.
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You are gay because you are gay, not because of anything you did or that happened to you. It's no more significant than your blood type or eye color.
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Seduction, abuse, the way you were raised...those are all crutches. People who claim to be gay because of past childhood trauma need to see a licensed therapist.
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I don't know if you are buying into the answers you are getting or if you are truly seeking a deeper meaning for why you feel the fascination you do for members of the same sex. I personally don't buy into the common theory that is floating around today that you were born gay or that there are genetic markers that pre-determined this. I have a young grandson and I recently began to think about what kind of signs to look for to possibly predict this type of behaviour. My search on the internet took me to a book by Dr. Joseph Nicolosi and Linda Ames Nicolosi. They are both Christians with doctorates in psychology. The name of the book is "A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality" and I believe that you will find many familiar traits talked about in this book and identify with events or circumstances in your life that became the trigger for your gay urges. One point that they made very clear---You WERE NOT born gay. It is a psychological developmental problem that can be treated and healed. I hope this helps to answer some of your doubts.
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That's who you were ment to be. Nothing is different between you and the next person. That is just how happiness is brought into YOUR life. NOthing is wrong with that.
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I believe that people are born gay or are gay by choice or through circumstances that happen in their life,you are what you are,accept it and good luck
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Most likely you have been possessed by demons. Gay demons, of course. Oh, they are tricky little devils. Call the Catholic church and ask them to send you a priest to do an exorcism. See if you can get a gay priest. Though I heard that they aren't sending those guys out on house calls anymore.
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i think it might have something to do with your experiences (or lack of) with the opposite sex.
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I have been gay since I ca remember and had a very loving uobringing. I just am and that is all I can say. I was in a relationship for 20 years until he dies in a car crash. We did not go to bars or clubs nor did we use drugs. We had the most noral relationship of all our friends gay/or staright. Just be you!
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Its not a matter of why. because i dont even know why i like guys. I belive its all about who you are to yourself. If you walk around and find man ass as awsome as girl ass or...if you like man ass of woman who cares? It dosent matter why. Because people dont ask themselves Why am i so tall or why am i so short unless there is a problem, and in your case, theres no problem with you as there is no problem as being short or tall.
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I used to ask myself the very same question. I have to admit, even my parents asked me something along these lines when they found out I was gay. "What happened and why are you not normal like us?" was one of the primary questions. I just kept shrugging, I had no idea, and I for sure didn't have a choice in the first place. I couldn't help being attracted to the same sex.
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Born that way.
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It's who you are and there's nothing wrong with that. Being gay isn't a "condition" or something that you can catch, it's just who you are. More and more studies now are proving that a lot of people are born that way. Embrace it.
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god mae u the way u are .embrace it .love who u are
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you were born gay....talk to someone you trust who is open minded if you are feeling resentful or unaccepting of yourself.
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Even if it's nurture, it's rarely a choice. Just try to make people understand. If they can't don't worry about them.
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I am a lesbian and I chose to beleive that I am the way I am because God made me this way. You are who you are and love yourself for that. I asked myself the same question and the only answer I could think of is that its just me. My Dad had a real BIG problem with my sexuality but once he got past it he told me that God made me this way for a reason. Then it hit me...
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DNA predesigned you
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It's in your jeans...(get it "jeans," "genes???)
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I understand that realise that you are gay is scarey but honestly don't fear it.... you are gay because it's who you are not because of what you may or may not have experienced in your life. Not being scared to be who you are nowadays is a great thing. My suggestion, pop down to the big gay out if you have one where you are.
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There's nothing wrong with being gay,that's just how you are.What's cool about you is that you know you're gay and you admit it.It's something to be proud about,not ashamed of.
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Well now why am I straight? Just be who you are, know that each one of us is unique. What you are as far as your sexual preference is concerned should matter to no one its how you relate to others that is far more important! Have a blessed day!
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why not? only u no the answer
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I dont think anyone has the answers.I know a lot of people argue that we are born gay but im not sure. I think society,media and culture have a lot to do with it. I went out with a guy for five years and we were ever so close...we loved each ther to bits. He started a new job,got friendly with a guy who was openly gay and after that he started acting strange.He then left me for no reason. A few months he came out.He didnt even have the decency to tell me himself. I would just be happy with yourself and the fact that you are not in denial.
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nothing happened, it's just the way things played out for you... Be happy and go with it.. If you love men or your love women so be it, love is the same no matter what... Just love yourself and love the people that enter your life... No blame should be given or shed. Enjoy your life and find the that one that makes you so happy that you can't think of anything else but them...
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I am gay not by choice or abuse either I am just me!
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why do you maybe have brown eyes or are short or tall. it's all in the dna and genes somewhere passed down through the generations. also, being seduced doesn't define someones sexuality.
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i have had and attraction to men for as long as I can remember and have practiced having sex w/men from a very early age. I am now 52yo and am beginning to feel guilty as I dont want to die and go to hell. However,if I were to be honest I simply do not want to turn away from the lifestyle. No woman has ever made me feel the way men do. Im embarassed for the previous sentence, but it is true. To be permanently hitched with a woman to satisfy society is not at all fair to women or me, and I refuse to pretend to want to be with them. Women are beautiful creatures deserving of honest, honorable, decent men who truly love them. But, my desires for the same sex is too strong. My desire to be honest about my feelings leaves no room for games or deceitful fraternization with unsuspecting women. I am so confused...why would a loving god allow me to be cursed with this sinful nature to have me tortured within? I dont get it.
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God made you special yo! i think i might have answered this Q already but if not, i stick with that. God made you great. Greater than some at least **cough cough brad pitt** (**sigh** i hate that boy...)
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Lots of theories, but nobody knows. So, you've found out that the factors you've listed aren't causative. I suppose that, out there in the world, there probably are gay people who experienced those things. But the fact that thing happened to them, and they're gay, is almost certainly a coincidence.
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You just are !!! Get on with life and b happy you cant change it so whats the point if torturing your self !
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does it matter? that is just the way you are live your life as well as you possibly can be gay and be happy
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Because you were born that way.
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nothing you can do about this and DON'T let anyone try and bullshit you about changing .. you were born that way and there is absolutely nothing wrong with being Gay at all
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Because you are am is the way you was were is were born.
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You were born gay.
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i give up....why?
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Why are you asking this question? are you happy your gay or would you rather be straight. answer this question and I will give you my answer.
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Because everyone loves dick. Even dikes can't get by without plastic ones. Don't sweat it.
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WOW! you are just like me in a scene. To find out what happened you need to ask yourself some questions. Did you ever as a child experimented in a any way with your same sex. Did you ever find yourself looking innocently at a guy but cant explain why you are? As a child you sexual orientation is yet to bloom and as you get older it is "turned on". You can not change what was preplanned for you. It is who you are.
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i look in the mirror and ask my self that eveyday
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because its natural...
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I dont think we are born gay, i think its choice, i also things its has a lot to do with the way we are brought up, and the people around us. There are so many things that could make one think that. There was dr. hayymer i think he said he proved it was genetic, but then after when others tried to get the results that he claimed, it failed everytime... they then said it wasnt proven. which is why a lot of people think its proven and other not. just remember we control our minds even if sometimes you think the things you never would because you are thinking them lol
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