ANSWERS: 30
  • It depends if you mean someone is unhappy in their marriage and wants out so they go and cheat on their spoouse knowing the spouse will probably leave them then yes I agree it is no way to end a marriage. If however you are talking about the spouse who was cheated on divorcing the cheater then I disagree I think it is the perfect way to end the marriage and teach the cheating partner a lesson that you can't screw around on someone you claim to love and expect forgiveness.
  • If you want to be with someone else so bad or you dislike me so bad that you would go outside of the marriage...then it would probably be the end for me.
  • For me it is the END. Not second changes..no way he will repeat that again.
  • this is a girl point of view might be corny but ending a marriage by cheatting is not right no matter what kind of problem it is. why would u label your self as a cheater after. I AGREE!
  • I think an affair is the coward's way of ending a marriage. If you are unhappy in your marriage, have the decency to leave the marriage first and then go look for someone new.
  • that really depends on the people involved though doesn't it - it is not morally or ethically right, but that really does not matter at all - shit happens.
  • I think most marriages are salvageable, but if you think yours is not, then get out BEFORE you have the affair.
  • Ideally no. But if you have tried to leave this person and they won't let you go, they threaten harm to themself ect.. and you've tried to get out because you know you no longer love them. The resentment and anger builds up and they keep you so financially strapped because they won't pull their weight and your trapped I can see where it could happen. Just another point of view. Things aren't always as they seem.
  • Disagree............It is a way to end a marriage........just not a very good one.
  • My wife cheated on me and decided to end our marriage a month ago. I suggested counseling but she refused. So I guess she handled both parts of your question, she had the affair and ended the marriage. I really didn't want to get divorced.
  • Well, I'd say it's one way of getting out of it fast.
  • agree, it's not a way out of a relationship, just an excuse.
  • An affair is a scoundrals excuse. Agree. If they want out, just say it. Why add the extra drama to something that is already going to be difficult!
  • It's a start!
  • How can you trust someone after an affair? Despite their good intentions afterwards there will always be doubt.
  • No, That person probably will end up being just as bad.. Get a divorce , then do what ever you want with your life!!!!!
  • Agree. It's a sure way though, if you get caught.
  • Agree. It's cart before horse. Finish one relationship before staring another one. Give the new one a good chance of success by keeping it clean and honorable and not sullied with leftover feelings of guilt and recriminations,
  • Disagree. Of course it will end a marriage, but it's a crappy way of doing it.
  • Affair is NO way of ending a marriage. It makes things 1000 times more difficult! You can't reason with someone who is heartbroken and feriously angry! Your former will be out for venegence, at all costs... and that means $$$$ in lawyer and court fees. If your marriage is not worth saving, end it before starting a new relationship. Affairs have huge consequences. If you found someone else that you are falling in love with, that you would rather be with. Put it on hold until you have properly given the person your married to the respect and dignity of a proper closure before destroying your family and them with the insult of an affair.
  • I haven't been there and hopefully will never...but I agree - it's a lousy way to end a marriage. It confuses the issues and the new person will always remember that you cheated on your previous spouse. Unfortunately, it seems an affair is the tipping point to ending a bad marriage.
  • agree , thats cowardly and shameful
  • its not the ideal way, unfortunatley its the most common way..........
  • well if it is going to end anyway might as well go out banging!
  • I dk really why have the affair in the first place
  • Disagree,Don't end a relationship that way, don't go out being the bad guy/girl , man up or be a real woman and do the right thing don't make her/him hate you.
  • Depends if they keep cheating. If so, yes. If not, no.
  • For some people, the affair might be the only way for them to end the relationship. I don't agree with being dishonest in a relationship, but everyone is different.
  • I absolutely agree.

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