In my book there is only one. He is a selfish prick who cares nothing about anyone but himself. I don't care if his wife has withheld sex for 3 years that is no excuse to cheat. Cheating is a very selfish and very immature action for someone who is supposed to love and care about their partner. That goes for women who cheat on their man too.

boredom, sexual or otherwise. anger. anxiety about aging. feeling that he's missing something in life. escape. revenge. feeling out of control.

Most men I know cheat because they like the pink cloud phase where they can do no wrong and the accountability isn't really there yet.Most guys I know that cheat, their wives Blow away the Mistresses in every area Looks ,personalty ,intelligence.

thats not true and if is than women are much more worse than men, its been proven that women cheat more than men has ever done and if the woman is withholding sex without even thinking of her husband than it is her who is the truely selfish one not the husband. but either way i think that cheating is fucked up.

Because he is selfish and cares only about his needs.... his is a loser and a poor excuse for a human being....and a husband. If he isn't happy in the marriage...get a divorce then he can do whatever he wants ...in that order.

Because he's gay.

I'm sure it's the same reason why a wife cheats -- boredom, poor communications in the relationship, conflict, and more boredom. Then somebody *really* interesting comes along, and your heart is free -- and it's too much work to deal with the marriage relationship, so you go for it -- and maybe you'll get caught -- and that will be the easy way out of the relationship -- you don't have to say the difficult things (like "I want out") -- because you'll get booted out.

a female dumb enough to have sex with a married man

Ever watch "Golden Girls" on TV? Following is an excerpt from my favorite episode: [Blanche is upset after discovering her late husband had cheated on her in 1967, fathering an illegitimate son he never knew of] Blanche Devereaux: Why did George cheat on me? Rose Nylund: Why does any man cheat? Dorothy Petrillo-Zbornak: Well, there are two poular theories: 1 - Men are victims of an evolutionary process which genetically programmes their sexual drives. Blanche Devereaux: What's the other one? Dorothy Petrillo-Zbornak: Men are scum.

I heard from a radio sexologist that it is not sexual desire but lack of positive self image. When the spouse has a bad attitude and the other lover looks up to you and makes you feel special then that is why.

lack of sex and a girl who is never happy with anything you do for her cause shes greedy.lol

well we could say lots of things as th answers above show, but they all boil down to a lack of comunication and a distict lack of dignty on th mans part, thre is no excuses lack of sex bordem its a two way thing so the wife will b feling th same

1. Selfish Desires or self gratification 2. Disrespect for his wife 3. No desire to put forth the effort to repair a damaged relationship, it's easier to start new somewhere else.

The key reason is that there is something going on in the relationship that he feels that he can find in other places.

he is unhappy or bored sexually or feels emotionally elsewhere

He does not value his marriage or his wife as much as he values having sex with someone else. Everything else is an excuse.

To fuel his own ego, selfish, self-centered, no loyalty or committment, disrespectful of the feelings of others, immaturity, among other things, and these reasons are for women who cheat as well. If you are not getting what you need from a relationship...end it. Most cheaters simply want their cake, and eat it too, then lick the freakin' bowl.

He's an asshole!

his wife is boring or... he's a butthead

men cheat for 2 reasons: 1. they DON'T like what they DO have. 2. They DO like what they DON'T have.

Seems to me it's one of two reasons. 1. Bad match. Married someone and lost interest because the match is just not there. 2. Cause it's an ego thing.

#1. wife doesnt give enough attention.

They want a change - or they could be seeking that "new" feeling

He is not getting what he needs in the relationship. whether good or bad, he is being driven by his wants. the needs he has can be reasonable or not reasonable depending on the circumstance. But he should not stay in the relationship, if he is going to stray. he should get out of the relationship. the problem is that most men are lazy, and will not get out if they can get a little on the side to hold them over. and forget that the woman they love is not fulfilling their needs.

Because they are DUMB?

I really don't know... I've been married 23 years and never cheated on my wife. I guess it comes down to the vows of integity. I could see married men cheating... opertunity for a sexual afair, but is a the guilt worth it? Just for a one night stand? I don't think so... Steve

I suppose for a variety of reason..the primary one I believe is that they are like children thinking that they can get away with it.

Lack of Communication and or stupidity and the same goes for women who cheat

I have been married for 13+ years and I have never cheated on my wife. But I can answer this. One reason might be that their wife starts taking them for granted and gives them no love, no loving, no recognition, takes them for granted. Everyone wants to feel loved and and appreciated and if they don't get it from the one who should be giving it they might go seek it elsewhere.

So they don't have to listen to Oprah and Dr. Phil and dumplings.

simple, his sexual needs are not being fulfilled and he is not willing or able to fulfill them with you.

He wants to have sex with other women. He's not selfish and he's not an asshole; he's human. That is to say, he's a primate. Monogamy isn't natural. Words like betrayal and miscommunication don't apply here. This is about the natural drive to spread his genes as widely as possible. Chances are, his marriage is no longer the ideal love-match, but hey, that's the way it goes sometimes. There's always someone else out there for us.

I think you're wrong to equate infidelity with murder. Should a man control the impulse to murder, or to rape? Of course he should. But marriage is a contractual obligation, and whether it is sound to rein in our "biological propensities" on those grounds is debatable.

sex

Because they can!

because they think they can get away with it and not get caught! i think men like to compare what they have to what they wish they had.

I'd put low self-esteem at the top of reasons. Not the only one, but it's up there.

I've only got Jerry Springer to go on, but the most common reason is that he or she isn't home enough and working to much to do the loving thing.

I am sorry but because they are COMPLETE asses.

There is only 1 reason, because he wants to have sex with another woman, if he says differently it is a lie. Period.

I think that it is because you don't pay enough attention to the relationship, it could also be just for fun!

Too many women who have been cheated on floating about.

Because men are dumb and horny.

I have a male friend who cheated on his wife because she always said no when he asked for sex and she did give it to him she would just lay there and made him do all of the work. I dont think he should have cheated on her but I dont blame him for doing it and I would do the same if I was in his shoes. A spouse should not hold out when it comes to sex.

They are pigs.

the reason i cheat its because of the selfish cold nonloving women it this world they never want you ,you have to want them you have to be the one who comes to them for sex they let themselves go to shit an we are supost to kiss there ass '''not me.you want me you better show me.

wife isnt cool in the bed

selfishness

Not getting enough attention and sex from their wife.

I think the woman is just as guilty as the man not to make excuses for a cheat but if you know you have issues in your relationship then you needs to talk to him weather sexual finances or what ever. Because if you dont you start to withdraw from the man. He now feels unwanted,which runs him into another womans arms.

What makes a man stay with one woman? What makes a woman cheat? People are people and we should not disregard the basic instincts that we ALL have. Simply some people act on thier impulses others don't. I cannot judge whether someone is right or wrong, only God can judge. However, his actions show a lack of his own personal self worth and his lack of self control (self control could possibly be the highest measure of civility). I think people cheat also out of boredom. It does not have to mean that there is something up with the wife- she could be most gorgeous and sexy girl in the world and still get totally cheated on (Jennifer Aniston- who would cheat on her? Well we know who...but still!)

marrage is complacated you have to keep things from getteing boreing, i cheated because my woman quit careing an told me to ! sometimes its not the man that causes it all to go to hell !

Ungratfulness

a husband only cheats when there is a lack of communication love and intimacy

I wonder if deciding to cheat says more about what the person feels is 'missing' inside themselves. And less about what is missing externally.

they never get enough sex or attention at home..but this goes both ways..the grass always looks greener on the other side..

There are several reasons husbands cheat. The most common are lack of intrest in the home setting or maybe they feel that the grass is possibly greener on the other side, (which in some cases it may be)... But what I have learned in my years of life is all that glitters is'nt gold and eventually the glitter fades away and turns dull leaving dust over time.

"Common reasons" are just lame excuses. I love how the men who answer this say the wife stops caring for and pampering her hubby. Working, taking care of the house, kids, pets, and whatever else the wife happens to do for her hubby and family is never enough. The husband always wants more. So while the wife is doing her motherly/wifey duties, her hubby goes out and cheats then points the finger at the wife, blaming her for his infidelity. Hey, whatever makes you guys feel better......keep lying to yourself. Let's face it, people cheat because what they have isn't enough. They want the caregiving wife, along with the home wreckers they screw.

TESTESTERON HABITS!

The feeling that the grass is greener on the other side

Everyone has needs. If they are not being taken care of at home, then it is no wonder that some people cheat. I'm not advocating cheating on your respective spouses, but is it fair for someone to be lonely in a relationship when they can be made to feel that they are wanted in an affair?

Because he is thinking about and with "little dick" Most men that cheat can not control the urge to have sex with as many women as possible. Same goes for women too.

In my case it was because my wife was cheating long before. While that was going on I called what or who at the time was the one girl I had loved more than life itself. She and I broke up because we simply came from to very different social backgrounds and we couldn't overcome the differences. I called her up and asked her for advice on dealing with my cheating wife. She and I met for lunch and that turned in to dinner which led to drinks and then the bedroom. We made passionate love several times during the night and all through the next day. All the time were discussing my dilemma about my wife who had gone out of state to "visit her mom". It just so happened that "he" was on a business trip to the same state at the same time. Incidentally we were in Georgia and the trips were to Washington state. Anyway my ex love and I spent an entire week together and then took a few days to evaluate what we had done and we both decided that what had happened was wrong and we must wait until a divorement could occur with my wife. The divorce took 10 months and my true love would often have lunch without any sex until the night of the divorce agreement was final. We then met and made love non stop except for bathroom breaks and meals for well over a week. We then realized that we were still in the same situation in which we parted ways the first time. While this was going on my ex wife discovered that her new husband(her affair guy) was still married and had another girlfriend as well. Ex wife came to me for help and forgiveness telling me she knew about the other woman and was ok with that. Ex wife and I talked all night about our past with both confessing our weaknesses. The next morning while I was in the shower ex wife without notice came in to shower with me and got on her knees and.....What a dilemma I was in for quite some time. Both women knew about each other and both were ok with what was going on.....

10 Reasons Why Men Cheat • more sex (the desire for a more active sex life) • sexual variety (the desire for different type of sex or particular sex act) • opportunistic sex ( presented with an opportunity to have sex without getting caught) • to satisfy sexual curiosity (about having sex with a particular person) • to reaffirm his sexuality • a feeling of entitlement (the belief that it’s a man’s prerogative to cheat) • the “thrill of the chase” • the desire to feel important or special ( an ego boost) • peer pressure • sexual addiction 10 Reasons Why Women Cheat • lack of emotional intimacy (a desire for a close emotional bond) • dissatisfaction with her mate • marital or relationship unhappiness • a desire for male attention • to reaffirm her desirability (To feel validated as a woman) • to re-experience feelings of romance • a desire to feel “special” • boredom • loneliness • sexual excitement

Not getting "any" Wife cheated on him Has a boring wife who doesnt do anything

i think if we truelly knew why then we wouldnt have this problem anymore

CHANGING this daily routin won't make anyone cheat! that's my opinion simple easy :)

Stupidity

what are some of the things i should be looking for to tell if hes cheetingthen just less sex or no time together. hes allways trying to avoid me.by doing things. like start a fire in the morning in the fire pit.or we will have a coffe together and he will go out side.and he gets mad alot at me.he just doesent want to take anytime with me.hes just confusing me.

Usually because they are weak, immature and selfish.

Glad to hear it was just a question. Enjoy the dancing and the rum x

Regardless of the reason, it all boils down to this: Because he has no honor.

There is a problem within the marriage or within himself. Those are 80% of affairs. The others are things like mental illnesses, etc.

He's horny and the opportunity arises.

In my opinion, husbands as well as wives cheat for the same multitude of reasons. There are too many reasons why spouses cheat and each individual situation is just that, individual. Are there children in the marriage? Is the husband feeling "left out", is it too much financially, emotionally....all the answers are different to each situation. Is he/she just an ass and wants their cake and eat it too? You see how this can unlimitedly unfold? If you had to fine tune it to just a few, the statistics say unsatisfied in the "intimate" section of the marriage presents a spouse to "wonder" to find what he/she "had" at first in the marriage. Did the wife or husband let themselves go? Do the partners do the "things" they used to do when dating? The frequency...etc. Or there is too much stress in the household and the spouse goes "outside" the relm of reality to "get away" from it for a short period of time. Im sure you can muster up a multitude of reasons. The key to all this is working together towards a common goal, two heads are better than one, and communicating. BIG thing here...communicate.

Fulfilling his ego. Not getting fulfillment at home ( this may be a physical need i.e. more sex) or not getting respected as the leader of the home. The rush of "something different", thinking this would bring a longer lasting happiness, which it never does.

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He simply sees another woman! if you dont want your husband to cheat, remove all other female species from the earth (and then just hope he doesnt become gay)

I think that selfishness. When a person is selfish has no respect for anyone elses feelings.

the list is endless...however, if a person cheats is because the person really never ever loved their partner as they should have. And all the exuses in the world we can list are only exuses...that all

Sugar-licious, there are a lot of reasons--at least the ones they offer--for cheating on their wives. The most common ones offer by men who, for some reason or another, were willing to talk about in different researches, are: "Ego boost"; that is....."to reaffirm his sexuality". Hook-ups by another buddy; that is.... "peer pressure". Another one...."not enough sex at home". Another one is simply...."Sex addiction". There are more reasons, but this few seems to be the most common ones. Put in a nutshell, "sex" seems to be the driving force of husband cheating on their wives. Now remember, men generally--by nature--is less emotionally attached than women, and when it come to sex, "emotion" plays no part in it. Men don't consciously mean to be that way--they just are that way. Different studdies on this matter have shown that 70% to 80% of the cheating done by men has somthing to do, directly or indirectly, with sex; by contrast, only about 20% to 25% of cheating committed by women are for the same reason.

You can state all the reasons you want, and they may all be true. But they're only symptoms of the real problem. The real problem is very simple. Men are pigs who have no self control, no feelings, nothing.

Being of the male species

you are welcome to come and live on my planet, the world see love so different to what it is. on most programs you watch its like ooh i love my wife thats why i cheated on her thats not love. love is a connection and if you got no connection with the person you are with then its not mr right. a man should respect a woman/girlfriend/wife even more than he respects his mother boss or the person he admire most. he should not be looking how sexy or beautifull you are cuz thats not what count he should look a little deeper before he ask to get married. i think if more men do this then there will be far less divorces around the world. and WOMAN you supposed to keep your MAN happy and not have dwelling eyes ya fair enough you may look but dont ever even think about hell id love to have that man or things like that cuz thats the worst thing you could do that to me mean your man is not the right person for you. respect your man.

I think my best friends husband is cheating on her, because she thinks she's the man of the house. She earns more money. Example, he doesn't have a driver's license. She won't let him drive the car when he wants to go do somewhere (which he shouldn't) but if she wants him to do something or doesn't feel like driving she'll let him drive. He's lazy and has no job and needs to get his DL. She knew that before she married him, but she rubs it in al the time.

I think it is really relative to the dynamic of a relationship. Some men/women feel neglected and desire attention. Some women/men may push their mate away so far that they are almost non-existent on the communicatin level. Some people lack self esteem, pride and may feel they have been a disappointment to their spouse so they look to get acceptance and understanding from a female/male. Boost the old ugly ego. Mid-life crisis type of thing. All this and modern technology like the internet, email and text messaging makes hiding your behind the back activity from your mate. Believe me, nothing I write makes me feel that cheating is acceptable. It does happen to alot of couples. Marriege is work but it is good work. You have to grow with each other thru every stage of life to keep the fires burning that you had when the relationship was new. It's about strength and high respect for yourself and your loved ones that men or women remain faithful and honest.

The most common reason a husband will cheat is because he can. We dont necessarily need a reason. I'd say convience. Althought that is not a reason it certainly should be. Sometimes the wives get to demanding or lose the inability to hear their husbands side of the story. or they all together beging speaking for the husband. Husbands resent this and arguements occur as a result. Sometimes it's because you women get too fat or become too bitchy or too high maintenance. No one can deal with a batty woman. But in all honesty, it all comes down to communication. When you start to lose the communication between couples you start having problems. I cheated on my wife one time and I was found out. I hated myslef for it. I really did love my wife. She is an amazing woman. i only cheated because it was out there in front of me and it was there for the taking.

Because he thinks he can get away with it and that his wife will forgive him if she finds out. My husband found out that was not the case in my household. Bye bye loser.

wife gets fat.

The need whatever they're not getting at home: Confidence, love, acknowledgement, respect, admiration, a clean house, a good home cooked meal, hpt sex, or maybe he's embarassed to ask her to try something new.

Out of boredom because all their wives do is the same things day in and day out

Hey Sugar...... There are many excuses and circumstances in which a husband might cheat, none of them reasons. I believe there is a cause which is under the reasons. Usually that cause would be a lack of strength and character, someone who finds his worth in temporary self gratification. It takes character to stick to a commitment and it takes strength to weather the storms. If you have those things then you don't cheat (at anything!!) If you do not possess those qualities, you do....

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Boredom and opportunity.

Opportunity presented itself and he knows he can get away with it. Plus the other woman/women are telling him everything he wants to here and he is doing the same to her.

I'm a wife who has a husband who cheated. I still can not understand why I did all the wife things such as cooking,cleaning, loving, and even so much as bathing him. None of this kept him from cheating. So I think that people cheat just because they can. I have cheated also after this but not sexually. It was to see if it was me and i felt lonely.

coz he is a selfish peace of shit or he might be gay or something

Number one they are bored and shouldn't have married the person in the first place. Number two they put themselves in the situation and have no morals and number three they should be with right with God

problably they are bored with they daily lifestyle with their wifes, sex [need more sex] ...uhmm

Not getting enough sex and or not feeling secure about themselfs and someone else makes them feel wanted and secure.