It never went away.

You stopped?

i believe we should yes, there wasnt as much problems with crime when you could take a belt to a childs butt, and kids nowadays need to learn more respect for their parents. now kids are brought up to learn that there are pretty much no bad consiquences for their bad behavior, technically your not even supposed to make a child stay in their room for more than ten minutes if they cry and scream for the whole ten

oh, i kinda thought that was still outta style. Maybe we can bring it back this fall. HA HA Ahh, i dont know. i dont have kids so i'm probably not the best person to say yes or no BUT i dont believe that I will spank my kids.

Aye.. indeed, by any responsible adult concerned with the developement of today's youth.

As a Spectator sport? Or an Olympic event?

has anyone noticed how kids now are more disobedient, disrespectful and not disciplined? i think this all goes back to the government taking away parents right to discipline their children. dont get me wrong... i think there should be laws against child abuse but getting a kids butt red is no way crossing the line. another thought... we should never spank a child with a hand. they should never be afraid of your hand. but rather with a switch, spoon, you name it. and most of all... NEVER DISCIPLINE WHEN ANGRY.

I think parents should have more say on how they discipline their kids. I am not sure what the better options are. Center for effective discipline. http://www.stophitting.com/ - - - -[Here is an excerpt from the website for you] - - - - - Discipline About Us / Join Answers for Parents Discipline at Home (EPOCH) Discipline at School (NCACPS) News Religion and Discipline Laws Links SpankOut Day! International SpankOut Day! Please Donate Norwegian Church leaders to remove outdated language justifying corporal punishment in the Bible January 22, 2008, from CRINMAIL Outdated language used to justify corporal punishment of children is set to be removed from new translations of the Christian Bible in Norway. Church leaders have given the green light to the proposal, put forward by the Norwegian Ombudsman for Children, to replace the word “chastisement” with more appropriate language reflecting its original and intended meaning. Ombudsman Reidar Hjermann found that children subjected to physical harm, who had contacted his office, believed violence may be authorised by the Bible. But a statement issued by the Bishops’ Conference of Norway read: “Today the word “chastisement” has acquired a meaning that differs from its original intended meaning. In modern Norwegian usage, the word “chastisement” is virtually synonymous with corporal punishment. “Today this word is unsuitable for reflecting what is involved when the Bible speaks of parents’ responsibility to raise and guide their children.” It is hoped the move will spark a raft of similar revisions in other countries. Peter Newell, Coordinator of the Global Initiative to End All Corporal Punishment of Children, said: "This is a very positive move by Norway's Bishops' Conference. “Too often we come across the bible being used to justify violence against children, although increasingly the established churches are joining the movement to prohibit and eliminate all forms of violence against children, including all corporal punishment".

it went away?

Sometimes its a last resort and needed.

It's still alive and well at my house.

my 2 kids get spanked still, by hand and belt sometimes. i dont want my children growing up like the messed up kids these days. kids dont learn respect and consideration if they are not punished for their troubles. When ur kid says f u or shi* or hollars back at you, you should just say, " oh dont say that." or leave them alone? hell no. YES, you should spank your kids... ( to an extent )

Hell yes. My dad used to smack the crack off my ass. I turned out........Yeah maybe we shouldn't.

No, I didn't need to hit my child to see him grow into the strong, independent, young man that he is. Many parents spank because they are angry and have no idea what else they can do. All children seem to learn from being hit is how to avoid, lie and blame others until they are big enough to hit as well. The only children that ever gave my son a problem in school were the children whose parents hit them.

I think we should bring back spanking people who want to spank kids.

Look what we have gotten as a result of listening to the experts. More kids these days are on the path to self destruction and they even dare you to say anything against it. Just ignore the so called experts and do what is right, they will thank you for it later. Any police who would arrest you for spanking your child under normal and legitimate family training circumstances deserves the wrath that will come down on him in due course. There are those who stick their face into people's windows, feet into their doors, and hands in their pockets for reasons they believe are legitimate, but eventually they run into someone like me, then judgement day comes. Payback is swift and and well deserved. I recommend taking your family's destiny back from the ill informed social engineers, but remember, there are those who will oppose you. Be prepared to exterminate unwarranted interference against your familial authority, or you will lose it forever. God bless you and your family.

Considering what is going on lately I am wondering if it might be a better idea to bring back stoning adults. I am not serious but you understand, I hope. Too many "grown-ups" are acting like 4 year olds these days, including presidential candidates, sheeeez.

Yes without any doubt. had i been spanked as a child i know i would not have ended up on the wrong side of the law. any kind caring loving parents out there now age 50 to 70 who would show me the error of my ways i will gladly accept their discipline. gwh.medics@yahoo.co.uk why dont you email me i am 50 going on 16

I think Its not something to bring back the a fashion or a fad, Its part or parenting and sometimes its what getts the point across, I also don't think its meant for all ages and some parents seem to think that spanking you 14 year old really works. I also think parents tend to use it instead of communicating,If you can get the point acriss by sayig so, you should say not slap. Limitations, some people will just never understand.

Don't really know. I don't ever want kids. I'd be interested to know how I would have turned out if I hadn't been spanked.

Yes, as long as its well within reason and not an assault.

YES YES they should didn't want to be spanked than shouldn't done anything wrong to deserve to be spanked in the first place, Is the way I look at it & I say YES YES If my kids do wrong at school they have the right to spank them & send note home to sign than re-turn back to school again, So parents know about it I agree with it 110%!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I live in East Tennessee and it never did stop. I think it is good to discipline children. I don't mean beating.It has to be done before age 2 or 3 years of age. You cannot start discipline at age 5 or 6.

Bring back? Can I spank them for no good reason? Do you mean arbitrary or spontaneous spanking?

I wasn't aware that it ever went away. But no, spanking kids is wrong.

I was spanked in school when i was a kid for not doing my homework. That is extreme ! I think they should bring back spanking for things like aggressive behavior, vandalism, bullying and things like that.

If a parent loves his children and knows how to spank a child properly, I'm for it. I was more than spanked when I was a child by a parent who hated me. So there's no question about it. If a parent doesn't love his children, he shouldn't touch them.

No way. There is a reason why many in society view it with disdain. I believe that if you feel compelled to resort to violence on your children to bend them to your will then you have a weak mind. Think about it. On a psychological level, an adult should be able to convince a child that it's in their best interest to do what you want. Now, I know kids act up, but really, can't you figure out a better way than physical violence? But hey, to each his own I guess. No wonder why violence in our society is so prevalent and tolerated though. If you're accustomed to being hit when someone wants you to do something, you learn that pretty quick.

As long as it is not abusive spanking, I agree. I was spanked when I was a child and grew up to be respectful to my parents and my elders. I wouldn't be the person or parent I am today if I didn't have some sort of discipline. In which I think a lot of kids today don't have the respect or manners for there parents or elders in this society. My kids are 15 and 17, were spanked when needed and I was lucky I had good kids that didn't need it often and they are growing up to be respectful and considerate and have manners to the elders and every one else they meet.

Didn't know it had ever left. Most of the parents I know still use it and most of them have decent good kids.

Yes, there are instances where it can be an effective punishment. There are also instances where it can be destructive. NEVER hit out of anger.

Yes I do think Spanking should come back too the household or even back into the School Systems.... Kids listen but don't listen & when all else fails & doesn't work than last step is Pants down Bear Bottom over ones knees & spanking given to get the point across.... Me I run it like Baseball 3 bases once the child goes around the Bases & extra inning, Their out which means they blow their chances than that way it becomes their choose to be Discipline by getting a Spanking, Cause after all of that they knew it was coming & push their luck any ways so have to Face Up Too It.... My kids have even pointed out other Kids they know & than some & have said what bad addutes those Kids "Need A Good Spanking On Their Bear Bottoms" (For swearing or what ever case may have been).... Kids listen better have found & being a child that was given Spankings too myself, Strongly believe that & even Kids amit too it (But at same time don't like their Pants down or Spanking giving to them so they try too behave & than some, More so too learn Right from Wrong, If you can fallow).... Even in School they have gotten out of control since they took out Spankings (In less Parent(s) say other wise) think they should be brought back to the school systems (On in-rollment sheets fill out every year to be them in school like it use too be "Boxs to sign for just a thing", Its signed the Office at school has the right (BUt Parent(s) way only & note sent home to say why & than some & sent back to school again or call goes home to find out why, Just like it was when I was a Child, School have gone down hill since than & out of hand & than some, Heard some Kids amit to that & thats bad (Don't you agree, Cause I sure do)& about time so for your Children & ours do something about it before its too late)......

Its so funny to read these answers. The Majority of us are saying yes to spanking. yet its not allowed? why isnt anything being done about it? They arent parenting our children we are. its easy for them to say no to spanking..they arent the ones who are grasping at ideas on how to disipline, hoping that something -anything- will work!

I never stoped.

my Son is currently 10 months old, and i will not hesitate (when he is older and understands) to spank him if it is well needed.

The only reason kids listen and obey rules is because of fear. The fear of being hit gets everything done. That isn't to say you should beat your kids and always threaten but under the right circumsatnces it is necesary to show them who is dominant or pack leader.

no

yes - for the right things definitely.

No, cuz that will make them more defiant. Kids now days have a much diffrent attitude than they use to. Spanking them will make them more sneaky, arrogaqnt, rude, and destructive. My advice would be advise them on what they need to do if they break that rule well they will learn but let them make mistakes. Carma is a bitch and they're are always natural consequenses to everything. You can add a few consequences in though like maybe take away possesssions but make sure they're not something they use to cope with during hard times that will just make things worse. I've taken two years of child study ages 2-6 and you learn a lot. I observe these kids four times a week for about 3-4 hrs a day. I'm going into elementary education thats my plan, I want to work with kids for a living. I have two more years of this child study course. Thye have Child care 1-4 and I am just finishing up cc2. Look in your neighborhood for something like this it could help.

I wasn't aware that we ever left it behind. Kids still get spanked. Personally, I don't understand spanking. We try to teach our kids non-violence (hopefully), and reasoning out issues, talking about things instead of just hitting or becoming aggressive as a means to deal with anger ... and then we turn around and spank them. Wait, what? Way to practice what you preach, genius. It's a good thing parents are rated on their ability to make good sense or the majority of the US would all lose their kids. A swat on the rear to get the attention of a child is not abuse, and it can be effective. However, I think it is moronic to start out such behaviour when a child is pre-verbal, and espouse it as a valid form of getting a person's attention. Let's try using our words more, and our iron fist less, eh?

U-huh... Go back to spanking kids, what next? Bring back public executions, then go back to inquisition and name it Holy again...

I think that a spank on time prevents many things. I remember once i was shouting and running all over my house and my mom asked my to be quiet because she worked all day and she wanted to rest a little bit, but i kept bothering. So, she spanked me only once and from that moment every time she was sleeping i kept as quiet as possible.

What makes you think it has gone away?

If a child is spanked (sparingly) in the preschool years they probably won't need it later. In general, I have found that either people are completely against it or completely for it. Those against it 'uaually' don't have kids and therefore, in my opinion don't get a vote. I have 4 kids, the youngest is 11 and I can't tell you the last time I felt it was needed, but I can assure you they have all gotten one at least one.

No, if one cannot come up with any other way to keep children in line other than hitting them, then one should find a more sutable caretaker for them. Since when is any form of hitting people acceptable other than in self defense.

hellz no, u crazy? for one, its a major cause of psychological problems. sides, why cause them pain when its only temporary? why not take away whats fun for them?

depends on what you mean by spanking. belt/slipper etc i can tell you from experience is a BIG no. however, same as with a dog etc very young kids i.e. toddlers cannot understand your words properly. i.e. they know you said to be quiet but they probably won't understand that you've just finished working a 12 hr shift, have only one day off and are trying to sleep!! however they will understand a 'smack' (not a punch or a fist) to the bottom (least painful area as well-flabbed!) it's more the action that upsets them and YES, this IS acceptable. it's not nice to watch but it's the only way to get thru to young ones. to all you numpties out there 'if one cannot come up with any other way to keep children in line...' erm, have you ever tried to have a meaningful conversation with a child about the importance of maturity and respect?! i think that is the DIFFERENCE between a child and an adult. we get it. they don't.

In terms of discipline yes! If a parent does it in a respectful manner the child will benefit from it. Also since spanking has become illegal (I am from South Africa)the moral standards and general respect has dropped drastically. So I say yes. Not for abuse but for discipline!

No.

NO!!!!! Violence teaches violence!!!! Do we really need anymore bullies and abusers in this world!

How can you stop a child from becoming a bully or being violent by spanking them? Smacking is wrong and always will be, I was smacked as a child and no, It did me no physical harm but emotionally it scarred me for life. I dont smack my kids, I'm a single parent and they know when mummy has that look in her eye she means business. they are now 7 and 10 and can honestly say people tell me that they are a credit to me.

bring back the cane in schools, i know people think thts harsh but it will stop the kids lazy attitude of i cant be botherd, becuase theyd have to sit up right in their chair and eat what they were given and think positive or they would get caned so it benefits to their education really

denidowi? was that for me? My children have been through a rough time in life and have grown stronger with every challenge thrown at them. Smacking them will make them feel humiliated and hurt towards the one person that is supposed to protect and love them. there are other forms of teaching right and wrong. have you ever actually watched a parent smack a child? Its not right.

No as this will open to more abuse. Use diplomacy and lots of common sense to teach children.

yes..most tenagers nowadays are wild and without values...they don't follow what their parents are saying anymore and as a result of this modernisation, teenagers don't have destinations, they chase intangible dreams and don't become role models for their younger generation.Life is just a waste for them, I suggest we should re-inforce belt-ing kids, not jus spanking them. This is my opinion.

As long as you don't beat them there is nothing wrong with popping them on their ass. I got spanked and turned out fine. I never got into legal trouble, work in the ER, so my job turned out fine. I'm gonna spank mine. Although, you need the punishment to fit the kid, if you spank them and they look at you like,'whatever' that punishment doesn't fit the kid. Take away the PSP and he nuts up, you found your punishment.

I used to be a terror as a child, my parents were very libral. When they began to use corpral punishment it was a last resort. Nowadays I thank them for it, because it turned my life around. Although I resented it, a little pain was what i needed to sort me out. I'm sure there are other people in symilar cases to me, who will end up in prison because their parents are too scared to spank them if necessary.

WHEN Ä°T'S NEEDED!

If a person [of average height] got into an argument with Vern Troyer or Matt Roloff, and they ended up hitting them on the posterior with their hand in order to attempt to get them to so what they thought was "right", how incredibly f*cked up would that be?? Vern Troyer and Matt Roloff are grown men. They think and behave like adults. Just because a child may make choices that need guidance and discipline, DOES NOT make it okay to use hitting (anywhere on the body, bottom or otherwise) to teach behavioral cognition. And even if "spanking" provides a temporary solution to behavioral issues (because of fear, and embarrassment), what happens when the parent is NOT around to spank? The child most likely misbehaves WORSE due to acting out of rage. It s*cks to be hit, especially by someone that you love. Bring on the minuses, hahaha !! >:o)~

Bring them back? Where did they go? Did they all hide somewhere? Uh oh. Children of the Corn.

SPanking a kid is no excuse if a parent resort to that then they have failed as parents it is a form of violence and violence shouldn't be used to raise kids and it also raises an issue of trust if the kid know it does something bad it might not talk about it since there is a risk of getting spanked and it might not be respect you get from them it might be fear fear of being hit there is alot of alternatives to spanking and studies prove that are far more effective than spanking if you spank kids they might think of their intier upbringing as bad and they will begin to show antisocial behavior also when they grown they will a much higher risk to get anxiety disorders, drug and alcohol problems, antisocial behavior, and depression

SPanking a kid is no excuse if a parent resort to that then they have failed as parents it is a form of violence and violence shouldn't be used to raise kids and it also raises an issue of trust if the kid know it does something bad it might not talk about it since there is a risk of getting spanked and it might not be respect you get from them it might be fear fear of being hit there is alot of alternatives to spanking and studies prove that are far more effective than spanking if you spank kids they might think of their intier upbringing as bad and they will begin to show antisocial behavior also when they grown they will a much higher risk to get anxiety disorders, drug and alcohol problems, antisocial behavior, and depression

Absolutely, the crime rate would be lower and we wouldn't need as many police.

Absolutely, kids are growing up to be just assholes anymore. Someday when you're in the hospital dying and your kid wants to pull the plug on you because you're just a nuisance, then you will know. That's also the reason for the high crime rate in the USA.

Spanking IMO is better than belittlement, abandoning a child, whipping out a belt, or threatening to 'ship that child to their mother's home country'. Spanking is nowhere near as bad as everyone says it is.

Hmmmm... did we ever stop? Different kids need different discipline

I propose hitting the pillow as a better way to vent frustration.

No Spanking is for the resourceless parent who can't control his/her kids through any other means than physical force. My dad has never hit me, yet I respect him very much because he managed to both scold me when I did something wrong and be a playmate when I was a kid. It's been illegal to hit your kids in Denmark for more than 25 years, yet we don't seem to be flooded with young people who are immature and were spoiled as kids

I deal with people's children on a regular basis, and MANY of them are extremly spoiled, ungrateful, brats with NO work ethic and no discipline. The loss of a good spanking I sincerely believe has contributed to this new generation of kids in america.

No,not like earlier, I have never needed to spank my children,there are other ways to "punish" a child,but we should always do it with love and understanding

Statistics on spanking (compiled from over 100 studies combined): Children who are spanked are shown to display: many emotional & social problems, impaired parent/child relationships, lower IQ, increased aggressiveness, behavior problems, learning problems, lower academic scores, antisocial behavior, depression problems, more likely to suffer from addictions & commit domestic abuse, prone to be angry and show less long term compliance. Not a single study shows ANY benefit that cannot be achieved from other non-violent forms of discipline. Not all adults who are corporally punished as kids have all these problems, but not all people who smoke get lung cancer either. The US department of Health & Human services reports 142,000 children are seriously injured from Corporal punishment every year in this country, 18,000 of them are permanently disabled. Between 1-2,000 children die each year in this country alone from Corporal punishment. Nearly 70% of child abuse cases in CPS agencies result from corporal punishment. The defense of "discipline" is raised in 41% of homicide prosecutions when parents "accidentally" kill their children. I kindly urge you to please do some research yourself.

Yes.The only timeout i ever got was when my momma took a break from whippin' my ass!

I never quit! If a spanking is deemed necessary be sure that you only use three swats. If you go beyond three you are taking out your frustartions. mr Bill

Bring back who took it away? Or did people just stop doing it? I still spank my child when I feel they need it..I'll be dam if I'm gonna let a 6yr old run my house.And if the state of who every think it's abuse then you are more then welcome to raise him yourself..No I don't beat him I spank him there is a difference,Sorry I just don't and never have believed in this "time out" bull shit..

What is pain for? To teach. No pain no gain. But too much pain can destroy. so..do it right not uptight.

Bring it back from where? It's as common today as it always was.

Yes I do believe that spanking should be brought back. Spanking is part of setting limits for children whether it be for excessive behaviour or for dangerous behaviour (endangering themselves and others). There is an increasing lack of respect and a deterioration in behaviour both in schools and on the streets and people in authority should be able to spank for repeated disrespect and excessive and dangerous behaviour. This, of course, should begin with the parents administering it when necessary at home from a tiny age if and when necessary.

i was spanked and i was bullied i have had my mouth washed out with soap and there have even been times when thanks to alcohol things got out of hand. i never learnt my lesson. it made me angry . it made me want to take back from a society that took too much from me at such a young age. luckily i found martial arts. i got into cause i wanted to be violent. i wanted to know how to rip out some ones heart and show it to them beefor they die. but instead i learnt diciplin...REAL DICIPLIN and i didnt nead any one else to hit me and i have learnt a valuable lesson. and i think unless as a society we dont try harder to stop being so violent ( especialy to children) it will become a better place to live. thank you

I disagree with spanking, and I believe that it is possible to bring up kids without spanking them. My parents never hit me!

YES, a spanking so much differnt then being beating, i know i've had both happen to me and i would take a spanking any day. A spanking on the but with an open hand is fine. people shouldn't be trying to tell others how to diciplin there children. as long as no one comes out with a black eye. i remember a spanks a lot better then "you were a bad girl now go have a time out in your room" what i'd go to my room and read. i love to read. even ifr they took some thing i loved away i could always find a way to have fun.

i cant beleive this. i have just got through reading as many of these answers as i can take. you are all so evil. pure evil. i hate to say it cause i try so hard to be a caring forgiving person but you are talking about children for crying out load. CHILDREN. your talking about using violence to get children inline. and im sorry but i dont care how many of you turned out alright. you could have learnt diciplin through martial arts like idid. but instead you have learnt how to use fear to control people. it makes me sad to say it but i hate each and every one of you. and i really hope you get this. if only you could suffer as i sufferd you would see what you are risking with your children. i know my parents love me and they did what they think is best but it was the wrong thing to do. it made me violent and angry i have had to see therapist, psyciatrists and psyco therapist.it makes me so sad to see so much evil. i hate you all im so so sorry but i do. you deserve what i didnt

Bring it back? Hmmmmm... I don't think it ever actually left. It may have fallen out of favor, but responsible parents still use some form of consequences including the dreaded "S" word. I think there is a major difference between spanking a child as a corrective punishment and abusing a child or out-and-out waling away on a child to get even. The difference is in the why. If the adult is giving the child a quick swat as a negative feeling towards something, so that the child is not further inclined to do the act again - thereby creating a negative association with the deed, then that is an acceptable form of correction. If however, the parent is beating on the child in anger because they are mad at the child for doing something; they are taking their own frustration about the situation on the child (which is far to young to understand their part in the matter), then that is not an acceptable form of correction. I think responsible parents still use some type of corrective measures at home to ensure their child has socially acceptable behaviors. Whether it is spanking, time out, or a loss of privileges, these parents have taken responsibility for the behavior of their children seriously and do not allow their children to bully them, yet they do not cross the line into abuse. You generally can see which parents do not spank or even know how to correct their children's misbehavior. Ever been behind a child throwing an out-and-out tantrum in the checkout line - wailing that they absolutely must have that candy as the parent gently says not today honey; I just don't have the money. Or not this time, I just bought you one in the last store, or look see, I just bought you this toy, we'll get the candy another time. No matter what they say the child demands they give in, yelling louder and louder until the parent with embarrassment, finally relents. That child doesn't know what a spanking feels like and probably won't either. Just the threat of what will/could happen, or a stern look will set a child who has seen/felt behavior modification will put that child to appropriate behavior without the whole scene these inefficient parents' child displays. Spanking, not abuse has a place, but one should be sure he/she is actually helping the child learn appropriate behavior, not just getting his/her own frustrations or anger fulfilled by punishing the child.

All punishments must cause pain if they are to be effective. I see no intrinsic difference between a pain in the backside from a spanking, a pain in the purse from being denied pocket money, or the pain of being shut in one's room for a day. Except that the spanking is more likely to bring about an improvement in behaviour.

no, b/c when you raise kids, you are teaching them lessons they will use as adults.. no adult i know would ever be able to spank me if i did something wrong.

Bring it back? When did it go away?

Well, personally, I think proper discipline does include a good spank now and then, but if they haven't learned by the time they're a teenager, ya better give up. Spanking after 11 I would say is pushing it. At that age, they start fighting back if they haven't learned to follow authority yet. Teach them young, they'll stay good. Teach them late, they'll never learn, they'll just copy.

Who ever took it away?

Do you mean should we return to the era when kids just naturally understood their bottoms (and very possibly their *bare* bottoms) were available for paddling (and not one or two 'pops' over clothing, but an honest-to-goodness spanking) if they couldn't be bothered behaving themselves? You better believe it.

what are u talking about? i was spanked as a child and i spank my kids on the bottom when thay are bad. there are not laws that say u can not spank ur child there are laws that say u can not hit ur child when some people spanke there child it might leave a little red mark for a minuet but it goes right away. when u hit a kid u normaly dont hit them in the butt. and when u hit a kid it normaly leaves a mark for several days see there is a differents

Yes we should. Sometimes you've gotta do it. Sometimes it doesn't work. But it shouldn't be up to the state to dictate how a parent disciplines their child. Kids are too spoiled and sheltered these days. You even have parents calling into their 20-something children's workplaces if the young ADULT doesn't get a promotion or gets written up! Bunch of nancies.

Bring it back? Where did it go?! LOL people who preach that spankings are bad and I need to explain and discuss everything with my two year old oppose to smacking his toosh when he sinks his teeth into his older sister are full of shit. Honestly a two year old understands cause and effect not words. He comprehends I bite sister I get a spanking, spanking hurts, I am not going to bite sister. He is not going to understand me telling him not to bite sister it hurts and it is not nice. I do not beat my children I use reasonable force (I never leave a red mark) according to their age and size. My children are great kids, they have their moments but hey they are kids, beating children is wrong, disciplining your child is GOOD.

no.there is no need for spanking.just right love and guidance from parents.

It never really went alway.... Legally it did.... In schools and stuff.... But i think that an act of inconformity shouldn't be treated with an act of painful aggression.... Just because kids don't listen doesn't mean that they deserve to be hit.... It only creates fear and sometimes anger....

My kids got a slap on the hand or what I would call a potch on the fanny....I don't call it child abuse...it is discipline.... I think a lot of parents need a 2x4 across their heads for allowing their children to be brats or to take them in to public when they don't behave....if my kids acted up in public like a store....they weren't allowed to go back to the store for awhile....and kids in restaurants are ridiculous when allowed to run around or scream...first scream and they would be out the door in my world....parents are the problems nowadays...they don't take responsibility for their children....blaming teachers because their kids are doing bad in school when they don't take the time to sit and help with homework or allow the TV on 24/7.....video games and computers...feed them crap for dinner and supply junk food.....and wonder why their kid is fat....and has diabetes....or tons of sugar and will prefer to give them drugs instead of being parents.....can you tell this is a sore point for me?....LOL....

i am sure parents that we all do it now and again....cause sometimes that is the only language some children understand!!!

Is that the name of rock band? Ok, sorry. First, I think it is still done by some and I would ask how are we to bring it back? You talking about like a govermernt program? Like many things I believe it is proper in the right situation and not done in anger. One other concern is to the age. A recent question asked about spanking a 15 year old daughter that came home drunk. In a case such as this I would say no - the problem predated this event and she lacked parental oversight and guidance long before this. At that age the problem will be compounded. Like many questions there is no one answer but as a parent I would think this would have to be a seldom used if ever tactic.

I wasn't aware that spanking went away...geez I must be from another dimension.

no, it's Victorian and although my parents were from that era, I haven't done that with my 11 year old. It's thanks to my husband who has taught me that by taking away something from them that they really like doing e.g the laptop in their bedroom or half their pocket money, it's amazing how much more that seems to hurt and to me physically hurting your children is something I have never agreed with.

Yes, but only the way it was originally done. Spanking is only useful from about the ages of 2-1/2 to 7. Before that will only confuse the child, and after, there are better ways of getting their attention. But it IS important during those few years.

One of my most traumatic events in my life was when my grandmother spanked me for taking the long way around the house to come when she called me. I felt that she was wrong for spanking me. I cried for about a half hour and after that I called her the mean grandma or the spanking grandma for about 5 years. I was probably five years old, and will never forget how much I resented her for spanking me when I felt it wasn't justified. If I had a daughter, I wouldn't spank her because I would fear that the child could resent me for years after like I did my grandmother (whether the spanking was justified or not). Children are smarter than we give them credit and are able to determine what is just or unjust on their own at a very young age. My experience was certainly traumatic.