ANSWERS: 48
  • don't listen to her, she knos nothing,
  • Do you get in trouble at school? Are you a bad person? If you answered 'No' to each of those statements, then that is what she means. Whereas many outgoing guys will slap girls on the ass and talk to them a lot more, generally be more of a jerk to them, you may be shy and lacking in confidence to do thinsg like this. Before you get any ideas, let me inform you that that is perfectly OK. You will have a girlfriend sooner rather than later, and you will have the last laugh, because nice guys have an easier time commiting to a relationship in the future
  • That you must be a good catch and nobody is good enough for you! take it as a compliment!
  • there's nothing wrong with being nice, but if you let people walk all over you, that's not so good. most people find confidence sexy and allowing people to treat you like a doormat doesn't exactly make you seem confident. if this isn't the case and you are just a nice guy, please - stay that way! some girls might fall for the jerks, but there's others desperately trying to find guys who actually are nice.
  • That was a stupid remark. Does she think you have to be a jerk to get a girlfriend? Just be yourself, and LIKE yourself and you'll get the girl you want.
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  • I'm not sure if you are a guy or a girl. That makes most of the difference. If your a guy then (this is based on the opinion of one girl: what she said is not necessarily true at all) she means that you act to wimpish. Women would look at you and think 'OK he is nice, but couldn't stand up for me or tell me when I'm wrong. I can't have a pushover for a boyfriend.' If you are a girl then I don't really know, because I'm not a homosexual or a female. I suppose it just means that (from her point of view) lesbians like a little roughness to their girlfriends. A little sass. If I were you I wouldn't take what this girl said to heart. She might just be bitter because she is to mean to have a girlfriend/ boyfriend. Maybe if 5 of your closest friends told you that then you could consider it a problem. I think nice people are great. I wish I was a nicer person. Take it as a compliment.
  • Exactly what she said. Many girls go for the cocky, "bad" guys at the HS age and the rest are left in dust or as good friends. Once you are on the "friend" ladder you are not usually a boyfriend candidate.
  • Dont worry about what she said, Girls may want to date the bad boys but they want to marry the good ones. You will find somebody that will love you just the way you are and it will be for the right reasons.
  • I have had a similiar thing happen to me where a girl said that I'm more of a friend to girls, then someone girls would date. It was confusing to me at that time but now I really think that it was just an excuse so that they wouldn't have to deal with me asking them out.
  • that she doesn't fancy you.
  • Just "a girlfriend" at all, she may mean that your personality is nice, but your looks (to her) aren't attractive. Thus, she has the opinion that other girls won't like how you look. If you have a girlfriend, she may be jealous. If she is a friend of yours, she may think your girlfriend is controlling you too much.
  • In my experience, girls prefer jackasses.
  • Maybe she's a mean girl, so she can't relate to you, but I would say there are many girls that would love to have a nice boyfriend, believe me. Sounds like she was just trying to confuse and hurt your feelings to me... but can't say why?
  • The nicest boy I have ever meant... I mean EVER has had a girlfriend for 6 months tomorrow... his last girlfriend he went out with for 2 yrs! The current gf, by best friend says she still hasn't found anything wrong with him. I think the girl's crazy... or flirting and she didn't actually mean it that way. Girls don't really like bad boys... we just say we do.
  • she could be saying u dont know how to say no! a relationship has to take 2 people not 1. or she could be saying that you can never break someones heart and even if you have to you wont
  • it means she was getting some signals from you that made her think you liked her and she just didn't like you that way! so to cover it up good she said that. don't take it to the heart man, it's really nothing.
  • You're good for friends. You're lacking for a boyfriend.
  • she's not attracted to you in that kind of way, but she wants to still be your friend. some girls say things like that so they can remain good friends with guys and not have the guy fall for them...you know, drawing the line early.
  • I think she was refering to the saying that, girls always go for the bad boys. Nice guys finish last? But the smart ones go for the nice guys, so you're lucky, the crazy ones will be weeded out by all the tough guys! ha ha
  • With respect, she meant that she did not fancy you personally. That's all.
  • Well it kinda depends on who your general friends are and who you hang out with. I have a genereal problem of wanting to be everyones friend, and actually have more female friends than guys. This can lead to girls not liking you because they pretty much consider you a more of a brother than a guy available for dating.
  • she must have been bored. besides, there is no such thing as being too nice.
  • it was probably JUST her opinion, and she probably meant that you were really nice but only SHE wouldnt date you. it was pretty much all her opinion
  • It means she doesn't know what she's talking about.
  • Sounds like you should ignore this girl. Sometimes the more popular guys (and girls) are total JERKS, but in spite of this, or maybe because of it, they are deemed "more desirable". I have never understood this logic, but I don't think you should change your ways...there are plenty of girls out there who are looking for and will appreciate a nice guy.
  • I am a girl and I am very confuzzled!
  • Well, thank you...but I wish that I was born in Europe. Wow 18 is a great age...freedom! Lol. Do you have a myspace?
  • OK im going to tell you how i feel about this concept....right now most girls want guys that are kinda mean but to a limit. When they realize that those guys arent worth their time then they will realize that they need a nice guy like u. You see im one of those girls...i like a guy thats kinda mean but in a playful way but is also caring to. There are a lot of girls that want a nice guy to so just keep looking and dont change yourself for someone....
  • She was paying you a "left-handed compliment". I am sure you will get a girlfriend.
  • I've heard this before. This guy i was comtemplating seeing once asked me if he was too nice to me. He said that if all you offer is niceness and attention why would anyone want more than friendship since that can be obtained though just being friends. He said you have to offer something more, something that makes a girl want more than you as her buddy. This could be what that girl was talking about. But personally i think its crap. Girls may like the bad boy image but deep down we're all looking for a nice guy, someone to treat us better than we deserve. Igore her because there's nothing more attractive than someone who's goign to be there for you, someone who makes you feel great even when you don't think so yourself.
  • I think what she meant was like that you were to good to have a girlfriend but she probaly liked you and was trying to tell you that you deserve her more than any other girl,thats how I see it it is kinda hard to explain but if thats not what she meant dont worry she might have been jealous that you were so nice and her bf or sumone was mean and bad,not sure but don't listin to them kinda people
  • yeah i dont understand it either......all they want from me is to cry on my shoulder when their boyfriends leave them..... you know what.....get the coolest clothes ..................sit quietly in class ..................make sure you are impeccably neat ..................don't be mean to girls, but, please dont misinterpret me, avoid approaching girls ..let them approach you ....................don't be a jerk, just be cool a girl gave me this advice (i have 17 different girlfriends to my name now...though i love none of them...the one i love doesn't love me back)
  • There is nothing wrong with being nice because in the end the nice ones always finish last.
  • becasue soft guys girls will stop all over and spit out like gum!
  • I sense some jealousy here. Ignore her and continue to be the genuine person you are.
  • she meant that girls don lik guys lik that they lik the ones who play around and are troublemakers sometimes somebody who just goes out and takes risks. us girls we find that extremely SEXY!! and very hot a girl needs a relationship with action so you might consider turnin around ur pesonality a bit if u WANT a girlfriend don;t chage for peoplw u dont car about
  • well gurls these days are fucked up lol i am 17 and i dont even say that but sometimes think it gurls want guys to be bad asses now but dont change ur ways ull find a gurl who wants you for you and just show all them gurls hat there missing out on lol go getter boyyy
  • Girls don't want mean guys... don't think that if you start telling your girlfriend that some other girl is extremely banging.. that you'll have her falling head of heels for you.. the problem is that girls are attracted to well rounded men. i honestly like it when they're outgoing and don't care if they're making a fool out of themselves. I prefer it when they can make you laugh, make others laugh, and has the time of his life with you. however... these types of guys, more often than not for me, eventually turn out to be immature self-centered guys who are only interested in one thing. so.. in reality, girls don't mean to fall for those bad boys.. it just so happens that those bad boys pretend to be innocent and nice.. and once we're with them for some time they begin to change and act like the wannabe bad asses. bad boys get the girls because they're outgoing and they flirt... nice guys are hardly seen because they never make a move! instead they just end up being best friends with the girl! anyway.. to answer your question.. you're too nice to have a girlfriend means that the girl you may come into a relationship with may not appreciate who you are and what you do for her enough.. there's really not much meaning behind it because you can't apply it everyone you know. most girls would die to have a boyfriend like you. i think the girl that told you that you were too nice to have a girlfriend is trying to keep you single..
  • Oh no worries, Ill save you the hastle.. -punches her in the head- =]:
  • Hey. It's just one girl, one time. Now, if lots of girls told you that, it MIGHT be cause for concern.
  • Confused? it's straight forward, she likes you...
  • Her comment is more of a reflection on her than it is on you. I was one of those girls who was attracted to the "bad guys" - in my rebellious phase. In the end, I see my mistakes and the good guys win in the long run. Don't change, you'll find a nice girl who is longing for a nice guy.
  • Ever heard "Nice guys finish last"- Well it's true. Nice guys get stepped on, nice guys get pushed aside, nice guys can't be jerks. As odd as it sounds, most women are attracted to jerks-- or guys that come off as jerks. You need to be confident, cocky, and have your own opinions.
  • Maybe she means that you are nice to everybody and if you ever had a gf she would be jealous if you treated your gf like you treated every other girl. i think maybe the people you have a special relationship with you should treat them maybe with a little more respect but remember to treat everyone else with respect. in otherwords dont be a pushover. i used to be one and it sucks!!
  • probably meant that your so lovely your more of a friend, as a girl ide say some people think that nice means feminine, but be confident and theres nothing wrong with being kind.
  • Maybe she's used to having boyfriends who don't respect her. I was like that at one point. When I finally got a boyfriend who respected me, I thought it was akward, I didn't know that was okay.
  • Seraphim, after reading the comments, I'm exactly like you. I am a very nice guy, but I'm no pushover, you mess with ANY of my friends and I'm there for them. And I'm ready do defend any girlfriend/boyfriend I have at the time. (Although my boyfriend i have now is in the military, so he doesnt need me defending him) But i can completely relate to you in that matter.

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