Do u think it is harder to be a stay at home and take care of the kids 24/7 and cook and clean and shop or to go out and work every day for 8 hours?
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i hear stay at home moms/dads is a hard job. It depends wether you find it rewarding to spend more time with your kids or you find it a chore. I think age and difficulty-of-being-a-stay-at-home-parent are inversely proportional, seeing as the older kids get, the more independent they get.
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You can punch out and stop working when your shift is over at work. It never ends when you're stuck in the house.
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What about people like me who do both? I've been raising my daughter alone for 10 years while taking care of the house. I average 45 hours of work a week. I'm not complaining, but it would have been nice to just have to do one or the other.
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Having done both with 2 kids, and with no help from the ex either time, I can tell you that working outside the home is easier. But if you have to come home and still do the in-home chores it can kill you. I had to learn to let some things go.
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i think its different for everyone. i would prefer to look after my children if i had any until they were old enough to go to school. i think both jobs are hard.
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I'd have to say the way you said it, I'd rather work...lol
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it is definately easier to go to work!! at least u get a break! i stayed home with the kids for 2 yrs and it was hard as hell. now i love getting up and goin to work. although i work, then go home and take care of 4 kids, it was nice getting a break from bein a mommy for a bit.
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I've done both. It depends heavily upon your financial situation and how many kids you have, and if they are healthy. I stayed home with three kids under 5, finances were awful, and middle child was so hyper he needed less sleep than me. It was hard as hell. Now I'm single, I work 43 hours a week, finances tolerable, have 5 kids, but the youngest is 4. Amazingly, this is easier. Not by much, but easier.
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Staying home is the hardest.....you never get to leave it all behind....not even weekends.
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Definitely staying home especially if you are anything like me and the littlest piece of dirt annoys you.
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I think it is harder if you stay at home. The kids and the cooking and the cleaning would be hard to keep track of all day.
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Taking care of the kids and shopping and etc is harder to do.
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I think they are both hard. I think anyone who is able to juggle the responsibilities of motherhood deserves an award. I know there are people who are strong on both sides thinking the other is wrong (kinda like breast feeding), but honestly, we all do the best job we can do with the situation we are in. Can't we all just get a long and help each other out?
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If the kids are young probably the former - if the kids are school age then definetly the latter. I can't believe anyone stays at home all day when their kids are at school and still claims they have it harder than someone who works for a living. (and it annoys me that there's a tabboo on suggesting that SAHM's are anything less than self-sacrificing angels incarnate) Even if you do work all day and have no kids you still have to do things like cleaning, cooking and shopping as well. I think the hardest thing though, is those people who have to go out to work eight hours and earn a living and then have to come home look after kids, do the shopping and clean the house as well - that's what my Mum did and I really respect her for it.
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Trust me when I say that it is far harder raising a family at home than being at work. My day begins by feeding, grooming horses. Then taking the dogs out for their morning walk. By nine am I start with schoolwork [children are home schooled}. Lunch ready by 1. School resumes at 2 untill 4. Then its time to clean house and start the evening meal. By 8pm im busy washing up the dinner dishes. Finally, 9pm im hopefully having a relaxing bath! And my partner wonders why im not in the mood for anything else later on {adult time) Phew I would definately say being at home isnt quite what its made out to be!
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Being at home and trying to teach your children and take care of a home is very difficult though some people see, to thrive on it. Just because you enjoy doing something doesn't mean it isn't hard to do. Working in an office or some other job can be hard but you can leave it behind and come home. Many people have to do both, though how they do it is so hard for me to understand where they get the strength and energy. THAT'S the hardest job. I don't think either job gets done the best it can in that situation.
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Staying at home is MUCH, MUCH, harder! The only way I would say a JOB was harder (not that stay-at-home Mom is not a job), is if you were a roofer, nurse, etc. There are some jobs that are just insanely hard to do, but, for the most part, being a stay-at-home Mom tops the list.
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I was a stay at home mom for 11 years and re-entered the work force 2 months ago. It is SOOOOO much easier to go out and work every day! Even though there is so much to do in the few hours in the evening when everyone is home, being at work is like my "charger" and it is easier to get through those times when you feel "charged up" and not "used up"! That being said - I would not have given up those 11 years for anything!!
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I was a stay at home mom for 11 years and re-entered the work force 2 months ago. It is SOOOOO much easier to go out and work every day! Even though there is so much to do in the few hours in the evening when everyone is home, being at work is like my "charger" and it is easier to get through those times when you feel "charged up" and not "used up"! That being said - I would not have given up those 11 years for anything!!
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being the house wife is harder...but i would rather stay home and be with the kids than work.. so harder does not mean worse.
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being a stay at home mom though I dont regret it
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i think it depends on your personality and the demands put on you by your partner, or lack of partner.
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I know that it's harder to be a stay at home mom or dad and take care of the children 24/7 and cook and clean and shop than it is to go out and work every day for 8 hours. I am not a parent, but I know this for a fact (assuming your job has to do with working in a safe environment and all that).
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It's harder to be a SAHM with a colicy baby then be at work.
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well, i think you should go out and work for 8 hours and come home and cook and clean the other 16 hours and double time it, to catch up. can you pass me another beer please
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It depends on your temperment. For one person being home would be harder and for the other working. The best situation is for each person to feel that their strenghts are being used the most and that what they have to offer matters and is appreciated.
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Watching kids all day is hard.
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