When you really miss someone from your past that died, what eases the pain?
by 
Mountain Momma
ANSWERS: 43
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Only time can do that
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Thining of the good times, or a special something between you. My Grandmother died a little over a year ago, and somedays it feels like it was only yesterday, it still hurts that much sometimes. But as the time goes by, it seems like it's not as constant , but just as sad. She was like a mother to me, I miss her and always will. ;(
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Knowing that they no longer have to deal with the trials and tribulations of life makes me happy. I don't believe in heaven or hell but I do for them. Missing someone here on earth I think is selfish.
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My husband died one year ago. I talk to him. If I need to, I'll look at his picture to talk to him. I can talk to him out loud or I have the conversation in my mind. I know what he would have said to me when I say things this way. Sometimes, I cry to release the emotions. Sometimes, I'll call a friend and talk to them about what I'm feeling. I do what I feel I need to do at the time. Since I lost a baby over 20 years ago, I know that there will always be times that I'll miss him, just as I do her. Time helps, but it doesn't make you never miss them again. Whatever you do, it's okay to do unless it harms you or someone else.
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Good memories Mountain Momma! Cause that's all I have.
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stop talking about it.... just block it out.
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laughing at people that cry
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Like someone else said I try to stop thinking about it and think about something else.
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Doing something....thinking something that would connect you with the good memories that are keeping their presence in your life alive!
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well if they are loved ones dont worry because they are in a better place and u know its nice that you miss that some one. ask your self if they could talk to you what would they say. make new friends.try to talk about that person with some one else who knew him too. just dont let that persons death take over your life and move on some day u will re unite.
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Reliving the good times.
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Alcohol
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Remembering all the funny things they did, the kindnesses they offered, the things they shared, and how much better off you are for having known them.
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It took long time to ease the pain and it is still in my mind.
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Nothing. I just have to suffer through the flare up of grief with the knowledge that only because I loved them so very much do I feel this pain. And it was worth it.
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time
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Nothing! ... but the memory of their time makes it seem a little less. Peace
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Nothing +5
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The Love never dies. The happy memories. The hope to see them again.
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a few single malts do the trick
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Hard drugs. ;-)
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when the time comes & the emotions get the better of me I just let it all out!! :-/ . A broken heart is what I feel It leads to flowing tears The sorrow from this loneliness Gives way to deeper fears I hurt inside from losing you I'm often asking why? How could this end so suddenly? I feel like I could die It wasn't very long ago That you and I embraced It feels like only yesterday And now my soul's displaced I'm trying to find a peaceful thought Where you and I were strong But in the absence of your love My happiness has gone For all the times we've laughed, we've hugged And all the times we've kissed For all the times we've made sweet love Your touch is what I've missed I truly hope there comes a day When love will reunite........ . Chins up Momma!! ;-)
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The old me would have said drugs. Now, focusing on making them proud by achieving the things I'd like to achieve and reaching my goals is what eases the pain. I think anyone who has passed would be proud to know that you haven't stopped living your life just because theirs has ended.
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Just look back at the good times you had with that person. +5
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Try and be thankful for the time you had with them.
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Just went thru this around 3wks ago.Got the news early morning.Got blotto by lunch time.let it all out,privately.Crashed and burned.Reflected quitely the next day at work.Came home had a quiet drink or 2.Played some music as a tribute whilst doing some more reflecting.Got over it.Sounds harsh but i'm use to it.Life goes on.Remember the good times.
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Hoping they knew my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, and that they are with him.
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Callouses. Mental ones.
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Remembering the good times. Memory is always a two-edged sword but not having one would be infinitely worse because we could never reminisce, tell stories, share experiences of past gatherings with the loved ones who were no longer among us. Happy Thursday MM! :) ((hugs))
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I lost my older sister and youngest brother 2yrs. ago and two months apart from cancer! The pain NEVER goes away; it just gets tucked neatly in a corner recess of your mind! Without warning. . . . .it can surface; anytime. . . . .anywhere! You just learn to live with it!
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Time eases the pain, but it never completely goes.
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I have my Dad's favorite T -shirt and I wear it..it's like a hug from him. =) I have my gram's favorite perfume...and it's a nice reminder of her. I wear it when I miss her. ;) I have my Pappy's .22 and I target shoot like we use to when I am missing him. =) Nothing fully eases the pain. You just get use to it.
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I miss my motherand her kindness. I think of all the good times we had. Unfortunately, her grave is about 7000 miles away. So I only get to visit her once every five years.
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Time alone will dull the pain but not really "ease" it. At my age, I've lost many who were near and dear to me. As I continue to age I know I will lose more and more. My fervent prayer is that my children will outlive me.
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I know they are not suffering and are asleep. They are safe in God's memory and he will resurrect them to life at a future date where I hope to be reunited with them. My friend Gwen has been gone for over 30 years but I keep her alive in my thoughts and heart. (John 5:28-29) Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice 29 and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment. http://www.watchtower.org/e/20050501/article_02.htm
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For me it's fond memories or remembering times we were laughing so hard together, we were crying. The everyday thoughts will decrease but it takes a very long time.
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Do you know that when Jesus was on earth and his friend Lazarus died, Jesus wept. Jesus was a perfect man on earth and he still felt grief when his beloved companion Lazarus was in the tomb. Jesus performed a miracle and brought him back to life but eventually Lazarus died again. This was recorded in the Bible to show that death is not a permanent condition and that God wants his children to come back to earth to live again.
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As important as these questions are ,it's questions like this that bring back painful memories. you have to learn to live with it which some find easier than others. remember the fun and don't dwell on regrets
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I talk to them - if I would have talked to them about something when thy were here I still do now they are gone. You never stop missing someone but you don't have to be sad everytime you think of them - remember the fun times and be glad you knew them.
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Try to forget things and get myself busy in something.
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I think about being with my Aunt and Uncle. The funny sweet things she did. The kindness and gentleness in her voice when she said my name. Sweet memories that make me feel good. My Uncle, always felt safe and loved around him. I am so thankful they were my relatives.
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The Bible's hope of a resurrection. (Acts 24:15) "And I have hope toward God, which hope these men also look forward to, that there is going to be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous." I look forward to seeing them in the very near future when God's Kingdom under Jesus cleanses the earth of everything that causes suffering and death.
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To reflect on the gifts of knowing them when they were here
evandad 
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